Incest is common in Japanese sexual attitudes

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The Japanese men I met all seemed like gentlemen, polite and courteous, but when it came to sex, they became
completely different people, incredibly unrestrained. During my internship, I went out to eat with some Japanese friends. At first, we talked about company matters, social news, and finance. But after
drinking more, they started talking about women and sex, their faces beaming with excitement and complete lack of restraint. They would describe every detail of their sexual encounters with women, including
the shape of the female genitalia, their own movements and postures, and the woman's reactions. They even shared their experiences, leaving me speechless. At first, my face
burned ; I felt this was something that shouldn't be discussed in public. But after hearing it so often, I got used to it. I once shared
an apartment with a Japanese university student studying economics. This simple and quiet young man was 19 years old at the time. He was very diligent in his studies, very careful in his personal life, and extremely polite to women. Later,
we became acquainted. Over the weekend, I was alone in a foreign country, while he had never had a girlfriend. Neither of us had money for expensive entertainment,
so we just drank, played chess, and chatted in our dorm room. We talked about everything. He honestly admitted that he had never had sex with a woman, but I discovered that his knowledge of sex was extremely extensive,
far exceeding what I, a married man, knew. It turned out that his "knowledge" mostly came from a large number of books, magazines, and television programs of varying quality. In addition, Japanese schools allow
students to discuss sex and even offer sex education courses, so he was already familiar with these topics in elementary school. There were often illustrated pornographic
magazines , all publicly available publications that he subscribed to. I asked him why, since he understood sex so well and needed it, he didn't get a girlfriend or visit the red-light district. He said: "As a
man, you must understand sex, otherwise you're not a proper Japanese man." His goal was to work for the best car company in Japan. Dating a girlfriend would
take a lot of time and money, and he had no plans for that yet. He also had a serious attitude towards life and wouldn't mess around like other college students. I could agree with this young man's point of view
, but one time he talked about his past that surprised me greatly. He said that when he was in high school, he would shower with his sister, who was three years younger than him, and he had
carefully examined her genitals. His sister readily accepted his "study."
He also told me that he had secretly watched his mother shower and change clothes. His explanation was that he simply wanted to know the differences between the bodies of adult women and teenage girls.
He spoke of these things very naturally to me.
A young man openly discussing his parents' sexual privacy: In our country, young men also like to talk about the opposite sex when they get together, such as their clothing, appearance,
romantic affairs , and even one-night stands, but they don't talk about family members (including girlfriends) or anything related to sex. Japanese youth, however, have no such reservations. I
have encountered this situation many times at parties or when visiting others. Once, four classmates and I went to Sendai for a field trip and stayed at a cheap hotel. Excited all day,
we were still in high spirits that evening and started talking about sex again. But this time, the topic went a bit too far. First, someone mentioned that his mother had been a dancer before she got married,
and that her body was incredibly beautiful. He said he had seen her dance nude for his father at home. The others chimed in, talking about their own mothers. One classmate said his mother
's face and naked body were even more beautiful than an actress's; another went on to describe in detail the fullness of his mother's breasts and buttocks; and yet another even
talked about the fullness and beauty of his mother's genitals, which he had observed many times. I could tolerate the first part, but what followed felt excessive. They spoke of
their mothers' bodies with such pride, as if they were discussing a work of art in their home. They asked about my situation, and I could only say that I had never seen my mother
naked. Actually, even if I had, I wouldn't have said anything; the national context is truly different. On the way back, in the tour bus, in front of the driver and female guide,
they were still introducing each other to the sizes and brands of their mothers' bras and underwear, arguing about what size breasts are best for middle-aged women. Another time,
two classmates and I visited a Japanese journalist we knew. His wife was in the hospital giving birth, so the meal was simple. What was admirable was this journalist friend
's wit, eloquence, and extensive knowledge. The conversation eventually drifted to sex, and finally, he shifted the topic to his mother. He said that he had
been secretly watching his parents' intimate moments since he was 12, until he got married himself. He claimed that some of his own sexual techniques were learned from his parents. His parents were aware of
his behavior, but perhaps considering it a unique way of learning about sex, they neither criticized nor condemned him. The reporter also described in detail
a ceremony he had secretly witnessed his parents perform at 8 pm on their 20th wedding anniversary. It was a reenactment of their wedding night 20 years prior: his mother, dressed in a kimono
, sat on the edge of the bed while his father undressed her piece by piece, then washed her naked body with water, just as he had done years before, before finally taking her to bed for lovemaking. He described it
with such relish that we listened, completely captivated. I admired the noble and touching love between his parents, but it felt somewhat
inappropriate for their son to recount this to outsiders. My reporter friend, with a characteristic Japanese arrogance, claimed that his exceptional intelligence and health were due to his mother's high libido and strong fertility; she could still enjoy intimacy with his father
until was 57. Two classmates also shared stories about their parents' sex lives, but I don't remember them well. Finally, they wanted to
know from me what Chinese parents' sex lives were like.
