Ten years have passed like a dream; Me and My Women 04

page views:1 Publication date:2023-05-09 08:15:26

(IV): A Turning Point in Life
At the end of 2007, I received a text message from Chen Bo inviting me to a class reunion, as
usual. Chen Bo was one of my closest classmates from high school, but we'd lost touch after starting work, especially in recent years since I'd been working in another province. When I replied that I'd attend, Chen Bo seemed surprised and sent a text message saying, "That's rare! This year's turnout is the largest in recent years. You absolutely have to come!"
Actually, class reunions are all the same around the world; most of the time they're a bit boring. Successful classmates subtly boast to each other, while those still working hard look for any useful resources. I was a little nervous before meeting Man, but when I saw her walk in, I immediately calmed down. She greeted me calmly, politely inquired about my recent situation, and there were no dramatic rekindlings of old flames or old classmates getting together.
She was quickly surrounded by classmates. Man had always been the center of attention in class; that's just her personality—she craved the spotlight wherever she went. I wondered if, as some people said, it was also due to acquired inferiority complex?
I watched Man and a group of classmates who were in business discussing potential collaborations. Chen Bo whispered in my ear, "So, feeling a bit emotional?"
I glanced at him. "Yeah, I never thought the most talented and handsome guy in our class would get so chubby at just over 30."
"Tch, don't change the subject. Let's go to the karaoke later, maybe you can rekindle your old flame."
"I only like young girls now. As for you, Xiaomei got divorced, you might have a chance."
He chuckled and then fell silent .
After the dinner, I excused myself, saying I had things to do at home, and didn't go to the karaoke. As I was leaving, Man found me at the door.
"Why are you leaving so early? It's been so long, let's chat some more later."
Over the past few years, her demeanor had changed drastically; perhaps this is what it means to be a successful person. Of course, having a successful husband to help you might make success a little easier than for others.
"No, I have things to do at home. My mom is waiting for me."
"Living with your parents? Not married yet? Do you have a girlfriend?"
I didn't want to say too much, so I smiled. "Yes, but I don't plan to get married for now. Let's talk about it in a few years."
"Okay, keep in touch." She could tell I didn't want to say too much.
On the way home, I was thinking that sometimes it's just a matter of whether you want to untie your knots. When you really face them, you'll find that, as the lyrics say, the past is gone like the wind.
However, Chen Bo and I reconnected. He kept saying that I was the only unmarried man among our classmates and that he would definitely introduce me to someone
. Later, when I was talking to Xiaominshi about the class reunion, she said, "You must still have some lingering feelings for someone. But you're not the type of person who easily develops strong feelings for women. The reason you can't let go is simply because you missed out, just like Jiajia."
"You mean I'm pathetic, only appreciating what's lost? My first love wasn't something I missed; she fell for someone else, okay?" I couldn't help but purse my lips
. "Most people are like that. Even if you didn't miss her, there's always a reason. You might have some childhood experiences that make you distrustful of romantic relationships."
I thought for a moment. "I really don't think anything serious happened."
"If it happened when you were very young, you might not remember the details, only one or two fragments. But it would have a big impact on your subconscious." "
Maybe. By the way, I'm working in Shenzhen now." I thought it would be better to change the subject to something lighter.
"Is it a business trip? Or did you switch jobs?" She sent a surprised emoji.
"Switched jobs, I've been here for about half a year." After saying that, I felt it wouldn't be appropriate not to ask her out since I was in Shenzhen, so I added, "I just started working, I'm very busy, so I haven't had time to contact you yet."
"Forget it, don't explain. You're just afraid it'll be boring if you meet me."
"How could that be? Weren't we having a great chat?"
"Many people say I sound like I'm working even when I'm just chatting casually."
I suddenly really wanted to meet her. "How about we meet up? We've known each other for so long. How about we go for hot pot tomorrow night? There's a hot pot place in CITIC City Plaza that's pretty good in both ambiance and taste." If you're going to ask a girl out, you can't give her a chance to refuse.
