Casual discussion on methods of training one's wife; discussion welcome.

Having known my wife for over ten years, the process of "training" her is still vivid in my mind. I'd like to share it here for mutual learning and reference. I'm well aware of the experts on this forum; while their methods differ, their goals are similar. I hope you'll forgive any shortcomings in this post, and I welcome any corrections. My training methods have been lengthy, but I'm gratified that they all achieved their ultimate goals.
The purpose of training my wife is to create a more harmonious sex life and a happier family. My wife works very hard, caring for her husband and children, managing the family's daily needs, her own social circle, life, and work. As a husband, I can't control her like in adult films; I need to give her love and recognition.
The general
principle: Submissive to her husband, devoted to her in bed.
The principle of training my wife is to ensure she meets all my sexual needs.
Method: Based on love and primarily encouraging, as she is my beloved wife, this differs from methods like PUA or having a lover.
Approach: A combination of emotional and material encouragement. Once a breakthrough occurs, I reinforce the memory over several weeks or months, turning an occasional breakthrough into a behavioral memory. During sex, I constantly use insulting language to lower her mental threshold and reduce her defenses.
Chapter 1
: Mouth 1. Online Name: Green Plum
Let's start with the name. When I met my wife, she was 19 and a virgin. I was a few years older than her and had been with more than a dozen women, yet she still thought we were childhood sweethearts. Later, when I was playing naked video games with netizens on a certain platform, my online name was taken from the Tang poem: "The boy rides a bamboo horse, playing with green plums around the bed." I don't know if any netizens here have met me. Later, my account was blocked due to being reported, and a lot of passionate photos were lost (unfortunately). I also couldn't complete the training tasks I had already accepted from netizens (sorry). Now, my online name registered on 1024 is taken from the Tang poem: "A pair of jade arms, a thousand people's pillow; half a point of red lips, ten thousand guests' taste." Because my wife likes Tang and Song poetry, I casually made up "Green Plum on Red Lips." The change in my online name fully reflects the huge change in my wife before and after being trained. Green Plum is my wife.
2. The Beginning of Oral Sex:
Before I met my wife, she had two boyfriends. We kissed and touched, but never had intercourse (her last boyfriend lasted two years), her hymen is proof. My wife comes from a very traditional and conservative family; her mother was a teacher, so the initial training was difficult. Most women are like this, right? After our first sexual experience, she became very curious and eager about sex, almost daily. After each time we had sex, I would have her look closely at my penis and tell her that what gave her pleasure was that penis, and that it needed a reward. The reward started with kissing my penis, followed by various instruction, such as which parts of the penis felt best for a man, how to use oral sex, etc. (you all know what I mean). When she was erect, we would have some thrusting or 69, and when she was soft, we would do oral sex. Subconsciously, I cultivated in my wife the awareness that she could achieve sexual satisfaction through oral sex, gradually developing a habit of oral sex. Currently, oral sex is as easy for my wife as shaking hands.
3. Deep Throat
Techniques: Our sex life after marriage had been lukewarm, and the "training" had entered a lull. During this time, we mainly used the missionary position, and even trying to change to a rear-entry position required lengthy discussions. I had also lost the initial enthusiasm for training her. My wife unexpectedly became pregnant, and her pregnancy rekindled my passion for "training" her (is that perverted? Hehe). We started with oral sex again. Although books say that intercourse is possible after four months, I was afraid of harming my health and refused to have sex, only allowing her to perform oral sex. After several times, each time after oral sex, I would pretend to be unsatisfied and tell her that while oral sex was pleasurable, it wasn't as satisfying as intercourse. My wife asked what to do, and I replied, "Why don't you try using your mouth as a vagina?" (This was a trap). I would have my wife lie on her side, keeping her head still, and then I would lean over and insert my penis. It's crucial to remember this is a training process; you must constantly control the depth and sensation, inserting the glans a little deeper each time. If my wife coughed, I would stop and praise her, mainly saying things like, "You did a great job, you're amazing, this time it went in a bit deep, but I felt great, thank you," and then continue, constantly communicating to help her relax, repeating this cycle. During this time, you absolutely cannot ejaculate. Continue until her mouth gets sore and she can't hold it in anymore, then chat, mainly about how you feel uncomfortable not ejaculating, how you can't ejaculate because half of your penis is outside, and how you're considering her feelings. If you can get her to ask you to try again, you've already succeeded halfway. At this point, the insertion depth must be just right – not too shallow, not too deep – until the glans can clearly feel the glans entering her throat (you'll get the hang of it with practice). Withdraw immediately and give her positive reinforcement and encouragement, like saying you'll buy her a bag or necklace tomorrow. If she can persist, continue; if not, chat for a while and then continue until you succeed. This training needs to be done continuously for several months, before every sexual encounter, to reduce throat sensitivity. My wife is currently able to easily insert and withdraw into her mouth, swallowing without any difficulty.
