Is it difficult for a woman to have an affair and neglect her family?

A friend asked: "Is it difficult for a woman to have an affair and still take care of her family after sleeping with another man?"
I replied: "Not necessarily.
Let me take my wife as an example. Haha, I'm not just praising my wife here, but I'm using her as an example because my wife's life has always been one of transparent infidelity. So, balancing infidelity and taking care of her family is something my wife frequently has to do, and it's really not that difficult." Why do I say this? Let me explain in simple terms.
First, infidelity is infrequent, while taking care of the family is a regular occurrence. No woman would treat infidelity as a daily routine while neglecting her normal family life. Even if a woman wanted to do this, she might not have a partner to cooperate with. Since infidelity is stolen, it can only be stolen in the gaps of daily life. In terms of time, infidelity has no advantage, unless some women are so infatuated with infidelity that they think about it even at home, becoming weary of housework, losing patience with their husbands and children, and investing their limited time for infidelity into an endless state of absentmindedness in their daily lives.
Secondly, since infidelity is infidelity, it can never lead to a lasting marriage. Therefore, one must have a proper psychological consideration regarding the proportion of effort invested. Infidelity is for temporary physical and emotional pleasure, not to escape the current marriage and build a new one. Therefore, one must be cautious about the primary and secondary aspects of the relationship, ideally dividing it into proportions like 1:9, 2:8, 3:7. Avoid escalating to 4:6 or 5:5; exceeding these limits is, in my opinion, going too far.
Finally, infidelity can be constantly renewed, while family is constant. Infidelity cannot end in one go, nor can it provide immediate satisfaction. It inevitably requires changing partners and methods periodically. If infidelity were to become permanent, the marriage would inevitably be threatened. Therefore, since infidelity requires novelty and variety, one must avoid investing too much passion and focus in any one affair. Moderation is key; don't become so exhausted that you lose the ability to continue, thus losing the original enjoyment of infidelity.
According to my wife, balancing infidelity and family should follow these simple principles:
First, when choosing a lover, don't hide it from your husband. At appropriate times, ask him to help you assess their character and suitability for a relationship. If you're sure you like them, give your husband a few reasons to consider. But if your husband finds someone repulsive, don't go for it. Men have more experience and a broader perspective, so they're generally more accurate in judging people than women. Even if you're wrong, respect your husband's feelings.
Second, the timing and duration of your infidelity should not disrupt family plans. The level of intimacy should be within your husband's comfort zone. Phone calls and texts shouldn't be too frequent, and it's inappropriate to stay out late, making your husband wait. It's also inappropriate to confide in your lover after a conflict, complaining about your husband's shortcomings. This will push him away and confide in him.
Third, don't be greedy with the timing of your infidelity dates; keep it within your husband's comfort zone. If your husband can't accept you spending the night together, don't force it. Also, don't repeatedly beg him for more time together. One beg might be fine, but if you do it repeatedly and make him feel like you're reluctant to part, that's not right.
Fourth, the frequency of your affair needs to be extremely careful. If your husband can accept once a week, schedule it once every two weeks to maintain balance; he'll just think you're understanding. If he can accept once a month, schedule it once every month and a half, or once every two months; he'll appreciate your efforts.
Fifth, after the affair, it's best to proactively talk about the details of the date, such as how the other person admires your husband and the harmonious relationship between you two… This gives your husband a sense of respect, which is very beneficial for future communication among the three of you, and you'll all have pleasant memories. Firstly, your husband will feel more at ease about your relationship with your lover. Secondly, you'll feel the affection between the two men, making your love more natural. My wife always tells me about it when she gets home after having sex with her lover (of course, they do it more often at my house).
Sixth, pay attention to the details of your affair. For example, if your husband cares about you giving him oral sex, not using a condom, or trying new things, don't break those rules. Otherwise, your husband will feel disrespected. After all, freedom is never absolute. Everything you do should be done without hurting your husband. If your husband doesn't have any specific requirements, then you can do whatever you want. Of course, you should also actively seek your husband's opinion on these details. Perhaps if you take the initiative, your husband will reduce his demands and become more tolerant.

These are some of my wife's personal feelings. So far, my wife enjoys her affair without any burden, and because of this, she receives more pampering from me. She thinks I am quite sensible, know how to give and take, and can balance everyone's feelings. So it seems that my generosity and tolerance have made my wife lose her own boundaries and enjoy the pleasure of sex. In fact, the biggest boundary is in a woman's heart, it just depends on how she grasps it.

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