Benefits of couples making friends

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Couples engaging in casual sex, as a family-based social behavior, has gradually become popular nationwide since the beginning of this century, and has been recognized, accepted, and enjoyed by many families and couples. Although it is not yet legally recognized, as the saying goes, "existence is its own justification." Globally, in many developed countries and highly civilized nations and regions, couples engaging in casual sex has been widely accepted and promoted. Since this phenomenon and behavior has gained considerable acceptance, I believe that one day it will be recognized not only at the social level but also at the legal level in our country, and I believe that day will come soon. I will elaborate on this issue in another article; what I will discuss today is...
Couples engaging in casual sex has many benefits. Below, I will briefly analyze it from five aspects: family, husband, wife, single man, and children. Please feel free to add to or correct any points I've missed.

I. Benefits to the Family:
One is that it can promote stable social relationships. As everyone knows, men and women have different peak sexual abilities. According to modern scientific research, men's sexual development reaches basic maturity around age 15, peaking between 20 and 40. Then, with declining physical fitness, sexual desire and ability gradually decrease. Women, on the other hand, typically experience sexual arousal around age 20, peaking between 30 and 50. This creates a mismatch: when men are most sexually aroused, women are either unable to understand or handle the demands, while when women are most sexually aroused, men are in a period of decline and can no longer satisfy their needs. Furthermore, due to the high cost of starting a family, many young men in their late teens and early twenties lack the means to do so, even though this is precisely when their sexual desires are at their peak. How to address these sexual needs is a major social problem. If this need is not addressed, it can easily lead to prostitution, soliciting, rape, adultery, and other social problems, posing a significant threat to social stability. While some experts have suggested incestuous relationships between mothers and sons, I disagree with this view. I believe that casual sex between spouses offers the best solution. In the process of couples engaging in sexual activity, if the single man has a girlfriend, she can be given to the husband of the married couple. In this case, although the husband's sexual ability may be reduced, he possesses rich sexual experience and skills. Even if the single man's girlfriend or newlywed wife lacks sexual experience, the experienced husband's gentle guidance and development can help her experience full sexual pleasure. The wife, on the other hand, can enjoy the passionate love and intense stimulation of the energetic single man, repeatedly reaching peaks of pleasure. The single man no longer needs to worry about his partner's endurance and can fully release his desires with his wife. If the single man is alone, he can still provide intense satisfaction to the married couple, especially the wife, while giving the husband a chance to rest and recuperate, allowing him to fully satisfy his wife's sexual needs later. When the single men become a couple, the single men enter their aging period, while their wives enter their peak sexual desire period. At this time, they can seek out new single men to join them. This cycle continues, and even a single exchange allows the couple to enjoy sexual intercourse with two or three or more people of the opposite sex. Moreover, this love is always intense and provides ample satisfaction. This cycle effectively solves the problems mentioned above, such as unequal sexual climax, lack of sexual desire, and unmet sexual needs, which is highly beneficial to social harmony and stability.
Secondly, it promotes stable family relationships. We all know that the family is the smallest basic unit of society, and family harmony is the foundation of social harmony. Couples are the most basic element of a family. Two people, through mutual love, help, trust, and reliance, form a basic unit, then have children, and continue the lineage, allowing human society to develop and continue. However, within families, since most couples are composed of two completely unrelated individuals, and due to differences in family education, personality, hobbies, and cultural background, most families experience various conflicts and problems. These conflicts are ultimately maintained through mutual communication, understanding, and compromise. According to authoritative surveys, sexual issues account for approximately 80% of all cases affecting family relationships and leading to marital breakdown and family division. Examples include well-known extramarital affairs, extramarital sex, keeping mistresses, having extramarital relationships, prostitution, and infidelity. The common thread in these behaviors is a change in the exclusivity of sexual intimacy between spouses, leading them to feel betrayed by each other in their love, marriage, and family. Unable to accept this, they argue, fight, and divorce; in some cases, irrational behavior escalates to violence, murder, and other crimes, ultimately resulting in the destruction of the family. In China, such cases are countless. The root cause lies in the constraints of outdated feudal ideology; the Chinese people have not yet broken free from the control of "sex," nor have they overcome this hurdle. Therefore, this is undoubtedly a tragedy and a sorrow for the Chinese people and their families.
