The origins and development of ***, its advantages and disadvantages, and the principles to be followed. Be sure to read carefully; this is a high-quality game.

The abbreviation "sex swapping," also known as partner swapping, or sex clubs, and historically called "Yi Nei," refers to two or more couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse. This unusual sexual transaction has existed for a long time; however, from a cultural perspective, sex swapping is more than just sex trading; it carries significant social implications. Li Yinhe says "sex swapping is unrelated to morality," while others say it reflects the inner spiritual crisis of the middle class—we hope this can become a topic for serious yet moderate discussion.
The origins of
sex swapping: The Zuo Zhuan (Commentary of Zuo) records the story of Qing Feng and Lu Pu Bi exchanging partners in the 28th year of Duke Xiang's reign. Du Xiangyu's "Idle Talks of the Rustic" also recounts a story of brothers exchanging partners. The early Mormon Church in the United States practiced polygamy, which was illegal, leading to their expulsion to the edge of the Utah desert to survive. Even today, some members of this religion still engage in sex swapping.
The rise of
sex swapping: Sex swapping refers to a legally married couple or cohabiting couple having sex with another person or several people simultaneously. This form first appeared in the United States, around the 1950s.
In the United States, those who engaged in BDSM in the 1970s were mostly rebellious, long-haired hippie couples. Now, however, BDSM enthusiasts are mostly middle-class couples in their 30s and 40s with stable jobs and incomes. BDSM has become increasingly popular among the American middle class in recent years. Statistics show that there are currently over 500 "BDSM clubs" across the United States, with some large clubs even booking entire hotels for parties of up to 4,000 people.
In the 1997 film "The Ice Storm," directed by Ang Lee and depicting the changing lives of middle-class families in the United States during the 1970s, such parties are also called "key parties." Couples attending the party place their car and house keys in a bowl at the entrance. Upon leaving, the organizers gather everyone to randomly draw a key from the bowl. If you draw a key that isn't the one you put in, you're required to take someone else's wife or husband home for the night.
Following the terminology used in a 2001 South Korean film, such private gatherings can be called "club butterfly."
These "group sex clubs" are widespread in Europe, America, Japan, Australia, and other countries, holding regular gatherings.
On December 26, 2005, the Associated Press reported that a seven-year legal battle over group sex clubs in Canada finally resulted in their legalization on December 21.
The Delbecs, married for over 20 years and with three grown sons, had been regulars at "group sex clubs" since 1978. For 21 years, they attended various group sex parties and orgies, engaging in consensual sexual relations with strangers. In 1998, during a revelry at the "Lightning Club," they were raided by police and arrested. This marked the beginning of a seven-year legal battle to legalize group sex.
On February 21, 2005, the Supreme Court of Canada issued a final ruling, overturning the ban on "group sex clubs" and "sexual harassment clubs," declaring that group sex among adults with mutual consent is legal, not considered prostitution, and does not pose a threat to society.
After winning a landmark case, the "Lightning" group sex club was willing to open its "group sex" venue to reporters for the first time—the place "described as a brothel" in the court proceedings. Owner Rabe explained that after the court ruling, the club was practically partying all night long, with members celebrating their victory with even more extravagant group sex.
In recent years, these "sexual harassment clubs" have also spread to Hong Kong, as well as major cities like Shenyang, Guangzhou, Chongqing, Lanzhou, and Nanjing. They operate in the cracks of social norms: by day, they are civil servants, white-collar workers, and state-owned enterprise cadres; by night, they are enthusiastic about parties called "exchanging tenderness," which outsiders and the media refer to as "sexual harassment clubs."
*** - The American-style sex club
"sex game" has become increasingly popular among the American middle class in recent years. It is estimated that there are now over 500 sex clubs nationwide, with some large clubs even booking entire hotels for passionate sex parties of up to 4,000 people.
Laziwright, head of a Los Angeles sex club, stated that in the 1970s, those who engaged in sex games were mostly rebellious, long-haired hippie couples, while today, sex players are mostly middle-class couples in their 30s and 40s with stable jobs and incomes. Every weekend, sex parties involving partner swapping are held in major cities from San Jose, California to San Francisco.
Is "sex" used to avoid infidelity? Sex is not new in Europe and America. Although most people find this behavior absurd, those involved have their own explanations. They believe that couples who have been together for a long time inevitably become bored with each other, and to avoid infidelity, it's better to "relieve" themselves through sex with mutual understanding.
Many participants in sex swapping activities consider themselves "open-minded," believing in the inherent weakness of human nature. They see it as a better way to escape
reality and suppress their feelings than to engage in partner swapping with other like-minded couples. In the 1970s, those involved in sex swapping in the US were mostly rebellious, long-haired hippie couples; today, they are mostly middle-class couples in their 30s and 40s with stable jobs and incomes. Every weekend, sex swapping parties are held in major cities from San Jose to San Francisco, California.
