These years of friendship

Our entry into 69 was quite accidental. Over the years, I've had many experiences and feelings, and today I'll briefly write down my thoughts as a summary of my journey, hoping it will be helpful to fellow enthusiasts.
Compared to other dating platforms, 69 is a special one, and this uniqueness is what makes many people addicted. It's special for three main reasons: First, the platform's member structure is unique. The members are primarily not ordinary men and women, but couples. Second, their purpose in dating is clear: it's neither for love nor for money (although some may use it to scam). The main purpose of couples dating is to have sexual intercourse (not just sexual intercourse) with people other than their partners. In other words, the vast majority of couples who use 69 to date are not doing so to satisfy their financial needs through prostitution, nor for mutual affection and commitment, nor for a lifelong marriage and procreation. Their purpose is simple and clear: solely for "sex," to blatantly satisfy their specific "sexual needs and sexual stimulation." This is described as a "special sexual relationship" because the parties seeking "sexual satisfaction" through such relations are not simply the two lovers in the narrow sense, but rather three, four, or even more parties. This goes beyond the instincts of the animal kingdom and represents a unique need that distinguishes some humans from animals. Virtually no animal desires greater physiological stimulation through simultaneous intercourse with a third party while maintaining a partner; on the contrary, most animals demand exclusive possession of their sexual partner and exclusive sexual rights. Thirdly, due to the influence of traditional concepts and social values, information exchange can only take place "secretly" within a small circle. Information cannot be made public and is difficult to verify in advance. Therefore, people naturally experience pressure and insecurity when making friends and exchanging information on platforms. Of course, this "secrecy" also brings a subconscious sense of stimulation.
The special member structure, the simple and clear purpose, coupled with the clandestine "secrecy," also bring a series of troubles to all parties involved in making friends, mainly manifested in: safety concerns during interactions. From a psychological perspective, the need for safety is the first and foremost innate human need, surpassing all other needs. Of course, there are some audacious individuals in these groups, but most have short lifespans.
The so-called security concerns mainly refer to health and information security. Couples looking to make friends, and those who have already successfully made friends, are likely well aware of these points, so I won't elaborate. However, I feel it's necessary to analyze the resulting "vulnerability of single men." First, in terms of health, single men cause couples concern. This includes both physical and psychological health concerns: Why are they still single at an older age? Is there a physical or psychological problem? How can these be ruled out? If they're young, why are they in this group? If it's for sex, why not find a partner they like instead of dating married couples? What is their purpose? ... These questions initially troubled us as well. Therefore, the single men who successfully made friends were those who had thoroughly gotten to know each other over a period of time. But speaking from the experience of a couple who have successfully dated, I'd like to be honest: even though we resolved many initial issues and concerns, none of the single men we've dated have lasted this long. While we've always been the ones to actively end these relationships, the main reason is that these younger men (unless they're already married, we don't date single men over 30 from the start) are indeed quite unreliable, and they often don't even realize their own problems. In other words, besides providing temporary sexual pleasure, they don't feel worth continuing the relationship afterward. Meanwhile, the two couples we know still meet up frequently. This brings us to the second issue: information concerns. This isn't just about the insecurity of information during the relationship. For example, some single men like to brag to their friends about their experiences with married couples. Although we know they're just talking, it's not true (we agree from the beginning not to reveal personal information to single men, including not going to hotels they book, not meeting them at their agreed-upon locations, not allowing them to take photos or record audio with their electronic devices, not allowing them to bring electronic devices during sex, etc., etc.), knowing about their behavior still makes us feel a little disgusted. Our openness towards single men doesn't mean we're exposing ourselves to the whole world.
Another concern is that single men may not fully understand the psychology behind dating between couples. Due to their incomplete upbringing (primarily referring to unmarried single men; married single men having relationships with couples is considered adultery, and if they fail to develop feelings for their wives, it often affects their own family life, which contradicts the original intention of dating between couples, so we don't associate with married single men), they may not fully understand the psychology of dating between couples: sexual intercourse should be unrestrained, but at the same time, respect for the other person's wife must be shown. Couples are with single men for sex, but their acceptance of penetration means they accept you as a friend. Since you are a friend, regardless of age or appearance, one party shouldn't accommodate the other, especially by tolerating disrespect. For example, single men often become self-absorbed during intercourse, verbally disrespecting their wives, and behaving crudely without restraint, etc. Of course, we wouldn't show it at the time, but we would absolutely never have a next time with a single man like that. Of course, some couples might want the single man to be a little more aggressive in his actions and words during intercourse, but this should be done after thorough communication between the single man and the couple; they shouldn't act on their own assumptions. Some
friends might criticize us for being pretentious, hypocritical, or wanting to have our cake and eat it too. That's fine; we're not wrong. I'm talking about "wife-cuckolding," while you're talking about "wife-abusing"—we don't need
to talk past each other. In short, we believe that couples should primarily date other couples; single men can be a nice diversion, but be careful. Good single men are rare and hard to find, so don't be hasty. I'll share some of my own experiences with two other couples later. Now, we've become close friends who can talk about anything.

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