How to enhance marital sex life - Part Two

Part Two of the "Couple's Sexual Exchange" Series:
Men's Sacrifices for Love
Most people believe that if a man makes an effort or sacrifice during sex, it mainly refers to physical exertion or physiological phenomena like ejaculation. Many considerate wives often see it this way, taking care of their husbands' diet, nutrition, rest, and health as a form of reciprocation.
While not entirely wrong, this understanding is somewhat superficial. For men, especially young, vigorous men, the most important and significant sacrifice in sex is actually striving to accommodate and care for their partner out of love.
Ancient Chinese sayings describe men as fire during sex—igniting quickly and extinguishing just as quickly, while women are like water—heating slowly and cooling slowly. Physiologically, the younger and stronger a man is, the more he desires to penetrate and ejaculate as quickly as possible. However, if he truly loves her, he must find ways to compensate for this difference between men and women. He must prepare with more foreplay, try to prolong intercourse, and continue to strive to satisfy his wife's physical and emotional needs after ejaculation. For men, these are all sacrifices, even "extra burdens." To do these things well, he puts in far more effort than simply satisfying himself. If it weren't for true love, and for love itself, few men would willingly create such trouble for themselves.
Middle-aged men, however, experience the opposite sacrifice. Their libido begins to decline, their interests become increasingly limited, and they become less inclined to initiate anything. But if their marital sex life has been consistently good, and the wife's sexual needs begin to increase, or at least not noticeably decrease, many husbands begin to feel that intimacy has become an "obligation," a forced act. At this point, only true love, only for love, can motivate a man to meet his wife's sexual demands.
In short, if it's merely for sex, men do indeed sacrifice far less than women. But if it's for love, then men don't sacrifice less in their sex lives, and some men may even sacrifice more.
Unfortunately, many women don't understand this. Some wives have an inflated sense of self-importance, harboring a latent mentality of "it's good enough that you're allowed to sleep with me," not only ignoring their husbands' contributions but also sometimes complaining. Some women are overly sensitive to inequality, always acting solely from their own perspective, unwilling and unable to understand their partners, constantly feeling "cheated." Others unconsciously use "virginity" or "first time" as bargaining chips with their husbands, failing to understand their husbands' love.
This kind of mistake isn't limited to ordinary women; some female academics also make this mistake. A 1994 survey on marital sex life found that husbands felt they contributed more than wives, and by a significant margin. A female professor interpreted this as men lying or their chauvinism at play. In reality, the survey focused on highly educated, younger husbands in large cities. These are precisely the men who most admire and pursue love. Their contributions are naturally much greater, and represent a significant improvement. There's really nothing to doubt or find strange about this.
Don't you agree?

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