I don't want to have any regrets

While men may not be as outwardly glamorous as women, they exude a compelling mature charm as they age and develop abilities. Women, on the other hand, lose their appeal once they pass their prime, because men are inherently fickle creatures. I don't want to claim men are noble; it's just how they are at heart. I'm a man, a decent man in every way, and I feel this way; how much more so would wealthy men? Are rich men any good?!

Later, due to the inertia of this situation, and because I wasn't feeling too good about it, I found two more women. One was a college student. College students these days are so open; she did much better than her. But I didn't like her at all. She immediately started giving me oral sex, even using her breasts to rub against me—no need for a condom! But I felt nothing. I didn't reciprocate, but out of politeness, we finished the act and then politely parted ways.

She was a 27-year-old married accountant at a clothing company, taller than me. We got along well, and she was a nice person, but not my type. We made love very gently; she gave me oral sex, and even when I ejaculated in her mouth, it didn't matter.

She thought I was nice. She was already incredibly wet during our kiss; she's the kind of woman who gets wet easily, leaving me covered in her fluids. She wouldn't let me kiss her genitals, afraid I wouldn't like it, and was very gentle and considerate. I asked for penetration from behind, and she agreed and helped me. She was a very nice woman, and I was very grateful. We kept in touch occasionally afterward, but I lost interest and stopped contacting her.

After that experience, I realized that tall, voluptuous women are less convenient in bed; it's harder to get on and off them. Slender women are more interesting; they're more flexible, allowing for more variety and positions. But they can't be too thin; a thin, bony woman seems weak.

Since then, my interest has waned, especially my online obsession. Once I have something, I no longer crave it. I guess that's the meaning of life.

Once my sexual desires are satisfied and I've passed the age of fervent pursuit, I've become more settled. Now, I'm busy with work and family, making it difficult to find a woman I truly desire. These things are a matter of chance; if I find one, I won't give up, and if not, I'll see.

This experience has taught me that relationships these days aren't about meeting and sleeping together immediately. Generally, you need to get to know each other for a while, understand each other's background, and be compatible.

This is to avoid awkwardness upon meeting.

So, by the time you actually meet, you should already have a certain understanding, and the chemistry between you on the first meeting is crucial.

If you truly believe in love at first sight, then a one-night stand or sex is possible, and it can be wonderful—this is the fundamental difference between a one-night stand and prostitution.

The allure of a one-night stand also lies in its ease of ending. Because it's a one-step process, without the pain of a long pursuit, both parties often rationally decide whether to continue or break up.

This mainly depends on the feelings felt during the interaction and the level of sexual satisfaction. Therefore, one-night stands are more attractive to married people.

One-night stands are very exciting. Especially for those with sexual experience who feel a mutual attraction upon meeting,

both parties hope to satisfy each other within a limited time, leading to greater engagement and making it easier for women to reach orgasm.

The quality of a one-night stand varies from person to person and from time to time.

If both are satisfied after getting dressed and don't want it to end, then this is a crucial crossroads in your future.

You can have a rational and honest conversation.

If things aren't great after getting out of bed, then there's no need to say more. In short, a one-night stand is neither as wonderful as you dream of nor as terrible as you fear; you shouldn't deliberately pursue it, nor should you avoid it altogether.

It's all about fate, so let it be.

I know this isn't good for marriage, but men's psychology is so complex—greedy and selfish—and I despise this contradictory mentality!

I value long-term, emotionally charged sex where both partners share common interests, understand and respect each other, achieving a union of body and soul. Sex requires complete immersion and acceptance of the other person's entire being, as long as both are willing.

Can married couples do this?

If not, then they are not a qualified couple. Why can lovers do this?

This ultimate enjoyment in life cannot be truly appreciated without experiencing it firsthand. In reality, having sex with the same person repeatedly eventually leads to boredom and a lack of novelty, for both men and women.

Without external distractions, from an emotional and sexual perspective, everyone desires a lover they enjoy. Society is increasingly emphasizing sex and advocating for the bold pursuit of sexual satisfaction. Life is short, the sexual drive is even shorter, and life is already tiring enough; why not find some enjoyment to release the tension?