However, spousal infidelity completely solves this problem. The husband willingly sees his wife having sex with another man in front of him. Besides experiencing excitement, stimulation, and pleasure, the exclusivity of "sex" is no longer the most important thing in his heart. From then on, he will no longer be angry, jealous, or furious about his wife's extramarital affairs, and he will no longer engage in irrational behaviors such as arguing, divorce, or harm. As for the woman, having already enjoyed intimacy with another man in front of her husband, she will also develop an understanding, tolerance, forgiveness, and even indulgence towards her husband's extramarital affairs. In fact, after spousal infidelity occurs, many women even actively seek out and arrange other women for their husbands. Some women will introduce their sisters or close friends to their husbands, and even invite these women to participate in their sexual activities, allowing their husbands to experience the pleasure of having sex with many different women. Many couples, after overcoming the hurdle of extramarital sex, will actively share the pleasures of it with each other and discuss the process. Sometimes, even when one partner isn't present, they will share the details without reservation. If couples are completely honest with each other, even regarding the most private aspects of sex, what could possibly destroy their trust and relationship? How could such a family not be stable? Imagine if 80% of the heartbreaking, sad, and regrettable family breakups across the country had been resolved; would there be any worry about family disharmony? If families are harmonious and happy, would there be any worry about social disharmony and happiness?

Secondly,
there are many benefits for men (husbands) in extramarital relationships.
One is that it helps with their career success. As we discussed earlier, among all the factors affecting family relationships, a woman's marital "betrayal," or "sexual betrayal," is something many men find intolerable. Because they treat women as their private property, not allowing outsiders to touch them, this is a consequence of the poison of feudal and backward thinking, which is undeniably tragic. Imagine, in today's open era, in a time when sexual liberation and freedom are mainstream ideas, how many women still adhere to the dogma of "remaining faithful to one man until death"? How many girls in this world are still virgins before their wedding night? Even your newlywed wife, how many are still virgins? Many men know their wives weren't virgins before marriage, but what they cannot tolerate is their wives having affairs after marriage. This idea is even more tragic and ridiculous. Your wife has already been with one or more men before marriage, losing her "uniqueness." Is it really worth your fury if she sleeps with a man she likes once after marriage? What difference does it make whether you have sex once or a hundred times? Why mock someone who is only a fraction of a fraction of a fraction? Besides, so what if you don't allow it? In modern society, there are plenty of women who have affairs. For every man who cheats, there is a corresponding number of women who cheat. It's impossible for every man in the world to cheat like Chen Yuanyuan, right? So what if you're afraid your wife will have an affair? Can you follow her around 24 hours a day?
Therefore, a man (husband) who understands the importance of marital friendship is a rational and broad-minded person. He knows that this matter cannot be controlled, only guided reasonably. Thus, a man (husband) in a marital relationship, because he allows his wife's infidelity, will not exhibit extreme behavior due to her extramarital affair, nor will he experience anxiety, anger, or resentment that negatively impact his emotions and life. His physical and mental health will be enhanced, and his family will be more stable. The ancients said, "Cultivate oneself, regulate one's family, and then bring peace to the world." Only when a man maintains his physical and mental health and the stability of his family can he devote more time to his career and achieve greater success in society. If you don't believe this, look around you—which man in a constantly arguing and quarrelsome family is successful in his career? Therefore, for someone pursuing a career, using marital friendship to reduce the chances of domestic strife and to stabilize family relationships is a very wise choice and approach.
