Hookup Guide

What is hooking up?

A basic introduction

: Let me start with a brief self-introduction. I'm a 23-year-old male, and due to work, I'm frequently stationed in the Jiangsu, Zhejiang, Shanghai, and Fujian regions. I have a rich romantic history, having hooked up with at least 60 or 70 women, if not a hundred. My friends often say that with my abilities, I could open a training course, which is much better than those PUA practitioners who just talk a big game online. I've shared apartments with many friends before, and they often asked me what apps I used and how to hook up with women. Under my guidance, they've hooked up with quite a few women. Now, I'm starting this thread to comprehensively and thoroughly explain my experiences and techniques for hooking up with women. After reading this, you'll be able to judge for yourselves whether it's true or not. What I teach you isn't just some simple, easy-to-understand principles; I'll discuss many experiential details, big and small. As long as you study diligently, hooking up will definitely not be difficult. (This isn't just about casual sex; I'll also discuss other aspects of dating later.)

First, some basic understandings about casual sex

: 1. Just like dating, you absolutely cannot show your true self (at least initially). You need to present yourself as the kind of person she likes, such as someone who can cook, loves animals, has a romantic lifestyle, enjoys traveling, etc.—characteristics of a high-quality man (while presenting yourself, try to genuinely embody these qualities). What does it mean to not show your true self initially? First, any single girl inevitably has a fantasy about her ideal boyfriend, and this fantasy is often extremely demanding and unrealistic. If you currently earn 3000 yuan a month, spend your time playing games after work, and have a boring life, how can you use this "real" side to pique a girl's interest? In other words, you need to try to fulfill her fantasies about a partner from the beginning and give her a good impression.

2. All the online tutorials on chatting skills are lies. I believe that if a woman isn't interested in you, no matter how you chat, you won't get anything interesting out of her. Don't misrepresent yourself when it comes to casual sex. You can only look for women who might be interested in you (this is the key point!!!). Therefore, chatting skills aren't the key point; the key point is how to make a woman interested in you, and whether the woman you're looking for is a "potential hookup target." What is a "potential hookup target"? Some women are open to hookups; they're easygoing. If you're aiming for a hookup but insist on targeting very "conservative" girls, you'll always be putting in a lot of effort for little reward.

3. There's an ironclad rule in the world: you reap what you sow. If you're thinking of opening a chat app, finding a woman, saying "Want to hook up?", and she says yes, "Come and have sex with me," I suggest you go back to school. So, don't fantasize about easily hooking up. If you have this kind of get-rich-quick mentality, you'll find it hard to succeed in anything. Calm down, understand what I'm saying, do each step well, train yourself, and you will definitely succeed in hooking up. Moreover, the rational work habits you develop in "learning how to hook up" will influence your entire life.

II. Practical Tips! Hookup Techniques and Process!

Okay, after all that, I'm going to get to the real techniques. Guys looking to hook up, be sure to read what I'm about to say carefully.

1. The first step is to find people to chat with, right? Use popular apps like Kuaishou, Momo, Tantan, Douyin, Red & Blue CP, Love Story, and Soul (of course, I use many more, including countless other dating apps). You need to cast a wide net. Ask any attractive woman you think you might be able to meet on WeChat, "Can we add each other on WeChat?" (Remember, don't say "beautiful woman." Keep it simple, just ask if you want to add each other on WeChat. Saying "beautiful woman" right away seems creepy.) Below is a screenshot of my Kuaishou greetings. I browse the "people nearby" feature every day, and when I see someone attractive, I message them asking, "Can we add each other on WeChat?", "I want to add you on WeChat," "I really want to add you." On average, about 2 out of 10 women will give me their WeChat. Once you add them, the process begins.

