A Review of Brother Mu and Sister Mu's Dating Experiences

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We are Brother Mu and Sister Mu. Before we knew it, we had been visiting 69 Paradise for over two years.
Over the past two years, despite the troublesome pandemic control measures, busy work schedules, children to care for, and the need to manage our lives, we have maintained a positive, open, and expectant attitude, reaching out to men and couples we met at 69 Paradise, hoping to forge the positive connections we envisioned. Over these two years, we've chatted with many people who proactively added us or whom we proactively added, and we've also met some people offline who seemed to have a good rapport with online. Here, we'd like to share our feelings and experiences.
(a) Unreliability is the most common problem, and unreliable people must be resolutely avoided.
Couples engaging in casual sexual relationships is neither a necessity of life nor an emotional necessity, but rather a way for loving couples to add more passion and excitement to their sex lives. However, since this is not a mainstream practice, it requires extra caution, and the partners must be reliable. Reliability, at its most basic level, means being trustworthy and trustworthy. In everyday friendships, and even in collaborations with colleagues, we consciously avoid and steer clear of unreliable individuals; how much more so in such a sensitive and private matter as casual sexual relationships between couples?
However, it's regrettable that reliability is such a rare quality.
In our experience, unreliable behavior mainly manifests as delivering goods that don't match the description, being unpunctual and untrustworthy, lacking a sense of boundaries, and being overly clever. The underlying reason for these behaviors is that these people lack respect for others and are inherently self-centered.
The discrepancy between the advertised and the actual product is quite perplexing. Aren't they afraid of the awkwardness of meeting in person? It's hard to understand their motives. For example, one man sent us a photo of himself with six-pack abs and a fit physique, but in person, he was quite round and chubby, which was both funny and frustrating. Another man sent us a photo that seemed stylish and energetic, but in person, he resembled a greasy salesman. Yet another man was very enthusiastic in chat, but in person, he was unkempt, indifferent, and nonchalant. This isn't to say that being overweight is bad, that salespeople are bad, or that being relaxed is bad. I myself am not thin, and I worked as a salesman in my early years. I'm quite relaxed and comfortable when I'm alone. We're not obsessed with looks, and we appreciate interesting personalities. However, when it comes to making friends, being honest and presenting yourself is a crucial foundation. There are countless people in the world, and countless types of people we like, but a huge gap between the presented image and the actual person only wastes everyone's time.
As for being unpunctual and untrustworthy, it's actually quite infuriating. For example, the man we met offline for the first time was a master's graduate who had returned from studying in the UK and worked for a real estate company. At that time, we hadn't been on 69 Paradise for long. We chatted well online and felt that the other person was quite warm and clean. So, we agreed to meet offline during the May Day holiday. For this meeting, Mu arranged his work and his trip back to Xi'an in advance. Mu's wife also entrusted the child to a friend in advance and made sure she looked neat and tidy. As parents know, we often can't control our own time, and arranging such a meeting really requires a lot of preparation beforehand. That night, we were drinking beer at the agreed place, waiting for this man to arrive, but he kept texting that he was on his way, and this "on the way" status continued all night, until almost midnight, and he still hadn't shown up. Although Mu and his wife felt that filtering out an unreliable person was a gain from this failed meeting, it still felt like we had eaten something dirty. It's hard to imagine someone who can't even be trustworthy and punctual being someone you can rely on. Fortunately, such oddballs aren't many, but for those who are unpunctual and lack accountability, blocking them decisively is definitely the right thing to do.
Compared to misrepresentation or unreliability, people who lack a sense of boundaries are even more dangerous and should be avoided. Even among everyday friends, or siblings from the same family, clear boundaries need to be established. Some things shouldn't be said, and some things shouldn't be interfered with, especially in situations like a couple's friendship. However, some people simply don't understand these boundaries. We've encountered this situation twice: someone took advantage of a moment alone with Mrs. Mu to ask for her WeChat, saying that Mr. Mu often travels for work and he could take care of her, etc. We really don't understand what they're thinking. They certainly feel incredibly charming, but their lack of boundaries and potential for disruption are also undeniable. How can we possibly associate with someone who can't even maintain the most basic boundaries?
As for those who acted too cleverly, it was rather laughable. Brother Mu and his wife chatted with a couple who expressed a strong desire to meet and were very enthusiastic. So, they agreed to meet on the weekend for dinner, a sort of introduction. Brother Mu and his wife arrived punctually at the agreed-upon location. However, at that moment, the man texted saying he had just left, and his wife had departed separately from another location and was already on her way. So, we could only wait while reading, and after about an hour, we finally met this "rushed" gentleman. He politely apologized profusely, explaining that his mother-in-law was unwell and his wife had gone to visit her. Finally, this man made two more phone calls from a distance to urge his wife, returning to say she hadn't left yet. We quickly reassured him that this was perfectly normal and not to worry. A little while later, this man went on another flurry of activity, making several more phone calls from a faraway place, returning to say his wife might not be able to make it. We could only say it was alright, we could meet again another time. As a result, this man asked if he could join us as a single man. And, while I was in the restroom, he showered Sister Mu with compliments and confessions, asking for her WeChat and contact information. We don't reject dating single men, but sincerity is a fundamental requirement. Throughout the process, we remained polite, but this pretentious and somewhat crude tactic only made him seem ridiculous.
