My views and personal understanding on couples making friends (summary)

As of the time I finish writing this article, I have had brief conversations with over two hundred single men, and more than a dozen in-depth conversations with them, as well as over a dozen married couples.
As for why a suitable one wasn't found, there are two main reasons.
1. My wife currently does not agree to me having relationships with other women, but we can discuss it first. If I truly meet a couple who are particularly compatible, share the same views, and are kindred spirits, my wife might consider it.
2. My wife values looks; she doesn't need to be extremely handsome, but she does need to have regular features. She also likes to cultivate a romantic connection; she doesn't want just casual sex, she prefers something with a romantic element. This is something I agree with, as she's very curious about romance, and people should be willing to try things out instead of suppressing their curiosity. However, most of the young, handsome single men I've met seem to lack manners or patience. Those who are patient and well-mannered are generally in their 35s or 40s, which doesn't fit my wife's aesthetic. So this is a bit of a dilemma. But I believe in the saying, "Those destined to meet will find each other even from afar; those not destined will not meet even face to face." I believe my destined one is on their way.
3. Our perspective on this matter is based on an article I posted on another social media platform.
I've shared my personal views on this matter with many friends in the industry. I believe that in couples seeking friendship, the primary focus should be on the emotional connection, not the physical. I've told them I dislike the term "wife swapping," as it feels like wives are being exchanged like objects. I prefer the concept of "friendship," where we understand each other's preferences, habits, and thoughts on equal footing. In my idealized version, couples seeking friendship are about both partners integrating into each other's lives, going shopping, dining, traveling together, exchanging experiences, and sharing stories. The goal is to become friends; whether or not they take the final step is ultimately less significant.
After all, physical intimacy is the ultimate outcome of a couple's relationship, not the beginning of it.
This viewpoint was naturally ridiculed by many netizens.
"You're dreaming. Who has time to play with you?"
"You think everyone has as much free time as you?"
"You were just hooking up, and you actually took it seriously!"
"Don't even think about it. We're wearing masks when we meet, how can you expect us to go shopping together? Everyone needs privacy."
During this process of searching for our destined partner, my wife and I have also been changing our mindset and thoughts. Our thoughts are sometimes like flowing clouds and water, sometimes like ripples on the waves, sometimes turbulent, and sometimes calm...
I will update my dating process when I have more free time. Thank you for reading and for your feedback.

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