The first piece written for men

Today I'd like to discuss a profound topic. Due to its length, I'll divide it into two parts. The first is for men, and the second for women. This article will delve into the psychological and behavioral issues of men and the thought-provoking questions arising from social changes. Here, we won't discuss morality , but only how to think about and solve these problems .
Part One : The Internals of the Marriage
1. Cherish your marriage. Nowadays, more and more men are finding it incredibly difficult to find wives. Once married, you must work hard to maintain the relationship. Men, except in cases of extreme disparity, are generally not very selective about women. This is what people often mean when they say, "It's easy for a woman to pursue a man." Don't worry about whether your wife has many problems; after all, it's your own choice. You may not be entirely satisfied with her, but the price a man pays to remarry after a divorce is something he can't afford . How many successful entrepreneurs have become defaulters? Let alone ordinary people like you. Therefore, never divorce unless absolutely necessary.
2. Add some romance to your mundane life . Unless you're a woman worn down by life , most women crave romance. If you live each day as if it's your last , even if you're busy earning money , the final result won't be better than Wang Baoqiang's . Although the Fat Cat incident is regrettable, buying your wife a gift or cooking her a nice meal is still essential.
3. Maintain communication between spouses. The original meaning of this is to avoid a significant gap in the couple's thoughts, perspectives, and opinions. Imagine one person talking about stock market fluctuations while the other talks about the neighbor's sow having eight piglets. How can such a couple live together? While everyone is different, the gap between two people shouldn't be too large. This is especially true for men . Nowadays , the number one thing women are most dissatisfied with in men is their lack of ambition and responsibility. Therefore, maintaining communication and growing together is crucial. In principle, men must maintain a certain advantage over women. For example, you should be more knowledgeable , have a broader perspective , be smarter, and earn more money than your wife . Otherwise, divorce is inevitable.
4. Maintaining Energy in Couples' Sexual Life . One issue is that many men feel their sexual performance declines with age . This requires strengthening cardiovascular function through exercise. Swimming, for example, can effectively improve sexual ability. Simultaneously, incorporating traditional Chinese medicine to nourish the body and maintain vitality is beneficial. It's said that women in their 30s are like wolves, and those in their 40s like tigers. Women's needs are often greater in middle age. If your own performance is poor, you might quickly lose him if an opportunity arises elsewhere. Another issue is the lack of passion , like touching your own left hand with your right , leading to reduced physical activity. Many marriages have even entered a state of sexlessness. Such marriages are prone to either divorce or frequent arguments. A disharmonious family cannot raise a child with a good personality and mental health. This will directly impact the child's future marriage. After all, we don't just live for ourselves; we also have responsibilities .
Part Two: Extramarital Affairs
1. Maintain a man's rationality. Some say that marital problems shouldn't be delved into too deeply, as they all turn out to be a mess. So, in life and work, you might encounter a woman who, by chance, confides in you about her marital unhappiness . You, with your chivalrous nature, can't help but feel protective. But what you don't know is that it might just be a gentle trap set by that woman. For example, this woman might send you a message. She might send a screenshot showing she only has 28 cents left in her WeChat account . Then, she might say to you sadly, "Brother Li, look at the life I'm living! My child's tuition is about to start at 2800 yuan, and I don't even have the money. I'm really suffering."
Even though you haven't finished paying off your credit card , you still couldn't resist sending 2800 yuan to the woman. All you got in return was, "Brother Li, you really understand me." This is just like the female streamer's top male fan. He scrimps and saves, not even willing to buy his wife clothes, yet he gives them away to other women. 380 today, 560 tomorrow. You haven't even touched those thousands of yuan. Aren't you stupid? Aren't you brainless? Shouldn't your wife be your first priority?
