Discussing the possibility and necessity of mother-son sexual relations

Author: Ms. Li Yinhe, a Chinese-American scholar specializing in sex education.

With economic development and rising living standards, adolescents receive ample nutrition, ensuring rapid growth and development. Consequently, sexual maturity arrives earlier than expected. Adolescents in puberty have a strong curiosity and desire to explore sex, but their understanding is still vague and rudimentary. Caught in the whirlwind of sexuality, they may experience confusion, distress, and even harm others and society. Therefore, adolescent sexual behavior has become a significant social problem.
Sexological research shows that long-term sexual repression negatively impacts physiological and psychological development, as well as work and study, even damaging physical and mental health. This is especially true for adolescents in their growth and psychological development stages; excessive sexual repression can lead to various neurotic symptoms such as sleep disorders, neurasthenia, anxiety, and depression. Psychologically, it can also cause sexual apathy and sexual distortion in adolescents. A normal, interdependent sexual relationship between men and women is a natural human need, indispensable for physiological and emotional well-being. Artificially suppressing this function can lead to many diseases. Normal sexual activity can coordinate various physiological functions in the body, promote the normal secretion of sex hormones, and is also a psychological need for health. However, due to the constraints of social morality and legal systems, teenagers cannot fully satisfy their physiological needs from the outside world. So, how can we alleviate the sexual needs of teenagers?
I. The Possibility of Self-Care at Home
It is unreasonable and unsafe for teenagers to seek normal sexual satisfaction from the outside world. In fact, they mainly obtain sexual satisfaction through three channels: First, through masturbation to release sexual desire, which is usually considered a relatively safe method. However, many teenagers lack restraint and often indulge excessively, causing certain harm to their bodies. Second, engaging in sexual relations too early with a romantic partner, but this behavior causes very serious physical and psychological harm to girls. Third, prostitution, rape, and other criminal acts are also common extreme behaviors. These behaviors not only lead teenagers astray but also make them highly susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases, causing great harm to their physical and mental health. Clearly, all of the above methods have a very negative impact on teenagers. The desire for sex often leads teenagers down a path of depravity and even crime, while also causing significant negative impacts on society.
Paradoxically, in the current social situation, we cannot use methods of isolation and repression to prevent them from trying sexual activity in harmful ways. However, for teenagers in puberty, regular sexual activity is very beneficial to their physical and mental health during their development. In this context, we should recognize the importance of this and find a harmless and normal way to guide their sexual desires, satisfy their sexual needs, and ensure their healthy growth. First, this method must be healthy and normal (heterosexual) sexual behavior. Second, this behavior should not harm society or others. Third, this behavior should be under the guidance and control of adults. So, how can we find a more reasonable and harmless way to address children's physiological needs?
It seems that since teenagers cannot obtain sexual satisfaction from external sources, we can only seek solutions within the family. The family is an independent unit within society; the family is private and closed to society, and its influence on the outside world is very small. The family itself is harmonious and affectionate, so many complex issues can be resolved well within the family.
In primitive societies, human sexual behavior was based on the pursuit of sexual pleasure, and reproduction was merely an unconscious and unplanned consequence of that pleasure. Of course, there was no taboo against incest at that time, but as human society developed, people recognized the harm of incest, and this taboo gradually formed. From the perspective of modern families, the harm caused by sexual behavior between family members lies not in the sexual activity itself (it is private and does not harm society), but in the impact of this behavior on the physical and mental health of the individuals involved. And now, contraception is very easy for us. Having ruled out this factor, we must consider whether sexual activity between family members will cause other harm to the individuals involved. Sexual activity between fathers and daughters, or brothers and sisters, will inevitably harm the girl. However, for a physically mature mother, mother-son sexual activity (referring to controlled, restrained sex based on mutual love between mother and son) differs from sexual relations with other family members, aside from social ethics and personal beliefs, primarily in that it does not harm the physical or mental health of the individuals involved.
II. The Role of the Mother
Male libido is at its peak between 16 and 18 years old, while female libido is at its peak between 30 and 45 years old. There is a significant age difference in sexual needs between men and women. In other words, only adolescents and middle-aged women have comparable physiological needs. To accommodate this objective requirement, why can't we complement each other between mothers and children? This complementarity based on mother-child affection can actually achieve better results.