Note: The difference between oral sex and vaginal penetration is that oral sex involves the woman actively swallowing and controlling the depth; vaginal penetration involves holding the woman's head still while inserting and withdrawing, without needing to consider depth.
4. Second Stage of Oral Sex
This stage is relatively easy. She easily achieved vaginal penetration during the deep throat training stage, so it's not a big problem. However, you must praise her the first few times, offering both emotional and material rewards. It is recommended to proceed gradually. During daily intercourse, try breast ejaculation or vaginal ejaculation, as the taste of semen is somewhat unusual. This allows the woman to become familiar with the taste. After breast ejaculation or vaginal ejaculation, do not let the woman wipe immediately; allow her some time. Currently, my wife can ejaculate into her mouth at any time. If the semen is evenly applied, she can even use it as a face mask while watching two episodes of a TV series. Once, she forgot to wipe it off and went downstairs to pick up a package.
Note: a. Semen can whiten skin and improve appearance, and so far, it seems to have some effect; my wife's facial skin is beautiful.
b. Before training oral sex, it is recommended to avoid seafood and beef/lamb for a week, as these foods will intensify the taste of semen. Eat more fruits and vegetables. It is best to ejaculate once before oral sex to reduce the amount of semen and allow the woman to gradually adapt.
5. The Ultimate Advancement in Swallowing Semen
Deep throat and swallowing semen are both relatively difficult stages. The deep throat described above has been briefly described, but the twists and turns during training were finally achieved through persistent efforts. In comparison, swallowing semen is more difficult for my wife, so it is written as the ultimate stage.
My wife has always complained about the texture of semen, finding it too sticky and difficult to swallow. Even during oral sex, which she does as casually as drinking water, she still can't manage it. I've tried various methods, including enticement and rewards, but nothing works. Then one day, while drinking with her, she mentioned wanting to buy a Volkswagen Beetle. I objected, and she tempted me by saying she'd do me a favor if I bought it. I then asked her to swallow my semen, and she readily agreed. She held the semen in her mouth for three to five minutes but still couldn't swallow it. The next day, we were still choosing a car. Feeling guilty, we had some red wine that night, and she initiated oral sex, drinking the semen with the wine in one gulp – the ultimate goal achieved. Currently, she swallows semen very rarely, only when the environment and her emotions are right, mostly after drinking alcohol.
Chapter Two
: Anal Sex 1. Anal Sex Enticement
Anal sex is a dream for many men, and there are many online tutorials on the process, so I won't go into detail here. My anal sex with my wife wasn't initiated. One day, while watching Western porn, the male protagonist was vigorously thrusting into the female protagonist's anus, causing it to churn. My wife asked, "Was it really that good?" I replied, "How will you know if you don't try?" A few days later, during our intimate moments, my wife pulled out a bottle of lubricant from her bag. Seeing an opportunity, I followed an online tutorial. It was very tight and smooth, although my wife's experience was just average. I suggest that anal penetration is a double reward, both spiritual and material. The first time I did anal penetration, I bought my mother-in-law an air conditioner. Here are
some tips from my multiple anal penetration experiences for your reference:
Use lubricant. Anal penetration isn't just about slow entry. When the glans first enters, the anus reacts strongly; it's best not to move it.
Anal penetration doesn't become more wet after a while of thrusting; on the contrary, lubricant is essential. When thrusting, don't start immediately after insertion. At this point, the anus is still tense. Slowly insert the entire penis (5-10 minutes), then hold it still (3-5 minutes). After relaxing for a few minutes by chatting, slowly resume thrusting.
Persistence is key. Achieving anal opening is difficult and takes time. Once it's achieved, use it regularly for a pleasant experience. If left unused for three to five months, it will return to its initial state. While women may psychologically accept this, the process needs to be repeated to avoid "anal opening leading to buttock injury."
