A friend wrote down various positions for achieving orgasm.

Sexual positions are a recurring topic, with erotic illustrations dating back to ancient times and numerous summaries available online. Here, I'll only share my personal experience, discussing details to pay attention to in common positions, or the key points of positions that might be novel to some. Since this is based on my personal experience, it naturally has limitations and may not be applicable to everyone. Feel free to use this as a reference, and I welcome your additions. Thank you!
1. Let's start with 69, as this is a common foreplay, and many people begin with oral sex with their first partner before actually having sex.
I personally prefer 69, but I can't maintain it for long because both partners are focused on their own enjoyment and neglect to stimulate each other, making it difficult to achieve simultaneous pleasure. Therefore, this position is fine to try occasionally, but ultimately, it's best to separate oral sex. When giving oral sex to your partner, they can focus on enjoying your tenderness, while you can concentrate on observing their reactions and adjusting your stimulation methods. Once they are satisfied, you can take turns, allowing both partners to experience greater pleasure.
In my experience, my boyfriend usually gives me oral sex at the beginning of sex. After I'm aroused and even reach orgasm, he'll eagerly penetrate me. He gives me oral sex between ejaculations, partly out of gratitude for the orgasm he gave me, and partly to prepare for the next erection. I think just as men enjoy watching a woman's clitoris become wet and juicy from being dry, women also enjoy the feeling of that soft little penis gradually growing bigger and harder in their mouths. So I prefer to take that cool little thing into my mouth after he's ejaculated (after washing, of course) – it's much more fun than the already hot rolling pin. When starting
the missionary position
, the woman usually opens her legs for easier penetration. There are two ways to open the legs: one is to open them to the sides. If you're flexible, you can open them wider to give your partner a stronger sensory stimulation; if you're less flexible, you can wrap your legs around his waist and hips. Secondly, the legs can be spread at a 90-degree angle or an acute angle to the body, with the woman's legs between the two partners. Those with good flexibility can place their legs on the partner's shoulders, while those with less flexibility can bend their knees in front of their chest and have the man press down on their calves. This position is slightly tighter than a side-lying position and is more stimulating for women who cannot contract their vaginal muscles or whose muscles are more relaxed.
Personally, I can't reach orgasm with my legs spread wide, haha. I have to lower my legs and squeeze them tightly, with the man's legs on the outside of my body. This allows me to reach orgasm quickly because the friction on the clitoris is very effective. However, this position requires a high degree of coordination from the man, and his penis must have a certain length and hardness; otherwise, it's easy for it to slip out, or he might not be able to move at all.
So how should the man move in this position? When she lies flat, her vagina is almost horizontal, so you need to have a certain degree of flexibility in your waist and abdomen, using the muscles from your buttocks to your chest and abdomen to move your penis from back to front. The movements are similar to samba, but you can do it even if you haven't practiced it before. My boyfriend hadn't, but he became very skilled after mastering the technique. The movements don't need to be large, but they can be very quick. In fact, sometimes small, rapid thrusts are more effective than strong, large-amplitude thrusts. I often experience three or four orgasms in a row with this technique.
Another point to mention is that you're almost lying on top of her, but don't actually lie on top of her; be careful not to crush her (you're a guy weighing a hundred or two hundred pounds!). Use your knees and elbows to support your weight. Why did I say elbows instead of hands? Because your hands need to be free to caress her breasts (especially the nipples). When a woman is nearing orgasm, the nipples act as a switch; stimulating these two points directly connects to the G-spot in the vagina, leading to a rapid orgasm. Of course, if your arms aren't long enough, you can use one hand for support and the other elbow to stimulate one of her nipples, achieving the same effect, although it might take longer.
One point needs to be added: when a woman's legs are tightly closed, many men find it difficult to handle because the stimulation is too intense. The vagina also tightens considerably, and with the slightest movement, or even without him moving, but only with a slight contraction from the woman, he ejaculates. Therefore, this position is suitable for men with more sexual experience who know how to control ejaculation, how to appropriately distract themselves, and how to control their abdominal muscles for effective movement.
2. Woman-on-top position:
Many people like this position, but few achieve good coordination. By coordination, I mean that not only should the woman move on top, but the man should also be active on the bottom. And how should the woman on top move to both satisfy herself and provide sufficient stimulation to the man? There
are three types of woman-on-top positions: squatting, sitting (kneeling), and prone—some combine squatting and kneeling, evolving into kneeling on one knee and squatting with the other leg bent.