Of course, there are even more clever people who use marital relationships to offer their wives to superiors, business partners, friends, or subordinates, thereby establishing and consolidating social connections and laying a more solid foundation for their career development and advancement. This is even more admirable. For example, there's a famous historical anecdote: King Zhuang of Chu once hosted a banquet for his generals in the palace garden. To show his favor to the generals, he specially ordered his most favored concubine to toast them. During this toasting, because it was outdoors, a night wind suddenly blew out all the candles in the room, plunging it into darkness. At this moment, someone took the opportunity to grab the concubine's clothes, hug her, and grope her thigh, trying to harass her. The concubine was very clever; she knew that if she made a fuss, the person would surely slip away in the dark, not only making it impossible to find out who it was but also causing a disturbance and suspicion throughout the room. Silently and deftly, she reached out, touched the man's crown tassel, and pulled it off. Then, in the dark, she reported him to King Zhuang, asking him to quickly investigate and punish the audacious lecher. King Zhuang of Chu, after a moment's thought, quickly instructed his attendants not to light the candles immediately, but instead loudly proclaimed to his ministers, "Today you are drinking with me, so please enjoy yourselves to the fullest! I now propose that everyone present remove the tassels from their hats. Anyone who does not remove their tassels is unwilling to join me in this celebration!" The ministers readily complied, and soon all the tassels were removed. The candles were relit, and King Zhuang, as if nothing had happened, continued drinking with his ministers until late into the night. The person who had secretly tugged at the concubine's clothes was naturally nowhere to be found. The concubine was very surprised, and afterwards, she complained to King Zhuang that he hadn't stood up for her. King Zhuang smiled and said, "The ruler and his ministers should enjoy themselves to the fullest." Now, it's understandable for someone to behave rudely after drinking, but if a meritorious official is executed for this, it will chill the hearts of patriotic soldiers, and the people will no longer be willing to do their best for Chu. The concubine couldn't help but praise the King of Chu for his thoughtfulness. Later, King Zhuang of Chu personally led his army to attack Zheng, but was unexpectedly surrounded by Zheng's ambush. At the critical moment, Tang Jiao, the deputy general of the Chu army, charged into the encirclement alone, sustaining eighteen serious wounds, yet still fought valiantly and risked his life to save King Zhuang of Chu. King Zhuang of Chu asked him in surprise, "I have not usually shown you any special favors, yet at this critical moment, all the generals fled, but you alone risked your life to save me. What is the reason for this?" Tang Jiao said, "At the banquet where the tassels were torn, it was I who pulled on Consort Xu's clothes. I am grateful for Your Majesty's mercy in sparing my life, so today I am willing to risk my life to repay you." "King Zhuang of Chu was deeply moved upon hearing this. Imagine, if King Zhuang of Chu had acted like many men today, becoming enraged upon hearing of his wife's infidelity and killing Tang Jiao, would
he have become the powerful King Zhuang of Chu, one of the Five Hegemons of the Spring and Autumn Period? Secondly, it's about enjoying special pleasure. It can be said that, based on the above discussion, extramarital affairs can have many benefits for a man's (husband's) career development, but many men (husbands) instigate or indulge their wives in seeking extramarital sexual pleasure, actually mostly for their own enjoyment of special pleasure. A husband seeing his wife having sex with another man in front of him experiences excitement, jealousy, stimulation, and resentment." A mix of emotions welled up inside him, especially the sight of a stronger, more handsome man thrusting and pounding on his wife's body—the stimulation was intense. Seeing a stranger suckling at his wife's breasts, licking her intimate parts, witnessing a strange, thick penis moving in and out of her body, hearing her joyful moans and gasps—did bring an unprecedented excitement, stimulation, and satisfaction. The man (husband) who first started this game would reach a peak of excitement from the stimulating scene before him, ejaculating even before joining the fray. Many men (husbands), when they were extremely aroused… They might even willingly do things they wouldn't do rationally, such as licking their wife's genitals during intercourse with a single man, licking the single man's penis, or even allowing the single man to ejaculate in their mouth. Many men (husbands), after getting used to the activity, gradually retreat from the threesome to watching from the sidelines, accustomed to seeing their wives' passionate encounters while they masturbate. This kind of pleasure is something couples, especially husbands, who haven't tried couple-based dating games can't experience. Couple-based dating games, from the initial training, the first participation of the single man, mutual probing, group sex, to the final observation, each stage has its own specific steps. Different pleasures exist, and among these, aside from the pre-coital sexual activity, the man (husband) enjoys the greatest and most pleasurable experience.