Remember, don't be too rigid. Each app has its own target audience and characteristics. Regarding "Love Stories," I searched for people nearby and directly asked, "Want to date?" As for the opening line, you need to consider the app's characteristics. For example, on apps like Kuaishou and Douyin, people are just casually browsing; if you ask someone if they want to date, they'll think you're crazy. So, for these types of apps, just ask for their WeChat. On my go-to "Love Stories" app, I just ask attractive girls directly, "Want to date?" As shown in the image below, on average, I ask about 10 people, and about half will reply. Then we add each other on WeChat and start looking for opportunities to meet up.

2. Of course, many girls might not reply, but as I said, if they're not interested in you, don't keep trying; it's a waste of effort. Keep sending messages on various apps to find girls who are easy to date, or those who are currently single and lonely. They'll naturally reply. Here's the key point: There are actually many easy-to-date girls, but why would they fall for your advances? Now I'll teach you how to present yourself, using myself as an example. Almost every app has a feature for posting updates. If you don't post anything, it's hard for a woman to become interested in you. Women are different from men. A man might become interested once he knows she's a woman, but a woman needs to be interested in something about you first before she becomes interested in you as a person. So how do you make her interested in you? Remember these points: If you cook, post some pictures of nice-looking dishes; if you have pets, post pictures of your cat or dog; when you travel, post some landscape photos; if you're handsome, post one or two selfies from good angles; if you like sports, post some photos of you playing sports or working out; that's roughly the idea. Remember one thing: add a filter to the photos; adding a filter instantly elevates their appeal. Another point: if you can't cook, you can upload photos of the food your friends cook when you eat at their houses, and you can also post photos of their cats. She won't be living with you, so she won't know if you can cook or have a cat. Posting these photos is just to attract her initially and create an opportunity to ask her out. Here are some examples of my Kuaishou (a Chinese short video platform) posts: photos of the gym (I've been twice), photos of many dishes (cooked by friends, but I can also cook), photos of my cat (my own)

, and travel photos. The key is to present a polished image on WeChat Moments. Because no matter what app you use, you'll eventually add each other on WeChat, so you must post plenty of photos to present yourself well. Don't forget

to add filters to your photos; even a simple plate of tomato fried rice looks better with an Apple filter. 3. When some girls who are easy to date see your posts on the app and think you're nice, they'll reply. This is why I always insist on asking "Want to date?" directly. Asking this right away might seem casual, but women won't dislike you because you're casual. If a woman likes you, she'll stick with you even if you have a mistress. If a woman replies to your casual question, "Want to date?" and chats with you, it means she's easy to approach. This filters out girls who are unlikely to hook up, saving you time. In my experience, I can usually get one out of three women who reply to me, sometimes almost every time. (Don't rush to conclusions; it's not that she'll hook up with you just because she replied, but these women are easy to approach. With a little effort, I've managed to get them all. Follow-up is also essential.)

4. How to follow up with girls who reply to you? 1. Deny that you're only after someone else (these girls will usually say things like, "You're so easy, asking to date right away," or "You're definitely a player."). At this point, you can say something like, "I'm being direct, I really like you after seeing your photos." Again, deny that you're a player. After chatting a few times, figure out how to ask her out. (You can use your social media posts as a starting point for the conversation.) Your posts show you own a cat, and girls will usually say, "Your cat is so cute." You can say, "Come over and play, come and cuddle my cat." 2. If you post pictures of yourself cooking, say, "When are you free? Come over and I'll cook for you." 3. Or ask, "When are you on vacation? Let's go on a trip nearby." 4. If some girls don't want to contact you, say, "I miss you, I want to see you. I want to date you." Remember, when following up in conversation, it's best to use the guise of dating! Try to establish a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship through online chatting! If she directly initiates an online romance and becomes your girlfriend, I have a 100% success rate with her; if you meet in person, you'll definitely have sex. Let me repeat, always establish a romantic relationship before meeting in person; this makes sex a natural progression. If you don't mention this and just visit her as a friend, she might not agree to sex; she might not be able to get over the hurdle. Sometimes, it's not that women don't want sex; they don't see themselves as incredibly valuable, but they feel uneasy because you're not their boyfriend yet. Another point is that it's best to get her to come to you; try every possible way to get her to come to you. The first time, she came to me, and I succeeded every time. But a few times, I went to her, and I didn't succeed. As for why, I think it's a matter of "cost." When she comes to you, she incurs time or some small financial costs, and sometimes it's inconvenient for her to go back home. She might even consider spending the night at your place (but who comes to whom isn't a major deciding factor; I'm just saying it might increase your chances of success). Also, I usually rent my own place, so it's easier to make a move when she comes to my place. When I go to meet someone, we usually meet outside; I rarely suggest "Let's go to a hotel." When she comes to my place, we usually play with the pets, have a meal, drink some alcohol, and then things gradually progress smoothly.