Squatting primarily involves up-and-down movement, providing stronger stimulation for the man. Personally, I don't reach orgasm in this position because the clitoris doesn't contact the partner. Therefore, I generally use the latter two positions.
In the kneeling position, both partners' pubic bones are pressed together, allowing the woman to use her waist strength to move forward, backward, left, right, and even rotate. The man can use both hands to caress the woman's breasts simultaneously, or he can use one hand to caress a breast and the other to hold her waist, providing support for his movements. The man must not think of this as merely watching a performance; if he does, his penis will soften, failing to provide sufficient stimulation, and her movements on top will be ineffective. Therefore, he must concentrate, keeping his penis erect to meet her movements and help her reach orgasm.
Another variation of the kneeling position involves the woman slightly raising her buttocks, leaning forward, and holding onto the headboard with both hands, allowing for kissing. This also provides space for the man to coordinate his movements on top, allowing him to bend his knees and thrust forcefully. When done correctly, this often leads to synchronized orgasms.
Finally, the last prone position is perhaps less common, at least I haven't seen many descriptions of it in posts. The woman lies on top of the man, supporting her weight with her knees and hands, while her waist moves like a man's to create thrusting motions. Towards the climax, I also liked to squeeze my legs together and then use his penis as a fulcrum to quickly and slightly shake my hips, creating simultaneous stimulation of my G-spot and clitoris, making it easy to reach orgasm.
By the way, here's a funny story that led me to discover a method for vaginal contraction. It was shortly after I started having sex with my first love, in the woman-on-top position. I was riding him with my back to him, and after a while, I wanted to face him, but I didn't want to pull out. So I tried to squeeze his penis, rubbing my legs together and turning around. Halfway through, he burst out laughing, his face flushed, and told me he had ejaculated. Haha, that was the first time I made him ejaculate in the top position, because he said the squeezing and rotating was incredibly stimulating.
That experience taught me two techniques: first, actively contracting my muscles to squeeze his penis; second, understanding that the penis is very sensitive to rotational stimulation, so during oral sex, you can use your mouth to envelop it and rotate your head, letting the penis rotate between your lips and tongue, which he will enjoy immensely.
Rear-entry is one of the most primal and convenient positions, which can be done standing, kneeling, or lying on your side. As mentioned earlier, in this position, the man can free his hands to care for the woman's breasts and clitoris. Indeed, if she stands up and turns around, she can even kiss you. If you're doing rear-entry off-bed, you can even do it facing a mirror, watching yourself in the mirror – it might not be any less exciting than watching porn.
However, many men are lazy when doing rear-entry. They either neglect to caress the nipples or the clitoris, often just holding their partner's hips and thrusting mindlessly – perhaps the primal feeling of rear-entry makes the man so absorbed that he forgets about the woman's feelings. In reality, many women cannot reach orgasm in this position.
After my boyfriend has been thrusting for a while, if he finds that he's not stimulating me enough, he'll usually press me down onto his stomach, and we'll lie on top of each other on the bed. Of course, he'll still need to support his weight on his knees and elbows on either side of my body. Then I'll slightly lift one hip, and he'll reach in front of me with one hand to caress my clitoris, while the other hand reaches through my neck to one of my nipples. Then he'll whisper sweet nothings in my ear while thrusting. I'll squeeze my legs together and straighten my body, and I'll orgasm.
As I said at the beginning, I don't intend to explain every position in detail here. I'll just give a simple explanation of the details that I think are important in some commonly used positions, as well as the key points of the movements for positions that are new to some friends. So, in addition to the basic positions mentioned above, there are also positions where the woman lies on her side and the man kneels between her legs, positions where the woman lies on the edge of the bed and the man stands or crawls on top of her, and the "lotus position" (where the man and woman sit facing each other, the name comes from a Tantric practice), and so on. I won't go into detail about them all; you can explore the key points of the movements that are suitable for both of you.
Below, I'll discuss a few less commonly used positions, based on my personal experience, which I'd like to offer as a reference for those who want to try them. These include positions where the woman stands facing me, or the man holding her while she stands up. Before discussing these, I want to offer some advice on the psychological qualities women need to achieve orgasm.
