Ultimately, marriage is about wealth and children, not sex and love.

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Undoubtedly, many of us lose ourselves in marriage. Perhaps to please others, or perhaps to maintain the marriage, we often hide our true thoughts and personalities. Countless elders and parents will tell you that marriage requires patience and compromise. However, this long-term inability to be yourself can, if triggered by external factors, make the marriage unsustainable. And often, infidelity is that trigger. That person awakens your true inner needs. You suddenly realize you need higher-quality communication, to be yourself better, and then you will seriously reconsider your marriage. This isn't about good or bad, but simply a matter of personal choice. If you only believe that marriage should be about fidelity, forgetting the diverse needs of human nature and the complexity of marriage, you easily become rigid and simplistic in your thinking. We've become accustomed to the idea that sex, love, and marriage should be a "trinity." That is, if you love someone, you should marry them and spend your life only sleeping and having sex with that person. But in reality, humans can't do that. This behavior, which goes against human nature, has become a constraint and guiding principle for many. Therefore, various extramarital affairs and extramarital sex occur. When such feelings arise, is it still love? And what becomes of marriage? Otherwise, why would there be no sexual interest in marriage, yet passionate encounters with lovers? This is human nature, not an indication of moral depravity in any one individual. When you understand the essence of marriage, you will understand why so many sexless and loveless marriages can be maintained. Even marriages where you have no expectations can last longer. Because you don't crave love, the marriage naturally becomes stable; but once you crave love, and it's no longer present in the marriage, it becomes precarious. Many loveless and sexless marriages can last for this reason: raising children and financial stability. When you understand these fundamental truths, you will sympathize with and pity those who seek emotional and sexual fulfillment outside of marriage, rather than simply judging right and wrong. Because human sexual and emotional needs last for decades, while marriage begins in one's twenties, and if you don't want it to end, it can continue until the death of your spouse. This is the tragedy of many, yet it is the most real reality of human existence. I strive to keep my mind open, constantly growing my knowledge and problem-solving wisdom, rather than remaining stuck in a seemingly correct but stagnant way of thinking. If you only believe that marriage should be about fidelity, forgetting the diverse needs of human nature and the complexity of marriage, it's easy to become rigid and simplistic in your thinking. When you have a clear understanding of the essence of sex, love, and marriage, and then truly face your inner self, you'll discover genuine loneliness. Ultimately, everyone faces themselves, not a relationship. The sooner you understand this, the easier it is to achieve happiness, both in sex and love. Love is when you release your energy, giving energy to others, and receiving energy in return; both people become better through mutual giving—that's love. As for sex, if there's no love, encountering sex along the way is fine; at least you won't have to constantly erode your desires. In this search, you'll understand many things. Sex or love is your own business; you can control your heart and body. You can love or have sex with someone suitable, but ultimately, you're the one who experiences pleasure. Finally, you'll truly live the life you want. Instead of wasting your energy on a particular person. I'm not saying I'm against love or marriage. Rather, when you recognize the inherent loneliness of humanity, and you are strong enough to manage that loneliness, you'll approach any relationship with a relatively detached attitude. I believe that once you've calmed down emotionally, you'll have a clearer understanding of what you need. Being emotionally agitated, out of control, or frantic will always cloud your judgment.

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