My reflections and experiences regarding sex and love.

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I haven't been on 69 Paradise for very long. My main purpose here is to find friends with similar interests, acquaintances, and attitudes, as well as mature female friends whom I admire and like.
Recently, I've been fortunate to make some good friends. Everyone is sincere, exchanging views and experiences wholeheartedly, and I've gained a lot. Here's a summary of some of my experiences for everyone to discuss.

【1—Personality Introduction】Let me introduce myself first. I'm 28 years old, currently working and living in Zhengzhou. I have a bachelor's and master's degree in engineering and have been working in the construction industry in Zhengzhou for two years. I'm a bit introverted, haha, you could call me the "quietly passionate" type. I have a positive, optimistic, and proactive attitude towards work and enjoy communicating and connecting with people.

【2—Relationship History】I had a girlfriend during my bachelor's and master's studies, but for various reasons, we didn't end up together. In the past two years of work, because of my honesty and reliability, I've gained the favor of some women. I also get along well with several older women I've had some work-related interactions with. It feels like we have mutual attraction, and as long as we don't cross any lines or affect each other's families, we can comfortably seek happiness, which is quite nice. Although they had a relationship, their interactions at work remained natural and friendly, and they didn't feel much guilt about having an affair or betraying each other.
I think that in normal life and when making friends:
(1) You can't be malicious. Be sincere to people and treat them with sincerity .
(2) Don't have the intention of sexually assaulting other people's wives and daughters, or just looking for stimulation and venting.
(3) Sex is not only a sensory experience, but more importantly, it is about allowing each other to obtain physical pleasure and spiritual satisfaction under the premise of being respected, free, and treated equally.
(4) From a man's perspective, women need to be appreciated, understood, and loved first before they can relax and comfortably experience more pleasure and joy.
(5) Don't treat women as tools for venting. Whether it is a young and graceful girl, a stylish young mother, or a plump and sexy middle-aged woman, every woman of every age should be cared for by her man. This care does not mean opposing 3P or ***, but rather protecting your woman's heart and taking care of her emotions in the process. Don't force her to do things that she dislikes to satisfy your lust, and don't try to trick her into complying. The paradise is a big family. It is not only the couples and strangers who need to be respected, but most importantly, the beautiful and harmonious state that the couples themselves achieve. Then, they can make friends with sincerity.