But I was speechless, and they were disappointed. The reporter then deliberately feigned displeasure, saying that he had provided me with a double meal—both material and spiritual—while I
had eaten for free, which was unfair. I agree with his half-joking criticism, but I truly cannot provide such "spiritual nourishment." I could easily make something up, but
my conscience tells me that doing so would be dishonest to my parents.
My analysis suggests the reason might be this: unlike the Chinese, Japanese people don't consider discussing their parents' sexual affairs disrespectful; on the contrary, they see it as an
act of reverence. To improve my Japanese, I borrowed some literary books from a Japanese graduate student studying European literature. He talked to me about writing techniques in
Japanese and European literature that praise women and love. Yet, he
made specific comparisons of his mother, wife, and female protagonists in literary works in terms of their bodies, love, and sex lives. I was astonished. First, one shouldn't make sexually suggestive comparisons between one's mother and wife; second, one
should equate the prostitutes in Rousseau's and Maupassant's works with one's mother or wife. But I believe he was making these comparisons while immersed in the beautiful emotions of literature and art.
I still firmly believe that Japanese youths discussing their mothers in this way have no dirty or despicable thoughts. Most of them don't think about incest, much
less do it; most of their love for their mothers is pure. However, in such an environment, it's difficult to guarantee that some people won't have unethical thoughts.
Secondly, regarding incestuous behavior I've heard of:
Japanese law explicitly prohibits incest, and official public opinion strongly condemns and opposes it. Those who commit incest, such as fathers raping their daughters or sons
raping are severely punished. Back in China, I seemed to have heard of young girls being abused by their own fathers, but I had never heard of women being violated by their own sons. But in Japan...
Afterwards, I saw such horrific news reports several times in the newspapers, showing that incest is far more serious in Japan than in China. In Japan, not only are reports and introductions
about , but people also enjoy discussing incestuous relationships, much like how Chinese people enjoy discussing
illicit relationships with certain individuals out of curiosity. Unlike in China, the Japanese public and individuals generally
maintain a more tolerant attitude towards incestuous cases that "do not harm the parties involved or endanger others." This makes the privacy of incestuous acts less secure, and many Japanese people believe that incest is no
big deal willing, it's equivalent to a normal romantic relationship. Some people are not ashamed when discussing others' incestuous behavior and even speak with a hint of envy.
Can an abnormal sexual relationship between blood relatives like father and daughter, or mother and son, be equated with a romantic relationship? This is indeed the Japanese logic. Some Japanese people around me
have told me about their own or others' incestuous experiences. Miki is my colleague and a close friend, a few years older than me. He had a stomach ailment and had taken traditional Chinese medicine. I asked someone
to mail him a TCM manual and prescription from China, for which he was very grateful. He was very tall, and I nicknamed him "Three Old Poplar Trees." He wore
round-rimmed glasses, making him look like a Japanese soldier from a certain anti-Japanese war film, but he wasn't fierce at all; on the contrary, he was very kind. Once, we were sent to Hokkaido for
an interview . We stayed at the home of a rancher. The weather in Hokkaido was even colder than in Harbin, China. At night, we slept close together on a makeshift bed
on the floor of the rudimentary room, shivering with cold. I secretly cursed the rancher, thinking he was just like a stingy nouveau riche from old China, having so much money yet living in such a dilapidated house.
Unable to sleep due to the cold, Miki said, "How about we talk about our unforgettable experiences? That way,
dawn will pass quickly." I agreed and recounted a few nights during the early days of my marriage with my ex-wife. Some things were difficult to say, so I kept it brief, and even I found it
a bit dull, like plain water. Miki also told me about his experiences with his wife, not much better than mine, just more detailed. Silence fell again. After
a long while, Miki suddenly said to me, "Let me tell you about a mistake I made in my youth." "You stole a motorcycle and seduced a young girl?" "
It was the time I lived with my mother." "Really? You're not just trying to make me happy, are you?" "I wouldn't make up a lie about my great mother to make you happy."