The young woman was silent for a while before replying, "Okay, but I have to work the night shift at 9."
I laughed, "I can get there before 7, a little over an hour is enough."
"I should be there before you. Call me when you get there."
We exchanged phone numbers and agreed on how to greet each other.
In my mind, the young woman was the kind of sophisticated woman around 30 (I've never actually asked her age), maybe not very pretty but definitely with a lot of class. So, after she texted me that she had arrived, as soon as I entered the hot pot restaurant, I started looking around at the women sitting alone. I found a woman who matched my expectations, and just as I was about to walk over, my phone rang. "It wasn't her. She wasn't on the phone.
" "Where are you?" I looked around for the person on the phone.
"Turn around, I see you."
I turned around and saw a long-haired girl waving at me. I hung up the phone and walked towards her. When I reached the table, she actually stood up and extended her hand to me. "Hello!" I was taken aback for a moment, then gently shook her hand. Her hand was a little cool, but soft and pleasant to the touch. She smiled and said, "Hello! Is this a business meeting?"
She brushed a strand of hair from her cheek and sat down. "It's probably just a work habit."
"It's fine if you didn't bring a notebook and pen to take notes." I said with a smile.
Her ordinary-looking appearance didn't fit my expectations. She had a round face, the baby-faced type, and looked like a pretty high school girl. But what surprised me most was her figure. She was probably close to 160 cm tall, not fat, but her breasts were particularly large. Based on my years of experience, even if they weren't a D cup, they were at least a C cup, which is rare for Asian women. If you took off her old-fashioned black-rimmed glasses, only one word could aptly describe her: youthful face and huge breasts!
She adjusted her glasses, staring into my eyes without speaking
. I felt a little uncomfortable under her gaze and sat down. "What? Is my appearance terrible? I specifically looked in the mirror in the bathroom before coming here, and it's alright."
"Were you a little surprised to see me?" "
It's a bit different from what I imagined. At first glance, I thought you were a college student who hadn't graduated." I touched my nose. I couldn't very well say that I was surprised by how big her breasts were.
"I graduated two years ago." She paused, then said, "You stared at my chest for two seconds just now."
Okay, even though I was used to her directness in QQ chat, I still felt uncomfortable face-to-face.
"When facing a girl with such unique features, it's inevitable to be attracted to her features, but my thoughts are pure."
Indeed, I hadn't been fantasizing about anything just now, or rather, I hadn't had the chance yet. However, when dealing with a girl who speaks so directly, the best approach is to be as honest as possible yourself.
"Yeah, I know, otherwise I would have just grabbed my bag and left." She handed me the menu. "You've eaten here before, so you can order."
I was a little speechless. I looked down at the menu and called the waiter over to take my order.
The meal was actually quite pleasant, except she was rather reserved and rarely smiled. I told several jokes that I thought were good, and she just pursed her lips. But I was used to it; chatting with her was more like her being the doctor and me the patient. I'd say something, and she'd offer her analysis.
"Have you ever actually been in a relationship?" I was a little curious. From a dating perspective, a girl with this kind of personality wasn't exactly a good match.
"I've been once."
She adjusted her glasses again. I noticed they weren't actually prescription; maybe she wore glasses simply to make herself look more mature.
"You're a quack! You have so little experience, and you even failed. How can you analyze other people's relationship problems?"
"Not everyone who comes for consultation has relationship problems. We rely more on past cases to summarize our experience and make judgments. Personal experience is unreliable." "
Now that you've seen me, judge me as this kind of person."
"A womanizer."
"Can you give me a better evaluation?" Although I wasn't planning on having a relationship with her, hearing such a comment still hurt a little.
"But some girls like your type."
"Women don't love bad boys?"
"Yes, they think they're the ones who can bring you back from your misguided ways, but often it's just a recipe for disaster. Do you have any new suitors?" It was rare for her to ask me a question
. "Yes, a classmate introduced me to someone."
"Have you started sleeping with them yet?"
Her voice was a bit loud, and a girl at the next table looked over at us. I smiled at her, and she immediately turned her head away.