(ii) It is possible to find good friends among those who share the same ideals and have a positive attitude.
We don't object to people who are efficient and get straight to the point, lacking patience for communication and interaction, and rushing off for a new physical attraction. In fact, we once encountered a self-proclaimed "expert" who, after reading our thoughts and posts about making friends, became quite angry, directly commenting, "It's just that kind of thing, what are you pretending for? If you're going to pretend, you'll get struck by lightning," and then blocked us.
This incident left me both amused and exasperated, but it also made me realize that the people we interact with online are just as complex and stratified as those in real life. Although everyone is interested in dating and making friends online, each person belongs to a different category and level, and their specific needs and preferences differ.
These differences are understandable, and it's difficult to say who is right. We can't criticize by saying "you can't talk about ice with a summer insect," we can only say "those who walk different paths cannot make plans together." Therefore, only by seeking like-minded companions can one find a compatible partner. But undeniably, finding like-minded friends is a difficult problem.
Fortunately, we understand that what people consider to be like-minded on certain issues, and what they perceive as categories and levels of social standing, are largely the result of upbringing, similar educational backgrounds, and life experiences. Therefore, having similar qualities, levels of education, and work experience greatly increases the probability of finding suitable friends. Starting from this point is certainly a shortcut.
In the course of interaction, online and offline contact and interaction become key pathways for people to get to know each other. Online contact and interaction, in particular, is the most convenient and primary pathway. Many people can be directly filtered out through online contact and interaction.
In this process, some people sense something is amiss just from online chatting, while others gradually lose interest in interaction due to a lack of sufficient initiative. This initiative actually reflects the level of importance one places on the matter and the other person. For example, some people rarely reply to messages, or only reply after many days; these people are generally not worth considering. On the other hand, some people are very aloof in interactions; you say a lot, but they always reply with a few indifferent words and never initiate conversation; there's basically no need to communicate with these people.
We believe that friendship between spouses is also a form of friendship, and a higher level of friendship at that. Since it's friendship, the basic principles and rules of friendship apply. People who don't share our values, aren't on the same level, and aren't proactive are absolutely not worth our time, energy, enthusiasm, or passion.
(iii) The “loophole effect” objectively exists; if you are destined to have it, don’t push it away; if you are not destined to have it, don’t seek it out.
In sales, there's a phenomenon known as the "loophole effect," which means that the number of customers who ultimately make a purchase decreases with each subsequent contact. For example, if you initially contact 100 customers, you might only close a few deals, or even none at all. This phenomenon is widespread and is called the "loophole effect."
A similar loophole effect exists in talent recruitment. Initially, you might contact 100 candidates, but only receive resumes from about 50. After rounds of interviews and screenings, only a few, or even none, might ultimately be hired by the company.
The same principle applies to the process of couples making friends.
Like other couples, we are still full of anticipation and passion, hoping to find that perfect match. But no one knows if such a match exists, or where it might be. Therefore, a calm and balanced mindset is essential, and screening is a necessary process. This process requires mutual contact and interaction, a deeper understanding of each other, and ultimately, making a choice.
Fate is a mysterious thing; it's uncontrollable. We don't know when it will come or when it will go. Therefore, we should have a calm attitude towards fate, as the saying goes: "Those who are destined to meet will come, and those who are not destined to meet will leave; let everything be as it is, and go with the flow; if there is a connection, don't push it away; if there is no connection, don't seek it."
(iv) In conclusion
We are an ordinary middle-aged couple. We are not sexually frustrated, nor are we sexually deviant. We are very loving and our life is full of passion. We have known each other for over 30 years, and we are still inseparable; our sex life is still passionate. Mrs. Mu is quite beautiful; everyone who has met her admires her beauty and temperament. Mr. Mu is knowledgeable, well-traveled, capable, and also quite masculine. We are both very confident and enthusiastic in real life.
Therefore, we are not looking to compensate for any shortcomings in our sex life or daily life. We simply hope to find truly reliable, compatible, and harmonious men or couples through this dating platform to add a touch of passion to our lives. We hope to meet kindred spirits, but for us, it's great to find someone special, but it's okay if we don't. We maintain a positive attitude, let things take their course, and don't force or insist on anything.

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