What to do if a couple lacks passion?

"Lack of sexual interest at home" has nothing to do with marital affection.

Renowned psychologist Keith Aberroy points out that "lack of sexual interest at home" is unrelated to marital affection; what often dampens interest is the tediousness and triviality of housework. Since 93% of sexual activity for married couples takes place in their own bedroom, both partners should make an effort to create a beautiful environment, making it a romantic and special place, rather than a place filled with various appliances, serving as an entertainment venue or office:

A large bed is not conducive to intimacy. Most people believe that the bigger the bed, the more comfortable it is. Aberroy believes that a slightly cramped bed is more conducive to intimacy between couples. Physical contact is the most direct form of care; when the hands and feet touch each other frequently, it not only provides warmth and security but can sometimes even ignite passion on days without planned sex. A large bed where neither partner can reach the other can create a sense of unfamiliarity.

Bed sheets and duvet covers should be changed frequently. These kinds of items are the best way to create a sense of freshness in the bedroom. Sheer fabrics, vibrant cotton, and smooth silk—while everyone has different preferences, the relaxation felt when touching luxurious bedding is universal. Only by frequently changing and keeping it clean, ensuring the colors, patterns, and materials match both partners' aesthetics, can the instinctive desire for pleasurable enjoyment be awakened.

Maintaining privacy in the bedroom is crucial. The bedroom should be off-limits for children, allowing couples to place sexually stimulating items such as nude sculptures, paintings, intimate photos of the couple, or erotic books. From a sexual psychology perspective, couples' expectations for the bedroom environment generally revolve around three specific aspects: sufficient security, moderate sexual stimulation, and room for imagination.

Aberro suggests placing a bottle of perfume on the bedside table, but without opening the cap, allowing the fragrance to subtly waft out, creating an ambiguous mood.

The bedroom color scheme should suit the wife's preferences. Because a wife's sexual motivation is more easily influenced by her environment, the bedroom's color scheme should prioritize her feelings, generally following the principle of "opposites attract," meaning the mood conveyed by the color scheme should contrast with the personality traits she displays in public. A passionate and outgoing wife should choose delicate and expressive colors, such as beige; a reserved and demure wife should choose bright and cheerful colors, such as orange or light red. Contrasting colors will encourage the wife to fully engage in sexual activity, stimulating rich emotions she doesn't usually express.

In terms of orientation, south- or east-facing rooms are best suited to neutral colors, west-facing rooms can use cool colors, and north-facing rooms are more suitable for warm colors. Furniture should generally be in warm colors to enhance the cozy atmosphere.

Bedside lamps should ideally be adjustable in brightness. Before making love, dim and soft lighting can create a hazy, dreamlike ambiance. Research shows that couples observing each other's sexual arousal and physiological responses in soft lighting can enhance mutual sexual excitement.

Don't treat the bedroom like a dressing room. Aberro points out that couples should maintain a degree of mystery around each other and avoid changing clothes in front of one another in the bedroom. For most ordinary couples, nudity isn't particularly aesthetically pleasing, so "why expose our shortcomings?"

Furthermore, while it's unnecessary to dress excessively sexy in the bedroom every day, it's best not to dress too conservatively in bed either. A conservative wife might occasionally wear a silk nightgown, and the husband's underwear should ideally be changed daily.

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