"Not yet, we've only known each other for a month. We meet once a week in my hometown, how can it be that fast? Hey, I don't even know your name yet, I can't just call you a nobody." I quickly changed the subject.
"My name is Jiali, you can call me Jiali, or Xiaoli, it's fine." I raised an eyebrow when I heard her name. She added, "Do you think your name is too common?"
"No, it's a good name, you live up to your name, you are indeed a stunning beauty."
"My brother's name is Hero."
I laughed and patted the table, "Uncle has high hopes for you and your brother!"
"Yes, my brother became a policeman." She said very seriously. I stopped laughing. Okay, it seems she really isn't good at chatting.
"If you're so bad at chatting, are you suitable for psychological counseling?"
"We have a fixed analytical process for understanding the other person's problems through conversation, and chatting with you is completely different from chatting with a client. Besides, many well-known psychologists aren't good at socializing either."
I breathed a sigh of relief. "Looks like you don't consider me a patient."
"Yeah, you're beyond help, so you're not my client."
After dinner, I drove her back to her company. After that, we would meet up for a meal every now and then. Although we still chatted on QQ, it was no longer just online friendship. She was probably the only female online friend I could become friends with.
Chen Bo enthusiastically introduced me to a girl named Xiao Ying. She was 26 years old, very beautiful, petite, and her skin wasn't as dark as that of women from the south. The key was that she had a very cheerful and proactive personality and loved to laugh. I found that I had no resistance to girls who loved to laugh. We dated normally for a few months.
At that time, I bought a house near my parents' house. After it was renovated, she said she wanted to go up and see it. As a result, we ended up in bed together that very night. She was the first girl in all these years to sleep with me in my place. Xiao Ying inherited her looks from her mother, a typical Jiangsu beauty, but her personality was like that of a traditional Guangdong woman—gentle and virtuous. When I went home on weekends, she would always find time to cook for me and help me tidy up the house.
I was used to the loneliness of living alone, but having someone busy at home on weekends added a touch of warmth. My mom came over once and happened to run into her. From then on, she kept asking me when we were going to get married. I was also considering whether we should settle down.
During the National Day holiday in 2008, Xiaoying and I went to Sanya for three days. Something unexpected happened. We brought nine condoms, thinking that three a day would be enough. But unexpectedly, in a relaxed environment, desire and energy are particularly strong, and we used them up in two days. On the last night, when we were about to get intimate, we realized we were out of condoms. I thought that although it wasn't her absolutely safe period, she probably hadn't ovulated yet, and after having sex for the past two days, her sperm should be almost used up, so I didn't use a condom and ejaculated inside her. At the end of the month, her period didn't come, and I knew she was pregnant.
That day, I had just woken up in Shenzhen when I received a text message from Xiaoying with only four words: "I'm pregnant."
Although I was mentally prepared, I was still a little stunned when it actually happened. After a while, I called Xiaoying back and said, "It's okay, I'll take responsibility." I could tell she was very happy, but she was afraid her parents would hear, so she didn't dare to say much.
I sent Jiali a message: "I'm getting married."
She didn't reply for a long time; she probably worked the night shift last night. It wasn't until the afternoon that she replied: "Is it your current girlfriend?"
"Yes, she's pregnant."
"It's good that you know you have to take responsibility."
"Maybe it's fate. Didn't you say before that I needed to have a proper relationship and find a suitable woman to settle down with?"
"Since you've decided, treat her well and don't flirt around."
I sent a dizzy emoji, "I've been well-behaved for a long time, okay!" Of course, I didn't tell her about my frequent trips to saunas and KTVs. However, it seems I should avoid going to these places in the future.
"Yeah, let's contact each other less often in the future, so she doesn't misunderstand."
"What? We're friends, we're innocent. Unless you have other ideas about me."
It's rare to have a true female friend, and I don't want to lose her easily. I'm very careful when I'm with her, never crossing the line
. After a while, she replied, "Okay!"