Tips: 1. Regardless of the app, first present a polished image on social media! 2. Once you've polished your image, cast a wide net, asking for her WeChat on various chat apps, asking if she's interested in dating. Find girls who are easy to hook up with; ignore the aloof ones—it's a waste of time. 3. Find your target, start chatting, use sweet talk to build rapport, confirm your boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, then find an excuse to meet (ideally, have her come to you). 4. After meeting, hug her, kiss her. As long as she doesn't resist, OK, go for it. Don't be shy or hesitant when you meet. Just go for it. 5. After meeting, you might feel that some girls are just so-so and you won't be interested a second time. Some people might wonder how to handle this. My suggestion is to give her the cold shoulder, don't reply to her messages, and she'll understand. (I'll mention more details about the cold shoulder later.) If you're satisfied, OK, be a long-term friends with benefits under the guise of dating. If you really like her, go for a relationship. 6. Here's the important part!!! If you really like her and want to date her, I advise you to forget it. This kind of girl is basically like you, very casual. You never know when she might cheat on you, or she might dump you. If you're not afraid of getting hurt, then go for it. (Let me repeat myself: if you can easily hook up with her, it means others can too.) As for dating apps, I've downloaded many. Remember this: apps that require you to pay to send messages are scams. And those that immediately have many women contacting you are basically junk apps trying to trick you into buying memberships. It's human nature; if a girl contacts you, it's because she's interested in your profile picture, your posts, or photos. It's unrealistic to expect many women to message you immediately after you download an app and register. I've encountered several of these junk apps where a bunch of women rush to you, but you can't reply; replying requires payment.)

Third, improving your personal image

: People see how easily I hook up and often say I must be very handsome, tall, and rich. Actually, I'm just average-looking and not very tall. Here, based on my experience, I can briefly help you improve your appearance. First, many people get nervous when meeting strangers and don't know what to say; ultimately, it's a lack of self-confidence. I was like that at first too, but after hooking up a lot, I became more and more confident. So how do you become more confident?

1. Hairstyle really has a big impact on a guy's appearance. I've tried many hairstyles: middle part, side part, slicked-back, some side bangs, and finally found one that suits me. Before meeting someone, make sure your hair isn't messy. Go to the barber once a month to style your hair. If possible, buy some hair gel or wax so you can style it before the meeting.

2. As for shoes, I'm relatively young, so I recommend Air Jordans. You can even buy Air Jordans directly from Putian; the quality is really good. I have several friends who sell Putian shoes, averaging 300-400 yuan a pair. The shoes must be clean, and Air Jordans are the most suitable brand among all the options. Don't ask me to buy shoes; I'm just giving an example. There are tons of Putian shoes on Taobao, and the quality isn't that much different from the authentic ones. I always keep four or five pairs of Air Jordans on hand.

3. Regarding clothing, I personally prefer simple colors and matching outfits. Basically, the clothes and pants should look like a matching set in similar colors, and the shoes should also coordinate somewhat. You can experiment to see what kind of clothing suits you best. (Here's some advice on clothing. I used to be reluctant to buy slightly more expensive clothes, but based on my experience, I suggest you buy slightly more expensive, higher-quality, and more upscale clothes instead of buying a bunch of cheap ones. You'll find that cheap clothes are worn a few times and then thrown away, while more expensive, higher-quality clothes can last a long time. Generally, more expensive clothes mean better materials and quality. Another suggestion is about color. I've found that white suits me very well. You should try to find out which colors suit you best. I don't know how to flatter my skin tone, but I really think white looks better on me than other colors. Take some time to find out what colors suit you.)

