2013-06-05 03:00:05

You need to communicate more; your situation is more suitable for a threesome.

swx2013

2013-06-05 03:55:09

I believe that many couples who come to this stage (of life) have had similar mindsets to yours to some extent in the early stages. You are not a monster or a pervert; it's just a psychological development process, and you don't need to feel any psychological burden. Regarding your wife, congratulations! She is slowly accepting the situation, but you still need to patiently guide her in the right way. Finally, I wish you all your dreams come true.

杨峰qq

2013-06-05 05:26:38

Let your sister-in-law make the contact herself, and encourage her.

肖尧

2013-06-05 05:33:17

I feel the same way. Taking this step takes courage, and I haven't dared to try it yet.

z2yy

2013-06-05 06:37:48

It's too rushed; I need to discuss it with my wife first. Best of luck!

大尺寸

2013-06-05 07:36:21

You could try taking her on a trip to an unfamiliar city. It seems like you two aren't communicating enough, or maybe she doesn't like the man you've found.

大尺寸

2013-06-05 07:39:21

I suggest you don't date a single man from the same city.

smelt

2013-06-05 08:23:27

Based on your description, it seems your wife isn't opposed to swapping or threesomes; it's just that your previous actions seemed disrespectful and made her feel insecure. Your wife seems like a pretty open-minded person. Try communicating more with her, treating her better, and making her truly feel loved and not just as a plaything. I believe she'll be willing to do anything you want for her.

清水无香

2013-06-05 09:17:33

The original poster's writing is very realistic, kudos! I think to truly get your wife to accept it, you first need to open her heart and make her genuinely love threesomes. You could find a skilled lover to communicate with her online first, but don't rush into meeting her. Let the other person slowly seduce her and awaken her most primal desires. What you need to do is, whatever method you use, make sure your wife knows how much you love her and that she fully trusts you. Take it slow, haste makes waste, haha. Wishing you happiness and that you experience the most wonderful sex.

清水无香

2013-06-05 09:28:02

We're in similar situations, with similar personalities and family backgrounds. Although we didn't get much education due to our youthful rebellion, we still come from a scholarly family, haha!

夜色行空

2013-06-05 14:49:26

Many people are in the same situation. Every time I'm having sex with my wife, I always have the idea of a threesome. But after we're done, my wife avoids the topic of threesomes. I'm also wondering if this is really what I want. Taking this step really takes a lot of courage.

bystand

2013-06-06 13:31:15

The narration is very realistic, the analysis is very thorough, and the hesitation is very painful. Once this thought takes root in your mind, it's hard to calm down or eradicate. After fully communicating with my wife, I might as well break through this current state of hesitation and uncertainty.

爱河戏浪

2013-06-06 22:59:14

I suggest you take a look at the articles in the online reprint section: "Ovulation Period is a Woman's Infidelity Period, and the Physiological Principles of Couple Swapping." It's quite well written. There's a scientific basis for women's liking for group sex, and men's desire to be cuckolded also has its reasons. Take a look first, and we can discuss it further. We're also in the development stage, but we've already reached the point of phone communication.

晖9755

2013-06-06 23:20:54

Communicate with her more often, let her find what she likes on her own, and take it slowly.

bjcc1019

2013-06-07 05:22:29

We've had a lot of internal struggles, and now we've chosen one of my classmates as our target. All three parties basically agree, and we're waiting for the right time to implement it. It may not be the best, but it's definitely the safest.

xh69

2013-06-07 05:57:21

It's okay, you'll get used to it. It's really nothing. I just wanted to get to know you and chat with you.

爱你的激情

2013-06-07 06:29:07

Our situation is similar. My wife wants to have sex with me, but afterwards she says she doesn't. Maybe it's just because she enjoys reading erotic novels. I'm really conflicted.

bnsirlong

2013-06-07 08:50:10

Life is short, why not enjoy it while you can! Try to comfort her and communicate with her properly. Don't act first and ask questions later.

空洞洞

2013-06-07 11:17:39

You're just agonizing over morality.

fzdx678

2013-06-07 12:56:00

Dude, we're in similar situations. I'm thinking about swapping or a threesome, mostly during sex with my wife. She gets really excited and says she's willing, that she'll do whatever I want, but afterwards she disagrees. Haha, I'm actually finding it hard to make up my mind myself, since none of my friends have heard of it, but I'm also kind of looking forward to it. It feels like I'm trying to have my cake and eat it too, what a shameless bastard, haha. The general feeling is that you have to get your wife completely and willingly accepting it; you have to make her motivated. You can't force her. Take it slow. Good luck with your plans!

kokoala

2013-06-07 17:42:26

Go check out the article I forwarded: "My Wife and I's Story, Let Me Tell You Slowly," it might be helpful.

深圳ET

2013-06-09 19:00:33

Respect your wife

buluo008

2013-06-09 19:21:30

To put it bluntly, forced relationships are never sweet. I feel the atmosphere isn't right, and you're always leaving your wife to handle things alone—how is she supposed to manage? I think you should go to a disco, have some fun with your wife first. Also, you're not assertive at all. If you're scared, your wife will be scared the first time too. I think you could let your wife chat with some online friend, and then you can flirt with her a bit. And, I really look down on that—don't use drugs, okay?… Anyway, I'm really looking forward to seeing your wife's style. Hope you add me.

地上毛茸茸

2013-06-09 21:46:40

Hey buddy, I think we're in the same boat. My wife's a teacher too, and she's really hard to win over. I'm worried about it too. But I'm trying my best to guide and influence her, haha, maybe I'll succeed soon! Keep trying!

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2013-06-09 22:22:24

The key paragraphs were too short, and they strained my eyes.

werewolf123

2013-06-09 22:36:30

I'm from Wuhan. Let's find each other and make our first time a success! Add me as a friend!

syremo

2013-07-24 21:39:29

It's best to get her approval; doing the right thing at the right time will prevent regrets.

bjcc1019

2013-08-14 03:17:53

We've already convinced two people by talking to my classmate, and now we're just waiting for the right opportunity.

群策群力

2013-09-08 18:20:10

The original poster's description is very realistic, but I want to remind you that in a threesome, the "P" (partner) isn't you; your wife has the final say. She should choose the man, meet him, build a relationship, and then sleep with him. It should be a gradual process; don't make your own assumptions. Respect your wife's opinions and choices. Finally, I wish you happiness.

lphaha1

2016-10-03 16:10:28

It's written in great detail. The psychological descriptions are spot-on. Best wishes.