As a woman, firstly, you must understand that enjoying sexual pleasure and orgasm is a natural thing. Don't be shy or have any reservations; this allows you to completely open up and immerse yourself. Secondly, you must have confidence. Every woman can experience orgasm if she's willing. "Perseverance" is often a crucial factor in a woman reaching orgasm. Many times, if you persevere, you can reach that climax, while giving up at the last moment may cause you to miss out on orgasm.
Of course, this "perseverance" is something both partners need to possess; the man also needs to persevere with her at crucial moments. Specifically, when the plateau phase arrives, and the woman is thoroughly enjoying the current stimulation and desires more, both partners should be fully focused and continue the stimulation. The man should even provide more attention (such as to the nipples, as I mentioned earlier). At this point, you might experience lower back pain, leg weakness, numbness in your wrists, profuse sweating, or dizziness, but please hold on for a few more seconds, persevere a little longer, and the ultimate bliss will arrive. Many people might miss their climax by just that one breath, leaving both partners frustrated. Because if you miss it this time, it might take longer and more effort to build up the energy to that level again, and you might not even be able to find the feeling again this time.
Speaking of which, I must reiterate that sex is physically demanding. You must pay attention to training, such as building muscle strength and endurance, and lung capacity (women need considerable lung capacity to hold their breath; some women may not need to, but I personally like to build up energy this way, and it's very effective).
A friend commented that I'm obsessed with orgasms, haha. I just saw Sister Equation's post and have some different opinions to share.
Many women feel that there's no need to force orgasms; as long as the relationship is good and there's pleasure, that's enough. This also makes men feel indifferent, since it's rumored that female orgasms are difficult, so nobody bothers. Personally, I originally didn't think it was necessary to reach orgasm every time, but my partner always wouldn't give up until I did. Maybe the men I've met are more considerate, which has led to my habit of always reaching orgasm during sex.
But comparing the past and present has given me a new understanding of this issue. I remember in the early stages of my relationship with my first love, I often couldn't reach orgasm, but my stomach would hurt afterward. This is because when a woman is aroused, her pelvic area becomes congested with blood, and if it's not fully released, it becomes swollen and painful, like menstrual cramps. In severe cases, it would even last until the next day. Later, whenever she achieved orgasm, the symptom disappeared. Moreover, scientific research has proven that orgasm can enhance a woman's immunity and has a good regulatory effect on psychology and emotions. Women who have never experienced orgasm are not only prone to depression but also unlikely to crave sex, and may even experience frigidity. Therefore, female orgasm can play a significant role in marital relationships. My conclusion is that orgasm is a key factor in making women love sex.
Therefore, I believe that women seeking orgasm is not being demanding of men, but rather starting from self-care and maintaining the relationship between the two. It's a win-win situation, so why not? Try to achieve at least one orgasm every time you have sex. Hehe, orgasm isn't that difficult. With a thorough understanding of your own body and proper communication with your partner, you won't always be searching for the knack.
—Love her, give her an orgasm; cherish yourself, give yourself an orgasm!
3. Standing Face-to-Face Position
: Standing face-to-face may be a difficult position for many, but I think once you master the technique, it's very beneficial. I remember discussing this position in a friend's post, and I wrote down the specific points then, so I'll summarize it here.
I learned to do it standing opposite each other from outdoor sex, and later extended it to indoor sex, where it's just as enjoyable, and even usable in bed. Generally, this position is easier when the two people are close in height, but even with a larger height difference, you can compensate by elevating the woman's feet, such as by standing on a step or a large pillow. The key is to stand stably to avoid affecting subsequent movements or causing accidents. The basic position is: the man's legs are spread apart on either side of the woman's body, standing at the same level, with his knees slightly bent in a squatting position. Both men and women should thrust their hips forward to facilitate penetration. Due to the upper body leaning back, to maintain balance, the woman should hold onto the man's shoulders with both hands, or hold onto his shoulder with one hand and hold onto a wall with the other; while the man should hold the woman's hips with both hands, or use one hand to caress her breasts.
Upon penetration, the woman should slightly open her legs, and the man should apply force from below and diagonally upwards, bending and straightening his knees elastically. Once fully inside, the woman can close her legs tightly; this prevents the penis from slipping out during movement and enhances clitoral stimulation. At this point, both partners can take the lead. When I'm aroused, I prefer to be in control, while he supports his hips and focuses on caressing or kissing my nipples. Because they are tightly closed, I can quickly thrust my hips back and forth.

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