Before and after 3P: My View on 69

1. Exchange is justified. Throughout history and across cultures, monogamy has been a universally accepted moral standard. However, human nature is prone to novelty-seeking, leading to numerous extramarital affairs and sexual encounters, usually conducted secretly by one spouse behind the other's back. Websites like 69.com effectively bring extramarital affairs and sexual encounters into a controllable framework, allowing couples to openly acknowledge their desires. Rather than hiding it, they choose to acknowledge and practice it within their marriage. Regarding the impact on others and society, I strongly agree with Li Yinhe's viewpoint: as long as the principles of "adulthood, voluntariness, and privacy" are adhered to, it's acceptable.
2. Safety first, enjoyment second. Because monogamy is a universally accepted moral standard, it places an invisible mental constraint on every couple. The desire to engage in such activities while fearing exposure is a common psychological state among couples and single men on 69.com. As this secretive group, we cannot defy customs formed over thousands of years. Therefore, even if the issue of couples no longer engaging in secretive behavior is resolved, the secrecy towards society remains. Furthermore, many of the couples and single men who come to 69 are likely people with a certain social standing and respectable jobs. Therefore, safety is always the top priority; exchanging partners is merely a spice of life, not its entirety.
3. Honesty and understanding are the cornerstones of exchanging partners. Due to social pressure to avoid exposure, everyone cautiously probes each other, which indeed increases the cost of communication. To improve communication efficiency, the first requirement is honesty: you may not say it, but what you say must be true; you may not do it, but what you promise must be kept. Even if you don't keep your promise, you must explain the reason afterward. The second requirement is understanding. For single men, it's acceptable to know about the sexual information of couples, but try not to proactively inquire about their information, especially information related to their identity, unless one spouse brings it up. In addition, as one spouse, you have elderly parents and young children to care for, and most are in the prime of their lives, striving for success. Due to illness of children or elderly parents, a wife's last-minute withdrawal, sudden menstruation, unexpected overtime at work, etc., many reasons may lead to last-minute cancellations. In these situations, mutual understanding is especially important.
4. Truth and falsehood can be judged. Undeniably, there are malicious individuals on 69 (a Chinese social networking site), but judging their sincerity depends on your life experience and discernment. My experience is as follows: First, look at their profiles on 69. This will give you a general idea, especially photos taken at home. A single photo can reveal a person's general economic situation and personal preferences. Second, chat with them via QQ, video chat, or phone. Through these conversations, you can get a feel for their speech, manners, work, and life. Third, meet in person. Ideally, meet at a place like Starbucks or another reputable establishment where consumer fraud is unlikely. Another reliable method is to have existing friends introduce you to new acquaintances, which reduces communication costs significantly.

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