2. Anal Plug Advancement:
Since my wife and I started using anal plugs, I've purchased various types. Each sexual encounter requires multiple activities like deep throating, intercourse, and anal opening, which is physically demanding. Anal plugs are a helpful tool. Currently, using anal plugs is the primary method of intercourse, unless circumstances prevent it. My wife has accompanied me to friend gatherings, movies, and shopping trips with anal plugs on multiple occasions without any tension. This is partly for humiliation and partly to ensure regular anal use and prevent it from returning to its initial state. Due to various circumstances, my anus has returned to its initial state three times.
Note: Anal plugs should not be inserted for too long each time, generally around 3 hours or less.
Chapter 3 Outdoors (Qualitative Change)
: The preceding text describes everyday sexual pleasure. My wife's transformation actually began with outdoor nude photography. After accepting this, her lewdness spiraled out of control, but that's another story.
1. Introduction to Nude
Photography: Outdoor nudity has always been a dream for many (especially me). Since our marriage, I've demanded my wife be completely naked at home. Initially, we always drew the curtains, but after a while, I'd occasionally forget. To fulfill this dream, I bought a DSLR camera and learned photography (my skills are terrible), ostensibly to preserve the beauty of youth. We did various nude photoshoots at home, but women love beauty, and eventually, we ran out of things to shoot at home, so we suggested outdoor shoots.
2. Breakthrough in Outdoor Shooting
: We started in secluded places. At first, the woman wouldn't show anything, so don't rush it. Gently guide her. Once she reveals a little, like her cleavage or inner thighs, quickly praise her. Show her the photos while shooting. If she shows any nipples, take several shots, pick the best ones to show her, and discuss poses and how to blend her into the background, making her fully involved in the process, not just an outsider. After each shoot, I would treat her to a lavish meal. For the best photos (the sexy kind without revealing too much), I'd have her send them to her best friends so they could all praise her. As she became bolder, I encouraged nude shoots, emphasizing safety during each one. Several outdoor nude shoots were necessary before moving on to the next step.
3. Breakthrough
with Candid Shooting: As her courage increased, I gradually guided her to shoot in populated environments, secretly taking photos against the backdrop of strangers – this was more exciting. During the process of "training" my wife, her lust suddenly blossomed, starting with outdoor shoots. Everyone's inner self is different, and the ways that lead to self-expression may vary. Here's a key analysis: generally, married women are reserved in front of their husbands but very flirtatious with their lovers – something many of you have probably experienced. Personally, I think the reluctance to be flirtatious with one's husband, the feigned modesty, isn't the real intention, but rather a fear of conflict arising from perceived flirtation. A moral lock is placed on their hearts; once that lock is opened, with a little guidance, a flirtatious wife is within reach. Lovers or casual sex partners are more likely to unlock this heart, so there are many open lovers on the forum, but not many truly open couples.
4. Deliberate Exposure:
Since the outdoor photoshoots, sometimes I have my wife wear a very short skirt (so short that her buttocks can be seen just by walking behind her on the stairs) and a thong, and take her to banquets, movies, and supermarkets. In the supermarket, she deliberately bends over to pick things out, intentionally exposing herself so others can peek. At first, I accompanied her, but later she could do it independently. After several outdoor photoshoots, when we went shopping at the supermarket, experienced people could tell at a glance that she wasn't wearing anything underneath. My wife seems to enjoy this thrill.
5. Ultimate Nudity:
My wife wears some completely transparent and see-through lace dresses. Sometimes she wears a coat over a see-through lace dress to coffee shops or karaoke bars. As soon as she takes off her coat, it's obvious from a distance that she's completely naked underneath. Once, in a coffee shop, in an inconspicuous corner, my wife, wearing a see-through dress, casually took off her coat after sitting down (I forgot to take a picture). The waiter taking our order stared at her, looking back and forth many times. My wife was very calm during this time, but told me later that she was extremely nervous. The dress was very see-through; I'll post about it in another thread.
I took my wife to a hot spring, and she wore a very revealing three-point bikini. She was the center of attention wherever we went, with several men taking pictures of her. This was one of my wife's boldest attempts.
Chapter Four: The Female Dog
1. The Collar
Coincidence By chance, a friend had a Golden Retriever and had just received a collar delivered by courier. He asked me to pick it up. On the way to deliver the collar, I asked my wife how she felt wearing it. She said it was a dog collar, too much of a rip-off. I said, "If you wear it, we'll go buy those high heels you like tonight." After much pleading, my wife finally agreed. After putting it on, we chatted casually, and my wife forgot about the collar. We went into my friend's house, and my friend complimented her on how good it looked (a great wingman!). My wife said I was bullying her by forcing her to wear it. Because of a friend's praise, I bought a cat collar (a cute one), and my wife didn't object.
