Meeting you wasn't meant to make me angry.

One day, I was sitting on a crowded bus. A couple who were going to work happened to be standing next to me, catching my eye.
Perhaps because of the crowd, the boy put his arm around the girl's waist, worried that the people behind them might bump into her, and softly asked, "Are you tired? What do you want to eat later?"
The girl replied impatiently, "I'm already annoyed enough. You never decide what to eat beforehand, you always have to ask me."
The boy looked down innocently and then said something that left a deep impression on me: "I let you decide because I want to eat what you like with you, and see your satisfied smile, so you can temporarily forget the unpleasantness of your workday. I can't help you with the grievances you suffer at work, this is all I can do."
After hearing this, the girl said "I'm sorry" with a guilty conscience. The boy seemed to regain his confidence and said, "It's okay, meeting you isn't for getting angry, as long as you're happy." Then he kissed the girl's hair.
When the bus arrived at the stop, the boy took the girl's hand and got off. As the bus started moving, I looked back at the couple, and the boy was still carefully protecting the girl.
How well said! Two people falling in love is such a precious and hard-won缘分 (fate/destiny), why let anger destroy all happiness? Even when love faces small obstacles, we should treat each other calmly and resolve them with love and courage, rather than recklessly dealing with them in anger.
A calm mind and clear heart bring the moon and the wind. Those destined to meet will find each other even from a thousand miles away; those not destined will not meet even face to face. In this world of fleeting beauty and vast sea of people, fate brings people together, connecting and understanding each other. A single word, "缘" (fate/destiny), tightly binds two people from opposite ends of the earth together, from which they share endless affection and deep love. Meeting and falling in love in this world is already difficult; let us regard this as a beautiful缘分, treat it with sincerity, and together compose a symphony of love.
For a while, I often received calls from a friend in the middle of the night. He always complained of not being able to sleep because something was constantly bothering him: He had recently met a girlfriend, and he liked her quite a bit. However, as their relationship deepened, he felt increasingly uneasy. It turned out that he had learned that before meeting him, his girlfriend had been in a relationship with another man for six years. He had initially considered marrying her, but the more he thought about it, the angrier and more wronged he became: she had been with someone else for six years…
I knew this guy had driven himself into a dead end, and he knew it was a dead end, yet he stubbornly and relentlessly charged into it, like a pitiful moth drawn to a flame, desperately trying to escape the light. He knew it was self-torture, but he couldn't control himself. He was tormented by these thoughts every day; it would be strange if he didn't go crazy.
All I could do was listen and guide him to think more positively, but getting rid of this pain depended on his own awareness.
I once read a good book called *What Life Means*, written by the outstanding psychologist Alfred Adler. He said that our troubles and suffering are not caused by the events themselves, but by the ideas we attach to them. He then quoted a famous line from Milton's *Paradise Lost*: "Consciousness itself can make a hell into a heaven, and a heaven into a hell."
Indeed, the friend who called me late at night, under the influence of his own consciousness, turned a beautiful encounter into hell with his narrow-minded thinking. He should have been happy to have found a girlfriend he loved so much; he should have been grateful for the gift of fate. But instead, he didn't think that way, but instead clung to her past. This was tantamount to tying a knot in his own destiny. If he doesn't untie it, he will never find happiness.
Life is a strange journey, and meeting anyone is a beautiful accident. We should cherish every person who travels with us on this journey, for they are places where our wandering hearts can find rest.
An ancient proverb says, "Fate originates from a circle, it is preordained, it is destiny." Meeting in this life amidst billions of years of time, encountering each other in this vast sea of humanity, regardless of gender, age, wealth, beauty, or ugliness, this earthly connection is precious, this encounter worthy of cherishing.
Taiwanese writer Lin Qingxuan also said, "Only with a wish can there be fate; without a wish, even those destined to meet will miss each other. Fate is ordained by Heaven, but destiny is in our own hands." Whether the connection is deep or shallow, long or short, to receive it is a blessing. Life is short, and fate is hard to come by; we should all cherish it and treat everyone and everything in life with tolerance and open-mindedness.
A Zen master deeply understood this principle. He loved orchids and spent much time cultivating them in addition to his daily teachings.
One day, he was about to travel for a while and instructed his disciples to take good care of the orchids in the temple.
During this time, the disciples carefully tended to the orchids, but one day, while watering them, they accidentally knocked over the orchid stand, shattering all the pots and scattering the orchids all over the ground. The disciples were terrified and planned to apologize and accept punishment from their master upon his return.
When the Zen master returned and learned of the incident, he summoned the disciples. Instead of scolding them, he said, "I planted orchids firstly to offer to the Buddha, and secondly to beautify the temple environment, not to get angry."
The Zen master's detachment stemmed from the fact that although he loved orchids, they were not an obstacle in his heart. Therefore, the gain or loss of the orchids did not affect his emotions. Besides, getting angry was pointless; why let anger disturb his peace of mind and burden his emotions?
In daily life, perhaps we care too much about others, too much about emotional gains and losses, and fear loss, causing our emotions to fluctuate. Think carefully: does anger really solve problems? Or does it only sharpen conflicts and further damage relationships? Perhaps it's better to open our hearts and observe the cycle of life like flowers blooming and fading.
When we're angry with a loved one, if we can think, "I didn't meet you to be angry, but for a beautiful rendezvous," it can bring a sense of peace to our troubled hearts. When we're about to lose control of our emotions, remembering this phrase might add a touch of sweetness to our happiness.

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