4. If you wear glasses, it's best to buy daily disposable contact lenses online, the kind you wear once and then discard. The average cost per use is only one or two yuan. Anyway, I look better without glasses than with them, so I wear them all the time.

5. This is something many girls like. Many girls who get close to me say they like my scent. Sometimes it's perfume, sometimes it's the scent of Blue Moon laundry detergent. Before each meeting, I wear freshly washed clothes with the scent of Blue Moon; if there's no scent, I'll just spray some on.

6. Wear a watch. They range from a few hundred to several thousand yuan, depending on your budget. (I used to wear a Casio for three or four hundred yuan, now I wear a Tissot for around three thousand. It doesn't have to be expensive, but wearing one adds a touch of class.)

7. If you're not tall enough, buy a height-increasing insole. I've used many before, and I recommend searching for "Nanji Ren" height-increasing insole on Taobao. It's very comfortable, and you can't tell it's an insole without shoes. I bought the 2.5cm one.

8. Girls love gifts. When I give girls gifts, it's usually a Swarovski necklace or perfume. Some people might think, what does giving a girl a gift have to do with your confidence? I can't really explain it, but I always feel more confident when I bring gifts for girls. It's like I suddenly become more sophisticated and generous, and I can foresee that this behavior will make girls like me and boost my confidence.

9. Actually, there are many other details. If you pay attention to so many details, it will improve your overall impression, and your chances of success on your first date will be higher.

In conclusion: Once you're familiar with this routine, practice makes perfect, and you can hook up anywhere. I've hooked up with over a dozen girls through gaming, and many more in real life, plus fifty or sixty on chat apps. What I've shared today is just a general overview. I've hooked up with so many, it's impossible to recount everything at once. I'll discuss many more details later, including things to watch out for at each stage and methods to increase the success rate. I'll also provide case studies of how to successfully hook up with a girl from the very beginning.

To clarify

, the "packaging" I'm referring to isn't like some online PUA tutorials where you pool money to rent a fancy hotel for photos, rent a sports car for a photoshoot, or use lies to create a facade. We can't always use one lie to cover up another; that's wrong. Any pretense won't make you more confident; it will only make you lose yourself.

The packaging I'm talking about is honest and straightforward packaging, not using fake things, like finding pictures online to pretend you have a Mercedes. Women these days aren't stupid; obvious lies are easily spotted. It's about maximizing certain aspects of yourself. For example, everyone can cook. Using some cooking photos isn't a huge lie, because you can learn to cook anytime, or you might already know how, just not very well. I used many photos of my friends cooking in the beginning, and gradually, I've learned to cook for myself now. Similarly, everyone has traveled. If you want to go, you can do it anytime. Posting travel photos is just to make you seem sophisticated. A long time ago, I used photos of small animals to package myself, and now I actually have an American Shorthair. In the process of packaging yourself, strive to make the "fake" real, to become the person you portray on social media. But you need to be genuine. If you start by packaging yourself and gradually get hookups, and at the same time you continuously improve yourself, becoming more passionate about life and more excellent, then more and more women will approach you, whether it's hookups or dating.

