My brief thoughts (written for newcomers, please refrain from criticism)

In the adult world, many people, when discussing sex, consider it an inseparable part of love. Sex and love are often linked together. Does it have to be this way? Perhaps we, as adults, don't see things as clearly as we did as children, and we don't know what has changed us. Love

, whether it's love at first sight or love that grows over time, is a wonderful feeling that comes when two souls come together. This feeling is pleasant, comfortable, and unawkward... It doesn't require physical contact; it doesn't necessarily require two people to have sex to be considered love. It's psychological, non-material.

Sex, or making love, is like eating—it's physiological. When people are hungry, they need to eat; this is a physiological need. We often use the phrase "unbearable hunger and thirst" to describe sex, which is very apt, because God endowed animals with the instinct to reproduce. Species that crave food and mating are more deserving of survival and propagation. Look at pandas; why is this species almost extinct? They lack camouflage, have no aggressiveness, and have low reproductive capacity; they even need artificial "mating" to reproduce. Therefore, I believe that a strong libido is one of the most normal physiological manifestations in humans. Suppressing libido is like only eating vegetables and not meat; it's detrimental to both body and mind. Of course, excessive indulgence leading to obesity is also wrong. It's physiological and material.

Someone once asked why their husband, who already has a wife at home, still goes out to find other women. I said it's like eating. Even though there's food at home, why do people still frequently go out to eat? Just like eating, you know to eat when you're hungry, you know to drink when you're thirsty, and you need to soften an erection, like morning erections. You don't know why, but once it matures, it will consciously become hard every morning, and its erection has only one purpose… This is a physiological phenomenon. Sex, like food, is an enjoyable experience. Today you might want hot pot, tomorrow you might want dumplings. Today you might have sex with someone with a small penis, tomorrow you might want to try someone with a larger one. If you're tired of having sex with a big-breasted woman, you might find a completely new feeling with a small-breasted, petite body. You can also eat only rice your whole life, but does eating noodles mean you're unfaithful to the act of eating? In other words, if I'm gay and have found a penis to live with, and I want to try something different—what does a vagina feel like? I can't just stick to one thing forever just because you don't have one. Love is between two souls, but sex is between two bodies. You can't control what kind of body the soul you fall in love with will have.

At the beginning of the fourth season of the American TV series *Game of Thrones*, all the morals were given to a new character, and I really liked his line: "God created two kinds of people, men and women. If you only enjoy one, then you lose the other half." This is a sign of daring to try. I believe most people, besides having sex with their partners, have also had sex with their own hands or even sex toys. Now, a question arises: is having sex with a sex toy considered cheating? If I have sex with a toy, is it because I no longer love my partner? If she gets involved with a cucumber, is it because she fell in love with a cucumber? Food and sex are basic human needs. When you're hungry, you eat; when you're thirsty, you drink. When you're hungry or thirsty, you always need something to fill your stomach. The feeling of masturbation with a hand is completely different from that of real sex. For example, I am a man, and sometimes I choose my partner's vagina, and sometimes I choose to use my hand. The reason is simple: although my hands cannot completely simulate the feeling of a vagina, it is less strenuous and more efficient. I can ejaculate anytime, anywhere, and I can control the force and speed as I want, without having to worry about contraception or safety issues. Cleaning up afterward is also much easier, with almost no limitations. Therefore, whether using a hand or other substitutes, it's just about satisfying a momentary urge or experiencing different sensations. I believe that the experience of using a real penis is definitely better than using a toy. When a partner is not around, or when a partner does not have such a penis, the role of male and female prostitutes is essentially the same as that of sex toys. In my opinion, sex, whether with a dummies or with a real person, can be a physiological need, not promiscuity. The core difference is simply which is more "realistic."

One's partner may not be perfect physically, such as in terms of body shape, genitals, or ability, or their ability may decline with age, or they may not be around for long periods. In these cases, sexual intercourse needs substitutes. Low-quality substitutes are masturbation, while high-quality substitutes are people.

Personally, during intercourse, I don't focus on how much pleasure I enjoy; I'm more interested in how much pleasure I can give my partner. I like seeing my partner excited, comfortable, reach orgasm, and satisfied, and then I can comfortably ejaculate—that's my satisfaction with intercourse. Of course, everyone's enjoyment is different, generally due to differences in physiology between men and women. Sometimes I envy women because during sex, they can basically just lie there and enjoy themselves, while men, as the primary giver, often work themselves to the bone. In my city, even with air conditioning, I often feel suffocated in the summer. So women are basically more about enjoyment, while most women find it difficult to reach orgasm.

Men generally experience a period of discomfort after orgasm. After ejaculation, the penis is sensitive and flaccid, requiring a period of recovery before it can become erect again. On the other hand, after orgasm, the brain releases endorphins, a sedative-like substance that puts men into a state of "wise man mode," as described by netizens: "Before ejaculation, he's like a demon; after ejaculation, he's like a saint." Furthermore, the physical exertion is immense, and sleepiness begins to creep in.

Women, on the other hand, experience the opposite. First, it's difficult for them to reach orgasm, often leading to men finishing quickly and feeling satisfied, while women remain aroused and unsatisfied. This is why foreplay is crucial, requiring the stimulation of every sensitive area and activation of all the body's cells to make it easier for the woman to reach orgasm during intercourse. Second, a woman's orgasm is continuous and can be experienced multiple times without interruption, far exceeding the stamina and endurance of a single man.

