Our principles for making friends

If you or someone who is open to dating, please carefully read the following requirements. If you believe you meet our requirements, we can try to communicate slowly and honestly to find common ground. If you don't meet them, there's no need to continue contacting each other, as we don't want meaningless and fruitless chatter to avoid wasting each other's time. Everything has rules, and we hope everyone is sincere, friendly, and abides by them. Only genuine and sincere people create and follow rules; those who lack sincerity trample on them. Playing the dating game without following the rules will only lead to endless trouble. If you dislike or disregard rules, please look elsewhere. I never deal with people who break the rules. Please understand, and I wish you good luck in finding your own happiness! 1. Must have a college degree or above. I find it hard to imagine having good communication with a couple or single man lacking cultural refinement. 2. Must be a white-collar worker or above with a formal job. I do not associate with unemployed people, petty criminals, or migrant workers. I don't discriminate against anyone, but I feel insecure dating these three types of couples or single men. 3. I require the man to be bald, have a healthy physique and complexion, and a decent appearance and demeanor. I strongly dislike slovenly men and women who are unkempt and don't care about their appearance. 4. I require the woman to be between 25 and 40 years old. The man's height should be between 170cm and 185cm, and his weight between 120 and 165 catties. The woman's height should be between 158cm and 170cm, and her weight between 90 and 125 catties. The same requirements apply to single men. [Therefore, those gentlemen and ladies who pride themselves on being skinny will have to look elsewhere, because my husband and I don't agree that being skinny is beautiful, haha.] 5. Although we are a couple looking for online friends, we do not rule out accepting excellent single men who meet our principles. [In principle, we do not accept married single men because we are worried that their wives might come online and cause a scene, crying, making a scene, or threatening suicide. Our friends have experienced this kind of pointless farce, so we are afraid of getting involved in marital discord.] 6. I am not looking for single women. There are all sorts of people online, and a friend of mine had a bad experience of having her bag, phone, and other valuables stolen by a single man while she was showering. Therefore, from a personal safety perspective, please refrain from asking new strangers who constantly request to meet up. I do not accept invitations for one-on-one dates from men who have not had any real-life interactions with my spouse. However, I will consider accepting one-on-one invitations from men who have already interacted with my spouse in real life, provided that my husband is not available. This is also the bottom line of our agreement. 7. We do not want to associate with people who live too far away and are only looking for casual online chats for wishful thinking, because there is no real meaning to the interaction, so we do not want to engage in meaningless and fruitless chats. However, we generally don't accept single men from the same city, because we're afraid of encountering people of low character who could cause harassment and future problems in our lives. Therefore, we prioritize making friends along the Kaifeng-Xi'an area. We're looking for excellent couples and excellent single men with whom we can have long-term relationships and frequent meetings. 8. We require our partners to have excellent physical characteristics, refined skills, be rugged but not rude, wild but not thuggish; have endurance, be cultured, sincere, honest, and friendly; be able to understand women's feelings, appreciate romance, and be good at creating an atmosphere. I strongly dislike men who are dull and rarely speak. Ideally, our partners should have experience with swapping and threesomes, as this facilitates communication. It's difficult to communicate with someone without experience, and I have no interest in answering their endless questions, nor am I obligated to tell them what to do or not to do. [Additionally, I want to state: I don't engage in pornography or SM games. To prevent accidents and be responsible for both parties, condoms must be used during sex. Apart from these three points, any other form of sex is fine.] 9. A man should be generous, not a miser. If you can't even feed yourself and live a meager life, then you shouldn't be out socializing. I advise you to save your travel and hotel expenses for a comfortable life. As the saying goes, "When people are well-fed and warm, they think of lust," but I despise men who lavishly spend money on women. These nouveau riche types are the least cultured and least secure. I'm not a prostitute, and I'm not short of money. There's no need for you to flaunt your wealth like a nouveau riche in front of me. I greatly admire and respect men who are generous without being extravagant, and frugal without being stingy. 