Here's a specific example and analysis technique:

This is a girl from November 18, 2019. I didn't back up our chat history. I met this girl in 2017. We went out a few times, but I didn't really like her at the time, so I stopped contacting her. Two years later, she came to H city to take an exam. I guess she found out I was also in H city through my WeChat Moments, so she took the initiative to chat with me that day and sent me a photo of herself after showering, showing only glimpses of her skin. After she sent the photo, we chatted for several hours, and from her initial reluctance to her eventual agreement to meet up, we successfully went on another date. In this case, I want to talk about a habit of mine: whether it's a girl I've dated or a girl I approached on WeChat who didn't seem interested at the time, I have a habit of keeping her as a friend. For the former, maybe I'll become interested in her again someday, and I can contact her again. For the latter, I've had a few successful experiences; some girls might not reply to me immediately after adding me, but after a while, we might chat again for some reason, and then we successfully went on a date. As for why we started chatting again after a while, there are several reasons: 1. Sometimes, girls might feel they don't need anyone around, or they might have many suitors, so they might not pay attention to me at the time. But after a while, they might feel lonely or bored for various reasons and then reach out to me. 2. Because I keep updating my Moments (WeChat's social media feature), she, being my friend, would definitely see me frequently. She might have developed feelings for me after seeing some of my posts, or she might have suddenly liked one of my posts and we started chatting (for example, this girl initially ignored me, but after I posted about my cat, she commented that my cat was cute, so I contacted her again, gradually approaching her through the topic of "cats," and eventually asked her out). 3. The girl might have suddenly broken up with her boyfriend, and she might be thinking about casual hookups, or perhaps just a hasty relationship as a temporary measure.

In short, if you add a girl in a certain place but can't seem to find common ground, don't rush into it. Keep her on your friend list; keeping a friend slot means keeping an opportunity open!

Below, I'll post a surviving chat log to explain my chatting techniques. I only recently met this girl, so I still have the chat history.

This is a girl I chatted with on Kuaishou (a Chinese short video platform). After getting her WeChat, we added each other and chatted enthusiastically. We met a few times. The first time, we strolled around the park near her house. Later, she finally agreed to come to my house, and I even let her wear my school uniform.

From this chat log, you can see that the chatting techniques I'm talking about aren't about how to make a girl happy. As I said at the beginning of the article, the so-called "chatting techniques" to completely charm a girl are basically lies. The chatting techniques I teach are about how to get a girl to go out with me. You can see from my chat log that I tried my best to find out her preferences. For example, if she likes spicy snacks, I said I'd bring some to her. If she drinks, I said we could drink together next time. If she likes a certain food, I said I'd cook it for her next time. If she likes cats, I said I have one. By doing all this, you can pique her desire to meet you. Once you meet, your chances are much higher.

Many guys have asked me to look at their chat logs, feeling lost when they chat with girls. This is a misconception. If you can't get into a conversation, it's because your presentation isn't good enough, or the girl isn't interested in your image. If she's not interested, of course you can't get into the conversation. I'm the same way. Some girls aren't interested in me, and if I chat briefly and they seem cold, I just stop. There are other girls on the app. In my chat group, there's a guy named Peter who's really good at this now, and he's had a lot of girlfriends lately. Ultimately, he truly understands everything I've said. He knows that chatting is about getting girls to meet up, and if a girl isn't interested, he simply switches to someone else and chats with girls who are interested. Sometimes people really like looking at chat logs, but honestly, looking at 100 logs is less effective than actually chatting yourself, meeting up with one girl, and learning much faster.

Sometimes you and a girl run out of things to talk about. In this situation, many people focus on the wrong things. You shouldn't focus on how to chat, trying to learn interesting conversation techniques by looking at other people's chat logs. Don't fantasize about using so-called "chatting skills" to make the girl enjoy chatting with you. What you should understand is that the reason you have nothing to talk about is because the girl isn't interested in you. Because she's not interested, she ignores you, and every time you try to talk about something, it feels like you're not connecting.

How do you make a girl interested in you and want to chat with you? Please go back to the first page to start reading. (Reviewing the old helps you understand the new; if you want to learn something truly valuable, you must read it repeatedly.)