Having sex with a lover allows for uninhibited expression; it's far more pleasurable and exciting than sex with a spouse, and it's also easier to become emotionally aroused!

Between husband and wife—I'm talking about couples under fifty—it's always like the left hand touching the right, no feeling at all. It's always rigidly conventional, requiring gentleness and consideration, monotonous actions, everything done according to procedure. It's mostly the husband fulfilling his obligations to his wife. Men are always creatures who crave novelty, while women are better. A woman can say, "I will love my husband forever, until death," but no man would say such a thing, and even if he did, he wouldn't believe it himself, unless he's a complete coward in every way.

As for couples over fifty, like my parents' generation, I envy their relationship. It's an eternal emotional edifice in my heart. I don't know what family affection will be like when we get old; I can't imagine. Children are always the parents' hope, and parents are always the pillars of their children. For the sake of the children, this pillar cannot tilt. With a lover, I can be tender and gentle, or I can be wanton and unrestrained. Without family responsibilities and the burden of marriage, I can indulge myself and focus solely on the satisfaction of sexual desire. Would you dare touch a prostitute's private parts?

The smell of someone who doesn't shower regularly is unbearable. I've been to karaoke bars, and the smell there made me give up on sex; it felt like a sewer, unapproachable.

Life is so tiring and busy these days. I think everyone, while bearing family responsibilities, craves release and yearns for passion outside of marriage. Even if they don't say it, they think about it. That's why affairs are so popular. As long as it doesn't affect the family, anything can be tried discreetly. Some things can't be had at the same time. After all, it happened once, and that's enough.

Sometimes I think of Sylvia Chang's old song:

"The price paid for love is unforgettable. People always have to learn to grow up. Everyone inevitably experiences pain and struggle. Everyone needs to find a home for their heart. There have been tears and heartbreaks; this is the price of love." Perhaps I'll still think of her occasionally, and I'll still miss him sometimes. I'll treat him like an old friend, someone who makes my heart ache and makes me worry, but there's no longer any spark in my heart. Let the past go with the wind. All the sincere and devoted words remain in my heart, even though he's no longer there.

Li Zongsheng understands women's psychology so well, but is his marriage happy? Didn't he divorce and remarry?

My marriage is just average. My wife isn't my type, but it's not like we'd divorce for sex. That's life. How many families are truly happy?

How many couples are truly satisfied with each other? It's good enough... Sometimes, I believe everything has an end, that meeting and parting both have their time, and that nothing lasts forever. But sometimes, I'd rather choose to linger and not let go, until I've seen all the scenery, maybe then you'll be there to watch the gentle flow of time with me—a simple song, "Red Bean," sung by Faye Wong, becomes a timeless classic, that languid feeling, vaguely pulling you...

over and over again, like listening to philosophy. She interprets the relationship between men and women perfectly, just like my own state of mind.

In truth, we all walk through this world, encountering different strangers every day. Some are merely fleeting meetings, a brief glance, without words or drama. Others linger in our hearts, savoring the warmth we shared—that is the most beautiful kind of encounter, something to be remembered for the rest of our lives. There is no joy at the moment of meeting, nor resentment at parting; it is simply a matter of coming and going.

We stand in the palm of fate, watching the men and women of this world, their lives intertwined with love, anger, sorrow, and resentment. Life is merely a tool of God; the ending is written in His hands. We are simply adding emotions to that cold object. Sometimes I feel lost about my own actions—why am I doing this, knowing it's all in vain? I know women are so different; what good does this do for my marriage?! It

only adds to the sorrow! What a

painful realization! You were once my everything…

Some songs I only understand now!

A long time has passed, and I've finally returned to my old self, living and working as usual, as if nothing had ever happened. But sometimes, when I recall it, there's a bittersweet feeling. After all, we had it. I know there's another woman like that in this world. If I care too much, I'll regret it. Unrestrained love is also full of pain. I don't want to wrong myself in matters of love… I still think about that woman, but she's in someone else's arms. I'd rather give up while I'm still clear-headed. After all, we enjoyed the pure, heartfelt pleasure of sex. Even in old age, we can still remember it and not forget it. That's enough. Like the football goalkeeper Kahn said: "

No matter what, the sun will always rise, and life will always go on!"

