Analysis of failed attempts to woo a respectable woman

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Online dating and flirting with innocent women is a skill that takes time to develop. There's the joy of success, but also the sadness of failure. Many men who have read my experiences and guides often ask me how to achieve this quickly. Haha, the truth is, nothing can be rushed. Perhaps it's a matter of luck, but to truly master it requires years of dedicated effort, the bitterness of failure, unwavering perseverance, and consistent practice. As the saying goes, "The master leads you to the door, but the rest is up to you."
I started trying online dating and flirting at the age of 27. My motivation stemmed from reading some erotic articles online, coupled with my wife's pregnancy and the temporary halt to our sex life. To satisfy my curiosity and desires, I embarked on this path of no return. I remember starting my journey in chat rooms (in 1998). Back then, there weren't many internet users; those chatting online were usually college students, white-collar workers, or intellectuals—innocent women. When I first entered the chat room, I encountered many young men's confusions: how to choose a screen name to present themselves and how to find prey. I also made many mistakes and experienced the hardships of online dating. Secondly, after starting a conversation, I didn't know how to delve deeper into the topic, or how to judge whether the woman would be unfaithful. Often, I would focus on one woman, spending a lot of time and effort, only to find out in person that she was either unattractive or said she could only be friends. It was infuriating; the effort and reward were clearly disproportionate, a complete loss. Often, a month or two would pass without a woman in my life, and those days without a woman were unbearable. I remember chatting with a white-collar worker at a securities company who claimed to be a beauty in her area. We chatted twice and were about to meet. Online, we even agreed to be lovers. I was excited, thinking I had finally succeeded, and even booked a room at a three-star hotel beforehand. But when we met at the teahouse, I was immediately stunned. That young woman was so ugly! Actually, thinking about it now, she wasn't so bad. She was 162cm tall, weighed 105kg, and had a 75/100 in looks, an average figure, and fair skin. Maybe it was because I was newly married at the time, and my wife was young and beautiful, so my standards were high. But I had absolutely no interest in sex then. Out of politeness, I had tea with her for a while, then excused myself, saying I had something to do. She asked me out a few times afterward, but I declined each time. Looking back, I realize I was too picky. Reflecting on it after returning home, I realized that the reason for this outcome was twofold: first, I didn't have a deep enough conversation with her and didn't get to know her well enough; second, my standards were probably too high. Finding a decent woman isn't a beauty pageant; being pleasing to the eye is enough. With this guiding principle, I quickly met my second decent woman that year, a department manager at a foreign company. She was 29 years old at the time, 165cm tall, 102kg, and about an 80/100 in looks and figure. We were both satisfied after meeting, so we went to a hotel room for sex. You could say she was my teacher in bed; I learned a lot of sexual techniques from her. We later became lovers, and our relationship lasted for more than three years until she immigrated to Canada two years ago.
After getting the first decent woman, I became complacent, thinking that my skills in picking up women had reached a high level, but it was just luck. The names I chose at that time often drew disdain, and I wasn't satisfied with the women I found. Fortunately, I had a "lunchbox," so my sexual desires often had a place to be released. So I started paying attention to picking up women. At that time, I was completely figuring things out on my own, designing several sets of online names and practicing them one by one. At the same time, I started accumulating chat data and studying the psychology of decent married women and how easy or difficult it was for them to have affairs. Initially, my target wasn't married women; I was still infatuated with schoolgirls and unmarried women. Two more things happened during this period. First, I chatted with a female student from Yancheng, northern Jiangsu. She was 19 years old, very innocent-looking, and had a sweet smile. I was instantly captivated. However, after our second meeting and after I tricked her into bed, I discovered she was a virgin. Although I took her virginity that night, she was afraid and had no interest in sex. It felt like masturbation. I was worried for a while afterward, but thankfully she didn't cause me any trouble. Later, I let my guard down and became infatuated with female students again. After sleeping with a few, I met another virgin. I've already published that story. This woman was harder to deal with. She initially clung to me, and it took me six months and over 10,000 RMB to settle things and get her to stop contacting me. There was another one who also claimed to be a virgin, but I didn't believe her and wasn't sure. In the end, I gave her a serious warning: "This forum strictly prohibits posting other people's contact information. Violators will have their IDs banned." After this happened a few times, I lost interest in female students. First, they were too troublesome, and second, they weren't good in bed. They lacked the charm of mature women; it was just one-sided release, and they were very uncooperative.