2. Leash Obedience:
After buying the cat collar, I would occasionally put it on my wife during sex. At first, she resisted, but later, every time I put it on, I would thrust vigorously, bringing her to multiple orgasms, while simultaneously insulting her as a bitch, making her think the collar gave me endless encouragement. One time after sex, I told my wife the collar was a bit too cute, making it easy to lose focus during sex. Then, we both chose a sexy collar with a chain on Taobao, and after receiving it, we wore it almost every time we had sex, forming a habit. After getting used to it, I also had my wife wear it at home. Occasionally, when I needed her to do something, I wouldn't call her, but instead bring her to the leash. Gradually, my wife got used to it and became more obedient when leashed. I had
my wife wear the collar out several times. Once, we went to get the car repaired. When we arrived at the 4S shop, my wife forgot she had the collar, and I deliberately didn't remind her. We just strolled around the 4S shop for three hours. When we got back, my wife found out and beat me. Later, I deliberately took her to the park at night, leading her on a leash while we strolled around. My wife didn't object, so this activity became a regular feature.
3. Doggy style:
The first doggy style session was on the bed. I was penetrating her from behind while she crawled on top of me. Later, I coaxed her, saying it was sexy and should be recorded. With the help of my DSLR camera, I made her crawl on the floor for better filming. She crawled for a long time for the photos, and then she got hungry. My wife especially loves pig's trotters, so I broke them into pieces and put them on a plate on the floor, saying, "Your hands are dirty, so just eat them like this." My wife looked at me, and my eyes were full of loving encouragement. After the first bite, I stroked her head and said, "You're such a good dog." She didn't object. (Her reaction was very much related to her heightened lust.)
After she finished eating, I patted the bed and tentatively said, "Doggy, come on up." My wife obediently got on the bed. I was really excited and had a crazy orgasm. While having sex, I told her, "From now on, you're my pet dog." Because of her good behavior, I took her to buy a jade bracelet. My wife became even more compliant with the title "good dog," and I can call her that anytime now.
4. Raising a Female Dog:
Since she could crawl, I felt the sex collar wasn't suitable anymore, so my wife and I bought a real dog collar and even had a nameplate engraved with "Slutty Bitch" (photo included). She wears this collar frequently now. I also bought a tail anal plug, making her crawl incredibly alluring. Thus, she's truly been raised as a female dog. I asked my wife if she would agree to being led by others, and she nodded in approval.
Chapter Five Conclusion
: My wife-slave training has reached this point. We tried bondage, but my wife is afraid of pain and I don't really like this method; we tried holy water, but my wife said it was bitter and unpleasant to drink, and we couldn't kiss for a day afterward—the taste… This is my lawfully wedded wife; I can't ruin her.
The process of "training" my wife is also a process of deepening our relationship. There's so much to learn and guide her gradually, and I can't afford to waste my "ammunition" on others. Training my wife requires a lot of love and encouragement, making her feel loved and safe. Only with a stable emotional foundation will she dedicate herself to me.
Training my wife is also a process of pursuing my inner world. I'd seen some SM and wanted to try some forms, but after experiencing it, I know which one I truly desire. Anyone interested in discussing this or trying to be trained can contact me; my training methods are relatively gentle.
Postscript:
Currently, my wife has two men who clearly want to have a relationship with her: one is her ex-lover, and the other is a married man. They're hesitant because they see her as a pure woman, a goddess. But they don't know that she's a goddess in public, and a bitch in private.
Us:
Ordinary people with stable jobs. My wife is a mother of two; her breasts (A cup) are slightly sagging, and her skin isn't as firm as before. She's 33cm, 170cm, and 100kg, and a little thin.
The next plan is to train a 3P (threesome) partner. Those interested, please send a
private message. Requirements are as follows: around 30 years old, married, with children, highly educated, preferably a non-smoker, drinks little, has a public service job or independent business, and undergoes annual physical examinations (reports required). Healthy, strong, not overweight, and not a "streetwise" type; knows romance, understands women, and knows how to train; wife is sensitive to cold and pain. Not stingy, not glib, poised and generous; an ordinary person is preferred.

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