I thought I would cry, but I didn't. I just stared blankly at your footsteps, giving you my final blessing. Isn't this a kind of realization, allowing me to see myself clearly, even though the pain of lovelessness is lingering day and night in the deepest part of my soul?

I thought I would seek revenge, but I didn't. When I saw the man I once deeply loved so helpless, like a child, wasn't that a kind of realization? It made me see myself clearly. Being loved is a luxurious happiness, but unfortunately, I never cared!

Listening to Xin Xiaoqi's "Realization" in the quiet of the night calms my restless heart.

There's also a song called "Then Let's Live Well," which perfectly reflects my current state of mind: "The

flowers of yesteryear bloom and fall now.

A hundred times of joy and sorrow are just a sigh.

Separation in this life, reunion in the next.

Ten thousand words of farewell are just a single tear.

Emotions entangle the heart, that's why

flowers bloom beautifully.

Love adorns

memories

that's why the past is so beautiful. So love well,

so live well.

Anyway, flowers bloom and fall,

good and bad, let it be.

So love well,

so live well.

Anyway, people come and go,

but I truly care about him."

After all these experiences, I've also understood a very simple truth: in this world, whoever captures another's heart possesses everything.

Forget it, it's all in the past. Why dwell on fortune and misfortune, gain and loss… My sex drive has always been strong. Now that I understand women, I enjoy the pure pleasure of sex even more. I love oral sex; I love that wonderful feeling, it's purely a matter of passion. Imagine a woman spreading her legs in front of you, showing you her beautiful vulva and alluring anus—is there a more beautiful sight?

I love seeing women moan and writhe passionately under my stimulation, giving me a tremendous sense of conquest and satisfaction. It's the only pleasure in a man's busy life.

I like clean women. They must bathe frequently, especially women, who must be thoroughly cleaned. Because the female genital structure is complex with many folds, you must make sure to open and clean the labia majora and minora, and wash the anus carefully as well. When the mood strikes, I can't help but kiss that area, inserting my tongue.

I've always believed that women are much cleaner or more hygiene-conscious than men. How many Chinese men actually shower daily? I only started showering frequently after my living conditions improved dramatically when I was 28. Most Chinese men are quite dirty, which is largely due to their living conditions. How can people living in hardship possibly enjoy showering?

Women, on the other hand, are relatively better off. Even if they can't shower their whole body, they'll frequently clean their genitals. I've always thought of men as muscular, physically demanding creatures, while women are soft, supple creatures made of materials completely different from men, nestled in a man's arms, yet their ability to absorb a man's energy is astonishing.

From a purely sexual perspective, men are fascinated by a woman's body, while women are not so much fascinated by a man's body, but rather by the charm and intellect of a mature man. As a man myself, I understand why men kiss a woman's entire body so passionately; it's because a woman's body is incredibly alluring in a man's eyes.

What's the psychology behind a woman kissing a man? Men's bodies aren't really that attractive; they're all pretty much the same. Women's bodies, however, are incredibly diverse. If a woman kisses a man's body so passionately or performs oral sex, it's usually out of gratitude or a desire to please him. What kind of smell does a man's body have?

If you don't shower for a day, your skin will taste salty. From my past experiences, I can't believe that a woman's soft body can contain such immense energy, constantly absorbing a man, while a man's seemingly strong body is actually very fragile, lacking sustained energy and stamina. Women, both physically and psychologically, can overcome strength with gentleness. God truly created humans fairly.

Now that I'm more mature, I really think that when having sex with a woman, you shouldn't rush into penetration. It's about the process of conquest, not just the final few seconds of ejaculation.

Say tender things to her, tell her how much you love her, hold her tightly, kiss her lips, and maybe even let her stick out her tongue so you can suck it in and then put your own tongue in her mouth.

I personally enjoy deep kisses, especially during orgasm. Then there's the ears; some women's ears are very sensitive. You can gently scrape them with the tip of your tongue, or hold the earlobe in your mouth, or gently bite it with your teeth. I have a secret technique: sticking my tongue into a woman's ear canal. Women can't resist that. Except for prostitutes, they're already professional players; they're numb and won't feel anything, which is the least exciting thing. Don't look for them for pleasure; there's no sense of conquest or joy there, it's all a transaction.

