[Reflections on the article "The Joy of Exchange"] (Reprinted)

Reflections on the article "The Joy of Exchange"
Published: 2013-06-05 Author: ahzxy Popularity: 6342
I first saw this term online. Without any doubt, I understood what it meant immediately. I found some related content and, wow, people actually do it, and people actually write about it!
Thinking about it, a family that can achieve this must be at a very high level! Firstly, the couple must have reached a consensus; otherwise, it wouldn't be called exchanging partners, it would be called stealing. Secondly, they are both genuinely thinking about each other's sexual happiness, taking the other's pleasure as their own; otherwise, they wouldn't do it openly but secretly. Thirdly, they must want to maintain the existence of their family, which is why they negotiate to resolve sexual issues; otherwise, they would be indifferent and unmoved by sexual problems. From these perspectives, this is a good thing, and definitely not a poison in family life.
The main difference between humans and animals is that humans are shy and hide what they consider shameful. As a result, the body is often covered by clothing, with the reproductive system being the most crucial part of this covering. Consequently, the function of the reproductive system gradually transformed from a simple reproductive function into a private act, and later became associated with love and affection. Sexual activity became known as sexual intercourse, and it was believed to exist only between lovers. Because sex can result in death, to control population growth, sex was linked to marriage and family, leading to the common belief that sex is the exclusive domain of married couples.
The family is a cell of social life, essential for stability. Maintaining harmony within a family involves multiple aspects: love, obligations, and responsibilities. Therefore, the state has laws and regulations to protect marriage and maintain the family. But is sex truly confined to the family?
Sex is a need! Like hunger and thirst, it's a physiological need. Eating and drinking tea don't seem to be the sole domain of the family, and it's impossible for sex to exist only within the family and marriage! Therefore, extramarital and premarital sex are rampant in today's society, often disguised as love, attempting to elicit sympathy and understanding.
Physiologically speaking, sex is unrelated to love or family; it's something you do when you want, simple and clear. Emotionally, sex and love are indeed inseparable; humans are emotional beings, and having sex with someone you have no feelings for should be a terrible thing! But not all relationships necessarily involve sex, because sex is indeed higher than ordinary emotions. A loving family is one where couples consider each other's perspectives, rather than simply seeking personal pleasure. Moreover, this love is of a very high level; they agree to accept sex swapping only if the other person's happiness is their own.
Imagine if a wife likes to get her hair done, and a male hairdresser skillfully strokes her hair—would the husband object? If a wife likes beauty treatments, and a male beautician massages and caresses her face and forehead with smooth fingers—would the husband object? If a husband likes to drink and play drinking games with several women, would the wife object? If a husband is tired and likes a massage or foot reflexology, and a female masseuse does it for him, would his wife object? Most families would accept these options. So why not give him an opportunity when he enjoys sex but you can't provide it? Why confine sex to the home and marriage?
Some say sexual disharmony is the root of all crime, perhaps not, but the inability to fulfill desires is likely the root of all disharmony. There's a culture of eating, a variety of drinking, and different kinds of sex. Therefore, sex might indeed be a way to solve the blandness of many families where passion is absent and only affection remains.
In families where sex is involved, the man is tolerant, the woman is tolerant, and families where sex is possible are likely stable. I think they don't want to destroy anything but simply want to give each other a fresher and more exciting experience; love governs their lives! I see nothing dirty or shameful in these families. Perhaps I also have some incestuous or perverted thoughts?
Because the author's analysis of the pleasure of exchange is very insightful, I agree with the author's viewpoint, hence this repost.

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