How can we achieve sexual openness instead of promiscuity? (Excerpt from an online article)

"How can one achieve sexual openness without becoming promiscuous? What theories can support this and make it seem like it's not a form of depravity?"
If you insist on finding a guide to sex and love, telling you what behaviors are noble and beautiful and should be done, and what are low-class, vulgar, and tasteless and should be avoided, you probably won't find one. Everyone is different; each person lives a unique life, with their own bright and dark sides.
Promiscuity may be considered depraved, but that doesn't preclude some people from choosing a depraved life. Why should everyone strive to live a vibrant and positive life? Why can't some people be allowed to decay naturally like plants or fruits? Nothing in this world is mandatory; there are only different choices and the inevitable consequences of those choices.
In my view, sexual openness is essentially a form of freedom. Pursuing sexual openness is about how you choose and use that freedom.
Everyone probably thinks I'm a model of sexual freedom, haha. I agree with that conclusion. So, my own feeling is that sexual freedom is about freely expressing emotions, loving freely, and enjoying sexual pleasure within certain conditions and boundaries. Why emphasize certain conditions and boundaries? Because it's a broad framework that prevents one from getting lost. If you compare yourself to a kite soaring in the wind, then those conditions and bottom lines are the string tied to you—knowing freedom, avoiding risks, and having a way back.
My conditions and bottom lines are simple: in all my free actions, I must not hurt the people I love, not compromise my self-respect, not force my emotions or body, and know how to make and refuse autonomously. For example, I enjoy the feeling of extramarital affairs, so I can have one like a young girl within the limits acceptable to my husband; for example, I dislike casual friendships between two couples and the sexual acts that occur within them, so I can completely avoid participating in such things.
Let me elaborate on this dislike, mainly because I am narrow-minded, unable to overcome intense jealousy, and find it difficult to tolerate sex without love… Sex that exists beyond friendship can also be beautiful, just not soul-stirring. I am someone who is willing to sink into love and turn to ashes. Therefore, the sexual freedom between my husband and me, at first glance, seems unbalanced, but it is actually suitable for us—a kind of tilted balance.
So the key to this question is to first understand what you and your partner like and dislike, what you accept and reject. Once you understand this, you'll face fewer obstacles on the path to freedom in sex and love, allowing you to walk more happily and freely.

The friend who asked this question is probably more likely to find the freedom and excitement he desires because he's simply willing to share, to showcase or amplify his wife's charm, rather than seeking out and experiencing other women or emotions… making it much simpler.
In relationships and sex, the fewer people involved, the easier it is to manage, and the less likely you are to get lost. Finally, I wish them an ever-growing and happier relationship. Couples who have shared joys and sorrows always possess greater capacity for forgiveness.

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