Whether or not a couple should make friends should be left to nature.

Many people ask: How can I convince my wife to accept dating?

Actually, getting someone to accept something has prerequisites; it depends on whether your marriage needs it and whether you have the foundation for acceptance. How can you know if you have this foundation or this need? I think you can analyze yourself like this:

1. Is your marital relationship particularly strong? If so, that's good. At least it shows you have an emotional support system. This means that even if you take a step that you both feel uncomfortable about, your relationship will be able to heal that frustration or disappointment. You won't let a small mistake lead to irreparable conflict. You won't drift further apart.

2. Do you and your spouse frequently discuss sexual topics? If so, that's great. This shows you have a foundation for communication. You won't be immediately met with sarcasm or ridicule when you propose a new viewpoint. Instead, you can calmly discuss the matter objectively, weighing it from your own perspective, without increasing conflict through mutual suspicion and uncertainty. Or even worse, the suggestion of dating might cause serious suspicion and distrust between you.

3. Does your marriage need a new element of passion? If one partner is sexually frigid, if one partner is completely satisfied with the current situation, if one partner prefers this mundane existence, if one partner has psychological reservations about other people of the opposite sex in the marriage… in other words, if one partner is willing to maintain the current marital status quo and is unwilling to try anything new or take any risks, then perhaps it indicates that your lives don't need new passion. Therefore, it's advisable not to risk changing the status quo. If both partners feel that there are still shortcomings in the marriage, then discussing whether or not to engage in casual sex is a viable option.

4. Can the possessiveness between spouses be reduced? If both partners want to change the current situation, have new desires, and understand that casual sex is a way to break free from the bond between sex and marriage, then they also need to consider whether they can overcome the possessiveness in their relationship and understand each other's bottom lines. For example, some people find it acceptable for couples to find other couples together, some find it acceptable to only find single men, some find it acceptable to only find single women… some can tolerate some emotional involvement, some don't allow any emotional entanglement… some are more open and can find anyone they like… etc. These all require consideration of whether possessiveness can be effectively overcome. If it cannot be overcome, then find a suitable method. For example, many people start by testing their psychological acceptance by asking themselves if they are sexually active.

5. Do you have any better plans after engaging in online dating? These are all questions that couples should consider and discuss before starting. For example, if a bad outcome occurs, how can we work together to resolve it instead of going our separate ways? If uncontrollable accidents occur and emotions become entangled, how can we rationally let go? If we feel that online dating isn't as peaceful and fulfilling as our previous life, how can we maintain a balanced mindset and return to our old ways? If we enjoy the process of online dating, should we also limit our behavior? ...and so on. These are all questions that need to be considered.

I think that after considering the above five questions, couples can have basic communication. If you feel it's not suitable, don't try it lightly. If you feel curious or enthusiastic, communicate more, open your heart at any time, and share your feelings with your partner so that you can adjust your online dating methods and the level of communication as needed.

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