Your husband is having an affair, so you need to be even more amazing.

Q: My husband doesn't come home at night, what should I do?
A: You don't need to ask or worry about it. He's an adult and capable of controlling his behavior. As long as he doesn't have a bad habit of drunk driving, he'll find a warm place to go tonight.
Q: What if he sleeps with another woman?
A: Again, you don't need to ask or worry about it. The Marriage Law doesn't deprive married people of the right to sleep with someone of the opposite sex outside of marriage. What the law doesn't prohibit is permissible. Unless he's a party member or a leading cadre, you have no legal or policy basis to investigate whether he slept with another woman.
Q: But if my husband sleeps with another woman, it hurts me. I'll be very distressed and angry!
A: Your distress and anger are your fault. Because you treat your husband as your private property, not allowing others to share him, you are distressed; because you haven't served your husband well, he has to find another woman to compensate, thus neglecting you, so you are angry. If you are magnanimous and view your husband's successes as your contributions to society, you won't be in pain. If you first reflect on yourself and think about what you usually do for your husband, especially in bed, you won't be angry anymore. Because once you think this way, you'll soon realize that you're definitely not as good as the other woman, at least in bed.
Question: Can infidelity be forgiven?
Answer: It's not a question of forgiveness, but how to deal with it.
Question: So how should I deal with it?
Answer: It's the same as before: you don't need to ask, you don't need to care. Or, to add: you don't need to be in pain, you don't need to be angry. Just act as if nothing happened.
Question: But I can't do it.
Answer: If you can't do it, it means you've lost yourself. Question
: What do you mean?
Answer: Your husband isn't your whole life; you are your whole life. If your husband has an affair, and you don't want to eat, drink, or live, do you still have a self?
Question: Then what should I do?
A: It's very simple: eat when you're hungry, wear what you're dressed for, play when you're happy, and actively pursue your career development. Don't neglect anything, and you can even have your own emotional attachments. In short, live a more fulfilling life because you weren't born for him, and you don't live for him.
Q: But then, does marriage still have meaning?
A: Of course it does. Because the meaning of marriage is never a fixed constant; it's completely different at different stages of life.
Q: How do you understand that?
A: Marriage has at least four different meanings at different stages of life: First, it has a processual meaning, meaning that under the existing social system, people must go through the process of "getting married" at a certain age. If you don't get married and don't go through this process, you become an outcast, constantly the subject of gossip; secondly, there's the significance of procreation. In a country with a severely underdeveloped social security system and where not getting married doesn't legally guarantee having children, "dying without offspring" remains a tragic situation. Therefore, to have a legally recognized bloodline, you have no choice but to marry; thirdly, there's the significance of a "common economic entity." Marriage still carries an important economic function today. No one marries to become poorer, and only marriage can rapidly enhance your economic power in society; fourthly, there's the significance of "growing old together." When you're in your fifties or sixties and can't do anything anymore, that's when the most important meaning of marriage becomes apparent—the elderly couple relying on each other.
Question: How do these meanings relate to my husband's affair?
Answer: They're extremely relevant. As long as your husband doesn't file for divorce because of an affair, your marriage will continue to play its positive role and have a prospect of "sustainable development"—your husband has allowed you to complete the basic processes of life; you are not an outcast; your husband has given you your own bloodline, so you are no longer lonely; your husband has increased your economic power in society, so you no longer have to struggle alone, and you may even rise to a higher position; and when you and your husband are both old, I guarantee he will never have another affair, and he will definitely accompany you to enjoy your later years. You see, all four important meanings of marriage exist in your marriage, so what is there to be sad about, what is there to be angry about?
Question: But he treats that woman better than me, and he often goes to see her at night!
Answer: That's temporary. He can't be with her forever, and he can't have an affair forever! As long as he doesn't file for divorce, it means he has you in his heart, that he still considers you his final destination in life, and you his home. His current affair is just a momentary impulse, a fling with a girl he happens to meet.
Q: Does that mean I'm a wife in name only?
A: Don't make it sound so scary. What have you "lost"? If anything, you've only lost the pleasure in bed. And according to the six functions of marriage listed by the great All-China Women's Federation, sexual pleasure doesn't even include that. In other words, according to our official marriage concept, sexual pleasure is irrelevant to marriage. So, from a practical standpoint, you haven't lost anything.
Q: But I also have those desires, and he's given them to other women. How can I not be in pain?
A: That's where you're wrong. Did your husband stop you? Did the law prohibit you? Did anyone expose you? As long as you're not a great Party leader (the CCP has a great Party discipline: prohibiting leaders from having improper sexual relations), then you can do whatever you want! In short: Your husband is having an affair, so you should be even more exciting! Anyway, it's your marriage. As long as you don't make a scene and demand a divorce, your husband will eventually get tired of his affairs and come back to you. So, you must stay calm and let time heal all wounds!

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