Thirdly, there are the physical benefits for the man (husband). A man's libido is directly proportional to his physical condition, rising around seventeen or eighteen and declining around thirty-five. Women, on the other hand, typically begin to experience sexual pleasure around twenty-five or twenty-six, reaching their peak between thirty and fifty. The saying "thirty like a wolf, forty like a tiger, fifty sucking the earth dry" accurately reflects women's sexual needs. When a man is in his thirties or forties, both his libido and physical condition are declining. When faced with a wife's sexual needs, should one avoid them or force oneself to endure it? Neither approach is ideal. Avoidance damages the marital relationship, causing feelings to fade; forcing oneself to endure it is physically demanding. The ancients said, "One drop of semen is worth ten drops of blood," although modern scientific research has shown this to be an exaggeration and lacks scientific basis. However, excessive indulgence in sex is harmful to the body, especially when forced to endure it when the body cannot handle it. Over time, this can cause damage to a man's body, such as neurasthenia, insomnia, kidney deficiency, seminal emission, impotence, decreased vision, loose teeth, lethargy, forgetfulness, lower back pain, and leg pain. Pre-aging symptoms, etc. So what to do when faced with a wife's very strong sexual desire? The best solution is to find her a new sexual partner through marital friendships. With a new partner, the novelty often makes them more energetic, thus satisfying the wife's strong sexual needs. Moreover, two or three men dealing with one woman is much easier, allowing the man more time to rest and recuperate. Ancient people described female reproductive organs as "the gate that gives me life, the door that destroys me," so a rational man should approach sexual activity correctly, viewing the "door that destroys me" as... Delegating the task to someone else is also a good way to preserve one's health and longevity.

Third, the benefits to women (wives)
: I have discussed the benefits of making friends to women (wives) in detail in the same forum section, "The Benefits of Making Friends to Women." Besides the points in that article, I will add some supplementary information here. Interested readers can refer to that article.
One benefit is to women's mental well-being. It is well known that most couples experience a gradual decline in their marital life and feelings after the age of thirty or forty, with increased dependence on each other and decreased attraction. This is illustrated in the famous sketch comedy "Happy Times" by Guo Da and Cai Ming. There's a classic line that describes the feeling of a married couple holding hands as "like the left hand touching the right." In this situation, if a single man is introduced, the novelty of the relationship will create a strong attraction for the wife. Women crave praise and care, and the new man's tenderness, praise, consideration, and affection will provide her with the strongest psychological and emotional satisfaction, leaving her radiant and full of energy. You can observe closely: women in their thirties and forties who maintain this state almost always have two or more sexual partners.
Secondly, women (wives) can enjoy more and more fulfilling sexual pleasure. In threesomes, because two or more men are servicing and stimulating her, women (wives) can experience more orgasms. As husbands alone, perhaps due to a lack of passion, declining physical condition, or other pressures, especially after their thirties or forties, couples often feel powerless in their sexual activity. Foreplay may be rushed and short, or the husband may fail just as she's about to climax, or he may simply turn over and fall asleep afterward – all things that dissatisfy women. In threesomes, the husband and the single man will be more diligent than ever before, especially the single man, who will provide ample foreplay, be very attentive, and bring her to ecstasy. During the activity, when one man fails, another immediately takes over, avoiding the awkward situation of a man failing just as she's about to climax. And when the second man finishes, the first man often becomes virile again, and so on. In a typical threesome, a woman will experience four or more rounds of sexual activity. Furthermore, in threesomes, the man's reproductive organs have a rest period, while the woman's reproductive organs are constantly active. Whether the men take turns thrusting simultaneously or one man takes turns, the woman is immersed in prolonged sexual activity and experiences unprecedented satisfaction. Moreover, due to the novelty and stimulation of the activity, after a rest of one or two hours, a new round of sexual activity often begins, something impossible to achieve alone with her husband. Scientific research suggests that a woman can achieve over sixty orgasms in two or three consecutive days, and based on my experience, it's perfectly normal for a woman with normal sexual desire to achieve ten or more orgasms a day.