When I got home on the weekend, I put the ring I had bought beforehand on a rose and proposed to Xiaoying. She was very happy, but I had read that it's best not to have sex in the early stages of pregnancy, so we could only hug and kiss. She helped me with oral sex.
On Saturday, I took Xiaoying to my parents' house and told them about it. When my parents learned that Xiaoying was pregnant, they scolded me for being so immature at my age, but they were very happy.
Speaking of our family, my father belongs to the main branch of the family, but in our generation and the next generation, all the children are girls, including my brother who also had a girl. The family has placed their hopes for the continuation of the main branch's bloodline on me. While arranging meetings with Xiaoying's parents to finalize the wedding, I was also trying to get my father to use his connections to transfer Xiaoying to a state-owned bank. This would provide her with a stable job and make it easier for her to prepare for pregnancy and childbirth.
Originally, I planned for Xiaoying to quit her job and move to Shenzhen with me, but my parents strongly disagreed, saying that pregnant women need care, and I was too busy with work to have the time. After meeting Xiaoying's parents, they shared the same opinion, so I didn't insist .
At the end of 2008, Xiaoying officially became my wife, and I bid farewell to my previous lifestyle, settling down to be a good husband and a good father.
In July 2009, my child was born—a boy, as my father had hoped. When I saw that wrinkled little baby in the nurse's arms, I suddenly felt that I had truly become a man. Along with heartfelt joy, a heavy burden weighed on my shoulders.
After that, my work became even busier. The company was preparing for its IPO, and the pressure of various pre-IPO preparations and performance targets plunged me into endless meetings and overtime.
Although I tried my best to arrange my work hours, even driving home from Shenzhen on Wednesday nights and then driving back to Shenzhen for work the next day, my family still saw each other less and less each week. My wife inevitably complained. I brought up the idea of having my wife quit her job and move to Shenzhen again, but both sets of parents strongly opposed it, so I had to give up.
But in 2011, I noticed that my wife was acting strangely. At first, she would occasionally say that she had to work overtime, but later she would even say that she had to work overtime on Friday nights and would not get home until very late. Although she did not show any abnormality at home and was still very attentive to me and the children, I knew that something must have happened.
One night, I checked her call records on her phone and found that she had a lot of call records with a man named Jun. Sometimes, she would even call him a few minutes before going to bed after getting home from work, but on the nights when she said she had to work overtime, she would not make a single call. I knew I was most likely being cheated on, but I didn't know how far things had progressed.
So one Friday, she said she had work commitments, so I didn't go to my parents' house to pick up the child. I let the child sleep at my parents' house and waited at the community gate
until about 10:30. A Prado stopped across the street from the community, my wife was in the car, and a man was driving. I saw my wife kiss the man before getting out of the car. But for some reason, I was very calm, without the anger I had expected. I didn't watch any longer and turned around to go home.
When my wife came in, I was sitting on the sofa.
She asked me, "Is our son asleep?" Her expression was normal.
I watched her change her shoes at the door and said, "I was watching from across the street when you got out of the car."
Her body visibly trembled, and the bag she was holding fell to the ground
. "It was just a colleague. He drove me home because it was late." She was still trying to remain calm.
"I saw everything. Is this how you explain it to me?"
My wife walked to the sofa next to me, sat down, and didn't say a word. Seeing her expression, my anger gradually built up. I tried my best to control my emotions. "Didn't you think about the consequences of doing this? It's true that I don't spend much time with you, but I come back as soon as I have time. I even drive two hours home every week, just so you won't be bored at home alone, and that taking care of the kids is hard work. How could you do something like this?"
My wife retorted. "You do make time to come home, but what I want is for you to come home every few days and then tell me to quit your job and come back here to work, but you just won't. Have you really thought about how hard I work?"
I got even angrier. "What am I still working in Shenzhen for? Isn't it so that this family can have a good life? The company is about to go public, and besides, I signed an agreement with the company that I can't leave within three years of the IPO. If I quit now, wouldn't all my efforts be wasted?"