American-style sex swapping is very extravagant. Couples who participate are often wealthy, sometimes even booking entire hotels for group partner swapping parties. Recently, over 4,000 members booked a 17-story hotel on Miami Beach, Florida. Sex swappers have also established approximately 500 sex swapping clubs across the US.
They consciously abide by the rules. Maravira, who enjoys sex swapping, says that it's usually the husband who suggests joining these clubs, but many wives also come to enjoy the activity after joining. Every couple joining a sex club must pay a membership fee; single men and women are not allowed to participate. Clubs typically have a large stock of condoms.
Sexual intercourse to prevent extramarital affairs
is not new in Europe and America. Although most people find this behavior absurd, those involved have their own explanations. They believe that couples who have been together for a long time inevitably grow tired of each other, and to avoid infidelity, it's better to "relieve" this through sexual intercourse with mutual understanding.
Many participants consider themselves "open-minded," believing in the weakness of human nature. Rather than escaping reality and suffering in silence, they prefer to participate in an exchange program with other like-minded couples. There are quite a few sex clubs in the United States that act as matchmakers, facilitating couples with such needs. For example, ClubH in Minnesota, which is well-known in the sex community, organizes a group sex event called "Swingstock" every summer, inviting hundreds of couples to drive to a campground in the countryside for a weekend getaway.
Because the Swingstock campground is privately owned, some men and women can freely engage in sexual activities naked in broad daylight. Some argue that this activity differs from a "mixed-gender party" only in degree, but participants believe they are not bothering anyone, therefore there is no reason for outsiders to interfere with their freedom.
*** - There are generally two ways to participate and the rules
: one is a pair-to-pair exchange;
this method is less common, mostly involving one couple directly exchanging with another. These couples do not wish to attend "mixed-gender clubs" and, based on their own preferences and requirements, seek cultured, high-income white-collar individuals with whom both parties agree.
Another method is through a mixed-gender club:
(I) Some pairings are based on free choice.
At the club, participants can socialize and choose partners before formal activities begin, selecting those they find suitable and compatible with their spouses. Once paired, they cannot change partners arbitrarily.
(II) Other pairings are based on random assignment .
These "clubs," popular in middle-class European family gatherings and centered around sex, are widespread in Chinese cities. For middle-class individuals with stable jobs and high incomes, these small-scale gatherings offer a unique and private experience, typically taking place in upscale clubs or pre-arranged hotels.
The organizer usually decides the time and participants, then books rooms by phone. Participants arrive at the agreed location after work on the weekend, either together or separately, register as couples, obtain room keys, and then have dinner, chat, and sing karaoke. Late at night, after the ladies return to their rooms, the gentlemen place their keys face down on the table and draw a number to enter the room. Those "unlucky" enough to draw their own room number can request a redraw.
The advantages and disadvantages of *** - ***
Advantages:
1. Increased sexual intimacy for both partners, openly and by mutual agreement.
2. Increased sexual activity from two to four through exchange, providing novelty, intensifying sexual stimulation, and satisfying curiosity.
3. Maintaining the marriage if both parties consent and agree, preventing divorce due to extramarital affairs.
4. Ensuring equal opportunities for both partners if consent is reached.
5. Introducing competition; the possibility of losing a spouse stimulates emotional connection, attraction, and a desire for possession.
Disadvantages:
1. The pain of seeing one's loved one with others, leading to feelings of abandonment.
2. It can damage the intimate relationship between spouses, especially when love and sex cannot be separated, ultimately leading to the breakdown of the marriage. If a spouse engages in sexual activity with others, particularly witnessing their spouse's passionate and intense lovemaking, the spouse feels they have lost their exclusive rights and may no longer be considered worthy of their affection. However, this raises a question: is cherishing a spouse based solely on sex and their physical body?
3. It introduces a competitive mechanism, with everyone striving to demonstrate superior sexual prowess and fearing being perceived as weaker and failing in the competition.
4. Seeing one's partner being sexually exploited by others can lead to feelings of being taken advantage of, even if the spouse also engages in sexual activity with other partners.
5. Afterwards, if others find out, there will be significant social pressure. If this pressure is unbearable, feelings of shame and self-loathing may arise.
