种子的花花

2015-07-25 23:38:02

Bro, you've gone too far. The whole post is just you complaining and grumbling. Even if the other person wasn't prepared or wasn't satisfied with your performance—for example, the class of the restaurant, or whether you chatted during the meal—these things can affect their impression of you. From what you wrote, you didn't actively try to make the woman happy or initiate conversation. This shows you're definitely introverted. Besides, you were nervous. If you were nervous, just say so directly: you're still a student, you don't have money, but you're sincere. If that works, great; if not, forget it.

种子的花花

2015-07-25 23:40:32

And you're getting angry because you don't care about their tone or attitude, feeling like they're looking down on you or that they're looking around. That shows you're still immature, bro. They're looking around to see if they know anyone. That's perfectly normal. To put it bluntly, because you don't have money to play, you feel like they're criticizing you, which makes them think you're not good enough. That's my feeling.

种子的花花

2015-07-25 23:44:25

And you actually sent your bank card number when they asked you to. This shows you really cared about the money you spent. You could have generously said, "Brother, it's okay, maybe I didn't do a good job, let's talk again next time," but you didn't. You actually sent your bank card number. If the couple had been more generous, they might have transferred the money to you, but they would have looked down on you. But they didn't transfer it to you, so they didn't think much of you either. To put it bluntly, they wouldn't go out of their way to get you to eat a meal; I don't think people care about that these days. As for asking you to book a hotel room without giving you an explanation, that's definitely wrong. Brother, stop complaining. When you're out having fun, consider it an experience, not a lesson.

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2015-07-26 11:02:24

Please add me on QQ.

呆若木鸡

2015-07-26 11:58:23

The analysis at the top is spot on.

小银熊

2015-07-26 14:24:38

Regarding what the brother said earlier, I only have the following points: First, both meetings were initiated by them, and they were in a lot of pressure. I said both times that meetings were fine; my exact words were, "It's good for you to come over, meet, see if there's any connection, and then we can consider taking things further." His reply was, "No need to consider it. If we go, we'll definitely take action," which was also his exact words. Second, I explained to them beforehand that I was short on money and couldn't afford anything too expensive. Third, he was looking around looking at the environment, and when he saw a nice hot pot restaurant, he directly asked if it was that one. When I said no, his tone changed. To be honest, I don't have that much money to afford that restaurant right now, but the hot pot buffet I'm treating to is definitely not worse than a roadside stall. Anyone who's eaten at a hot pot buffet should know that. Fourth, as for conversation at the table, I tried, but they were all indifferent to me, or even completely silent. How can you communicate like that? Fifth, if you're truly dissatisfied and can't communicate further, you can directly bring it up. There's no need to lie to me like that. The guy above probably hasn't experienced being stood up, has he? He waited in his room for over an hour without a single reply. How would you feel in that situation? Sixth, regarding the bank card issue, maybe I care a little, but not that much. It's only a little over two hundred yuan. I lost over a thousand yuan buying funds during the stock market crash, but I didn't say anything. Perhaps many people think a thousand yuan is a small matter, but this money is from my scholarship. I think we should cherish even a single penny of our parents' money and our own earnings. Actually, I just wanted to see his attitude. Since he brought it up, why couldn't I give it to him? In the end, he didn't. Maybe it's insignificant to him now, but this precisely reflects his superior attitude, which is also the attitude many couples have towards single men. After saying all this, there is indeed an element of complaint in it, but I'm sometimes a stickler for things. I believe that sincerity in friendship should include honesty, and I value honesty very much. Perhaps, as the brother above said, this is still a sign of my immaturity. I was a bit naive, thinking that every couple would be like the couples I chatted with earlier, communicating sincerely with each other like friends, even though they had never met, they were all full of longing to meet.

小银熊

2015-07-26 23:42:25

Thanks to the guy upstairs. Although there was some emotion in it, everything he wrote actually happened.

相约玫瑰丛中

2015-07-28 12:09:45

Focus on your studies, find a job, and you can pursue enjoyment later. Don't blame others; although they made two mistakes, the most important thing is to reflect on yourself first. Only when you're well-fed and clothed can you think about other things. You're having trouble even getting food, so prioritize your basic needs. I don't mean any disrespect by saying this; I'm just stating a fact. It might sound harsh, but please don't take offense.

解放心灵

2015-07-28 15:07:58

I've been stood up three times already, and I was even played by a single woman.