Update—Developing a 46-year-old married woman—Last time we talked about what we couldn't do, this time let's talk about what we can do.

Last time, I shared my experience and lessons learned from a challenging development. The previous article is at the end; I'll update you regularly with updates.
This time, I want to report on the current status. Through several thoughtful WeChat conversations, I've broken through the wife's defensiveness. With women of this age who haven't experienced threesomes or infidelity, you must be gentle and patient. Show your sincerity and emotional value. We've now entered the video chat stage. If all goes well, we should be able to meet offline in about a week, or perhaps add some more intimate actions during the video chat.
The previous article highlighted the difficulty of this project: the lack of internal cooperation from the husband. Because a castle is always easiest to breach from within. Without internal cooperation, you need to patiently wait for the right opportunity. This time, I mainly used compliments and gentle conversation, adding resonance with issues faced by people my age. I also used my humor and knowledge to showcase my value. So, this development has essentially become a one-sided pursuit. The fun lies in watching the wife's transformation gradually. Here
are some suggestions:
1. To develop a middle-aged wife, the best strategy is for the husband to directly lead, with a single man providing assistance. The best strategy is for the single man to lead the pace and create opportunities, with the husband assisting. The worst strategy is for the single man to completely dominate, because the wife is filled with anxiety and uncertainty at this time.
2. The pace of online chat should be slow, and when there is an opportunity, quickly transition to an offline meeting. Create some conflict and excuses.
3. Whether the husband brings the wife or the wife is alone, the first choice for the offline meeting is a different city, using tourism as an excuse. Because in unfamiliar environments, people will subconsciously want to try and accept things they cannot accept normally. Once you break through once, it will be smoother later.
In the last article:
I met a guy through the 69 forum. He said he really wanted to see what his wife was like under another man. He always thought his wife was very sexy, agreeing to anything during orgasm. He also encouraged her to go out and find someone, and even helped her find someone, but without success. Several people he recommended were deleted. I thought I'd just chat and see, since the guy was so honest, I should give it a try. But I realized I underestimated the difficulty.

Here's a reminder for friends who want to develop their wives: How to introduce a single man is a very important step. Because a good start is half the battle. In other words, a bad start basically determines the outcome.

Based on my own experience and many posts from experts on the forum, a crucial factor in a wife's willingness to travel with her husband is her trust in him, coupled with her own curiosity!

Therefore, the husband's role in this process is extremely important. However, I happened to encounter a guy who completely ignored me.

He immediately gave me a WeChat contact and told me to add him myself, repeatedly instructing me not to say he gave it to me. This was difficult; how could I explain where I got the WeChat? He insisted it was from someone his wife had previously deleted. I said that wasn't a good idea; if someone deleted someone, they must not like them. I suggested he arrange for us to have a meal together first, saying we were old friends, and then I could casually add him on WeChat. He disagreed. In the end, I had no choice but to add him. As expected, his wife immediately and sternly asked where I got the WeChat. I explained it according to his reasoning. Of course, she wasn't satisfied; I'd been added on WeChat by a stranger out of the blue. Did she know me or not? So, I had to awkwardly continue the conversation.

We chatted for two or three days, starting with casual conversations about daily life, kids, and work. One weekend, when people are generally more relaxed, we used drinking as an excuse to discuss some more explicit topics, like sharing my past sexual experiences with older women. This finally lowered my sister-in-law's guard a bit. She started discussing things like duration and weapon length. But... a lot of it was just talk. Because of the unclear status of our relationship, progressing to meeting in person is extremely difficult. It

's been over ten days now. My brother keeps saying my sister-in-law is greedy and that I could send her red envelopes (cash gifts). To try and improve things, I've been sending her red envelopes every day. I've suggested having dinner together again, but she still refuses. I feel like we've really hit a roadblock. Unless some extraordinary external event happens to trigger her emotions, it's hard to take things any further using our current methods. I've repeatedly tried to communicate with my brother, but without any helpful responses. I'm truly experiencing the helplessness of being raised by a single parent. I feel like a huge, resentful person.

So, here are a few lessons learned:
1. If a husband wants his wife to accept going out with him, he must play his role well in guiding her. He should at least be there for her, making her feel that he's doing it for her happiness, so she won't feel guilty. Otherwise, the wife will have a lot of psychological burden and won't make any progress.
2. Unless you want to cultivate your wife to have no interest in you at all, the kind that leads to infidelity. But that's pointless. It's a complete family crisis. This isn't recommended for single men either; it will cause problems.
3. Under normal circumstances, most women have relatively sound values and are almost impossible to easily mold into a submissive type. We're not going out to destroy someone's normal mindset. So, ultimately, cooperation between husband and wife is crucial when going out. Single men are more about support and adding to the enjoyment. No matter what, a responsible and reliable man is always the most welcome.

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