An experience of a post-80s generation

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My wife and I are both born in the 80s. We ran a marathon for six years, from dating in college to getting married. After marriage, we had stable jobs, a child, a house, and a car. Life seemed pretty good, but I wasn't very happy. The reason was simple: I wasn't sexually satisfied!
Here's my sexual history. I met my wife by chance, and from the first moment I saw her, I was smitten. That's what they call love at first sight! I then launched a fierce pursuit, showering her with attention and affection, and we finally started dating. But I didn't have sex with her until a year into our relationship. During that year, she only allowed touching and kissing, never intercourse, which caused me a lot of pain. Then, on our first day of intercourse, we did it three times, confirming she was a virgin, and that began my journey from painful to pleasurable sex life. We continued this pleasurable sex life until we got married and had a child. But then, the pleasure turned into pain again. At this point, my wife seemed to have lost interest in sex. She either refused or gave perfunctory responses, lying there motionless, unwilling to perform oral sex, unwilling to change positions, no moans, no wetness—it was just a one-man show. Only those who have experienced it know how dull and tasteless it is. At that moment, I just wanted to say, how can we men live without sex? If we can't find it at home, we have to go outside to find it. Luckily, a tall, beautiful young woman appeared. As we chatted, I discovered she was also sexually frustrated, unable to find satisfaction with her husband. I thought, "Isn't this like dry wood meeting a raging fire?" This sexual bliss came too suddenly. But unfortunately, the fire got out of control and quickly spread to me. Her husband came to me with evidence, filled with pain and anger, demanding I pay the price and make compensation! At this point, I could only pay for my mistakes. Luck and misfortune played tricks on me. Luck turned into misfortune. Here's a warning to all my friends: having an affair is risky; proceed with caution!
My brief sexual bliss was thus ruined. I had no choice but to return to my family. My wife found out about it and suffered for several nights. After my infidelity was discovered, I have to say that women are actually more forgiving and tolerant than men. Although my wife was heartbroken, she didn't hold a grudge or threaten divorce. She forgave me as long as I corrected my mistakes! But afterwards, my wife still didn't give me the sexual satisfaction I wanted. After a period of reflection, I forgot the pain. I became restless again and flirted with another respectable woman. This was a young woman whose husband worked away from home while she stayed home to take care of her child's schooling. I added her on WeChat under a legitimate pretext near her workplace and flirted with her online, but she wouldn't reciprocate. I had no choice but to take her and her colleagues out for a date to show her my sincerity and reliability. After several encounters, she finally felt safe, lowered her guard, and opened her legs for me! We were both satisfied. Afterwards, in a state of post-coital bliss, I learned from my previous experience and conducted a risk assessment. Her husband was also worried about her, video chatting with her every night—basically checking up on her. I also subtly learned that if her husband found out, he would absolutely not accept it! Divorce and revenge are inevitable, the consequences are too severe. After several more attempts to arrange a meeting, I decided to break it off. I was truly afraid of the consequences I couldn't bear! Men are mostly like this; they think it's perfectly justified to have affairs, and they're even smug about it. But if they find out their wives are cheating, they feel like they're being struck by lightning and will seek endless revenge! (Later, after experiencing my own wife's infidelity, I understood this kind of pain and realized that I was also a man like that. Fortunately, I was somewhat prepared, otherwise I would have been as furious as the husband of the woman I cheated with.) I chatted with the second woman she was having an affair with. She told me that she wouldn't investigate her husband, as long as she didn't find out. In fact, even if she did find out, she would choose to forgive him. Once again, I witnessed the magnanimity and tolerance of women.