2. Maintain your wife's status. Infidelity is no longer uncommon. Please remember, no matter how gentle, outstanding, or even if the woman you're having an affair with is, or how much money or help she provides, you must ensure your wife maintains her status among all other women. There are too many people cheating these days, and it's beyond our control. But to cheat and then torment or even beat your wife is not just a matter of lacking morality, but a complete loss of basic human conscience. Therefore, treating your wife well and giving her sufficient status is not only giving her dignity but also preserving your own conscience.
Part Three: Personal Needs
1. Daily Life Needs. For example, you might want anal sex during sex. Your wife will likely object. This requires patience and some learning. If the first time it's anal sex doesn't hurt or hurts too much, it's not difficult to achieve. For instance, if you want your wife to give you oral sex, many women will refuse, or at least be unwilling. This also requires patience. You need to tell her that penises aren't as dirty as she imagines. Couples need mutual satisfaction to maintain mutual understanding and love. If you do the groundwork, it's not difficult to achieve. Another example is if you love stewed beef , but your wife doesn't always cook it well. You need to patiently explain and communicate, encouraging and praising her. With this, she'll be more attentive in the future. Achieving delicious stewed beef isn't difficult either. With enough patience, care, and understanding, these needs will gradually be met.
2. Special needs within the family. If you want anal sex, and your wife is afraid of the pain, it's still within the realm of daily needs. What about needs outside of daily life? For example, if you and your wife suggest having sex without avoiding the children , this goes beyond your usual interactions, and your wife might question it. She might worry about the negative influence on the children. You'll need to explain the benefits, effects, and purpose to your wife . For instance, explain that children are familiar with sex from a young age, just like eating, sleeping, and watching TV. And as they grow older, they'll gain a deeper understanding of the core principles of marital happiness. This will help them navigate marriage well and ensure their future happiness. If you give your wife sufficient reasons, achieving this isn't difficult.
3. Special needs outside the home. For example, wanting to have a threesome. This is seriously beyond your wife's comprehension. Calling you a pervert is the bare minimum ; she's very likely to give you a severe scolding. Why would a woman refuse?
The first thought is that you no longer love him.
You'll start to dislike him after that .
Thirdly, leaking information is a disgrace.
When a problem lacks any rationale from any angle , anyone would refuse to answer. They might even suspect you have some ulterior motive . I'm telling you that you need to explain the pros and cons .
First, it adds a bit of excitement to a mundane life.
Secondly, it gives my wife a healthier body and mind. Let me explain simply. As people reach middle age, their bodies become stagnant, often damp and cold. Increasing Yang energy activates cells, leading to better skin and overall better health.
Thirdly, most single men won't take advantage of a woman for nothing. They'll give her a red envelope (containing money), whether big or small, as a token of their appreciation. As an adult woman, she doesn't care about being taken advantage of or losing out.
Fourth, because it's a decision made by both spouses without any concealment, it absolutely cannot be equated with infidelity. Not only will their relationship not be affected, but it will actually be strengthened.
When you give him enough reasons and explain the rationale sufficiently, then look at all those couples online who have already succeeded, right? I believe you can succeed too. But here I must offer a friendly reminder.
First, don't just chase thrills . The first time is thrilling, the tenth time is thrilling. If you keep going like this, what thrills will you have left? After a while, even your senses will tire of it. It's not as intense as you imagine.
Secondly, it makes my wife healthier, and that's true . Every family has its share of hardships. When we're young, we're healthy and don't feel them . But as we age, all sorts of illnesses start to appear. However, the vast majority of these illnesses are related to psychological factors. If couples open their hearts to each other, resolve their inner conflicts, and experience strong physical stimulation, then all the blockages will dissipate .
Thirdly, men must maintain a clear head . Women are easily aroused once they reach orgasm. Emotional creatures are prone to losing control. Some men succeed in having sex but lose their marriages. For example, I was chatting with a netizen today. He said his wife frequently meets up with her ex-boyfriend . If you don't want to lose your wife, it's best not to do such things. Always remember, it's just a game. If you let your wife meet with her ex-boyfriend alone again and again, one day when you lose her, you'll regret it immensely.
The next article in our series will focus on women .

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