The quality of sincerity

Today I want to talk about a phrase many people use, whether dismissively or seriously: "quality."
Everyone has a different understanding of this word. Some say quality refers to appearance, looks, wealth, and background.
What we do may not be related to wealth or background, but there are subtle connections between them.
We belong to another group, "some people," because the quality we emphasize is politeness, etiquette, cultivation, temperament, elegance in behavior, and the kind of refinement cultivated by family environment and background.
Interestingly, some couples have debated with us about quality. They believe quality is unnecessary because everyone is the same in bed; everyone seeks wild stimulation, so why bother with so much politeness? Do you need politeness during that kind of activity? Just do it. We agree with
part of their point, but we disagree that politeness without considering the time, place, or behavior is not quality at all.
What we consider good manners is knowing when to do what, knowing how to behave appropriately, being tactful, having refined tastes, understanding emotions, and being reasonable. Maintaining politeness while sweating profusely isn't satisfying, but if someone doesn't even understand basic manners from the start, why should we engage in wild activities with them?
This is related to our experiences, our current environment, and most likely, our own characteristics.
Our upbringing was relatively strict, and we're just starting out. Perhaps what we need right now is someone who maintains politeness, keeps us on good terms, behaves elegantly and gracefully, doesn't make us feel repelled, and ultimately, leads to a "story," not someone who immediately bombards us with questions like, "What positions do you like?" or "What I like most about women is this and that," or "How long can I last?" These are meaningless. They only demonstrate excessive ulterior motives or low manners.
We have our own characteristics, which I think indicate the type of friends and partners we want. My husband and I don't have very strong desires. He's not the kind of animalistic, wild man who pounces on any woman he sees, and I'm not an unsatisfied woman who wants to be dominated by any man she meets. Our life is harmonious; we deeply love each other. We only seek psychological stimulation, and there are no physiological problems between us.
This is why we value, advocate, and aspire to good manners. Things develop gradually. Our desires aren't enough to make anyone we meet immediately engage in sexual activity. Our interactions are at most like a "story film."
If you and your partner are good to each other, we are destined to have many stories unfold, not just some stories when we first meet.
It's a matter of sequence, a layered process, a universal law of development.
You can call us freaks, you can call us different, you can even call us mentally ill. We don't mind.
As I said before, we want things to happen, but only with people who give us positive feelings or meet our requirements, not just anyone or any couple. We respect you, and we hope you can understand and respect us in return.
I've digressed a bit, but in short, the factors that attract us are quite simple: an appearance that aligns with our unique aesthetic standards, good manners and speech, and good character. Regarding our impression of character, I've already explained it at the beginning.
There's another very interesting issue, and it's quite common. In conversations with couples, when we try to get the wife's opinion, there's often no follow-up.
Many husbands choose based on their own preferences. When they see a couple where the woman meets their requirements, they want to have sex, completely ignoring their wives' feelings. They treat their wives merely as tools for their own arousal, as if they were a means to have sex with another woman, utterly disregarding their wives' wishes.
Perhaps this is what's called "exploitation"—a woman's emotions far outweigh her reason. A woman can obey, blindly follow, and conform. But husbands, have you ever considered that when your wife is being dominated by someone she doesn't consider worthy, while you're enjoying the company of a woman you find attractive, have you ever thought about your wife's possible reluctance, her nausea, and her desire for it to end quickly? Is your wife simply numb from experiencing this many times before?
We use extreme actions to protect our love, and husbands like this are testing that love.
Saying this is to clarify our stance: marital friendships involve four people. It's not something two husbands can do on a whim; all four need to feel good about each other, have positive feelings, and mutually approve before anything can happen. Please respect your spouse; this is respect for your relationship and marriage, and also respect for your own dignity.
Moderation in friendships is crucial. When we express these views, some may argue that this is no different from dating and will destroy the family.
The approach is actually quite simple. We don't need to be together every day, nor do we need to do anything frequently. We're passionate, yet reserved. We won't be constantly together, but we know what we're doing, why we're doing it, and what the foundation of our actions is. Everything stems from the deep affection and unparalleled trust between us as a couple.
This is our way: we demand things of each other while protecting ourselves.
If you approach us with the intention of mating, we might respect you, but there's a very low chance of anything happening between us. If you approach us with the intention and attitude of friendship, and it comes to mating, we will definitely not disappoint you. We, as a couple, will show you what true mating is.
To sum it up: we are a couple seeking quality friendships, not couples engaging in indiscriminate mating. Please think carefully before contacting us.

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