Having experienced two extramarital affairs, I realize my wife at home is the best. Actually, I've always been sexually attracted to her; her hairy, butterfly-shaped vulva is so moist and luscious, her full, white, and bouncy buttocks so firm and elastic. I remember our passionate moments, the clear water by the stream, turning into a white fluid at the entrance as we made love—that's the foam of love, that's beautiful sex. How can I recapture that passion? I've tried aphrodisiacs, I've tried Durex's pleasure enhancer, but all have failed. Then, by some strange twist of fate, I found myself in Paradise, where I seemed to see hope. Cuckolding is a path to making your wife wanton. Most men probably dream of having a wife who is a lady in public but a slut in bed. How wonderful! She won't betray you, and she'll give you perfect sex. What a perfect wife! But is reality that perfect? Impossible. Women who are wanton in bed often have affairs; how can a woman who doesn't have affairs be wanton? My thought was how to make my wife more sexually liberated. I started by changing her mindset. Whenever I had the chance, I instilled in her the idea of sexual openness, saying that our sex life had already fulfilled its reproductive function, and now it was just for entertainment! I told her that life is short, and she should enjoy sex and experience different men. I said I'd already had several women, while she only had me, so we shouldn't have any regrets. In daily life, I'd mention which of my wives was having an affair, and during sex, I'd say I wanted to see her having sex with other men. After saying this so many times, my wife's desire started to stir, and I could feel her passion for sex slowly returning. During sex, my fantasies of my wife having sex with other men also made me noticeably harder and last longer. Everything was moving in a positive direction; it felt like everything was ready except for the man! During this time, I also spared no effort in buying my wife sexy clothes—bodycon skirts, shapely pants, low-cut tops—and got her nails and beauty treatments done. She already had a good figure, and with all this, her charm and allure increased significantly. I added her on WeChat and started having more tentative chats with her. Last summer, a man appeared, and soon after, he started making tentative advances. At first, my wife didn't pay much attention, as she usually avoids chatting with strangers and deliberately avoids men's advances. I kept an eye on things, and by autumn, their conversations had become quite intimate. I knew she was chatting, and she knew I knew she was. But she would secretly delete the chat history. Through the undeleted records and those synced to the computer, I pieced together some of the conversations. By winter, he had already signaled a date. I told my wife that meeting for a chat and a meal was fine, but not to go to bed. She agreed, and at that point, I still trusted her. I knew she wasn't that kind of woman. But what happened next far exceeded my expectations! After the date, I asked my wife how it went. She said they only held hands, and she refused any attempts to hug or touch her. I foolishly believed her. They continued chatting like this, and I silently observed, finding no inappropriate signs in the red envelope records or chat logs! At that time, I was still foolishly asking my wife when we were going to take the "key step" after chatting for so long. I was like a eunuch worrying more than the emperor! My wife told me it was just chatting, nothing serious. I believed her and even urged her to let me have sex after passing her test, but she had to be honest with me, put her husband first, and be careful to maintain boundaries! And so, spring arrived before I knew it. I accidentally found screenshots of their video chat in the car in her photo recycle bin. I clearly remember it was a slightly chilly morning. I got into the car, turned on the dashcam, and listened to the conversation. When I heard the guy say he often thought about their first date, and how comfortable it was! Damn it! My head buzzed, my heart pounded, and I felt my face burning. I closed the car door, rushed home, and went straight to my wife's bedside. She was still in bed. I angrily confronted her, "Have you two already slept together?" My wife panicked when she saw my reaction and stammered that it had only happened once, adding, "You didn't agree to me having sex with you!" I angrily questioned her, "Why did you lie to me last time and say we only held hands? Didn't you promise me you wouldn't easily have sex with me?" When I pressed for details, she refused to talk about it. In silence, I pulled down her pants and fucked her hard. While fucking her, I felt this slut had finally taken this step, though unexpectedly. My cuckolded wife had finally taken an important step, and thinking about it even brought a little pleasure! I was torn apart by pain and pleasure! After I finished, my wife went to wash up, and then we both went to work. When we got home that night, as we lay in bed, I vented my pain again. I said, "If you hadn't lied to me, I wouldn't feel this pain! I was deceived by you like a fool, foolishly believing you wouldn't be so promiscuous. This is betrayal! I experienced the pain of betrayal! And it was pain I brought on myself!" My wife retorted, "Did you tell me when you cheated on me before? Why didn't I scold you like this when you made mistakes? Why do you treat me like this when I make mistakes?" We argued and argued like this, and I demanded she tell me everything that happened, down to the smallest detail. My wife refused, angrily saying that if she told me everything, she would have no dignity. And so began another endless argument! I never imagined things would turn out this way; the pursuit of pleasure had become agony! I tossed and turned all night, unable to sleep or sleep at all. This kind of pain is something you only understand if you've experienced it yourself! (Only then did I fully understand the anger and pain a man who deeply loves and trusts his wife feels when he accidentally discovers her infidelity—just like the anger and pain I felt when my husband confronted me with the anger and anguish I had when I cheated. It's like how I was smug when I cheated on someone else's wife without being caught, but paid the price when I found out; and now I'm suffering the pain and anger of my own wife's infidelity. After that night of agony, I lost all interest in other men's wives. I also want to warn my friends: before cheating, always find out the other man's capacity to cope. Adultery leading to death is an extreme revenge that the other man will find unbearable.)
