2018-02-07 05:14:54

I found three young men to be my wife's lovers. They often have sex with her, and she likes it very much.

2018-02-07 05:34:35

There are many ways to solve your problem. If it's inconvenient to stay at home, you can rent another place where you don't know many people. Make sure your lover is reliable and maintain a long-term, stable relationship with a reliable person. Protect your shared secret together.

挺进中原513

2018-02-07 08:50:58

If it's just seeking physical stimulation occasionally, that's one thing, but if your wife is fully committed to having children, then that's unforgivable!

wei3728

2018-02-07 13:16:44

Things happened

sense10101

2018-02-07 15:58:15

My mother-in-law and colleagues all know, isn't this just too much bullying? Just go and have sex with the other man's wife. If it works out, we can switch later; if not, forget it. I had a classmate who did that. After discovering his wife's infidelity, he went to the other man's house with a kitchen knife. He threatened her with the knife as soon as he entered. The other man's wife didn't want her family to break up, and she liked my classmate's masculine personality, so she privately agreed to compensate him with her body. Later, he actually had sex with her.

德州淫民

2018-02-07 17:52:48

I think something bad is bound to happen sooner or later. You just wait and see. They're already discussing having a baby; how can things not go wrong? The moment that man says he'll support the child, your marriage will be over.

南昌优秀夫妻

2018-02-08 03:18:05

brake

WDJJRL2

2018-02-08 07:51:26

If the man is your wife's sexual partner, I think it's acceptable to let it go; if he's a lover, then it's a different story.

WDJJRL2

2018-02-08 07:53:01

Your wife having his child is absolutely unacceptable!

一字并肩王

2018-02-08 09:47:22

I once had a similar experience with a colleague. I loved her, liked her, and respected her, and she was equally infatuated with me. She was intelligent, beautiful, and generous. However, neither of us could get a divorce, so we both respected each other's space. I feel that the situation of the original poster's wife is quite similar to that of my mistress. The difference is that after her husband found out, he contacted me and asked me to stop contacting his wife. She then deliberately avoided me, and we broke up. But if we continued, I would really do as the original poster said: continue to help my mistress and cherish her. There's nothing wrong with a woman having a man protecting her; he'll feel indebted, treat you well at home, and always maintain a happy mood in life. But the premise is that your relationship must be very good. From your post, it seems your relationship is good, so don't listen to others; make your own decision. The comments from others upstairs are not suitable for you; some advise you to be more indulgent, while others advise you to divorce—these are two extremes. Everyone has their own unique circumstances. Have an open and honest talk with your wife. Tell her you don't object to her having a close female friend to share her feelings with, but she needs to be mindful of boundaries, safety, and ensuring it doesn't affect the family. I believe your wife will be very grateful! Your relationship will also be strengthened! Because she has a lover competing with her, you should treat her even better. Good luck!

yi帘幽梦

2018-02-08 22:00:09

Reply to One-Word-Side-by-Side King: After reading your suggestion, I'll tell you some information I know about that man, and ask you to help analyze it. That man is probably around my age. My wife says he just bought a house, has a child, and his salary isn't much higher than hers. I've seen photos of them on my wife's phone. Personally, I don't think that man has any advantages. If my wife and I weren't often apart, he wouldn't have had a chance. This is one reason I've let it go (I felt that even if my wife were to divorce me for another man, that man should at least be better than me). Now, about my wife. Perhaps to avoid me overthinking, for the past two years, whenever I'm home, she comes straight home after work and keeps the house impeccably organized. I haven't seen my wife chatting with that man (I've secretly looked at her phone; they chat frequently when I'm not home, occasionally even video chatting. From their chat history, they don't seem to have sex often, and it mostly happens at my house). When that man calls my wife, he only says a few words before hanging up. I've tried to talk to my wife about this several times, but perhaps because she's afraid I'll overthink, she always changes the subject. This is a sensitive topic, and I don't know how to talk to my wife about it. You suggested telling her to allow them to continue, but within limits. I feel their current behavior is still within my acceptable range, and they can continue like this! What I want to talk to my wife about is that I don't want to see her deliberately avoiding me. Every time my wife receives a call from that guy, she tells him she's with me first, and then hangs up after a few words. This feeling is very unpleasant! I want to talk to my wife about it, but every time the words are on the tip of my tongue, I hold back, worried that if I reveal them, things will get out of control!

xiaohong30

2018-02-10 07:18:04

If your wife tells you everything, it's not a problem; if she keeps it all from you, then you're in trouble.

