The correct way to train and develop your wife

Due to my profession, I've encountered countless couples as clients and personally successfully "trained" nearly a hundred couples. In this process, I've accumulated a wealth of practical experience and gained some profound insights. I'd like to take this opportunity to share these insights with you, hoping to inspire more couples experiencing infidelity and guide them towards a more positive approach, effectively promoting marital harmony and family happiness.
First, we need to understand some incorrect ideas and behaviors during the initial guidance phase.
(I) Being overly self-centered and failing to empathize.
I've seen too many couples who, upon contacting me, anxiously ask:
"What if she won't add strangers?"
"How can you 'train' her if she won't accept your WeChat?"
"No matter what, I just want to see her with another man..."
"I want to drug her and have another man come to my house..."
The list goes on and on. But the common thread is helplessness and extreme stubbornness.
Why don't they consider that marital relationships involve two people, not just one person's wishful thinking or fantasy? Drugging your own wife? You really thought of that? If you actually did that, she'd hate you to death when she woke up! Besides, how many truly good women would easily accept that kind of advance from a stranger? Women are more focused on emotions and feelings than men. Even if she wanted to try, this method wouldn't open her heart to you. If she readily accepted chatting with other men, what are you worrying about? You'd already succeeded! Your frustration stems from the fact that this method doesn't work. You know it's a dead end, but why are you stubbornly banging your head against the wall? Stubbornness and inflexibility are just formalities; to put it bluntly, it's just being headstrong.
Men with such stubborn ideas and inactive behavior are generally introverted, not good at interacting with people, and are rather selfish at heart, only caring about their own feelings. They like to fantasize, are emotionally fragile, lack adaptability, and have few solutions to problems. They hold a "lower" position in their marriage and may often be complained about by their wives for being "uncaring and inconsiderate." This is often the case. (No offense intended, just an objective analysis.)
(II) They only know how to indulge in fantasy, work in isolation, and don't know how to learn from others. Most wishes in this world cannot be fulfilled simply by wishing them. You must first have the ability to realize your wishes and dreams, and then take practical steps to implement them. What if you don't have that ability? Then go and learn!
Many couples who have enjoyed the pleasures of making love, especially the men, share a common characteristic: they understand women well, have a positive and optimistic attitude, know many ways to make love, and are open to new knowledge. They know how to guide their wives' thoughts and behaviors at the right time, in the right environment, and in the right atmosphere, without being impatient. Instead, they subtly and gradually influence and stimulate their wives' thinking and imagination, while also effectively stimulating their desires and finding and creating suitable platforms and mechanisms for them to participate in and enjoy the process together. They don't find this difficult; it's an instinctive strength of successful people—this is the difference between people.
Just like making money, some people want to get rich their whole lives but always encounter setbacks; some are mediocre, and some lose everything. But some people are very good at making money; their thinking and actions possess the ability to do so. Aren't these differences between people all around us? If you want to make money, you need to communicate and integrate with people who can make money, and learn from their strengths and skills. Isn't that the same principle? Why stay trapped in your own world, endlessly fantasizing about pipe dreams? If you don't learn, don't change your mindset, don't take the right actions, and don't know how to be flexible, how can you possibly achieve your goals?
(III) Impatience, restlessness, passivity, and a lack of understanding of gradual progress. Many friends who have been cheated on have suddenly realized their mistakes after my guidance and advice, understanding that their previous efforts were futile, and happily accepted the development plan I tailored for them. However, in the implementation process, they reverted to habitual thinking, always thinking, "I want to do this," "I want to do that." For example, it's like someone who is sick and goes to see a doctor. The doctor gives them the correct prescription, but they refuse to listen and insist on arguing with the doctor. The result is that the doctor is helpless, has wasted their time, and the patient's condition not only doesn't improve but worsens. This is the same principle. Some friends, unable to withstand the torment of their inner desires, fall into the trap of being radical and reckless, wanting my plan to be effective in a day. Is that possible? Rome wasn't built in a day. You've already formed a fixed image in your wife's mind. If you don't follow the correct plan step by step, and try to achieve instant results, each step will only make things more difficult. Yes, perhaps doing things different from your usual habits is difficult for you, but you still have this desire. Not fulfilling this desire will only cause you more torment. So what to do? Just choose something relatively easy, right? Either give up or do it; there's no other way.
The above is an overview of some of the mental struggles, key aspects, and incorrect mindsets and behaviors that cuckolded friends encounter during the training and development process. There may be many more, but these are the most prominent issues, hindering and affecting the normal realization of their inner desires. So, the question is, what is the correct path to happiness and success?
First, adopt a humble and pragmatic attitude and learn diligently. In anything you do, mastering the right methods is crucial. It's one thing to waste effort, but if you go in the wrong direction, you'll suffer losses. Are you currently at a loss when it comes to "training" and "developing" your wife? Have you tried many methods before, only to fail to achieve your goals? Some have even been criticized by their wives as "perverted" or "having too much time on their hands." Some friends always complain, "She's too traditional," "She's too serious," "She could never accept this..." I want to say that there are no undevelopable women in the world, only wrong methods and incapable men.
Many people insist on their own views and methods because, on the one hand, they have limited experience; some even believe that only they or very few others have this idea, and they lack suitable mentors and friends to exchange ideas with, resulting in a narrow perspective. On the other hand, they don't know the state of successful "developers," haven't witnessed the real situation, and don't know what the correct "development" method is. This leads to being uninformed, lacking experience, using incorrect methods, and achieving poor results. At this point, what you need is to broaden your horizons, connect with more friends in the field to learn and exchange ideas, clearly recognize your shortcomings, and only then can you find the right specific measures.
Secondly, learn to put yourself in your wife's shoes and always consider her feelings. Since you're a couple, your relationship is a matter for both of you. If either of you disagrees or is unhappy, it's not a good outcome. If you want your wife to meet your expectations, don't go against them and force her to comply. Women aren't subservient to you. Besides, even if your wife agrees once out of fear of your power, it won't be willingly, and she won't enjoy it. And will you truly be happy then? Men who are cuckolded often deeply love their wives and want them to experience different feelings and pleasure. If she doesn't enjoy it, you'll feel even more guilty, spiraling deeper into the situation, becoming increasingly impatient, ultimately damaging your marital relationship and destroying your family's happiness. Is that what you truly want?
Remember this: a woman will only do things she doesn't want to do for the man she deeply loves. If you want her to happily accept your ideas, you need to change yourself in the little things of life, letting her feel your love for her, becoming a happy woman, and becoming the kind of man she expects. Make her feel that her devotion to you is willing, giving her a sense of accomplishment, value, and pride. Then, you can do whatever you want, let alone be a couple or even just friends. What you're forcing is your own idea of happiness, not happiness for both of you. True happiness is when everyone is happy!
Third, if you have a dream, you must bravely pursue it. Of course, this requires the right mindset, the right methods, and the right actions. Training and development may seem simple, and the principles are easy to understand, but it is actually a complex system that is both holistic and multifaceted, involving many aspects. For each person, with different personalities, family backgrounds, and levels of experience, it's impossible to use a single method or plan. It's crucial to emphasize the differences between each individual and their specific situation to achieve truly effective results. Furthermore, and more importantly, it depends on the individual's emotional intelligence and execution ability to truly put it into practice. Your wife is your wife; she trusts you the most. You are the one who executes the plan. If you try to use someone else to directly contact your wife, even if she agrees, once it's successful, her heart will no longer be with you—this is definitely not the outcome you want. This is based on
personal experience; kind comments and corrections are welcome, and you can also contact me personally for further discussion. If you like this, I will write more original articles on this topic in the future. Thank you.

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