The next day, after calming down a bit, I reflected on the whole incident repeatedly. The problem wasn't that my wife had a relationship with someone else; the main problem was that she deceived me. I wanted my wife to be honest with me before we had a relationship, but from her perspective, she certainly didn't believe I was sincere. It was just talk! How many men can truly let their beloved wife sleep with someone else? That's why she lied to me. The truth is, there's a difference between fantasizing about your wife having sex with someone else and actually having sex with her. Fantasies are all about pleasure, but real sex is both painful and pleasurable! (Men who don't have a strong heart and are prone to cuckolding should stay in the fantasy stage; taking that step isn't easy.) I consider myself sexually open-minded and agree that sex for middle-aged couples is for entertainment, but truly getting my wife to open up and enjoy sex requires her full cooperation! That night, I calmly apologized. I said it was my fault for letting her chat with someone, and I tacitly approved of it. I admitted I've made mistakes too, and I believe you can be forgiven, but you also made mistakes. You shouldn't have lied to me, and you shouldn't have had sex so casually. My wife then admitted her mistake, saying she lied because she was afraid I wouldn't be able to accept it. She said she intended to chat, but somehow we ended up in bed without her consent, and I ejaculated inside her the first time. Even though she's had a vasectomy, it was still her first time. She also said we only went to a hotel once, there wasn't much interaction, and that's how it happened! (To be honest, I didn't believe it only happened once. If there's a first time, there's bound to be a second. Sure enough, she later confessed to having it happen a second time in the car. Sigh! Women are just as bad as men. I'm the same way; I didn't even tell my wife about my second affair.) My husband and I have been married for so many years, and as long as we admit our mistakes and try to see things from each other's perspective, many problems can be solved. I'd like to mention a friend in the community. This couple refused to admit their mistakes. From love to marriage, even with a child, their family still fell apart. Not only are they suffering, but their child is also pitifully raised in a single-parent household. How many couples who go from love to marriage can resist temptations in the long course of married life? As long as the feelings are still there, as long as the love is still there, even if there's an occasional infidelity, as long as the heart is still at home, let it go. After all, men cheating is more common. I cheated, but my heart was always at home. As long as both men and women have their hearts at home, let's forgive each other!
Regarding sex between spouses, I remember a post by an expert who talked about establishing an open sexual relationship based on honesty (which isn't easy for couples to achieve). My understanding is that both spouses acknowledge that human nature craves novelty and excitement. Over the long years of marriage, especially after having children and surviving the seven-year itch, they allow each other to pursue extramarital sex with honesty, and even, where possible, to participate together. I shared this idea with my wife, and she agreed. If marriage is a walled city, then we must allow those inside to go outside and have fun. After their fun, I think they'll still want to return to the city, because they have family there. I told my wife, "Letting you have a lover is like you getting tired of staying at home and wanting to travel. After your trip, you'll still feel home is best. As long as you're honest with me and remember to come home, go ahead and travel!"
This is my personal experience with a cuckolded wife; only those who have experienced it can truly understand. Women definitely need to be trained. My wife now takes the initiative to give me oral sex, moaning and saying dirty things. We're also very compatible when we change positions. When her hairy, butterfly-like pussy sways with her bouncy ass, I really can't resist for more than five seconds. I used to be able to control the time when I was on top, haha! Cuckolding is a path with pain, pleasure, gains, and losses. Think clearly about what you want. Right now, I still need to hold the steering wheel firmly, watch the road ahead, and not embark on this journey lightly, my friend!

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