Principles of making friends

When it comes to couples seeking partners, I think many couples, like us, have many thoughts and confusions. It's hard to find a suitable partner, and even harder to find a suitable single man, sometimes to the point of exhaustion. Therefore, to help you understand us more quickly and better, please forgive any offense caused by the following text.
Regarding the purpose and acceptable methods of

couples engaging in online friendships: After many years together, the passion in their sex life gradually fades, and they crave some novelty to spice things up. There are many reasons why couples might engage in online friendships. As a husband myself, I can analyze the following scenarios from the husband's perspective:

1. The couple is deeply in love, trusts each other, and has a good sex life, but the husband hopes to provide his wife with more experiences and different things, entirely out of love for her.
2. The couple is deeply in love, trusts each other, but the wife has strong desires, and the husband feels unable to satisfy her needs, so he hopes to provide her with more experiences, also out of love for her.
3. The husband has a cuckoldry complex, hoping to see his wife intimately involved with other men, gaining significant psychological stimulation.
4. The husband has gradually lost interest in his wife, or due to male nature, he wants to try other women but doesn't want to or can't do it secretly, so he brings his wife along, primarily for his own experience with other women.
5. The husband is purely driven by a desire for personal gain or curiosity, using online friendships as a pretext, but is actually a single man whose wife has never agreed to it or even discussed this with her.

Depending on their mindset, husbands are more accepting of different approaches. Most husbands exhibit a mixture of two or more mindsets:

1. Husbands with the first three mindsets can accept three people, exchanges, or even more. 2.
Husbands with the latter two mindsets are only willing to accept exchanges, not three people.
3. There's another type: although they have the first three mindsets, they feel they're losing out by bringing their wives out for a three-person outing, so they can only accept exchanges, not three people.
*We: We are a mixture of the first and third mindsets, therefore we accept three people, exchanges, or even more.

Note: I'm only analyzing from the husband's perspective, not considering the wife's mindset and the resulting acceptable approaches. Perhaps the husband agrees to three people, but the wife disagrees; this situation is not included in my analysis. I'm not judging the right or wrong of any mindset; each mindset has its significance. I'm simply clarifying our marital attitude at the end.
Regarding criteria for choosing a partner,

every couple has varying degrees of standards. Some are more reserved, saying "just someone I feel a connection with is fine," while others are more open-minded, considering factors like height, weight, age, abilities, age, build, and duration of commitment. Regardless, it's essential to respect each other's standards. Everyone is there to enjoy life, and it's normal for the other person to have requirements. There's no right or wrong, good or bad, between couples, only compatibility. So, if one partner has few requirements and is simply pleasing to the eye, while the other has more specific requirements, leading to a lack of connection, that's perfectly normal. If you can't connect, it's best to simply laugh it off and move on, rather than resorting to harsh words or blaming the other for being so demanding. What

I really wanted to say is that my husband and I have relatively clear standards. We've had couples ask us, "We're not looking for a partner, why are you making such a fuss?" We just laugh it off. If you don't like someone, how can you be fully engaged in such private matters?

Okay, our measurements are: 32/31, 173/165, 65/55 (March 2016 data). Our criteria for choosing a partner are:

1. Age: Under 40 years old, single men under 38.
2. Physique: The husband should not appear shorter than the wife, not too thin, can be muscular but not obese, and the wife should not be overweight.
3. Appearance: The husband should be handsome, sunny, and stylish, possessing at least one of these qualities; the wife should be gentle, beautiful, and generous.
4. Hobbies: Shared hobbies provide more topics for conversation, facilitating a quick connection. We, as a couple, have wide-ranging interests, including independent travel, road trips, photography, movies, music, food, sports, etc. The wife's hobbies include shopping and dressing up.
5. Values: We are law-abiding, avoid trouble, love our families, respect the elderly and care for the young, and are compassionate. We hope to enjoy life and try different experiences in our limited youth, not wanting to regret not having dared to do anything when we're old. We have a decent financial foundation and don't like being ripped off, nor do we want to cut corners on everything. We enjoy a comfortable lifestyle and never stay in budget hotels; we prefer at least four-star hotels and stylish, unique establishments. Therefore, we hope our potential partners are the same.
Sixth, in bed: The husband doesn't require exceptional length, girth, or duration; normal is fine. However, he must respect women and prioritize his wife's feelings over his own. The wife should be open-minded, open-minded, open-minded (I'm saying it three times because it's important). As for the actual boundaries in bed, such as what's permissible and what's not, we'll discuss that privately when we reach that stage.
Seventh, other: I enjoy taking photos of my wife looking beautiful, especially her beautiful feet and legs, short skirts, stockings, and high heels. We often take these intimate photos to commemorate our youth. If you share this interest, we'll give you priority consideration. Of course, the safety of the photos is paramount; we will never include photos showing her face or other distinctive features. Furthermore, respecting and caring for women is our fundamental principle. We prefer to arouse desire and stir deep-seated longings; we favor engaging in romantic and sophisticated activities rather than simply stripping and having sex like animals. To put it simply, we prefer a thrilling, arousing experience to the fleeting pleasure of a few seconds. For single men, because we share similar mindsets, communication is easier and we can better understand each other's psychology. Therefore, we don't mind if the husband in a marriage is single, but sincerity is crucial.
Regarding the methods of making friends
, we, as couples, have some basic principles, ranked in order of importance: safety, health, sincerity, and compatibility. Following this principle, we have our preferred methods of making friends, proceeding in order. If we reach a point where it doesn't feel right, we won't continue to avoid wasting each other's time and energy:

1. QQ Chat: We usually meet through QQ, starting with text chat to get to know each other's basic information;
2. Sending Photos: We send each other photos on QQ to see if we meet each other's requirements. Even married couples might not be considered; single men must first send three photos clearly introducing themselves...
3. Meeting Up: When both feel it's a good fit, we arrange a time to meet, something as simple as a meal, tea, or karaoke;
5. Activities: If both feel it's a good fit, we'll do something after the meal, or arrange another time for an activity.

We refuse to ask for photos or video calls immediately, and we refuse to accept requests like "Are you free tonight?" from people we've barely chatted with. We never have time for that, sorry.
In closing:

To those who don't meet our standards, please understand. As I mentioned earlier, there's no right or wrong, no good or bad, just incompatibility. We apologize for any negative emotions this may have caused you. After saying all this, some people might think we're being pretentious, as if we're doing something extraordinary. Actually, we're very ordinary; we just hope that couples can avoid many detours and waste less time on their journey to finding a suitable partner. We wish all couples loving and harmonious relationships, and happy and healthy families!
Welcome to any couples or single men who are still interested in getting to know us after reading this long message. Our location is 0411. You can send us a private message or add us on QQ (please include your ID, address, and identity).

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