Thirdly, it can improve health. Scientific research shows that male semen has numerous benefits for women, whether swallowed or retained in the body. It can delay aging, soothe the nerves and improve complexion, reduce inflammation and kill bacteria, protect the brain and maintain youthfulness. In addition, it can prevent and reduce the occurrence of heart disease, skin diseases, and other illnesses, and can also improve immunity. A German study even found that semen can help women prevent cancer. Those interested can find relevant scientific research online, which I won't go into detail here. In short, the entry of male semen, especially semen from multiple men, into a woman's body can bring numerous health benefits. This is particularly true for women before or during menopause; if semen is present for two or three days, it can effectively delay the onset of menopause and reduce symptoms such as anxiety, irritability, headaches, and menstrual irregularities. Generally, couples seek out younger single men, and the semen of young and strong men has a more pronounced effect. Ancient methods of health preservation included "absorbing yang to replenish yin," and many powerful and wealthy women, such as Empress Wu Zetian, used this method to delay aging and maintain their health.
Fourthly, it can help solve difficulties in life. As we all know, in modern society, due to different divisions of labor, many couples live apart. Some wives work away from home year-round, while others stay at home. Regardless of the situation, they will encounter difficulties they cannot handle on their own, such as heavy physical labor. If a husband can understand these difficulties and avoid the pain, embarrassment, and risk of family breakdown caused by his wife's infidelity, the best solution is for him to find a reliable, considerate, and capable man for his wife through a matchmaking service. Ideally, this should be a close friend or brother, who can take care of his wife when he is not home or with her. In this way, the husband is aware of everything and will not experience instability in the family due to suspicion, jealousy, or possessiveness. After finding such a man, the woman can reasonably satisfy her sexual needs without contracting diseases through promiscuity. Furthermore, some practical difficulties in life can be easily resolved.

Fourth, the benefits for single men
include contributing to social stability. We know that with increasing pressure in modern life, many men and women are delaying marriage, with many men only having the financial means to start a family around the age of thirty. A normal man typically begins puberty around fifteen and develops normal sexual needs. Chinese law stipulates that men enter adulthood at eighteen, and legal sexual activity is protected by law. However, where can a man in his twenties legally satisfy his sexual needs without a suitable partner? In my country, prostitution is illegal. If caught by the police, one faces not only financial penalties but also administrative detention. Once an adult man has been detained for violating the law, this punishment will follow him for life, leaving a mark and shadow of legal consequences. This is detrimental to a man's personal growth and career development. Furthermore, the risk of contracting diseases through prostitution is extremely high. While diseases like gonorrhea or syphilis are relatively minor and treatable, contracting AIDS can ruin a person's life. So, besides prostitution, what other avenues are available? Rape? This is even more unacceptable. Not only is it illegal, but I also strongly oppose it because it would cause immense harm to society and to another innocent woman. In this context, the emergence of couples engaging in casual sex, where another man offers his woman (wife), can effectively address the sexual needs of some single men, allowing them to release their desires through a legitimate and reasonable means. Of course, some might say that single men can satisfy their sexual needs through masturbation, but those who have experienced it know that masturbation can alleviate temporary sexual frustration, but it cannot solve long-term problems. Once a man becomes addicted, due to the highly casual nature of masturbation, he can become unable to extricate himself, similar to adding fuel to the fire, drinking poison to quench thirst, or drug addiction. I do not support this.
Secondly, it can increase one's sexual experience. It's fair to say that many single men lack sexual experience; they don't know how to engage in foreplay or how to maximize a woman's satisfaction. Many single men begin sexual activity with the premise of satisfying their own sexual needs; many simply undress and penetrate until they ejaculate, which is a sign of a lack of sexual experience. In sexual activities involving married couples, many single men learn, through the guidance of their older brothers and sisters-in-law, how to caress, kiss, tease, stimulate, thrust, build up stamina, and climax, even how to clean up afterward. They also learn about women's erogenous zones, their needs, and their psychology. Furthermore, many single men gain more sexual experience from married couples, such as oral sex, outdoor sex, car sex, threesomes, and anal sex, which greatly helps them in better serving their wives in the future.