*** - *** Participants' Thoughts and Feelings
Men's Thoughts and Feelings
● In Europe and America, *** is not a new thing. Although most people think this behavior is absurd, those who participate have their own explanations. They believe that after being together for a long time, couples inevitably get tired of each other. To avoid extramarital affairs, it's better to "relieve" themselves through *** with mutual understanding. Those who participate in *** activities often consider themselves "open-minded." They firmly believe in the weakness of human nature, and rather than escaping reality and suffering in silence, it's better to participate in an exchange program with other couples who share the same views. They are not bothering anyone else, so there is no reason for outsiders to interfere with their freedom.
● Exchanges are often conducted in the name of love, but sometimes "exchange" can also be a "helpless descent." When the expected pleasure is not obtained, it can cause great sadness and frustration for both parties involved.
● It has a significant improving effect on married life. Our relationship as a couple is very good, and our family is harmonious. When asked whether "spouse swapping" would have a negative impact on family life, a man answered very affirmatively that it was just a way to adjust our married life. He added that the facts proved that our married life did indeed get fresh stimulation after the exchange, the quality improved, and our relationship was strengthened.
● A man, when choosing a swap partner for himself and his wife, emphasized the compatibility of the other woman's psychological qualities and temperament with his own.
● It was after having children for three or four years that the couple experienced a lack of passion in their relationship, leading them to seriously consider this bold idea. "I want my wife to experience a different kind of pleasure," he said. "We absolutely cannot talk about feelings. In fact, other people are unwilling to swap with couples who have relationship problems."
● It's simply a physical game; it's not that complicated.
● You're married, but you've found that this isn't your ideal marriage. Love requires compromise, so swapping is just a lifestyle choice.
● First and foremost, it's crucial to avoid having acquaintances. If, in the end, the partners are people you know from the same workplace or company, that would be disastrous.
● Initially, the wife was afraid of losing face and being taken advantage of, so she refused. Later, after attending several colleague gatherings, she felt that these friends weren't scoundrels, were friendly, and respected women, so she agreed to try it. That evening, a singing competition was arranged, and she won first place, receiving a beauty voucher from a client. In subsequent encounters, seeing the diverse and enjoyable activities everyone engaged in, and the lack of gossip, drug use, or perverse practices like multiple partners, the wife completely loosened up.
● In reality, many people believe partner swapping is wonderful, but it's not. Perhaps it brings more embarrassment and potential future impact on marital relationships.
● Some believe it's a new and exciting experience, free from financial burden. If each partner had their own lover, emotional control would be difficult. Therefore, partner swapping satisfies the need for novelty and stimulation, allowing couples to move forward and retreat together.
● It's not about morality. I don't want to be judged morally; I have the right to enjoy my own body. Li said things started to change at this point. He persuaded his wife to browse the forum with him, and they exchanged their experiences. His wife initially resisted, but gradually accepted it. One day, he sent an email to a fellow enthusiast in Beijing, expressing his idea: partner swapping. What followed was a natural progression. Li said he doesn't regret it now: "Because I enjoyed things I'd never enjoyed before." "Of course, I sometimes feel guilty, but it's fleeting. It's like a drug addict; they feel morally condemned, but they just can't control themselves." Li said he wouldn't maintain a relationship with a couple for too long because he feared some kind of insecurity. He never brought anyone to his home; all his activities took place outside. After a period of interaction, they would stop contacting each other.
The woman's thoughts and feelings:
● Participating in sex games was just for stimulation; she wasn't particularly enthusiastic.
● She believed that men weren't that different, and occasionally switching partners wasn't out of dissatisfaction with her husband. Sometimes, marital relations needed variety.
● To add variety, playing in a fixed circle of people of similar age was better than "randomly," costing at most a few hundred yuan for accommodation. Besides, every new member had a doctor's report, and although sometimes the men didn't wear condoms, there was no fear of AIDS or other complications.
● Although it was called a sex game, from the first time, the feeling upon entering the room wasn't lewd.
● One woman said that the number of people in this circle is actually quite small, and some are of exceptionally high character. Over time, even those who aren't colleagues become familiar with each other's personalities and interests. Therefore, every time they're alone together, they chat about work, life, current events, and happy things. Sometimes, when the conversation gets lively, they continue drinking wine or tea, and when they get sleepy, they go to bed, shaking hands and saying goodbye at dawn.
● Couples in the gaming community uphold the bottom line of family. Most of the people in the circle have returned from studying in Europe and America, are familiar with and don't resist gaming, and the key is that the couples share a common understanding. My husband and I are very loving and consider each other soulmates. We both believe that marriage and family are the most important things, the bottom line; everything else is secondary. "
● One woman said, 'My husband and I cherish our time together, but that doesn't mean we have intimacy every night or that every caress is necessarily the start of an orgasm. Similarly, this little circle has lasted for so many years, and the most important thing isn't the occasional partner-swapping "sex games." Although everyone seems excited at these "parties," creating an atmosphere of mystery by not knowing who their next partner will be, ultimately no one is forced. Besides, I've never encountered a drugged "suicide addict."