At this point, I started targeting married women, but I was still unsure which type was easiest to seduce. One time, I chatted with a woman from a bond company online. We hit it off, and I knew her marriage was troubled, so we arranged to meet for tea. When we met, she seemed quite satisfied with me, but when I tried to touch her, she subtly avoided me. I thought she was pretty, an 85 out of 100 in looks and figure, and figure. I figured maybe she wasn't used to it yet, and I could probably get her after a couple more meetings. So I asked her to meet me a second time, and she readily agreed. This time we went to a quieter teahouse, and we chatted very well, joking and even making suggestive remarks, but she wouldn't let me touch her. I tried several times without success, but she didn't get angry and continued to joke and talk. When I got home, I thought I'd try again, so I asked her out again. She arrived on time, and although the atmosphere was still good, she still stopped me from being intimate. After returning home, I reflected carefully. These types of women don't easily stray. Their online chatting is just for fun and relaxation; they don't seek one-night stands or lovers. If she wanted a lover, and the first meeting seemed suitable, she generally wouldn't refuse some physical advances. At most, she might consider having sex in a hotel room, but she wouldn't firmly refuse caresses. If she felt you weren't suitable, she wouldn't agree to a second date. Based on years of experience with married women, I know that with a successful woman, you can at least touch her hand and caress her body on the first date. If she still doesn't agree to have sex after three dates, it's best to give up early and not waste time, energy, and money. Find another target. Actually, more than half of the decent women I've dated went to a hotel room for sex after the first meeting and chatting.
I won't talk about the failures during chatting; there are countless examples. Often, people ignore you, disappear after a few words, or don't respond when you try to contact them again. These are acceptable, since you haven't invested much, and it's easy to maintain a balance. But being dumped or manipulated in person is painful and distressing. Once, I chatted with a white-collar worker from a company, and we agreed to have dinner together. But she suddenly told me she was with a female colleague and asked if she could join us. I didn't think much of it at the time, figuring it was just one more person, and she'd leave after dinner, so I readily agreed. When we met, I thought the woman was quite pretty, so I didn't think much of it. The three of us ordered food and ate. Midway through the meal, the woman received a serious warning: "This forum strictly prohibits posting other people's contact information; violators will have their IDs banned." She said another colleague was nearby and, without consulting me, invited her over as well. So the four of us ate. The atmosphere at the table was good, and after we finished eating and drinking, we paid the bill, which came to over 400 yuan. Thinking I should now be alone with her, I suggested we go for tea. But she said she suddenly felt a little unwell and wanted to go home to rest. Even though the other two women tried to persuade her, she wouldn't agree, saying maybe tomorrow. At this point, I hadn't realized I'd been tricked and thought she genuinely wasn't feeling well, so I didn't insist. Besides, with three women around, I couldn't force her. The next day, when I tried to contact her again, I received a serious warning: "This forum strictly prohibits posting other people's contact information. Violators will have their IDs banned and their phones shut down." I couldn't get through for several days, and then one day the number disappeared. That's when I realized I'd been scammed and made a fool of myself. Looking back, many things seemed suspicious. Imagine a normal, respectable young woman wanting to have an affair—would she bring friends or colleagues on a date? After all, having an affair isn't exactly aboveboard these days; everyone's trying to hide it from acquaintances, let alone bring them along. From then on, I set a rule for dating respectable women: I would never go on a date with anyone else present; it had to be just the two of us. Take this as a warning: avoid dates with third parties involved—you'll almost never succeed. Even now, online dating with respectable women can be risky; you might encounter "shills" who trick you into going somewhere, leaving you penniless and heartbroken. So there's another principle to dating: try to go to places you're familiar with, and don't go to places that the "good girl" suggests that you're not familiar with. As long as the "good girl" is sincere about cheating, and the place you suggest is acceptable, she won't mind. Don't let her lead you by the nose!
I've had failed attempts at online dating with decent women, but those were tolerable because normally she wouldn't be interested, and the relationship would end amicably. I won't give examples here. To avoid this, try to understand her as deeply as possible during your chats. Don't hide anything, like your height, because it will all be revealed in person. To fool a decent woman, you need to be clever, making her see and do things without understanding, and trusting you – that's the key. Of course, another point is to chat more often, until she develops feelings for you. Then she might not care about your shortcomings anymore. I have successful experience in this, but you have to be very skilled; you need to change her mindset. It's impossible for her not to have genuine feelings for you.
Okay, it's getting late, so I won't say more. Failure is the mother of success! Failing to woo a decent married woman isn't a big deal; the key is to learn from your mistakes and improve your dating skills. If you fall, get up, keep fighting, and victory will surely be yours. Believe in yourself; the decent married woman is beckoning you!

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