When kissing a woman, I like to caress her genitals, tease her labia, flick her nipples, rub her breasts, and stroke her soft buttocks. I can also add some footwork, like pinching her toes with my toes or rubbing her calves. Some women really enjoy this.

Usually, a woman will feel something at this point, and you can slowly approach her genitals.

If you want, start with her feet, licking the soles of her feet, sucking on each toe, and finally giving her a deep kiss. I do this with women I like; it's a crazy obsession, purely physical attraction. But I don't do this with my wife. My wife isn't my most satisfying woman, but rather the object of my life.

At this point, gently separate the woman's legs. Usually, women will be a little shy at this time because it is somewhat unnatural for them to fully expose their genitals to you. Therefore, when separating the woman's legs, do not be too hasty or forceful, but be gentle and separate them little by little.

Don't go straight for the genitals and start licking. First, use the tip of your tongue to lick the inside of her thighs, lower abdomen, and around her navel, while gently stroking her soft pubic hair with your hands. Slowly, you'll notice the woman begins to curl up, her legs involuntarily moving, and she might moan. More sensitive women will start to become wet at the vaginal opening. At this point, the woman will actively spread her legs as wide as possible, exposing her entire genitals. There's no need to be shy at this stage; even the slightest initiative from you will excite a man.

When licking, you can start with the genitals. Although the skin is taut, it's extremely sensitive. Use a wet tongue to gently lick this area. If you suddenly use your mouth or tongue to lick and suck on the woman's anus, she'll definitely cry out in excitement.

If you don't like licking a woman's anus like I do, you can kiss upwards to her labia. At this point, some women will produce a lot of vaginal lubrication. You can use your fingers to separate her labia, or you can use your tongue to pry them open. Take one of her labia minora into your mouth and sweep it around with your tongue, sucking on both the inside and outside of the labia. Then switch to the other labia and repeat the process.

If your tongue is long enough, you can insert it into the vagina and stir it around, or use your tongue to thrust in and out of the vagina. Women love this; who doesn't enjoy oral sex?

You can also use your fingers to separate the labia, insert your tongue as deep as possible into the vagina, then push the labia minora and labia majora back, covering the entire inside with your tongue, and then rub her anus with your fingers.

Alternatively, you can lie flat on the bed, elevate your head with a pillow, and have the woman sit on your head while you lick her vulva with your face up. This method of licking the vulva provides a much greater level of stimulation and satisfaction for the woman than having her lie on the bed while you lick her. This position allows the vulva and lips to fully contact each other, and even your nose can rub against the vulva. The woman's vaginal fluid will flow onto your face. Sitting face-to-face, you can caress her breasts and observe her expressions while licking her vulva.

Sitting with her back to me, she could lick my vulva and anus simultaneously, inserting her fingers into my rear end—it was incredibly stimulating. Even as a man, I've had my anus stimulated by a woman I love, and it was a stimulation I'd never experienced before. I was deeply shocked. I felt so good to be a woman; the stimulation of being penetrated was far stronger than the stimulation of penetration itself. Like I said in my previous article:

this was a feeling I'd never had before. I felt incredibly stimulated, a stimulation I'd never experienced before. Especially the deeper she penetrated, the less I could control myself; there was a pleasure I couldn't hold back, and the more I couldn't hold back, the more pleasure I felt. If she hadn't used her fingers to penetrate me deeply this time, I truly wouldn't have experienced that kind of heartfelt orgasm in a woman. A man's orgasm is really just those few seconds before ejaculation.

Actually, what men want is the conquest and satisfaction before ejaculation, the psychological, visual, and physical desires. A woman's orgasm comes from a dual satisfaction of the psychological and physical depths, which is why she moans and explodes like that. The man is merely a tool for stimulation. No man moans incessantly during sex. It's like scratching your ear when it itches—do you think your ear feels better or your finger?

I always thought men experienced greater pleasure than women, but today, after being penetrated, I truly understood what pleasure really meant. It's truly pathetic that I, a man in my thirties, only realized this!

