Causes and solutions for female lack of orgasm

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Women who have sexual desire or experience sexual pleasure but cannot reach orgasm are medically termed orgasmic deficiency. This is not an isolated phenomenon. According to reports, 44% of women have never reached orgasm during intercourse, have only experienced a few orgasms, or have only occasionally reached orgasm. Some women have never even experienced orgasm in their entire lives.
1. Causes of orgasmic deficiency
(1) Organic causes Among organic causes, the first refers to diseases of the reproductive system, such as diseases of the vulva, vagina, uterus and adnexa, bladder, urethra, as well as pelvic inflammatory disease, tumors, and trauma, which can cause pain and discomfort during intercourse, thus inhibiting the occurrence of orgasm. In addition, diseases of various systems throughout the body can inhibit and interfere with sexual response to varying degrees, thus disrupting the attainment of orgasm.
(2) Psychological causes Foreign scholars have studied a large number of women with orgasmic deficiency and found that more than 95% of patients were caused by psychological factors. This mainly refers to: ① Women are educated to suppress sexual behavior throughout childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, requiring them to suppress sexual feelings or behaviors. Many sex psychologists have pointed out that in modern civilized society, women's sexual responses are often restricted. Women in civilized societies cannot express their sexual responses as naturally and intensely as those in primitive societies. Some sex education, filled with falsehoods and lacking scientific rigor, leaves many women ignorant or misled about sex. For example, it seems that "respectable women" should only bear children and should not express a pursuit of sexual pleasure. The ideal "ladylike demeanor" is to suppress oneself during intercourse, being passive and shy, all of which hinder women's sex lives and prevent them from achieving orgasm. ② Traumatic childhood or adolescent experiences, such as incest or rape, can also cause a lack of orgasm. ③ External environmental interference, such as an insecure living space (fear of being seen by children or strangers); uncomfortable bedding; bright light or noise; work-related stress, interpersonal conflicts, financial difficulties, or household chores, can all contribute to a lack of orgasm. ④ Marital discord. Lack of emotional communication, mutual distrust, or differing views on sex between spouses not only damage the relationship but also make a harmonious sex life difficult. ⑤ Distractibility. Some women, fearing their behavior might be inappropriate or lose their husbands' affection during sex, become overly concerned with their appearance, words, and their husbands' reactions; they may constantly reminisce about the past; or worry about the possibility of pregnancy. This distraction can affect the development of the sexual cycle and hinder the arrival of orgasm. (6) Monotonous Life. This is mainly manifested in: the man controlling the entire sexual activity and its manner; during intercourse, the man only cares about himself and does not consider the woman's sexual physiology; the man rushes into intercourse before the woman has sexual arousal; the man ejaculates before the woman reaches orgasm; the woman reluctantly goes through the motions, often treating it as an obligation or something she is forced to do; the woman is unaware of her own anatomy, knows nothing about sex, and does not know what kind of sexual activity she prefers; the woman cannot express to her husband her preferred touching methods, sexual positions, and duration during sex. These women often believe that women should not talk about how to have sex, fearing that it will displease their husbands and cause disharmony. These women often believe that women should not talk about how to have sex, fearing that it will displease their husbands, so they obey their husbands' every command. ⑦ Operational anxiety. Many women worry that they will not be able to orgasm during intercourse, and the more they worry, the less likely they are to orgasm.
2 How to treat lack of orgasm
For lack of orgasm caused by organic causes, the treatment is mainly based on the primary lesion caused by various reasons. For lack of orgasm caused by psychological factors, in addition to "treating the symptoms" of the above causes, the following aspects should also be noted:
(1) Correct understanding Forming correct sexual knowledge is the key to treating lack of female orgasm. For this purpose, some sexual knowledge should be learned, such as the location of reproductive organs and the various changes that occur during the sexual response cycle. It should be understood that even for the same person, the intensity of each orgasm varies greatly. If one is determined to seek a strong sexual orgasm, it is often necessary to understand that sexual desire is closely related to biological and psychosocial factors. Therefore, emotional interference and physical discomfort caused by pain or hunger can affect sexual life and should be avoided as much as possible.
(2) Be proactive. To achieve orgasm, the woman should take a proactive approach during sex. This mainly includes: recognizing her preferred sexual methods and stimulation areas, her psychological reactions during intercourse, and what actions she can take to enhance stimulation. She should actively tell her partner her desires. For example, if the man has ejaculated but the woman has not yet reached orgasm, she can tell him that if he continues to stroke her clitoris, it can keep her excited until she reaches orgasm.
(3) Discuss together. Many couples, after the foreplay, often struggle to determine the right time to begin penetration. In fact, this is crucial for achieving orgasm. Because female sexual arousal is not constant, and its intensity does not increase over time, if the duration exceeds a certain limit, the woman's sexual arousal will decrease. Therefore, a fulfilling sex life requires not only mutual understanding but also joint research and experience sharing. The more respect both partners have for each other's sexual reactions, desires, habits, and preferences, the more likely they are to achieve orgasm.
(4) Sensate Concentration to Induce Female Orgasm: The sensate concentration method mainly includes two aspects: First, temporarily refrain from stimulating the genitals and breasts at the beginning of sexual intercourse; second, teach the couple non-verbal communication skills, that is, when progressing to touching the genitals, the couple gently put their hands together to make non-verbal cues for touching. Use pre-agreed lightness or heaviness to cue the husband's touch, avoiding diluting the pleasant feeling due to talking. Sensate concentration exercises deepen the couple's understanding of sexual intercourse: sexual intercourse is a joint activity of the couple. This cues make the husband understand the way, location and duration of the touch that the wife likes, while the wife can silently express her feelings.
(5) Muscle Exercise: This method is called "pubococcygeal muscle exercise". The pubococcygeal bone is distributed around the vaginal opening. The principle of this exercise is to obtain orgasm through the sensitivity of the vaginal area. It is especially beneficial for women who have already experienced pubococcygeal muscle expansion during childbirth or whose pubococcygeal muscles are thin. The specific exercise method is: sit on the toilet with your legs apart and exercise the pubococcygeal muscles by urinating intermittently. The muscle that controls urination is the pubococcygeus muscle. Do this 6 times a day, contracting the muscle 10 times each time, and gradually increase the number.
(6) Pay attention to technique. Paying attention to sexual techniques can often promote orgasm. For this purpose, the woman-on-top position can be adopted. First, use the penis to rub the labia, clitoris and perineum to promote emotion and experience sensation. When the woman is mentally and physically ready, intercourse should begin. Intercourse should be slow, and the penis should only partially enter the vagina. This makes it easier to prolong the time of intercourse.
Please do not focus too much on pursuing an orgasm.

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