Understanding of Couples' Friendships

Observing many couples' dating and matchmaking activities, it seems they often limit themselves to one form: that anything without exchanging partners isn't considered dating and matchmaking, or even that more couples means more promiscuity.
In other countries, dating and matchmaking is simply a way for couples to enhance their intimacy through sex, and most of the time it's non-exchanging. Even the most intimate parts (genitals, mouth) belong to one's partner and are not subject to penetration or kissing. Are
foreigners not open-minded enough? Didn't dating and matchmaking originate abroad? Why has dating and matchmaking abroad recently adopted a non-exchanging approach? We, on the other hand, only scratch the surface and become self-righteous, distorting the essence of dating and matchmaking. No wonder many husbands can't persuade their wives to participate in dating and matchmaking, and end up secretly remaining single themselves. Because their mindset is wrong, how can they possibly persuade their wives to participate in dating and matchmaking?
There are actually many ways to engage in casual dating:
1. Pure observation, no exchange:
This involves two couples each doing their own thing, observing each other's techniques and stimulating their senses to increase excitement and enhance intimacy. This method is most suitable for inexperienced couples. For a wife without prior experience in casual dating, who isn't fully prepared, observing first and gradually entering the dating phase is much safer than immediately resorting to exchanging partners. If she encounters a tasteless partner, she might feel violated, leading to aversion to casual dating and making it unlikely she'll try it again.
2. Exchange of caresses, then returning to one's own partner for the final act:
This method is for couples who have already experienced the excitement of pure observation and whose feelings towards each other are positive. They can exchange partners for caresses, enjoying different partners and tactile sensations; however, at the crucial moment of intimacy, they must return to their respective partners to complete the act. Simply put, it means exchanging caresses of the whole body without exchanging penetration.
Thirdly, full-body exchange –
this needs no further explanation, right? Because this is the unanimous understanding in Chinese dating and matchmaking: dating and matchmaking must involve exchanging partners. If we say we don't exchange partners, they'll ask us: "Then what are you doing at dating and matchmaking? You can just do it at home!"
Does not exchanging partners mean it can't be dating and matchmaking? Can't we enjoy visual and sensory stimulation? Or enjoy the pleasure of exchanging caresses? Perhaps in that situation, we might feel a strong connection and be willing to exchange partners?
Why do people always have to confine themselves to this circle? Let's put it this way: we stated from the beginning that it's a full-body exchange dating and matchmaking method, but in that particular situation, the woman's feelings aren't right. What then? Should we still exchange partners? Or should the woman say "stop"? If the woman says "stop," won't the man feel hurt? Because his technique was bad and you rejected him? Or because he was vulgar and you said "stop"? Wouldn't that make the whole atmosphere very awkward and tense?
IV. Deciding on Whether to Swap Depending on the Situation
: How does one decide based on the situation? Under what circumstances should one swap? Under what circumstances should one not? How does one decide based on this situation?
It might be difficult for an Eastern woman to directly tell her husband that she wants to be with the other woman's husband. Therefore, this is where the husband's skills come in.
During mutual flirting and caressing, the husband can whisper in his wife's ear how she feels, whether she'd like to be caressed by the other woman's husband, or have him perform sexual acts on her, and whether she'd like to try swapping
partners. After the wife responds, the husband can then give the other woman's husband a signal (this signal should be made clear during the initial meeting and casual conversation) to indicate: "My wife is ready to accept you." Simultaneously, after receiving answers from both wives, the husband should directly tell his own wife: "Then you should go wash up again" (this is for hygiene reasons).
At this point, once both couples are mentally prepared and have reached a consensus on exchanging caresses or penetration, the husband can accompany your wife into the bathroom for a bath. Similarly, you can bathe with your wife (this depends entirely on the woman's willingness). Doesn't this make women more willing to accept their husbands, instead of guessing when your wife's feelings are right for exchanging partners? Isn't this the best of both worlds?
Alternatively, when the wife is in a particularly aroused state and desires penetration, she should automatically guide him into her body. Some women, when aroused and in that situation, might want their husband to penetrate them, but that feeling might fade once they stop and ask. Therefore, the woman should automatically guide him into her body.
Isn't the point of dating and socializing to allow husbands to let their wives enjoy different sexual experiences? So, shouldn't it be up to the wife to decide or lead the other husband's actions based on her own feelings and the situation? Therefore, when a husband sees his wife guiding another husband into her body, that's what a situational social gathering should be like.
During a social gathering, both men and women should maintain manners and etiquette
. It's said that social gatherings are primarily a wife-led activity; when the wife calls for a stop, the husbands, no matter how excited they are or whether they've "come out," must stop all actions and refrain from any further behavior towards their wives.
However, if one of the four people feels something is amiss, whether it's the husband or the wife, then you (the wife) still have to be present and watch your (the husband's) partner complete the entire social gathering with the other couple.
Because social gatherings are a four-person game, with two of them being wives, the wives present should be the focus, not just one wife's feelings. If the other wife didn't call for a stop, and she has feelings for your husband, then of course your husband should join in and enjoy the experience with the other couple. If the husband isn't feeling right, isn't the point of going out for a social gathering to let his wife experience different sexual pleasures? How can you prevent your wife from continuing to enjoy orgasms just because your own feelings have faded or the other woman isn't interested in you? Doesn't that contradict what you said about social gatherings being about letting your wife experience different sexual pleasures? Or are you just using your wife as a piece of "meat" to be exchanged with others, satisfying your own selfish desire to sleep with other people's wives?
Therefore, when three out of the four people at a social gathering are still interested, the fourth person should maintain their composure and act as a spectator (that's part of the fun!), watching the whole thing. Otherwise, frankly, you two aren't qualified to participate in a social gathering! Because you both have selfish desires.
Besides, the ultimate goal of a social gathering is for everyone to have fun, be happy, and enjoy themselves. Does anyone stipulate that a social gathering must have a specific purpose (ejaculation, orgasm) to be considered a social gathering? Why can't you just go out and enjoy yourself with a normal mindset? If you have high expectations for online dating and matchmaking—expecting certain goals and results—but the final outcome fails to match your initial desires, your sense of disappointment will only intensify. Then why bother going to online dating and matchmaking, only to suffer for yourself?
Perhaps, in the eyes of many couples with different mindsets or philosophies, this article makes us seem arrogant or self-righteous. Honestly, we don't care, because what we want is a safe, hygienic, and stress-free high-quality online dating and matchmaking experience for couples who share the same values. We're simply adding spice to our lives and our sex lives; we're not here to compete for results, nor are we part of a reckless promiscuous group. We want to meet and make friends, but we want safer, more hygienic, and stress-free sex.

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