From that moment on, I've enjoyed stimulating a woman's anus. What woman wouldn't enjoy that gentle, harmless stimulation?

Men love it, let alone women!

The pleasure from anal stimulation is unprecedented for both men and women. This might be a major reason why the women I've been with can't forget me, and also why I can't forget my lover.

Next is the clitoris, the most important one.

Remember to wet your fingers.

I usually use saliva or her vaginal lubrication; it must be wet, especially when touching the clitoris. The clitoris itself doesn't secrete any fluid, and it's extremely sensitive.

If your fingers are dry, you can easily hurt it.

When licking the clitoris, be very gentle; I like to use the tip of my tongue.

When you first start licking the clitoris, you can gently touch the tip of the clitoris with the tip of your tongue, then you can use your tongue to flick and tease it up and down and side to side. You can also use your entire tongue to press the clitoris downwards forcefully. Finally,

you can hold the clitoris in your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. Observe the woman's reactions. If she persists, apply more pressure; if she particularly enjoys it, use even more force. Follow her rhythm. If she arches her hips upwards in tension during orgasm, move with her. Your mouth should remain on her clitoris; do not let go.

Additionally, while she is enjoying your clitoral stimulation, gently stroke her pubic hair with your hand, or rub her breasts and tease her nipples.

You can also insert your fingers into her vagina. Make sure your fingers are wet beforehand. Start with one finger and slowly slide it in, gradually increasing the speed and rhythm. Speed up as she needs, and listen to her breathing.

Then you can use two fingers to stimulate the woman's vagina, which can induce ejaculation. I don't know if other men have ever seen a woman ejaculate, but it was my first time. With my two fingers probing and inserting, the woman's vagina sprayed out liquid like a man ejaculating. I was really, really surprised!

Of course, this requires both parties to be extremely satisfied with each other; otherwise, it's difficult. I've only seen my lover do that; it's never happened with anyone else. If the woman likes it, you can also insert your fingers into her anus, but it's best not to insert them too deep because that area is very sensitive. Generally, gently rubbing the anus with your fingers is enough.

Of course, you can also insert two fingers into the vagina and anus simultaneously while licking the clitoris, but the woman must consent, otherwise it will ruin the atmosphere. When she reaches orgasm, you must not let go of her clitoris with your mouth throughout the entire process.

Hold her clitoris in your mouth and don't move. Just suck on it, but don't use your tongue to do anything or touch it. At this time, the clitoris is very engorged and swollen, and extremely sensitive during orgasm. Touching it now is only a way to tease her. Just keep licking and watch her flinch and scream!

Hehe. Keep trying!

Let's all be good men, so we can keep the smiles of the women we love forever!

This is the result of careful experimentation with my favorite lover. I've been with several women since university, so I can say I understand women quite well. University life was about physical urges and sexual release; I didn't have the means or money to properly enjoy sex.

Now that life is better and I'm more mature, it's not just about sexual release but about enjoyment. I keep saying that only with a woman you truly love can you truly want to do that. Love is the foundation of sex; you want everything about her. With her, I experienced a pure sexual pleasure I may never experience again in my life.

I enjoy this kind of pleasure. I was once deeply captivated by women's bodies. Her alluring charm was in no way inferior to that of a certain celebrity. I think there are two kinds of beauties: one is naturally gifted, elegant and graceful, enjoying all kinds of sexual harassment from childhood, showered with affection; the other is not particularly beautiful, but maintains a wild, self-confident, self-respecting, and cultured air, disdaining men's flattery, yet able to win men over with a single move. She belongs to the former. She understands etiquette, her every gesture is graceful and charming. The demands of her profession have become part of her personal style. This is why celebrities are so captivating—because they know how a real woman pleases a man, how to be different from the average slovenly professional or housewife…

So many people are intoxicated by this kind of charm, causing the entanglements of love and hate between men and women in the world. Once you've enjoyed it, don't regret it.

Just like Chow Yun-fat advised Stephen Chow, enjoy life while you're young, otherwise you'll regret it when you're old.

Life is short, I don't want regrets!

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