Starting with training, part three

Couple training generally consists of two parts: training the man and training the woman. A common mistake is focusing too much on training the woman and neglecting the man. Many men in couples might disagree, believing that as the active partner, training the man is unnecessary. However, the enjoyment of the activity lies in the couple, so understanding the man's thoughts, preferences, boundaries, and limits is crucial. I usually start by assessing the man's type: cuckoldry, philandering, etc. Of course, a man can be a mix of types, but one is dominant, and this dominant type determines his preferences. Simply put, if you don't follow the man's lead, you'll exhaust yourself trying. Using methods the man enjoys can better motivate him and encourage his active cooperation, achieving twice the result with half the effort. Many failed training attempts fail precisely because they ignore the man's needs, going against his wishes and giving up halfway.
Training the woman has been discussed extensively online, so I won't elaborate or comment further; all approaches have their strengths. This time, I just want to emphasize one point: many couples, when seeking partners, specifically highlight the various conditions the woman should meet for the man. I wholeheartedly support and agree with some of these conditions, such as those based on health, safety, and privacy considerations. However, some couples' conditions are indeed too harsh. Based on these requirements, I predict this website won't have a suitable man for at least five years. Of course, the original intention of this activity was to be spontaneous, and finding someone you like is perfectly normal. However, everyone needs to understand the psychological motivation behind these demands. If you ignore the underlying subtext, you might be wasting your time. One subtext behind these harsh conditions might be the woman's excuse. In many couples, the man is more assertive, and the woman, unable to resist, feigns agreement but sets an unattainable standard, successfully shifting the conflict from the inability to participate to the man's inadequacy. This avoids marital conflict while upholding her own preconceived notions. If you don't understand this and blindly follow these criteria, unless you're incredibly lucky, the road ahead will be long and arduous. Take care. However, on the other hand, setting conditions, no matter how harsh, is actually an implication that the woman has weighed and acknowledged them to some extent, which should be considered progress.
Of course, some harsh standards are set by the man in the couple, perhaps because he genuinely feels his woman is perfect, like a fine horse with a saddle, and doesn't want to wrong her, or perhaps he shares the same mentality as the woman I mentioned above—inner unease, subconscious resistance, wanting but afraid of losing her, using harsh conditions as an excuse to cover up his inner weakness. Or perhaps he's simply throwing out bait, acting as a spectator, attracting countless single men to fall at his feet.
I've always believed that women follow their hearts. My experience tells me that no matter how noble, wealthy, beautiful, or intelligent a woman is, as long as you capture her heart, you can make her dance to your tune.

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