● I'm not worried that my husband will have an affair while playing this game because I don't have that intention. Furthermore, everyone is a colleague; we go out to relax, and we maintain appropriate boundaries and considerations. No one in this circle has divorced, or had any fights or arguments over jealousy.'"
●Later, we did it in separate rooms, and it felt unfamiliar. Perhaps due to different habits or other reasons, my pleasure didn't come as expected… During our encounter, the man kept thinking about his lover. I turned my head to one side and smiled understandingly. Later, his wife came to see us, but after just one glance, she ran out again. After she left, she cried… Her crying was very moving; her tears intensified the emotional element of the game. I think authenticity is good. If everyone is only indulging in pure physical pleasure, it will make us feel more miserable, and we might even begin to doubt our attitude towards love.
●Some women believe that self-protection is very important in sex swapping. They believe that both physical and emotional self-protection are necessary, especially for women. Physical self-protection refers to safe sex; even if the woman uses contraception, she should ask her male partner to wear a condom to prevent HIV transmission. Emotionally, there should be restrictions on the male partner's sexual behavior to prevent sexual violence; it's best to have some understanding of him.
● Some women find that instead of finding pleasure in sex games, they feel a sense of shame, as if they've been raped. After the man forces himself on her, she runs to the bathroom, frantically washing herself, then flees, sitting alone on the beach sobbing until dawn. Only then does she realize her psychological tolerance for sex games is too limited. A moment of infatuation and a night of indulgence have caused permanent damage to her traditional moral values, and she cannot forgive herself. She understands that a harmonious marriage requires not only passion and romance, but also rational calm and composure. Only through mutual respect and mutual understanding can true spiritual and physical union be achieved!
● White-collar workers are obsessed with sex parties: sex without love.
● Due to her husband's deliberate deception, she unknowingly joins a so-called "sex club," unable to extricate herself from passion, waiting, excitement, and anxiety.
● Separation of sex and love. Sex is a more external experience, but love is an inner vibration. If we follow the view that sex and love cannot be separated, does that mean there should be no sex without love? Isn't this a statement against human nature?
●But he's the second man to me. To be honest, I find it very gentle and exciting... Although it's shameless to say this, it's my true feeling.
●After a period of dormancy, prostitution in the United States has suddenly resurfaced, becoming more active and open than ever before, with an increasing number of participants. According to a prostitution activist, at least 700,000 to 800,000 couples in the US are currently actively involved in prostitution, the highest number ever recorded. The sudden interest in prostitution in the US is reportedly due to AIDS. Since the spread of AIDS in the US, many American couples who enjoyed seeking sexual relations outside the home have suffered psychological pressure, burdening their families. One person cannot bear such a heavy responsibility, so for insurance, couples have switched to seeking sexual relations together, sharing the responsibility even if they contract the disease. However, due to the technical difficulties of couples seeking sexual relations together, prostitution has revived as a natural trend for convenience. This is actually a strange phenomenon, because the main reason for the previous dormancy of prostitution in the US was the AIDS problem. However, Americans were afraid of contracting AIDS and thus refrained from promiscuity; now, they are doing so out of fear of the responsibility of contracting AIDS. This kind of thing is unlikely to happen anywhere else but the US
. Rules
and Regulations of a Certain Club
(1) Respect personal privacy. If either party objects to the disclosure of personal information such as address and telephone number, they shall not inquire about it.
(2) Respect the woman's wishes. Without the woman's consent, no action shall be taken against her wishes, and no illegal means shall be used to achieve the purpose. Please think carefully about the serious consequences arising therefrom.
(3) Both parties should communicate with an open and honest attitude. It is recommended to communicate fully in advance about personal interests, hobbies, and preferences to avoid unpleasantness between the two parties.
(4) Please consciously confirm and state the physical condition of both parties, such as whether they have infectious diseases or other unsuitable diseases. Please think carefully about the serious consequences arising therefrom.
(5) Neither party shall use means to harm or make the other party uncomfortable during the communication process. In particular, men should show gentlemanly manners and fully care for and respect women.
(6) Both parties should confirm their legally valid and genuine legal marital status.
(7) If both parties have children, please restrain your behavior and strictly prohibit any behavior that will affect the next generation.
(8) After the exchange ends, if one party has no intention of continuing the relationship, the other party shall not harass or disrupt the other party's family.
(9) Neither party shall engage in any monetary transactions.
(10) Neither party shall engage in any intimate behavior with the other party in public places or places where acquaintances know their identities.

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