Is it appropriate to seek such a "balance" in making friends?

A couple found a man. The wife enjoyed sex with him, but the husband, not feeling well, couldn't finish. He wanted her to comfort him, but she seemed impatient. The husband thought she was too absorbed in the pleasure she was experiencing with the stranger… The couple argued, tearfully confiding in each other, and eventually reached a reconciliation… They also actively sought a solution: the wife offered to find a woman for her husband to balance the relationship… The husband was hopeful about this arrangement but also felt uncertain.
This is a story, and a true experience; many who haven't experienced it might have similar anxieties.
What I want to say is that balance is important in relationships, but this balance seems to remain merely on the surface of a transaction—you find a man, you're satisfied; so I find a woman, okay, balanced. The simplest, easiest to implement, and easiest to calculate method of balance! But while the sexual relationship may seem to achieve quantitative balance, what about the inner feelings? What we should value most is our inner feelings. Are there still doubts, confusion, or even hidden wounds within us?
First, I must say that throughout this incident, the couple's purpose in seeking out the man was unclear, or rather, there was some disagreement: Undoubtedly, the wife was the one enjoying herself, so she would inevitably overlook her husband's feelings; while the husband should understand that his poor mood was mostly a matter of his own psychological state, and at this time he should relax, not be jealous, not compare, not demand, and simply share in his wife's happiness. As long as this purpose is aligned, even if there are unsatisfactory aspects in the process, they can be adjusted in time. In this story, the husband felt confused for a moment, feeling that he had given his wife a great opportunity to enjoy herself, but his wife was ungrateful and even placed him in a negligible position… The husband simply made a comparison, his self-esteem couldn't take it, and they argued.
Secondly, as a couple, their way of showing or expressing care for each other was somewhat inappropriate. If a couple decides to meet single men, the wife should appreciate her husband's selflessness and open-mindedness. After achieving her own satisfaction, she should proactively inquire about her husband's feelings, understand his emotions, and use appropriate gentleness to ease his initial nervousness and discomfort. She should provide him with the necessary care, rather than simply being the one enjoying the pleasure. She shouldn't be too selfish; even if she can't offer physical comfort, emotional support is still essential. A glance, a soft word, a deep kiss, holding hands… all can alleviate her husband's unhappiness. The husband, at this point, shouldn't be demanding but rather continue to be tolerant and forgiving of his wife's perceived roughness, giving her a complete and enjoyable extramarital sexual experience.
Thirdly, while the overall story isn't inherently flawed, the final agreement truly steers the relationship towards sexual transactions and a pursuit of sexual balance. Although the wife's intention was to compensate her husband, it's not as simple as her receiving an apple and then having to buy her husband one too… The husband's agreement to this compromise clearly indicates he was seeking balance, and he also saw it as a form of emotional and psychological compensation… Actually, this issue should return to the couple's initial motivations for seeking other men. If it's about achieving visual balance, it would be simpler for each to have extramarital sex once. Clearly, they wanted to enrich their lives, experience different lives; the husband wanted to bring more pleasure to his wife, satisfy his voyeuristic desires, and seek a kind of emotional and physical stimulation and challenge… But in the end, the husband found he couldn't bear the emotional pain and felt he had given something, so he demanded an equal return…
This is my analysis of the whole story.
Personally, I believe balance needs to be maintained, especially between couples, but this balance isn't about external things filling the void, but rather about emotional comfort and care. In this case, if the wife hadn't been so self-centered and had promptly comforted her husband, dispelling his anxieties and doubts, the subsequent problems wouldn't have occurred. Actually, the husband might not care about finding another woman to do it again; what he cares about is his wife's attention and love for him… Therefore, the best ending for this story isn't about finding another woman, but rather about the wife comfortably accompanying her husband, being considerate and caring towards him, and firmly telling him that he's the only one in her heart. The husband's approach should be to gradually discover his wife's charm, not doubt her, love her, and find his happiness in her happiness. The two of them can hide under the covers, sharing memories and reminiscing about that challenging moment—who knows, they might even feel the urge to have a good, sweaty session right then and there!

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