Thirdly, it increases their social knowledge and experience. Many single men are new to society and lack the knowledge and skills to navigate social situations, often suffering setbacks due to their ignorance. By befriending married couples, the guidance and support of their older brothers and sisters-in-law reduces many of these pitfalls. Especially for single men who are good at learning, besides learning sexual techniques from the older brother of the married couple, they can also learn from the couple's interpersonal skills, as well as their good experiences and methods in work and study. This can prevent single men from struggling alone and avoid problems such as isolation, withdrawal, or extreme personality traits. Moreover, regular sexual activity with the woman in the couple can make their lives more structured, their physical and mental health better, and their energy more abundant, thus leading to greater achievements in work and study.

Fifth, benefits for children:
Many people believe that couples having sex is beneficial to themselves but not to their children. This is a misconception; couples having sex also has many benefits for their children.
First, children will grow up healthily. Everyone knows that families where spouses can socialize are generally very harmonious, and as mentioned earlier, this socializing itself promotes good family relationships. Children living in a harmonious family environment benefit greatly from this, fostering a loving, tolerant, and positive personality from a young age, and effectively preventing selfishness, social withdrawal, stubbornness, obstinacy, and irritability. Imagine a family where everyone is arguing or even fighting; will a child living in such an environment develop a good personality? Will the child be able to focus on their studies? Will they learn to get along well with neighbors and friends? And if the family breaks up, regardless of whether the child lives with the father or mother, they won't feel loved by their spouse. Will such a child grow up with a normal personality? Furthermore, if the father or mother remarries and the stepparents treat the child poorly, it's even more likely that the child will develop many bad habits. In fact, many people with bad tempers and personalities who end up committing crimes have unfortunate family environments in their childhood and early years. Therefore, from the perspective of stabilizing family relationships and ensuring children's healthy growth, couples should also participate in making friends.
Secondly, children will receive more help from others in society. Life is inseparable from the help of those around us, whether relatives or friends; sometimes, the help of relatives and friends can pull us out of desperate situations. However, it is undeniable that many social relationships and social assistance come with conditions or require reciprocation. Friends made by parents, however, are the closest and most private friendships, and they don't expect anything in return; they are selfless. For example, in the movie "Mr. Six," Xiaobo, the son of Mr. Six, has a conflict with his father and doesn't even acknowledge Mr. Six, only recognizing Mr. Six's lover, Huaxiazi. If Huaxiazi hadn't provided Xiaobo with meticulous care and love from childhood, would Xiaobo have accepted her? If she weren't Sixth Master's mistress, would she have cared for and looked after Xiaobo? Therefore, whether it's a father's or mother's mistress, when helping the children of their lovers, they mostly demonstrate parental love and affection, and this love is selfless and requires no reward. Thus, friends made by couples through social activities will unhesitatingly lend a helping hand when their children are in need, helping them grow and overcome difficulties.
Thirdly, children have better conditions to grow up in. Although the country has relaxed the two-child policy due to severe aging, many young couples are still only children with limited economic resources, and many families cannot afford the cost of raising children and dare not have more. However, in couples' social activities, if the form of friendship is exchange—mutually conceiving each other's husbands' children—then the child will grow up under the care of two families, reducing the cost of raising them, and the child will be happier with the love of two families. For example, Xiao Jingrui in the TV series "Nirvana in Fire" grew up under the care of the Xie and Zhuo families. If a couple conceives a child with an older, financially stable, and successful single man, that child will have access to more favorable conditions during their upbringing. Conversely, many couples with financial means, but who worry about their child's health due to the father's physical limitations, might consider encouraging the wife to conceive with a young, healthy single man. From a eugenic perspective, isn't this a wonderful thing? It eliminates the need to spend a large sum of money searching in sperm banks and watching the wife endure unbearable pain during artificial insemination. Furthermore, couples who are unable to conceive for various reasons should utilize this channel to find a healthy and fit single man, allowing the wife to conceive naturally – isn't that a win-win situation?
In short, couples engaging in matchmaking is a beneficial activity. Although it hasn't yet gained national or societal recognition, it already has a broad following among the public, and it's believed that this activity will soon receive widespread acceptance from the government and society. I've only offered some analysis and explanation from my own perspective, and many benefits haven't been summarized yet. I hope interested friends will add to and improve this, so that more people can correctly understand and approach this activity, allowing it to become more widespread and popularized in society. If this can be achieved, it would be the most beneficial thing I, personally, can do for social stability and prosperity.

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