Several methods to delay ejaculation

Here are a few tips to prolong your sex life:

1. Ejaculatory Control.

Ejaculation is a reflex. If a man can truly control his ejaculation process, he can enjoy a high level of sexual arousal in any situation and choose when to ejaculate. He can allow sexual arousal to reach a high level, then temporarily drop to a lower level, then rise again, then drop again, repeating this fluctuation until he wants to ejaculate. In other words, he can maintain a plateau level of sexual arousal for a long time and can also complete the ejaculation reflex in time when his wife is satisfied. Conversely, men who cannot control the ejaculation process will experience a rapid rise in sexual arousal from zero to orgasm, often without a clear plateau. Not only his partner but also he himself is dissatisfied with this, but he has no choice in the matter, so the couple often finds themselves in a predicament. Since ejaculatory control is a matter of technique or habit, its prognosis is not too bad; 80% of men can master this technique after 8-12 weeks of treatment and training. The manifestations of ejaculatory control vary widely. Some men cannot control their ejaculation in any sexual activity; others experience premature ejaculation only during intercourse, but not during other sexual activities such as masturbation. Most men with premature ejaculation also suffer from erectile dysfunction. If both are present, the erectile problem must be addressed first before resolving the premature ejaculation.

It is unclear why men's ability to control ejaculation varies so greatly; nor why some men improve with age and experience while others remain unable to control it. However, one thing is clear: premature ejaculation, unlike erectile dysfunction, is not associated with as many organic problems or medication effects. It is primarily related to a lack of knowledge, focus, or technique. It is also clear that abstinence will worsen the condition; even a normal person, after several weeks of abstinence, will ejaculate prematurely upon resuming sexual activity. Furthermore, anxiety can also cause loss of control; for example, premature ejaculation often occurs on the first sexual encounter of the night, but improves on subsequent encounters. Generally, men lacking control simply fail to take necessary behavioral adjustments when they are highly aroused but have not yet ejaculated. This may be because they are not focused on their own feelings and therefore cannot take appropriate actions; because they do not know when to adjust their pace during action; because they do not know what kind of adjustment to make. British sexologist Ziegeld proposed the following training plan.

2. A Plan to Develop Ejaculatory Control

Developing ejaculatory control depends on two abilities: first, the ability to focus more fully on one's own sexual arousal and tension; second, the ability to change one's behavior to prevent or delay ejaculation. During the plateau phase (actually the ejaculatory control phase), men can influence ejaculation through behavioral changes, such as slowing down, adjusting the angle, resting briefly, and adjusting breathing. Ejaculatory control needs to be learned, just like riding a bicycle; the bicycle won't stop automatically, you must learn to balance. The plateau phase (control phase) represents both arousal and tension (anxiety). Most people lacking control may experience both simultaneously; they often do not know the difference between arousal and tension, but both can lead to rapid ejaculation. When a person engages in sexual activity, their sexual desire or tension will increase or intensify. To enhance this awareness, they must focus on their own bodily sensations and feelings. For most men, their sexual sensations primarily originate from the penis and scrotum. They must know at what level of sexual arousal ejaculation will inevitably occur, and then take measures to control ejaculation before reaching that point. The training principle for controlling ejaculation is that when a man or his partner is stimulating the penis, he should do two things: first, pay attention to his own level of sexual arousal/tension; second, stop stimulation or do something else to maintain ejaculatory control. Repeating this will achieve the training goal.

(1) Practice time: As long as both parties are happy and the man has no problem with erection, it is best to practice more than 3 times a week. The key is not to force an erection. If erection is difficult, reduce the number of training sessions, such as 2 times a week. Specific training plans will be introduced later. (2) Focus your attention: Focus your attention on the penis and scrotum, feeling their swelling, fullness, excitement, or other sensations. This will relieve your worries or fears about premature ejaculation, your partner's disappointment, or whether your partner is willing to help you practice. Once your attention is distracted or diverted, you must immediately refocus. You can imagine your attention as a spotlight on a stage. Once the main character moves, the light immediately follows. This way, you can return to focusing on the level of arousal/tension after your distraction, thus ensuring the effectiveness of the practice. (3) Stop stimulation time: Once the sensation of ejaculation is imminent, you should stop stimulation to allow the level of arousal/tension to fully subside without causing the erection to disappear. The stop time can be 10 seconds, 30 seconds, or 90 seconds, depending on the individual's specific situation. If you must stop again within 1-2 minutes of restimulation, then you should appropriately extend the stop time. (4) Activities during cessation: Have a brief conversation with your partner to maintain emotional connection; relax and enjoy the feelings of arousal and dilation; take deep breaths to help relax; actually experience the feeling of ejaculatory control; or lie there and do nothing. (5) What to do if ejaculation occurs during practice: When a man is not practicing, he can ejaculate as he pleases, without worrying about the number of times, as long as it does not affect his erectile function during practice. It is best not to let the *arrangement* affect the implementation of the original training plan.

If a man wants to ejaculate at the end of the training, he can do so at will, but he should pay attention to focusing on his own sensations and keeping the stimulation at a low level, so that it does not happen too quickly. It should be understood that there may be 1-2 unintentional ejaculations at the beginning of training, which is common and nothing to worry about. It can even be beneficial, as it can help you determine what the control period is. If this unintentional ejaculation continues, then there is a problem, and you may have to go back to the previous training content to achieve better control.

3. Make full use of mental power

In order to achieve the greatest benefit from the physical exercises introduced below, men must focus their minds on their own sensations. Men who lack ejaculatory control often blame themselves excessively for ejaculating too quickly, which reflects reality, but also brings pressure and interference to behavioral change. Correcting this mindset will be beneficial to behavioral change. Therefore, one should deny one's negative thoughts and continuously strengthen positive thoughts. 4. Deep Breathing Exercises: Deep breathing can help men dispel arousal/tension, thus aiding in ejaculation control.

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breathing should be deep, relaxed, and light. However, some men are more tense during deep breathing than usual, tensing their chest, neck, shoulder, and even arm muscles. How can this be considered deep breathing? Sometimes, it even restricts normal breathing. Correct, relaxed breathing should be accompanied by abdominal expansion

and contraction. When inhaling, the abdomen should expand; when exhaling, the abdomen should contract. If this is not possible, it needs to be learned and mastered. Imagine the abdomen as a balloon; it expands when inhaling and deflates when exhaling. Once you master this method, you can do this exercise as much as possible, especially when you temporarily stop masturbating or when your partner's stimulation stops, take a few deep breaths. You can also incorporate this deep breathing training during intercourse, but this requires a process of getting used to and adapting, as it involves going against one's subjective will. The more excited a man is, the easier it is for him to ejaculate prematurely, with shallow breathing, shortness of breath, and a rapid heartbeat. You can also imagine the inhaled air descending to the pelvic cavity and relaxing the muscles in that area; the more relaxed they are, the harder it is to ejaculate.

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