I've always emphasized the importance of cultivating your social media presence. Today, I'll focus on one point: how to use cooking as a way to ask a girl out. A trick I often use is to tell a girl she can come to my place and I'll cook for her; almost no girl will refuse. I usually post photos of my cooking on my WeChat Moments. Initially, I rarely cooked myself; I shared an apartment with a friend who was a great cook, so he did most of the cooking. Every time he cooked, we'd take pictures before eating. In our group chat, I posted a lot of food packaging photos. For those without photos, you can just grab some from your own WeChat Moments and hide the photo's owner when you post them. (You can also choose who can see them, only letting the girls see them.)

Although I said, whether you can cook or not, she doesn't really know. After successfully getting a date, you can make an excuse not to cook, saying there's not much food in the fridge, or you're too tired to cook, and just order takeout. But it's best to know a little bit; learning to cook is definitely beneficial. Below, I'll recommend some simple, delicious, and stylish dishes.

The simplest dish I have to recommend is steak. Just buy some steak online; they're usually only around ten yuan a piece. It's really easy, and the taste is quite good. You can even post a picture of yourself grilling a steak on social media – it looks great, especially with some red wine. (Red wine is also very cheap; I buy bottles that cost only a few tens of yuan.) Heat oil in a pan, add some garlic slices, then add the marinated steak (most online steaks are pre-marinated). Let it cook until done, sprinkle with cumin powder, and serve on a nice plate. Absolutely delicious!

The second dish is shrimp pasta. Sauté the shrimp in oil until cooked, then stir-fry some vegetables like broccoli, and finally stir-fry the pasta. Once the pasta is cooked, add the shrimp and vegetables back in – it's absolutely delicious. These two dishes are what I make most often, and they're very simple. I don't know how to cook other dishes, and I rarely make them. Every time my girlfriend comes over and eats these two dishes, she raves about them. We can also have a little wine, and after dinner, lie down together and watch TV, cuddling and kissing – our relationship will quickly blossom.

Three points that might be helpful

(this chapter might be a bit long, but it's all good stuff):

1. You might need a "transformation."

Today, I'll talk about something important: "transformation."

What is "transformation"? Let me tell you from my own experience.

About two or three years ago, I really liked a girl. At that time, I always thought I was very cultured. I lived in a small attic, paying 400 yuan a month for a very basic room. But back then, I thought I was special. I often took pictures of the snacks on my table and showed them to her. Sometimes I would drink 30-yuan bottles of red wine on the balcony, thinking I had great taste, and I would take pictures of that too and send them to her. (Actually, I was already trying to present myself in a certain way, but I wasn't doing it right.) I remember when we met, I even gave her a book. I thought she would think I was a cultured and tasteful person and would like me. But that wasn't the case. These were all "what I thought." I didn't realize at the time what "what she thought" meant. If you want to win a girl's heart, you must achieve what "she thinks," and present yourself in a way she likes. She thought the person she liked should live in a bigger, cleaner room. She thought the person she liked should be successful and have a good income. She thought the person she liked should be mature... Don't always think you're so special, that everyone can understand you. What the hell is that? Back then, I lived in a tiny attic apartment costing 400 yuan a month, and I was thinking of pursuing girls? I bought tons of snacks and left them on the table every day, thinking a girl would be interested and think I had a high-quality lifestyle? If you were a girl, and a guy living in a tiny attic apartment costing 400 yuan a month tried to pick you up, would you be interested? Later, she told me she had a boyfriend. From then on, I slowly started learning how to hook up and accumulated more and more skills.

If you're not attracting girls, you need to start reflecting on yourself. Look at yourself from a third-person perspective. How are you in other people's eyes? Don't see yourself only through your own eyes. If you see many shortcomings in yourself from a third-person perspective, it means you need some "transformation." As for what kind of transformation, it's packaging. I've already talked about how to package yourself on the first floor. Go back and read it a few times to refresh your memory.

2. Let me share some

thoughts on dating apps. First, I've tried apps like Tantan, Soul, Momo, and Jimu, but I found the success rate to be very low, and there are many marketing accounts. Some women will ask you to add them on WeChat or QQ, but after adding them, they won't really chat. It's just a way to attract customers for future business.