千里家园

2018-02-10 11:35:51

Others are just offering their opinions, and they shouldn't be held responsible for anything they say wrong. The poster should understand this. I don't think there's anything wrong with continuing. My wife and her lover have been together for many years. My wife loves him very much, but it would never affect our family. Is it so easy for a family of three to break up? Besides, my wife doesn't miss him either! I've been there; in our experience, they eventually became very good friends. My wife always enjoyed having sex with him, but after a few years, he lost interest. Later, my wife didn't care anymore. Although they see each other every day—because my wife drives him to and from get off work—sometimes they might touch each other's crotches on the way, but nothing else happens, and they might have a meal together. My wife and I have always had a good relationship.

q3067

2018-02-11 00:23:48

It depends on your own preferences. We're currently working on getting my wife to have a mixed-race baby. We've already conceived, but the owner of the seed doesn't know.

soraya1399

2018-02-12 17:13:38

That man is pushing his luck. He has no money, so he slept with another man's wife with small favors, and now she wants to have his child? If the child is born, you won't be able to raise it, and he certainly won't be able to either. What will happen to the child and your wife? He only cares about his own desires, not about the other person's life. Your wife sees him as an emotional crutch; she hasn't lost her mind. Women need to be cared for. It's not good if others find out; sooner or later it will reach your parents' ears. Others will look down on your wife and child because of this. If you have the means, take your wife and child away and break up with this man. Your mother-in-law knows about this but doesn't care, so don't rely on her family. If you don't have the means, confront that man and make him responsible for all the potential consequences. Think about the potential harm to your child if other children point at you and call your mother a "slut"!

soraya1399

2018-02-12 17:26:13

The fact that others find out about this is definitely because the man deliberately spread it, as if conquering a woman gives him a sense of accomplishment. In reality, making this public severely damages a woman's dignity. Your wife has been humiliated like this, and you need to help her get justice. Otherwise, if things are allowed to continue, your wife's dignity in her social circle will continue to decline, and eventually everyone will be able to bully and take advantage of her. After all, no one is obligated to keep your secret.

lxdaqlxdaq

2018-02-24 10:01:19

Beware of men who take an inch and then a mile.

一字并肩王

2018-02-26 22:12:40

Hi, it's been a while since I've been online, and I just saw your reply. As someone who has loved a married man like your wife, my family situation is similar to hers. I also have a wife and children, but I love my lover, truly. However, I also respect her husband, and she does too. When we were together, I never spoke ill of her husband. At home, she remained a devoted wife and mother; in fact, I was sometimes jealous. Regarding your problem, I think you should have an open and honest conversation with your wife. Tell her that you can accept her having a close female friend, but it must be kept secret, she must be careful, it shouldn't affect the family, and she shouldn't tell the other person. You should also tell her that the other person must treat you well; if not, you won't agree. Marriages inevitably lose passion over time, and having a lover to balance things out isn't a bad thing. A cuckold's horns can't kill a person, can they? I've broken up with my lover now, and I regret not having the courage to marry her. Her husband, knowing his wife's infidelity, also didn't have the courage to divorce her because she was so intelligent, elegant, beautiful, and alluring. I imagine your wife fascinates you too, right? Then love her well! If you love her, all these problems can be solved! Wishing you happiness!!

踏雪寻红

2018-02-27 22:30:23

It's fine for a wife to have sex with him, but as for her to bear his children, I think she should think twice.

蓝天321

2018-02-28 10:34:34

Personally, I think that this kind of couples making friends completely goes against the original idea of making friends, and it would be very dangerous if it continued.

大海的乐园

2018-03-08 22:56:50

Directly or indirectly hint to your wife about your minimum requirements: health and safety, confidentiality, and not affecting the family. If she shows any signs of crossing your bottom line, stop her immediately.