2017-04-13 17:05:46

Looking to add: a sunny, handsome, and well-mannered single man under 30 years old, for backup.

2017-04-25 18:40:45

If you can accept that person being your wife's lover, provided it doesn't affect your marriage, then your wife might be able to accept it.

西部营地

2017-05-06 12:08:51

I've been through the same thing as you; I went from being angry to now wishing she would contact her ex-lover.

69lyxr

2017-05-14 22:09:29

Actually, you're just a hypocrite!

咋个弄？

2017-05-17 18:17:49

Reply to 69lyxr: I'm not just a hypocrite. The main issue is that they all knew each other, and my wife's other former colleagues had vague suspicions about their relationship. Most importantly, they were playing with each other's feelings, to the point that our relationship became very cold and distant during that time. It was during this period of mutual indifference that I discovered it. If I hadn't used strong measures to stop my wife then, divorce would have been inevitable.

咋个弄？

2017-05-17 18:22:57

However, afterwards, through my tolerance and magnanimity, I slowly won my wife back. Yesterday, she frankly told me, "I saw through it too; it was just a bit of fun for both of us." I said, "You're right, but it's extremely dangerous for you two to develop feelings like this. Besides, if you're going to play around, you should at least find a good-looking young man." My wife didn't say anything, just chuckled.

69lyxr

2017-05-21 10:59:26

Actually, when you know someone well, you don't need to worry about anything else when you're having fun; it's more reassuring and safer.

领先快乐

2017-05-22 00:45:19

Those who support acquaintances are either immature or overly familiar and trusting of those acquaintances.

咋个弄？

2017-05-26 22:35:58

Reply to Leading Happiness: Agreed!

zpjohn

2017-08-16 12:09:49

I had the same experience as you. Although it's all in the past, I chose to forgive my wife for the sake of the children. But I still feel uneasy whenever I think about it. Yes, I saw through it all. I thought it was just a fling, but I couldn't tolerate that I was unaware of it, especially since it involved strong feelings. No wonder she was always cold towards me during that time, finding fault with everything and disliking everything I did.

zpjohn

2017-08-16 12:13:41

So it turns out she had someone else in her heart. She said it was for work, but it's really hard for a woman to separate sex from love. How could she say she had no feelings for someone else? I don't like this feeling of being deceived. Women!