The most important thing for a dating app is to have a "people nearby" or "local" feature—this is essential for hookups. I've used dozens of apps, but excluding some junk apps, I don't use many anymore. I don't have the energy to use every single one. Now I mainly use one or two apps with the highest success rate.

Most dating apps now require you to pay tens of yuan for a membership or something similar. I've paid for almost all of these apps. I still have a membership on Tantan, and I also pay a little for Kuaishou and Douyin, sometimes sending virtual gifts. But remember, paying for memberships or anything like that should only be done if your flirting skills are already up to par; otherwise, it won't be as effective. If you're not good at flirting, spending money on flirting is a waste. You need to practice your flirting skills first. Some people think it's innate, but that's not true. You might be shy and reserved when meeting a woman in person, but online, people are very adaptable. So, some people who have difficulty dating in real life have a much better chance online. (Finally, I want to mention something about paid apps. Although I've spent tens of yuan on memberships for many apps, I never use scam apps or local hookup apps. Scam apps and local hookup apps usually charge high fees. I can say that they are all scams. If you've been scammed by these apps, I'm sorry, but I can only say you're a fool.) Let

me briefly explain how I use Kuaishou:

Same old routine, first, create a good image, then browse the local Kuaishou section. When you see someone you like, just say hello and ask if they can give you their WeChat ID. The key is how to pique a woman's interest after she sees your Kuaishou posts and get her to give you her WeChat ID. I won't go into the rest, it's all about self-presentation, which I've discussed extensively in my posts. The remaining point concerns follower count. I bought 300 Kuaishou followers and only followed two people. Many people follow hundreds of people on Kuaishou, which is wrong. If a woman sees you following so many people, she'll have a bad impression of you. If you have two or three hundred followers and only follow three or four people, she'll have a better impression of you. Then, look at your posts; if she thinks you're good in all aspects and meets her expectations, she 'll naturally give you her WeChat. After adding her on WeChat, follow the methods in my post to find a way to ask her out.

3. Regarding renting your own place

: Based on my personal experience, I believe that renting your own place greatly increases the success rate of hooking up. I used to live at home and in dormitories, but I stopped doing that two years ago and started renting my own place. Because when you're looking for a hookup, it's really hard to naturally say the words "book a hotel room," but it's a different story when you invite a girl to your place. It's much easier to invite her to see your pets, your flowers, or eat your cooking. However, this doesn't mean you have no opportunities if you don't rent your own place; it just means you have more opportunities. When I lived in a dormitory, I would sometimes go over to meet girls, asking if I could stay overnight if I couldn't get back late, and some girls would agree. Sometimes I'd book a hotel room, saying I was lonely living alone and asked if they could keep me company, offering to sleep on the floor, and the girls would agree. Sometimes when I was off work and my roommates were at work, I'd bring girls back to the dorm. But overall, renting your own place is the most convenient.

Here, I'll show you the layout of my room. When posting photos of your room on social media, remember one thing: tidiness! Girls are attracted to guys with tidy rooms; I've heard this from several women!

Here's a suggestion: if you're renting and can afford it, try to rent a slightly larger place, like one with a sofa and a small kitchenette. If you rent a tiny single room with just a bed, how do you invite a girl over? The first time she comes, she might sit on the bed, but many girls won't be interested in going a second time. Because every time she goes, she can only sit on the bed, which can be boring. And not every girl will be willing to have sex with you on the first visit. Having a sofa means she can sit and use her phone; otherwise, sitting directly on the bed can be awkward. As for the kitchen, if possible, it greatly helps in inviting girls over because you can cook.

Fifth, regarding "bad girls" and their mentality.

There are scumbags, and there are scumbags too. While it's all about casual sex, to be honest, I've also had relationships where the initial intention was just for casual sex, but I gradually developed a real liking for the relationship. Here are some screenshots of my chat history with my ex-girlfriend. She was someone I dated last year, and we broke up several months ago. A few days ago, I chatted with her and asked her some questions I was curious about back then. Because during that relationship, I sensed many things were wrong, and it was quite exhausting.

