Three common misconceptions about sex in modern men and women

I. Overly Narrow Understanding of Sexual Life
: In marital sex, while male ejaculation is inevitable, it is neither the entirety of sex nor its primary goal. Sexual life is a vehicle for expressing love. It must include a preparatory psychological phase, and the quality of the outcome largely depends on the appropriateness and sufficiency of this preparation.
Some husbands view their physiological processes as primary and unchangeable, often resulting in overly hasty, rough, and simplistic actions. Among urban couples in China, one-quarter have never kissed each other, and more than half have never had a deep kiss; 41%-53% never touch their wives. Yet, simultaneously, 83% consider their marriages very satisfactory or relatively satisfactory.
II. Overemphasizing the Role of Sexual Techniques:
In specific situations for certain couples, extremely appropriate sexual techniques can have beneficial effects. However, we must not forget that sexual techniques require four fundamental prerequisites: First, both partners must be absolutely willing and genuinely need it. Otherwise, it not only violates the other's personal dignity but also causes psychological harm to both parties, and will certainly not produce good results. Second, the couple's relationship must be quite good. Third, both partners must have a very consistent level of sexual knowledge and attitudes. Fourth, the sexual techniques used must have undergone rigorous scientific testing and proven their applicability in clinical medicine. Any inconsistency in the couple's feelings and knowledge, any hearsay or superficial understanding, will have the opposite and adverse effect on sexual techniques.
Most importantly, sexual techniques themselves cannot create love and care, nor can they facilitate sufficient communication and exchange. In China, at least half of wives neither desire nor appreciate their husbands' sexual techniques. They particularly resent their husbands treating them as tools or a stage for men to use or perform on. In such cases, couples will only grow increasingly distant, indifferent, and even conflicted.
All happy couples know that the highest and most universal sexual technique is not actually about actions but about the heart—pouring and condensing as much genuine affection, attachment, intimacy, and care as possible into sexual intercourse.
III. Overemphasizing the frequency and number of sexual encounters .
There is a prevailing opinion among men that the more sexually active a man is, the more qualified and masculine he is; and the more satisfied and happy his wife will be. Conversely, husbands who have fewer sexual encounters are often labeled as incapable of satisfying (or managing) their wives, and are considered unmanly.
However, most wives don't see it that way. According to a survey of 1279 couples in 31 major cities (all figures below are based on this survey), 78% of wives value emotional connection more than sex. Compared to the sheer frequency of sex, 85% of wives prioritize quality over quantity (how many orgasms the wife experiences).
Men's sexual activity isn't necessarily better the more they have. Between the ages of 30 and 35, more than half of husbands experience a subtle shift in their sexual needs, moving from a need for quantity to a pursuit of quality, hoping for deeper emotional connection and experience.
Therefore, if a man believes that frequency is the primary, or even the sole, measure of marital harmony, he is likely to make two behavioral mistakes.
First, he may ignore or deny his wife's emotional needs, simplifying sex into a series of actions, which can severely damage his wife's personality and emotions.
Secondly, he might unknowingly increase his psychological burden. Once he gets older, or encounters special circumstances that prevent him from maintaining what he considers a high frequency, he might suspect he has erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, fear letting his wife down, and even doubt or despair about his entire personality and life goals. As a result, the more strong he tries to be, the less resilient he becomes to unexpected events.
In reality, the frequency of a man's sexual activity is basically determined by his physiological condition and age, which is similar across all ethnic groups worldwide. Moreover, almost every man experiences periods of less and more sexual activity throughout his life; there's no question of "how many times" is appropriate. A man's sexual charm lies primarily in his mature personality, his understanding and generous nature, and his deep and unwavering emotions. If he neglects these aspects of self-cultivation and instead focuses solely on or boasts about the frequency of sex, then he will find it difficult to escape the misconceptions surrounding sexual activity.
In fact, the frequency of a man's sexual activity is basically determined by his physiological condition and age, which is similar across all ethnic groups worldwide. Moreover, almost every man experiences periods of less and more sexual activity throughout his life; there's no question of "how many times" is appropriate. A man's sexual charm primarily lies in his mature personality, his understanding and generous nature, and his deep and unwavering emotional commitment. If he neglects these aspects of self-cultivation and instead focuses solely on or boasts about the frequency of sex, he will struggle to avoid common pitfalls in his sex life.

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