To be honest: What if there is no sexual activity before marriage and the marriage is not harmonious?

"Chinese people think Americans are promiscuous, sleeping around before marriage; Americans think Chinese people are even more promiscuous, daring to get married even if they don't dare to sleep around."
Recently, a netizen posted online that a sex education textbook for high school students in Jiangxi Province contained words such as "premarital sex" being considered "cheap" by girls, which was questioned as insulting to women: "Premarital sex is especially harmful to girls' physical and mental health. A girl giving her body out of love does not increase a boy's love for her, and the boy who 'conquered' her will think she is 'cheap,' and having sex will actually cause the girl to lose love."
In response, the publisher's representative stated that because the words were in quotation marks, they could not be considered insulting to women, and the book would be revised in time.
After the incident was exposed, many male chauvinists actually said, "The words are crude but the logic is sound! Sleeping around before marriage is really too casual!"
Although I also think that girls should not sleep around casually, this does not mean that girls cannot sleep around before marriage!
In November 2015, a university in Xi'an even opened a "No Regrets in Youth" course, requiring female students to fill out a pledge card and swear to refuse premarital sex and extramarital sex after marriage.
Instilling in others the idea that "premarital sex is shameful for girls and chastity is the only natural order" is tantamount to moral blackmail. It not only allows chauvinistic men to treat girls as commodities, but also causes many virgin girls to see it as leverage, which is definitely not "a youth without regrets."
Similar movements have occurred abroad: In 1987, renowned American marriage and youth expert, Mr. McDowell, published "True Love Waits," advocating that young people say "no" to premarital sex. After its publication, many young Americans began to seriously consider the issues of "love, marriage, and life." Soon, an unprecedented "True Love Waits" movement swept the United States. This movement subsequently spread to Europe, North and South America, and Africa. Countless people around the world are still willing to wait for true love, signing "True Love Pledges."
However, a survey led by Professor Peter Bierman of Columbia University showed that while vows of chastity do have some effect on some teenagers, 88% of middle and high school students ultimately still engaged in premarital sex.
"Teenagers who once vowed to remain chaste did indeed postpone their first sexual encounter, but only by a few months," one researcher said. "However, they would try other, riskier sexual behaviors."
Worryingly, those who received "absolute abstinence education" often did not use any contraception during their first sexual encounter.
And I have a question: what if you don't check before marriage and find out he "can't" after marriage?
Compared to premarital sex, marriage is obviously a much more serious matter. When choosing a husband, women consider family background, character, appearance, and job; why don't they consider sexual harmony at all? A harmonious sex life is directly related to a harmonious marriage! Ignoring such an important issue is surely being too casual.
This scenario is truly embarrassing →_→
Moreover, according to surveys, China's current divorce rate has risen to 30%, and disharmony in marital relations is a major contributing factor. Furthermore, over 95% of women say they cannot accept a sexless marriage. Sexual medicine experts suggest: try marriage before marriage!
Indeed, can you truly be happy marrying someone with a sexual dysfunction?
There's also Tu Shiyou, the "chastity goddess" who previously said "chastity is a woman's most precious dowry," who publicly sought a husband on Weibo, requiring a three-year trial period after marriage without engaging in marital relations. Can anyone really accept that?
It's worth noting, however, that scientific research has proven that premarital sex can negatively impact family life. The book *Mastering Your Hormones* cites data confirming that premarital sex affects marriage; those with premarital sex are more likely to divorce; those with premarital sex are less satisfied with their overall marital sex life; and unhealthy premarital sexual habits can carry over into married life and destroy sexual interest.
So, should you have premarital sex?

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