I never want to meet someone I don't like a second time.

In 2023, I added a friend from a county in Cangzhou in the amusement park. I don't remember who added whom now. Judging from the information, his level is not low, and he is someone who frequents the amusement park. We are the same age. According to the information, I am a few years older than him, and his wife is 10 years younger than him. It is unknown whether she is his second child. After adding him, we chatted with him for about a year. The conversations were not in-depth. Apart from him occasionally showing me some porn and exchanging photos, the information I heard about him was as follows: (1) He owns a factory and also has a house in his hometown (in the countryside); (2) He has a little girl under 10 years old; (3) The height of the man and woman is 170/158; (4) He has no activity experience, but he has met two couples in the local area. One couple is younger, and his wife did not like them, saying that she does not like women under 40; the other couple is the same age, and he said that the other woman's wife thought his wife was too young (is that true?). Before this, I thought that since he owns a factory, he should be financially and morally decent. The couple's photos also showed that they were good-looking.
In November 2023, I went to Huanghua on business. On my way back, I passed through Cangzhou and sent him my location at a service area. He asked me what I was going to do and said, "Brother, come over again and let's meet up." I replied that I could.
I was quite busy after the Spring Festival this year and didn't bring up the idea of meeting up. Then, around April, I learned during a chat that he had undergone minor surgery. I happened to be going to Huanghua, and I thought that although we hadn't met in person, we'd been chatting for almost a year, so I should visit him and bring my wife along. I told him my idea, and he replied that it was okay. After I set a date to go, he texted me saying, "Brother, let's wait a few more days." So I gave up on the idea and went to Huanghua anyway.
The point here is why we had to go to his place instead of them coming to him. It's because he said his child is still young and he has to pick him up and drop him off at school, so he can't leave.
In early May, he texted me asking when it would be convenient to meet. I replied that it was fine, but I needed to discuss it with my wife first, as I was a bit busy these days. My plan was to go to Shandong after the meeting. After agreeing with my wife, I asked if the weekend was okay. He replied that it was. On Friday, I asked if tomorrow was okay. He replied, "Brother, you originally said Sunday, but I have plans for tomorrow (Saturday). How about the day after tomorrow (Sunday)?" I said, "I said the weekend, not specifically Sunday." After thinking about it, I agreed to Sunday. On Saturday, he didn't text me all day, and he didn't reply to my messages either. The last voice message I sent him that day was: "Brother, if you're busy, we can meet again in a few days, no rush." Still no reply. The next day, my wife and I got up early to prepare to leave. Because we had things arranged in Shandong, we had to go even though he hadn't replied (we even made some preparations in case he texted us to meet). We didn't contact each other during the journey. Two days later, he suddenly messaged me, saying that he and his wife had a little argument, and even made his wife (I'm not sure) send a voice message on QQ, implying that she had hidden the phone and her husband didn't know. I was furious and thought, "Is he playing me? Does his wife even agree? Is he lying?" I stayed in Shandong for the next few days, and chatted with him a couple of times, but didn't mention meeting again. I was already quite annoyed with him, even though we hadn't met.
A few days after returning from Shandong, I received another message from him saying that his wife had seen our chat history and wanted to meet us. Although I was unhappy, I figured I was going to Huanghua anyway, so I agreed and set a date. That morning, my wife and I got ready and texted him before leaving to say we were leaving. He replied: Okay. We drove in silence until 11 a.m. when we reached the highway exit. I asked where we were going, and he said he'd find a place (I mean, he hadn't even decided on a meeting place). It was a hot day, so I drove to a slightly shady spot behind a building to wait. After almost an hour, my wife and I were getting impatient, and she was about to leave. Around noon, he texted to say to go to the food court on the 5th floor of the ** Shopping Mall and sent us his location. We went there, parked, and took the elevator to the 5th floor (he didn't even pick us up downstairs). We found them by voice call; they were waiting at a bibimbap stall. When I met the man, I shook his hand, and he seemed a bit flustered. When we went in, his wife had her back to us and was already eating her bibimbap. I went up to greet her. The couple looked quite different from their photos. The wife was rather young, plump, and not exactly pretty; the husband was unkempt, dark-skinned, and thin, looking like he worked under the sun all day. I immediately thought his wife probably wouldn't even look at him. Thinking about his behavior before and during our meeting, I realized we were completely on different wavelengths, and I regretted coming all this way. There wasn't much else to eat at the time. The husband asked what we wanted to eat. Not eating felt impolite, but we didn't really have much of an appetite. There were five kinds of bibimbap to choose from. His wife had already ordered, and the three of us ordered separately. Seeing the husband scanning the order code and scrolling through his phone, unsure what to order, I said I'd do it. His wife chimed in, saying he'd been here before and knew. The husband replied, "This is my first time here..." (This...). In the end, his wife ordered. The food stall was slow to serve; one person's food was served while others waited. During this time, I tried to make conversation with the man, bringing up several topics, but we couldn't find anything to talk about, and the atmosphere became awkward. His wife, aside from eating, just kept her head down playing on her phone, showing no enthusiasm whatsoever. When the food arrived, my wife and I each ate a few bites and stopped (it wasn't just the taste that bothered us). His wife probably went to the restroom or something, and when she returned, my wife said, "Let's go, they're busy," so the four of us got up. The man then said to his wife, "Add your wife on WeChat." My wife glanced at me; I knew she was reluctant. While the two women were fiddling with WeChat, I said, "It's a bit awkward meeting you all for the first time." His wife replied, "No, not at all" (didn't the man say he'd met two couples before?). Just a few steps from the stall was an escalator, but they stopped at the escalator entrance and didn't move. We continued looking for the elevator. The two of them neither saw me off nor went downstairs together. They simply waved goodbye to each other. After I went downstairs, I sent him a message: "Thanks, bro."
Two days after I got back, the guy blocked me without leaving any message. I guess that's all the kind of person he is.
In general, this couple's appearance, temperament, education, manners, outlook, and financial situation are all questionable, and they have repeatedly made people uncomfortable. The man may only be interested in sex; he has been hesitant about meeting her, and his claim of having met two couples is likely a lie. He hasn't convinced his wife, at least not very well; yet this man still wants his wife to add him on WeChat.
Fellow netizens, you can probably learn some lessons from this, so you won't feel nauseous when you think about it later.

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