"What's the use of so much money? What I want is for someone to care about me!" Her voice grew louder and louder, tinged with tears.
"Poverty makes everything miserable for couples. You've never experienced hardship. Tell me, what do you want? Are you planning to get a divorce?" I leaned weakly against the sofa.
My wife didn't say anything. She got up and rushed into the bedroom, where she burst into tears.
I sat there for a while, then got up and went to the bedroom door. She was still lying on the bed, sobbing. "Go to your parents' house tomorrow morning and pick up our son. I'm going to have a late-night snack with Chen Bo. I won't be back tonight. Think it over carefully at home."
After saying that, she left the house. She didn't stop me from
having a late-night snack with Chen Bo. Of course, I didn't mention it. Although he was also surprised that I would ask him to come out on a Friday night, he was a smart man and didn't ask anything. He just ate and drank with me
. After drinking, I found a hotel near my house and went to sleep. Before falling asleep, I suddenly thought of my past with Jiajia. It seems that karma really does come back to bite me.
The next day when I got home, my wife had already picked up our son. Her eyes were a little swollen, so it seemed that she had been crying for a long time. In front of our son, we tried our best to maintain normalcy, still playing with him and taking him to the park as usual. But when it was just the two of us alone, we were always silent. At
night, my wife would go to our son's room to sleep with him, which he was naturally very happy about, and I felt a sense of relief. I didn't know how I could face the situation now that we were lying in the same bed. When
I returned to Shenzhen on Monday morning, she still hadn't said anything to me, just silently prepared breakfast for me. I didn't know what her plans were. I was also exhausted and didn't want to talk to her about
returning to Shenzhen. After hesitating for a long time, I finally told Jiali about it. She asked me what I planned to do.
"I don't know, the child is so young, what will happen to him if we divorce?"
"I know you love your son very much, but is that all you're thinking about? You need to think about whether you still have feelings for her."
"We've been together for three or four years, how could there be no feelings? It's just hard to accept, even though I've done the same thing." I couldn't help but sigh .
"You should talk to her properly. Making a mistake once doesn't mean you have to be punished for life. If you still have feelings for each other, forgive her this once."
"I'll try."
Jiali probably sensed my low spirits and stayed up late talking to me for several nights in a row, but neither of us suggested meeting. At times like this, I felt it was better to be alone, otherwise it's easy to make mistakes.
Then it was the weekend, and on my drive home, my wife sent me a text message saying she had applied for a transfer, broken up with that man, and
returned home, everything as usual, as if nothing had happened last week. But when my wife snuggled up to me in bed, I didn't feel any affection; I just reached out and hugged her. She understood the reason, didn't say anything, and sobbed softly in my arms.
Afterwards, life at home returned to normal, but I always felt something was missing. If it weren't for thinking about my son, sometimes I wouldn't even want to go home. My wife and I would occasionally make love, but during the process, I would always drift off, thinking about other things, and my interest would be particularly low, leading me to wonder if I had some kind of sexual dysfunction. My wife didn't say anything, her mind entirely focused on the child. I guess this is what the legendary harmonious married life is like...
From
2008 to 2011, it was a major turning point in my life. In my family, I became a husband and a father, and also experienced being cheated on.
At work, the company went public, and I received a lot of stock. It's true that life has its gains and losses; you gain so much in one area, you inevitably lose something in another. I just don't know if it was a case of losing more than you gain. However, Jiali became my longest-lasting female friend, though of course, she eventually left me.
[To be continued]

URL 1:https://www.sexlove5.com/htmlBlog/47205.html

URL 2:/Blog.aspx?id=47205&aspx=1

Last access time:

Previous Page : Accompanying his wife to find a man to have sex

Next Page : [The Restraint Experience of the Adulterous Woman Xiaolan]

增加

comment Open a new window to view comments

Contact Information

Ten years have passed like a dream; Me and My Women 04

comment Open a new window to view comments