At the beginning of this article, I mentioned that if you can easily hook up with a woman, it means others can easily hook up with her too. If she's just a casual sex partner, you need to be very careful when dating her. This girl, we slept together on our first meeting. She had a great body, so I really liked her. A few days later, she asked me to change our profile pictures to matching couple photos, and we did. The next day, I found out she had changed them again herself. I was really angry then. I felt that if you were dating someone, you should at least tell me before changing your profile picture. She changed it without saying anything; there must be a reason. Later, I found out that she had a boyfriend she'd been dating for a long time but didn't have any feelings for, and she was using matching profile pictures with both him and me. Then, the guy suddenly said he wanted to change their profile pictures to a different one, but she thought it was too much trouble to keep changing them, so she simply stopped using matching profile pictures. Later, on her birthday, she went on a trip to Zhangzhou by herself, without telling me or inviting me. I felt like she probably didn't like me anymore. Because during that time, I could sense that she wasn't as willing to chat with me as before, and she wasn't replying to messages promptly. Going on a trip without inviting me—what does that mean? Everyone should know. In the end, we broke up not long after.

What I want to say is, in a relationship, if the other person's behavior makes you feel like they don't like you anymore, then don't try to justify it to them. It's obvious they don't like you. Don't tolerate this behavior just because you like a girl, because in the end, it won't work out. If they don't like you anymore, they just don't like you anymore. You have to break up decisively like I did and move on to the next target.

Life is finite. Whether you're dating or just having casual sex, you need to find the right person. Especially in relationships, if you date the wrong person, you might feel happy at first, thinking you've hit the jackpot because she's so beautiful. But immense pain will follow. You'll constantly worry, feel insecure, unhappy, and uncomfortable. So remember, always find the right person. Sometimes you also need the courage to let go. Letting go of someone is harder than confessing your feelings; it requires even greater courage. For men, living freely and easily is the key. Don't accept immense pain for momentary pleasure. In relationships, always maintain control.

If a woman doesn't like you anymore, no matter how good you are to her, she won't change her mind. The only way to win her back is to become a better version of yourself. Like a few years ago, I dated someone I really liked, but she didn't like me back, and we broke up. Later, I became a better person, and two years later, she took the initiative to get back together. When we met, I thought: "Holy crap, what happened to her? How could I have liked her?" Later, I couldn't stand this person anymore. Sometimes you like someone not because they're so great, but because you're too deeply involved to let go. Once you let go and get out of the mire, and look back at them properly, you'll find they're just so-so.

There are also guys who pursue a woman but can't win her over, yet she always keeps a distance, neither explicitly rejecting you nor agreeing to a relationship. Why? It's simple: she's keeping you as a backup. There are definitely other people pursuing her; anyone would make a choice. She's just observing. In this situation, the best choice is to give up and move on. If a woman is "observing" a man, he's already very pathetic.

Another point I want to make is that women are really good at lying. If they don't like you, they'll always lie to you. If you don't want to be a fool, don't give her the chance to lie! A while

ago, I added a girl on an app. We didn't chat much, but we played some games together these past few days, and then she said she wanted to meet me for dinner. I was initially very happy, but then she said she was bringing her best friend along. After hesitating for a while, I said I wouldn't go. Generally, if someone brings their best friend, it's either because they don't trust you and are wary of you, or they're using you as a meal ticket to get them to eat out. In short, bringing a best friend significantly reduces your chances of hooking up. I've encountered this many times before; I'd bring a best friend, and then they'd have to accompany me for meals and entertainment, but nothing ever came of it. Back then, I felt awkward refusing, thinking it would be too inappropriate. Now, I don't do that anymore. If someone brings their best friend, I just say I'm not going. If you genuinely like the person and are looking for a romantic relationship, then you can go. Otherwise, it's best not to go if they bring their best friend; it's a waste of time.

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