So, can adolescents in puberty satisfy their sexual needs with their mothers' help? First, let's analyze the rationale behind this: First, the mother is the closest opposite-sex family member who accompanies the child throughout their growth; she loves and understands the child best. She can communicate more easily with the child regarding sexual issues. Second, the mother is an adult with mature and sound thinking. In handling family sexual relationships, she has a broader perspective and more thoughtful approach, allowing her to guide the child's growth more rationally (this is a key difference from sisters). Third, the mother has rich sexual experience, and her methods for addressing the child's sexual needs are more scientific. Fourth, the mother is the child's parent, and out of concern for the child's health, she will manage the child's sexual life with restraint. In conclusion, among family members, the mother has an irreplaceable sexual advantage, playing an extremely important role in addressing the sexual issues of boys during puberty.
Below, we will specifically discuss the feasibility of this approach.
III. The Development Process of Mother-Son Sexual Relationships
Above, we have affirmed that boys can resolve their sexual needs with their mother's help. However, how exactly to implement this? What methods? What should the mother do? What should the child do? We face new questions. First, sexual contact between mother and child is not permitted by modern social ethics and morality, and both mother and child will have many concerns and fears. Sexual contact without any psychological preparation will inevitably have negative effects and may even lead to the complete failure of sexual cooperation. Therefore, we must proceed gradually and naturally to build mutual trust between mother and child.
(I) Sexual Exploration and Temptation Period
1. Before sexual contact, it is best for mother and child to have in-depth communication. Heart-to-heart talks can be used to alleviate the tension of both parties. This period should take at least one to six months. During this period, the mother should take the initiative to explain the physiological knowledge between the sexes to the child, so that the child can have a better understanding of sexual life and lay a good foundation for future sexual contact. After a long period of communication, when both mother and child have corrected their views and realized that this kind of sexual contact is beneficial, they can move on to the next stage of sexual contact preparation.
2. Sexual Contact Preparation Stage. In this stage, mother and child can have limited physical contact. The child should not be impatient and should consider the mother's self-esteem and the psychology of the elder. While continuing psychological communication, the child can tentatively touch the mother's body, which is the initial stage of sexual contact between mother and child. Touching the breasts is often the most acceptable form of touch for the mother. During this period, the mother can expose her genitals to the child, allowing the child to gain a deeper understanding of the mother's body and prepare psychologically for future sexual activity.

(II) The Borderline Period of Sexual Contact
During this period, the mother has tacitly accepted or accepted the act of mother-son sexual intercourse. However, the son should not rush into genital contact with the mother; both can use other parts of their bodies to make contact. Now, the mother can use her hands or other parts of her body (other than genitals) to touch her son's genitals and help him satisfy his sexual needs. The characteristic at this time is that the mother and son engage in other common adult sexual behaviors besides genital intercourse. At this time, the psychology of the mother and son has undergone tremendous changes, and both show an attitude of recognition and acceptance towards mother-son sexual intercourse. At this time, they are more often in a sexual partnership, and their relationship gradually changes from a mother-son relationship to a sexual partnership. The psychological defenses that prevent them from finally engaging in genital intercourse have become increasingly fragile, and they eventually enter the sexual contact period.
(III) Sexual Contact Period
During this period, the mother and son can have regular and planned sexual life. In the mother-son sexual relationship, the mother should be in a dominant position. Whether to have sex, when and where to have sex, as well as the frequency and duration of sex, should all be decided by the mother. The mother's rich sexual experience is sufficient to fully satisfy the child's sexual needs. At the same time, children should be actively guided and encouraged to break free from the confusion of lust and strive to manage their own lives and studies well.
Sexual intercourse between mother and son is suitable if the following conditions are met: 1. The son is in puberty, physically healthy, his sexual organs are basically mature, and he is energetic. 2. The mother is physically healthy and has a strong libido. 3. The mother understands and consents. If the child is too young, sexual intercourse should not be premature to avoid harm.
Mothers should pay attention to the following: 1. Taking the lead in sexual activity and maintaining control as an elder. 2. While acting openly, limiting the son's freedom. 3. Controlling the frequency, time, and location of sexual intercourse.
Sons should pay attention to the following: 1. Only having sexual intercourse with the mother with her permission or when she initiates it. 2. Not forcing the mother, but acting under her guidance. 3. Behaving elegantly and avoiding vulgar language and actions. 4. Cherishing the mother's body and avoiding rough actions.
IV. The Importance of the First Time:
The first sexual intercourse between mother and son marks the beginning of their sexual life. The quality of the first sexual encounter directly impacts future sexual life. Only a perfect first time can instill confidence and motivation in both mother and son. Otherwise, it may leave unpleasant memories.