10. We strongly dislike those who don't communicate beforehand, only contact others at the last minute, and impulsively message them to arrange meetings. These are the most tasteless men, and I have no respect for them. After all, humans aren't animals; people need feelings, especially in romantic relationships. And feelings come from frequent, honest, friendly, and humorous communication and interaction in the early stages. If you struggle to communicate effectively even online, and can't find the right feeling or reason to meet in person, what's the point of even meeting in person? Many couples complain about their unsuccessful online dating experiences, saying they didn't feel good afterward. That's treating themselves like animals. Meeting without honest and friendly communication, without understanding the other person's personality and habits, without even seeing their photos or videos, and not even knowing what they look like—it's like mating with an animal. How can there be any feeling?! For me, let alone sex, even sitting together for tea would be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable. Therefore, we never accept invitations to meet without prior communication. Nor do we act like some couples who agree to meet, go to great lengths to invite the other person over for a meal or tea, only to realize afterward that they don't feel anything and then make excuses like being on their period, standing them up. Why didn't they do that earlier?! Why not communicate with the other person beforehand before arranging a meeting?! This prevents the other person from coming from afar excitedly only to leave disappointed. We usually avoid meeting in person, so when we do meet, there's no awkwardness or estrangement; we interact easily and pleasantly like old friends, with both sides eager to get closer and embrace. This is why the other person might come from afar full of passion, only to leave with a sense of reluctance. This is because we emphasize frequent, honest, friendly, and humorous communication and exchange beforehand. Therefore, our friendships are always very successful. We never engage in one-night stands or casual sex; we become close friends with those we've met, maintaining regular contact and meeting up often. 11. Couples and single men who meet the above requirements, if sincere, please send a recent, clear full-body photo. As a reciprocal gesture, I will also send you a real photo. Then, we can arrange a time for video verification before deciding on further communication. [Video verification can only be done on weekends or evenings; other times are not suitable for video calls at work.] Once a relationship is established, especially for single men seeking friendship, please communicate more with my husband at appropriate times. I hope you men can become friends and buddies. I cannot imagine how awkward and unpleasant it would be for two men to hang out if they don't communicate well or are complete strangers. Only when men are harmonious can there be a good process and atmosphere. Our friendships are not primarily driven by sexual satisfaction, but rather by seeking a thrilling and passionate connection. When I see my beloved husband or wife intimately with someone else, my psychological and physiological feelings already surpass my sexual needs. If it were merely about seeking physical satisfaction, I wouldn't need an exchange; my husband can fully satisfy me. Although we have been married for 10 years, it doesn't prevent us from pursuing and yearning for a different kind of human connection. With stable jobs and growing children, today's middle-aged couples crave a higher quality of spiritual life. While family affection continues to grow, passion is gradually fading. Couples know each other too well, losing the freshness and mystery of the past. A sense of aesthetic fatigue has set in intimacy and marriage. Therefore, we chose to promptly reflect on and eliminate the signs of fatigue and boredom in our relationship, and to reclaim what we had gradually lost… Our relationship is very good! Couples with poor relationships only fight their own battles! They will never share the most beautiful thing in the world… What we need is a different level of understanding, and this level can only be experienced firsthand. 12. We hope our partners will abide by the rules of the game, strictly distinguish between love and friendship, lovers and husbands, and sex and love, and not affect each other's lives and families. Although we haven't been dating for long, through communication, we have met and interacted with excellent couples and single men. We never engage in one-night stands or casual sex games. Those we have actually dated have become good brothers and sisters, and we keep in touch regularly. Therefore, we highly value each other's character, integrity, and genuine friendliness, especially a good mindset in our interactions. Finally, I need to clarify that this article is not my original work, but the feelings described in it are very similar to those of my spouse and me. I have only made appropriate modifications based on our requests. If the original author sees this, please accept my gratitude. Thank you for expressing what we wanted to say, and I hope you will not blame me for using your copyright without your permission.

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