Suggestions (for couples)

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Let me first tell you about my husband and me. We are very loving. We've been married for over four years, and we still often joke that we're still dating. Our love seems irrevocably strong; we both feel like we want to cherish each other every day. Four years have passed, and we haven't experienced the seven-year itch that people talk about. Whenever we're together, reminiscing about our early days, the happiness is indescribable.

My husband is very attentive to my feelings in our sex life; I know he wants me to enjoy it. However, the physiological differences between men and women are inevitable. I've entered my prime, and my husband, due to work, life, and other pressures, sometimes worries that I'm not satisfied. No matter how I explain that being with him is the most fulfilling thing, I can't dispel his concerns. Earlier this year, after the Nanjing incident was reported in the newspaper, he excitedly showed me the paper (our local newspapers reported on this incident in a relatively positive and objective way). He told me he also wanted to have a partner and hoped I would satisfy him. Like most women, my first reaction was resistance and opposition. My husband pleaded and begged, and I finally reluctantly agreed to learn more about it (because I knew he loved me, and I had no doubt about his love). I went online to look at related websites and forums, and read many articles by netizens, and gradually my views on this matter changed.

Couples who do this fall into two categories: 1. Couples who have been together for many years, know each other's bodies too well, and their passion in their sex life has faded, so they exchange partners to find new stimulation;

2. The situation in my husband and me: one partner is always worried that their partner is not satisfied, so they try to satisfy their partner.

In fact, couples who propose swapping usually have a very good relationship. At least they haven't betrayed each other, but have adopted a relatively fair way to seek change. So when your partner makes such a request, never doubt their feelings.

In addition, most wives have the same concerns: 1. They worry that their husbands will change their minds; 2. They worry that their husbands will become addicted to this; 3. They worry about the secret being leaked and their safety; 4. They feel disgusted by strange men. My view is this: the

fact that your husband brought this up already proves his love and that he doesn't want to betray you. If you still object, aren't you afraid that one day he might not be able to resist and betray you? Wouldn't that be even more painful? On this issue, the couple must first reach a consensus: this is just a game, to be discarded after it's over, and not to dwell on it. The ugliest analogy is: it's like you've shared a live toy once. Actually, once both partners have this understanding, what is there to worry about? Some couples we've dated suggested getting to know each other better, relying on feelings and attraction. I think this view is the most dangerous and wrong. If you approach the exchange with feelings and attraction, the consequence might indeed be infidelity. As long as you're sure the other person is a sincere, genuine, healthy, and well-mannered partner, that's enough. I also have another opinion: in this exchange, the psychological stimulation is actually greater than the physical stimulation. When you see your loved one embracing someone else, the feeling is indescribable. As for the physical aspect, although there is some stimulation, it's actually better to do it with your loved one. After all, you're already familiar with each other, know each other's preferences, and can please each other. Especially for women, it's rare to experience such strong physical stimulation with a stranger on the first time.

Worried about my husband becoming addicted to this game? Honestly, I don't think it's necessary. Let things happen naturally; maybe you'll be the one addicted in the end.

Regarding concerns about leaks, it's worth mentioning. Couples should be vigilant when entering this game. Ideally, neither party should show their face first during video calls. Only after confirming the other is also a couple should you adjust the video angle simultaneously. This can effectively prevent unnecessary harassment. Also, during contact, don't reveal your personal information; your work and address should not be disclosed. It's best to get a temporary phone card and not give your usual number to the other party to prevent harassment later. Furthermore, it's best to avoid local couples and choose couples from other cities, and avoid meeting in the same city. This will minimize safety issues. For accommodation, it's best to stay in a relatively good hotel. Remember, neither party should go to the hotel room first; both should do so simultaneously. Once in the room, agree that both partners should keep their belongings in the closet, not left out unattended. The reasons for this are obvious.

As for the aversion to strange men, this issue can be resolved in the initial contact stage. Video call several times. As long as you're not averse to the other person's appearance, there shouldn't be any major problems after meeting in person.

After meeting, couples shouldn't immediately go to a hotel. My suggestion is to chat first, have tea, karaoke, or a meal—these are all good options. Don't back out halfway through unless you discover the other person's poor character. Also, pay attention to your health; it's best to use a condom or bring disinfectant and wash thoroughly in the shower. The woman should also bring topical medication; inserting one afterward can avoid many problems. Bring lubricant as well; if the woman isn't feeling well, sufficient lubrication will help her get aroused quickly. Furthermore, once you choose to go to the hotel, don't be shy; relax and open up. Sitting awkwardly in the room will lead to an embarrassing situation. In short, thorough communication and preparation beforehand are essential. Don't be shy; it will only create unnecessary trouble during the encounter.

My husband and I have had this experience several times now, but our relationship hasn't changed; in fact, it's better than before. My husband asks me about my experience, and we feel more passionate. All I want to say is that swapping isn't scary; as long as couples are honest with each other, their relationship will reach new heights.

I wish all couples a happy life.

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