Advice for newcomers, and my own experience trying to make friends for the first time.

(I was born in 1989 and have only been on this type of forum for a while. During this time, I've had some in-depth conversations with some women and couples. Some of my views may not be entirely accurate, but this is just a simple reflection of my experiences. I hope you won't criticize any shortcomings.)
I'm a recent graduate who has only been working in Shenzhen for three months. I only recently started paying attention to forums for couples (I'm a newbie). After exchanging ideas with some women and couples online, I've found that I've grown a lot, especially in my understanding of dating. I've gained a lot of insight and moved beyond my previous misconceptions about this community. Now I'd like to share my dating experiences with newcomers.
First, mindset is the most important.
When I first registered on this forum, I approached it with the same mindset as a one-night stand forum or a singles forum, my sole purpose being to find a romantic encounter (to put it bluntly, to seek excitement and take advantage of each other). However, I soon discovered a huge difference between this forum and one-night stand forums—sex is not the only purpose. Frankly speaking, many users registered here are mostly single friends and couples with stable families. Especially for couples, the reason they open up here is because they actually want to find new enjoyment in life and meet more people with common topics to discuss (though some couples may be only here for sex). Chatting and sharing emotions are considered extremely important steps for couples (especially those who want to experience dating but haven't yet tried partner swapping). Their topics might include work, life, raising children, and personal hobbies. Therefore, in my personal opinion, most couples registered on couples' forums value emotional communication; sex isn't the only goal. Even if sexual swapping eventually happens, it's all based on mutual trust and understanding, which brings new enjoyment and discovery to their lives. So, if you're just a single man or woman looking for a free ride, I suggest you go to a one-night stand forum instead; this will likely take up more of your time and energy.
Secondly, respect is paramount, and understanding is key.
I believe that respecting others is crucial, both in real life and online. Recently, I've heard that some netizens occasionally use profanity in their posts and replies, and some even make excessively lewd comments that challenge the original poster's boundaries (moderate flirting should be encouraged), thus damaging the online atmosphere. Although the internet is virtual, forums are still public spaces; please show some respect to each other. I've also heard that some users are inconsiderate, not being sincere in their chats with members of the opposite sex or spouses, sending pictures that aren't their own, and sometimes even setting traps to get others to send explicit photos before disappearing. This is not only rude but also perverted. Furthermore, it's very important to maintain good manners when first starting a QQ chat. Please understand if some couples are hesitant to send photos for fear of running into acquaintances; everyone has different thoughts and principles. I believe that if you are truly meant to be, spending some time is worthwhile, and one day you can video chat or arrange to meet in person. Finally, I urge everyone to uphold an attitude of mutual respect and tolerance to build a positive forum environment.
Thirdly, please reply to posts and offer more praise to bring joy to others.
The internet is a wonderful place, and those who enjoy it often hope to gain recognition from others, even if it's just a mood, an emoticon, a blog post, or a photo. Posters generally hope to attract attention, care, and praise. In a forum like this one for couples, as a newcomer, I express my respect and gratitude to all genuine couples. I respect you because your spiritual realm and emotional world are different from ordinary people; you possess a noble spirit of sharing. Thank you for injecting progressive ideas into society and bringing vitality to the forum. Especially noteworthy is the mutual trust and communication between you couples; I believe your family life will continue to improve. I wish all couples happiness in their families. Regarding the common situation where forum posts often have high readership but few replies, I hope that users will reply more after reading, put more thought into their replies, and offer more praise. Giving is better than receiving. If you find shortcomings in others, I would appreciate your constructive feedback. I want to share the truth that "your reply is my sole motivation for posting!"
These are just some simple thoughts of mine; please forgive any inaccuracies or shortcomings. If my views differ greatly from yours, I hope we can respect each other—a gentleman seeks harmony without uniformity!
Finally, I wish everyone a happy Mid-Autumn Festival and National Day. Oh, and I almost forgot, I was born in 1989 and just graduated with my bachelor's degree this year. I'm currently in Shenzhen, and I hope to meet more friends and exchange experiences if we have the chance! O(∩_∩)O haha~

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