Therefore, the ideal situation is for one woman to have intercourse with one or more men simultaneously. Personally, I think two men and one woman is the most suitable. For the woman, it's not just about enjoying the service of two men, but also about experiencing many things that are only possible with two men and one woman. The two men can take turns, ensuring stamina and allowing for multiple ejaculations, so the woman can enjoy herself while the men experience multiple erections and ejaculations. (Watching others have sex also makes it easier to get excited.) All three can be well satisfied.

Ideally, one of the two men in a threesome should be the woman's husband. This not only strengthens the marital bond but also makes it safer when having relations with other men, preventing situations like violence or forcibly removing protection due to sudden impulses. The other man can be chosen according to the woman's preferences, as the goal is to give her the best enjoyment.

For someone like me who prioritizes the woman's pleasure, a threesome is a good choice. Also, from a novelty perspective, I can not only enjoy having sex with a woman in a threesome but also experience what it's like to kiss and even have sex with a man. Both men and women enjoy themselves, and for a monotonous married life, these experiences provide excellent stimulation and lubrication.

Introducing "lovers" into your sex life doesn't necessarily mean you don't love them anymore; it could actually be a sign of even greater love. Multiple partners can be promiscuous or simply a way to enjoy life while young. Just as we choose massages and spas to relax our bodies, the genitals are part of the body, an organ that shouldn't be ignored; they too need massage and relaxation.

Copulation is an animal instinct, simply put, a reproductive behavior. Humans are different from other animals; we understand enjoyment but don't want to bear the consequences. This is why condoms exist—we don't just engage in sex for reproduction; we also need to enjoy sex without the risk of pregnancy. Ethics and morality are products of civilization, used to protect the public interest and ensure that individual actions and desires don't harm or disturb others. However, they shouldn't be a cage or a constraint on instinct.

As the saying goes, it only enters the body, not life. Either don't do it, or do it openly; there's no need to hold back. As long as it doesn't affect others, it's aboveboard, not something shameful. Don't go to extremes, but don't be timid either.

Finally, I'd like to share two cases, though simple stories, that I think are very representative.
One was told to me by a British friend. He was young at the time, had a girlfriend, lived together, and were very intimate. They often had sex, and there were no disagreements. One day, he was home alone and, on a whim, masturbated. His girlfriend came home and saw him. She was shocked and angrily exclaimed, "How could you masturbate! You already have a girlfriend, why don't you have sex with me!" His girlfriend's reaction was as if she had caught him cheating; masturbation was like infidelity, as if she couldn't have sex with anyone other than his girlfriend.
The other story was told to me by a friend from the same city. A newlywed couple, still on their honeymoon, went on a group tour to a small but economically developed country. On the bus, the tour guide was introducing the local customs and culture, talking a lot about how things differed from those in China. He mentioned that prostitution was legal there, and not only legal, but the women needed to undergo a medical check-up every three months and be licensed to work. He added that the fees were very low, about half the price in China. Suddenly, someone loudly asked, "How do I contact them?" Everyone on the bus looked at the speaker with strange eyes. The person who asked the loud question was the wife of a couple on their honeymoon. She thought the prostitutes here were not only high-quality but also cheap, and since they were on a rare trip abroad, she wanted her husband to relax and experience it, so she impulsively asked in front of everyone.

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Thank you for reading my "long rambling." I'm a science student, and I've never passed Chinese class, so please forgive my poor writing. What I originally wanted to express was encouragement to those friends who are hesitant or afraid to try exchanging partners and sharing. I also wanted to say that the result of cuckolding often leads to a deeper love between the two parties, but I found that those who have entered this circle can understand this themselves. So I stopped rambling. In this last part, I want to share something. I mentioned the American TV series "Game of Thrones" earlier, and then, while sharing the second story, I suddenly recalled a conversation from before.

Once, I was eating hot pot with two friends. One of them was a little girl, two or three years younger than me, and the other was an older girl, about ten years older than me. As we were chatting, they suddenly said they were curious about my ideal. I answered very seriously, "To open a brothel!" They both thought I was joking and were very curious why I would think of such a joke, assuming I liked prostitutes. I explained that I had never prostituted anyone, not even once, and I have never thought about trying it, but the idea of opening a brothel was not a joke, it's just that it's not allowed in China. In Game of Thrones, there's a character nicknamed Littlefinger who remained unmarried for life because of the woman he loved. Although he used many methods, he exuded a noble aura. He owned a high-class brothel in King's Landing, but he never touched his employees, even when they tried to seduce him. Since then, I've wanted to open a brothel. I envisioned it like a legitimate service industry, where everyone receives excellent treatment. I wouldn't touch my prostitutes; they would need regular checkups, have health insurance, be allowed leave, and be able to leave if they're not satisfied. They would be signed like celebrities and athletes, and receive professional training. Besides female prostitutes, we would also offer male prostitutes, transvestites, and other services. Furthermore, we could expand our business through collaborations and partnerships with other industries. This is an ancient and widespread industry, and my ideal is to create a standardized, corporatized, branded, and even global brothel. "One of my ideals"—of course, there is only one—but they were quite impressed with me after hearing it. Generally, no one thinks about these things, let alone seriously considers how to make it bigger and stronger. I just wanted to tell them that every individual has their own personality and principles, and there's no need to live according to someone else's principles. Like "violent aesthetics," violence is bad, but doesn't it also contain aesthetic elements? I just love all kinds of beautiful things.

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