2019-11-09 07:23:17

Good, thumbs up!

2019-11-09 07:37:40

I remember someone saying before that it's best to delete someone after the first time you find them, so you don't develop feelings for them. But now they say it's best to find someone long-term and consistent, so that having some feelings makes it safe and exciting. What I want to say is that there should be limits to how you play. Participants need to be mindful of boundaries and stick to their own bottom lines in order to have fun.

梦1111

2019-11-09 12:17:47

@tianyiemei01 Yes, there should be limits to how much you can play!

iqslel

2019-11-09 14:00:23

Judging from his writing style, he seems like a nice guy.

梦1111

2020-01-18 06:49:17

After months of agonizing, or rather, my own willful tantrums, things have calmed down again. My older brother once asked me who handled the situation better, me or that single man. He kept apologizing, saying he'd caused him trouble, while I kept making a scene, even to the point that my sister-in-law deleted my contact information. I worked hard step by step to get my sister-in-law to disagree with my approach, slowly accepting me, and gradually accepting me as well. Perhaps it was because I gave my heart that she became so concerned, concerned that my brother hadn't informed me beforehand and had kept it from me when I found out. Later, my brother said he was afraid I wouldn't be able to accept it and didn't want to affect my marriage. The same thing, done by two people, might have the same result, but the process will definitely be different. I used my sincerity to slowly melt my sister-in-law's aloofness, while he only chatted with her briefly. Now I also meet up with many people. For people I don't care about, I'll show my best side, and if I need to, I'll meet them; if not, I'll find someone else. But with my brother and sister-in-law, it's like old friends. The longer we know each other, the more our flaws slowly emerge, and I start to act willfully and tantrums. So, different situations lead to different feelings. Some people keep saying I'm foolish, why did I make things so tense, why didn't I just pretend I knew nothing? Because that way, the resentment in my heart would always remain, and even if I saw them again, I couldn't treat them with the same sincerity as before. So I decided to pull out this thorn. If I can't pull it out, it will stay in my heart forever, which is the worst outcome—never seeing them again. I'm so glad my brother didn't abandon me, and I didn't give up either, it just means we'll see each other much less often. Time will tell. If that single man is truly sincere, maybe one day I'll get to know him. If he's just looking for a casual fling, as I said, I think we'll break off contact in a few months, maybe even half a year. Based on my experience as a single man and with my brother and sister-in-law, I also want to give some advice to couples who date single men: single men who don't put in any effort will always have a "getting a date is a win" attitude and won't appreciate it. Of course, "putting in effort" doesn't mean putting in money or material things.

梦1111

2020-01-18 07:02:47

I remember the first time I celebrated my sister-in-law's birthday. It was snowing heavily that year; the highways were closed, and the provincial roads were congested. My older brother advised me not to go, but my sister-in-law was on her period, and I insisted anyway. What usually takes an hour took me over three hours, driving on deserted mountain roads, almost driving into a ditch. That night, I held my sister-in-law close, talking to myself about the journey. At that time, she never spoke or even looked at me. For the first time in the dark, I held her hand, carefully tracing the outline of my face and head, and she didn't resist. After that, my sister-in-law slowly became warmer towards me. I think I'll never have the interest to do such things again. This year, I didn't spend my sister-in-law's birthday with her. I originally planned to spend the whole day with her, but it wasn't convenient at her home, so I only brought her a bouquet of flowers. Life is a series of happy encounters, interspersed with sad farewells. I didn't meet you all during my most beautiful time; rather, meeting you made this most beautiful time possible.