[3 - Understanding of sex and love] My understanding and experience of sex and love comes from various books I like to read and from practical experience. Although my experience is still limited, I hope to share it with everyone. Friends with different views and experiences are welcome to criticize and correct me at any time.
(1) Our ancestors have studied sex and love very thoroughly over thousands of years. Sex and love are complementary and integrated. Our ancestors emphasized the balance of yin and yang, the dual cultivation of men and women, and the longevity of life, which is very reasonable. My ancestors were practitioners of traditional Chinese medicine. Although it was not passed down to my generation, I was still influenced by it to some extent. Whether it is a medical classic such as the Yellow Emperor's Inner Classic or a natural creation method such as Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching, they all emphasize the harmony of yin and yang and natural coexistence.
(2) Moderate and proper sex is not only a way for both parties to obtain physical pleasure, but also a lubricant to enhance their relationship, and a way to prolong life and improve their spiritual well-being. Why do we say this? Our ancestors have summarized a great deal of literature on the definition, techniques, practice, and experience of sex. These summaries are not only scientific but also effective, and they are insightful even when analyzed by modern Western medicine.
(3) The process of sex involves emotional exchange and care during foreplay, changes in sexual positions and techniques during intercourse, and rest and recuperation afterward. The blood and fluids of both men and women undergo wonderful changes, and the spirit and flesh are effectively integrated. Reasonable sex and appropriate frequency will bring great benefits to both men and women. Their bodies and minds will become very comfortable. When the body and mind are comfortable, the whole person will be radiant, and their attitude towards doing things and being a person will be healthier and more positive. On the contrary, unreasonable sexual practices, distorted mentality, and excessive indulgence may seem exciting and pleasurable, but in fact, one's body and mentality are deteriorating day by day. Some even go against their bodily functions and seek stimulation through medication, unaware that their bodily functions are gradually deteriorating, and their mentality and personality are gradually distorted. They take pleasure in having sex with other men's wives and daughters, and enjoy humiliating and forcing men/women. Over time, their values and nature of dealing with people will change. In the normal world, they will have filthy thoughts about everything they see. They suffer from severe mental confusion and mental disorder. They are unable to do well in their career or family. In the end, they not only ruin their own healthy body and personality, but also ruin their own and others' healthy and happy families.
(3) Our ancestors have passed down many good things, teaching people to be good and kind to others. Many men complain that their wives are too traditional and conservative. However, this needs to be viewed dialectically. Our Chinese ancestors were great; they established many moral constraints to educate people. When people are educated, they form harmonious families, which in turn form a harmonious society, ultimately forming the Chinese nation that can be passed down for generations. Imagine if Chinese women were no longer traditional and were more open to accepting many men. This would not only lead to unhealthy families and a rampant decadence in society, but people would also become intoxicated by this decadence, ultimately resulting in the downfall of the nation and the extinction of its bloodline. Look at ancient foreign countries; nations like ancient Rome, where widespread decadence led to national collapse and extinction. Sex is a double-edged sword; it can promote the health and well-being of individuals, families, and society, or it can lead to corruption. Therefore, don't complain about your wife being traditional and conservative; there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone understands the mentality of those who crave 3P or ***. Everyone loves their wives deeply and just hopes that their wives can get more happiness and understanding. But don't rush. 3P or *** is not impossible, but it is necessary to have a bottom line and a proper way to achieve it. Whether the wife likes it or is willing to accept another man, whether the single man or the couple is willing to treat the other party with respect and equality, and whether they can put their heart into making the participants happy and satisfied
. I think these are all important considerations. (4) The ancestors said that lust is not lewd, and lewdness is not disorder. If the bottom line is crossed, it will have a very bad effect. Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, both physiologically and psychologically, they need happiness and pleasure. They will have normal physiological or psychological stress reactions to beautiful things or people or things that they like to appreciate. The first meaning of "lust" comes from this. What about the second meaning of "lust"? After the reaction and stress, some men and women will suppress their impulses, while others will take action. The second meaning of "lust" focuses on the different behaviors taken after the reaction. The third meaning is practice and result. Whether it is love, marriage, sex, etc., it starts with "lust" and ends with "lust". There's nothing wrong with sex, the right kind of sex is what matters. It's not the kind of "sexual lust" that comes from lust, because the difference between lust and promiscuity, and between promiscuity and disorder, is just a thought away and it's hard to tell.
(5) Being lustful but not promiscuous allows one to be an ordinary person or a gentleman; this is the basic personality attribute of such people. People who are "promiscuous and disorderly" generally have low moral character and are not good at doing things. A normal view of sex is also the foundation of self-cultivation and character. If someone says that someone's character is too bad, why is that? The key is that their nature is promiscuous and disorderly, their purpose is impure, and they don't know how to respect and treat others kindly.
(6) When making friends, you should make friends from the heart. Some like-minded people will say, "You're going too far, you've even raised it to philosophy and the country, are you kidding me?! It's just for pleasure." There are actually many people around us with this kind of thinking and concept, which is why we can't find suitable candidates when we come to the amusement park. The key is that their values don't match. Some single men may only be looking for someone to vent their frustrations on, and they don't care about anything else after they've had their fun. Couples willing to accept threesomes want to find someone capable and kind to each other, someone who can bring their wives more happiness. So, the conflict arises: after searching high and low, they can't find a satisfactory partner.
(7) In short, I don't oppose threesomes or ***, but it's essential to treat each other in a healthy way and with a healthy mindset. First, one shouldn't be "obsessed," constantly thinking about sex and affecting one's work and family. Second, one shouldn't be "disorderly," neglecting hygiene, disrespecting the other person, or even engaging in behaviors that harm the other person or other perverted behaviors. I think these are all bad.
[4—In Conclusion] People have different views and requirements about sex due to their various experiences and upbringing. Some view it as normal, while others view it as promiscuous. Sex affects our bodies, moods, and personalities. Some people have a strong attachment to familiar people or their mothers, some have cuckoldry tendencies, and others have other different attitudes towards sex. In any case, there is no right or wrong, no high or low, noble or base. Ultimately, it is a kind of psychological and physiological suggestion. However, this suggestion must have a bottom line. Crossing the bottom line and doing extreme things will not only harm oneself and others, but will also ultimately lead to bad results. Therefore, we must adhere to the bottom line and seek more happiness and joy for ourselves and our partners in a reasonable and moderate way. This will help couples communicate and strengthen their relationship, ensuring that individuals, their mental state, and their families are always in a harmonious, positive, and healthy atmosphere.

[4—In Conclusion] Welcome everyone to exchange ideas and offer criticism. The above are just some of my own views, summaries, and experiences. I advocate for sexual behavior that is mutually respectful, understanding, and caring, seeking pleasure without harming the other person or their family. I oppose promiscuity, promiscuity, and other such decadent trends imported from abroad—this foreign trash.

Every individual, male or female, deserves respect and has their own beauty. I personally appreciate and like mature women because they are gentle, elegant, and feminine, deserving of admiration and respect. Sex is merely one way to achieve further and effective communication, not the end goal.

Finally, I sincerely hope that everyone in 69 Paradise will communicate sincerely, respect each other, and treat others kindly. Only then can our forum truly become a "paradise" for making friends, having sex, and learning, instead of becoming a promiscuous place solely for hookups.

Thank you for your understanding and support!

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