Interacting with multiple people requires a better mindset and qualities

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Interacting with multiple people requires a better mindset and qualities
Lately, browsing 69 (a Chinese online forum), besides a bunch of reposted, speculative, and fabricated articles, I've seen countless posts complaining and even hurling insults. Based on my limited successful experience (only three times in total), I must share a piece of advice: the success rate of group dating (whether it's a single man seeking a couple, or a couple seeking a single man) is actually very low. Everyone should maintain a good attitude and composure. Even if the relationship fails or you feel disappointed, please don't let this setback affect your life. After all, this kind of thing should only be a diversion from life, not its entirety.
For single men, never take online novels, fiction, or even pornography seriously. Don't assume that you can immediately have a passionate sexual encounter with any woman or couple you meet. The saying goes, "One general's success is built on the bones of ten thousand," meaning that even in online stories depicting real experiences, don't ignore the countless unsuccessful "victims" behind the protagonists. It's crucial to understand that for a single man to find a married couple is no less difficult than finding a satisfactory job or even dating and getting married. Remember, work and marriage both involve taking responsibility, and the law protects the rights of the other party. With group sex, you can simply pull up your pants and leave afterward. This isn't to say all single men are bad, but it's undeniable that, according to public news reports, a very small number of single men have malicious intentions, harassing or even coercing married couples afterward, causing them trouble and even pain. Therefore, married couples must be extra cautious and carefully consider their options when choosing a single man. Often, the first criterion for couples when considering whether a single man is suitable is: whether he is well-mannered, whether he is willing to respect the couple, whether he is willing to listen to the couple, and whether he will cause trouble for the couple afterward.
When it comes to respecting married couples, many single men complain that couples have many requirements: they want young, handsome, well-endowed, and long-lasting partners, and they want to be able to have sex multiple times a night. Most importantly, single men have to bear many expenses: hotel rooms, food and drinks, and even gifts. Aside from a few couples who charge extra, I think most of their other requirements are normal and reasonable. Think about it: that husband went through a lot of effort to marry her, and now he's going to great lengths to persuade her to accept another man. It didn't come for free; he deserves a lot of credit and hard work. Why should married couples accept anyone? Why should their wives be completely subservient to you just because you're satisfied? What's wrong with them making some demands? Finding a job is a two-way street; if you're not happy, you can look elsewhere. Why can't married couples have the right to choose and refuse? They're not sexually frustrated; they can still have a fulfilling life without you.
Regarding money, I think it's perfectly reasonable for single men to cover the costs of hotel rooms and meals. Every single man with successful experience will admit that proactively covering these expenses is a fundamental condition for increasing rapport and the success rate of relationships. As far as I know, most couples who enter this circle are not short of money; on the contrary, their living conditions are much better than those of single men. But put yourself in their shoes. These husbands have spent so much money (house, car, wedding expenses, living expenses…) to raise their beautiful wives, only to have them offer themselves up for you to mess around with, and you expect them to pay you out of pocket? Don't talk about splitting the bill; poor and stingy men don't deserve to be in this circle! Construction workers, go wash up and go to bed early; you can get up early tomorrow to carry more bricks. Single losers, hurry home and download some Japanese adult films; otherwise, your address will be blocked.
Let's talk about the initiative and attitude of couples. Many single men say that after adding couples as friends, they rarely chat, and often they're not even online. Even if they do chat a few times, they're often quickly blocked. In these situations, single men should be sensible; they clearly aren't the other person's type. There are plenty of other options, and success is always waiting for you at the next turn. When they see couples online, single men should take the initiative to greet them and find topics to talk about. Don't immediately ask for photos, videos, or even to meet up or have sex. Don't bombard them with questions like a busybody, and definitely don't talk about your sexual prowess. If the other person isn't available to chat or doesn't respond, they should understand and back off. Many couples are used to being invisible online, so if you feel your partner hasn't been online for a long time, a single man might try leaving a message to check things out; you might get a pleasant surprise. If there's no response to messages and they're never online, either ignore them or block them. In short, chatting is a skill and an art; there are no ready-made strategies, only personal practice and flexibility. The better you chat, the higher your chances of a successful relationship; conversely, if you don't chat well, it's time to find someone else.
Having discussed single men, let's talk about couples. Actually, for couples to find a suitable single man that satisfies both of them is no less difficult than for single men to find a partner, and may even be more difficult. Therefore, couples shouldn't be indiscriminate, but they also shouldn't be overly idealistic. Of course, unlike single men, many couples adopt a "better to have none than a bad one" attitude, hoping to find a perfect single man. Couples certainly have the right to be picky, but they must accept the fact that the person they're looking for, while not nonexistent, is extremely rare. They shouldn't use such high standards to criticize other single men with less desirable qualities. Most importantly, if single men see articles where couples act superior and look down on the world, they should simply ignore them and close the window.
Many couples who have had successful experiences have also experienced failure and even disappointment. Just like a salesperson selling a product, the more successful they are, the more times they will fail. Often, couples only need to lower their expectations slightly and reduce their choices a little to overcome obstacles and achieve success.
In conclusion, whether you're already in the circle, a newcomer striving to join, or even just casually browsing, everyone should approach social interactions with a positive attitude and good manners. Recognize reality, face difficulties, and accept imperfections in order to derive the greatest enjoyment and passion from them.
In relationships with many people, cherish every moment.
Finally, a little self-promotion: Single male, 31, 180cm, 78kg. I'm not proud of my appearance, but always proud of my inner qualities. I look forward to sincere exchanges with single women, couples, and lovers in Xinjiang and surrounding cities. Single men are welcome to just chat, but those who constantly clamor for resources, please don't bother adding me; don't blame me for blocking you. Premium members can add me directly on QQ (please specify "69 Paradise" in the verification message). Lower-level friends can leave a message here, and I will selectively add you. I've chatted with many people on QQ, but most are not suitable for serious relationships, and we barely exchange a few words. Even if we can't have a deep relationship, if you are satisfied with my character and inner qualities, then becoming close confidants who can chat well would be a pleasure, don't you think?

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