Time and Place: The first time is best done in bed at night. This allows the tired son to fall asleep with the pleasure of intimacy without the need for post-coital care, which the mother should handle.
Foreplay: Both mother and son should thoroughly clean themselves before intercourse. After bathing, they should go to bed and begin foreplay, a crucial step. Mutual caressing and kissing can gradually build sexual desire and prepare the body for intercourse. The son can proceed only when the mother feels ready.
Position: The best position for the first time is the rear-entry position, where the mother kneels on the bed with her hips raised, and the son kneels behind her for penetration. A mother may feel shy during her first sexual encounter with her son. The advantage of this position is that the mother's face can be turned away from her son, avoiding any awkward expressions and protecting her self-esteem.
During intercourse: When the son kneels behind the mother, he should not rush to penetrate her. He should enter under the mother's guidance. After penetration, the mother should actively instruct her son on how to perform intercourse. Every action the son takes should be with the mother's permission and guidance. He should sincerely seek her advice and humbly learn, and not act rashly or presumptuously. During this time, the mother should try to relax and teach her son about sex in a calm tone. She should encourage and praise his actions, and promptly convey her own physical pleasure to her son. Let him feel that you are happy and satisfied; this can effectively reduce his tension. When the mother feels pleasure, she should not shout loudly, but rather make subtle sounds, and never lose her maternal dignity in front of her son.
Contraception: To ensure a perfect experience for the child during their first sexual encounter, it is recommended not to use a condom. This allows the child to fully experience the mother's reproductive tract and truly feel her physiological changes. Simultaneously, the entire process of mother-son intercourse should be natural and fluid, allowing the son to ejaculate inside the mother without restraint, thus concluding a truly meaningful sexual experience. Contraception should be the mother's responsibility, not something the young son should worry about.
Driven by the son's deep love for his mother and strong desire for the adult female body, and by the mother's sincere love and selfless care for her son, the sexual encounter between mother and son will undoubtedly be a collision of passion and maturity, melting away kinship and elevating maternal love. The special relationship between mother and son dictates that they are the closest people in life. There should be no moral constraints between them; we should not view mother-son intercourse as ordinary sexual behavior, but rather as a dance, a game, or a sacred ritual.
Through appropriate sexual activity with their mother during puberty, boys' sexual desires are released normally, repressed emotions are relaxed, and they can face their studies and life with a more relaxed and joyful attitude. Meanwhile, through sexual activity, children gain a comprehensive understanding of women and acquire rich sexual experience, further enhancing their confidence in interacting with the opposite sex. During this period, mothers should actively provide convenience for both partners in sexual activity and offer encouragement and support for their children's growth. Once boys enter society or university, sexual activity with their mothers should naturally decrease and eventually cease, with children shifting towards normal interactions with other young women.
V. Conclusion
In current moral views, sexual relations between mother and son are considered a heinous act of incest, a tragedy. Ironically, people ignore the root causes of incest. In fact, incest is a product of this sexually repressive society. What truly creates incest is this closed and narrow-minded worldview, which fails to seriously consider the deep-seated dilemmas of human nature. People ignore the sexual needs of adolescents, depriving them of their right to sexual activity. As a result, various sexual problems among adolescents arise, including incest.
Of course, if there were better ways to meet a child's sexual needs, there would be no need for mother-son sexual intercourse. Our premise here is that this is only a last resort when no other effective methods are available. We should recognize that in modern society, what harm is there in sexual activity between mother and child that is not for procreation? People often fail to articulate this, only paying lip service to morality and ethics, without definitive conclusions about the harm caused by violating these moral norms.
In fact, we can view sexual activity between mother and child as simply heterosexual intercourse. Without procreation, age and kinship do not significantly impact the physical and mental well-being of either party (except for instability in some families), let alone pose a threat to society! In fact, the social secrecy of the family and the innate intimacy between mother and child actually promote family harmony and social stability.
We believe that with social development and the progress of human thought, this repressive concept of family sexual relationships will gradually be abandoned, and mother-child sex will move from behind the scenes to the forefront, no longer a mysterious and fearful game hidden behind the curtains of the family. At that time, people will gradually pay attention to the sexual needs of adolescents, and the trend of "family sexual liberation" will spread throughout human society like the "feminist movement," making mother-child sex a compulsory course in a child's development. The practice of mothers assisting teenagers with their sex lives will become a widely accepted tradition. For the healthy development of children, we look forward to this era arriving as soon as possible.

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