He began to recount his story, which went something like this: Miki's father, a mining technician, died of severe lung disease due to the harsh working conditions. Miki was 10 years old then, and his
sister was only 3. His mother became a widow at the age of 36. To support her two children, she returned to work as a nurse, and life was
very difficult. When Miki was 17, he developed a lung infection due to a high fever. After being discharged from the hospital, he still coughed severely at night. His mother, fearing that
the lung disease would take the life of the second man in the family in the same way, cared for him day and night. Originally, his mother lived with his sister, but during that
time, to care for her sick son, she temporarily moved into his room to sleep, feeding him medicine, giving him injections, and coaxing him to sleep before lying down beside him.
When he was in pain, he would nestle in his mother's arms, and she would lovingly hold him and stroke his head to ease his pain. After more than a month of his mother's meticulous care,
Miki recovered, but his initial simple emotional attachment to his mother transformed into a dual attachment, both emotional and physical. That night, after going to bed, Miki,
as if still ill, buried his head deeply between his mother's breasts. Seeing that his mother's attitude remained unchanged, he became more assertive, slowly reaching his hand towards her lower body. His
mother was startled and tried to pull away, but ultimately did not object to her son's actions. Growing up in the unique environment of Japan, young Miki
was no , and he skillfully completed his union with his mother. The next day, his mother moved back to her sister's room, but from then on, at Miki's request, his mother
would occasionally come to her son's room after his sister had fallen asleep. After Miki turned 18, his mother believed that he had grown up and resolutely cut off sexual contact with
her son , actively encouraging him to interact more with girls. Later, Miki broke free from his unhealthy attachment to his mother, married, had children, and lives there to this day. He
still frequently takes time to visit his mother in Osaka and has even deposited a substantial sum of money in her account for her retirement. After listening, I asked, "Does your wife know?" "
I didn't dare tell her when we first got married. It wasn't until after we had our first son, and my wife started to feel like a mother herself, that I told her. She forgave
me and understood my mother." Miki added, "Great maternal love can sometimes lead women to excessively indulge their unruly sons' reckless behavior."
"You shouldn't have told me your son's absolute secret," he said in surprise. "I've told many of my friends. It's just a
mistake made by an ignorant boy. Why can't I tell them?" "Though it's a mistake, it forms a beautiful story," I comforted him. Miki fell asleep before dawn, but I was
still pondering. A mistake—it's described so simply, like a little boy stealing tens of thousands of yen from his mother's pocket. Miki didn't know that incest in China
is a serious crime on par with murder and arson. After getting up, I joked with Miki, "Can I tell my Chinese friends your special story?" "
Of course ," he replied, "but you must fully understand my mother before you tell her, otherwise you'll distort the facts and cause your Chinese friends to misunderstand my mother." What I
've written here is as close as possible to what Miki told me, and I've even used his real surname. Furthermore, during my years at school, I heard a
strange story , known to many, about a Japanese university professor. This professor came from a wealthy family, graduated from Waseda University, and was extremely knowledgeable, yet
he remained single his entire life until his death at 65. Most remarkably, he never had any romantic relationships, which is unimaginable to the Japanese. It's said that in his youth, he had no shortage of
young and beautiful women pursuing him, but he politely declined them all. When he was fifty, a forty-five-year-old single female professor who had just returned from Europe took a
liking to him and proposed, but he also refused. He continued to live with his elderly mother in a mansion, where he was extremely filial, supporting her for half her life and seeing her off in her final days.
Some people saw him, nearing sixty, pushing his eighty-year-old, paralyzed mother in a wheelchair for a walk. A few years after his mother's death,
the professor, now alone, developed cancer and calmly turned on the gas and committed suicide. His single status sparked much discussion; many speculated he had a physical
condition preventing him from engaging in sexual intercourse, some even suspecting he was homosexual, though no evidence was available. A suicide note left by the professor completely unraveled
the mystery. The note stated that he was not impotent as others claimed; on the contrary, he had an exceptionally strong libido, and his only sexual partner was his
mother , with whom he shared a complex relationship that was both mother-son and lover. It turned out that the professor's father was a director of an airline, and his mother was a noblewoman, but their
marriage, though of equal social standing, was unhappy. The professor's father was a successful businessman, but also violent, frequently abusing and beating his gentle wife. The professor, from a young age...
Disapproving of his father's behavior and deeply pitying his mother, he began acting as her protector at the age of 16. Whenever his father lost his temper
, he bravely rushed to shield her. His father, who had mistresses all over the world and was very dedicated to his work, rarely came home. The lonely mother, when in pain or beaten by her husband, would embrace
her son tearfully recount her story. Having studied music in Paris, France, she was also her son's private piano teacher, and the two often discussed music and art—this
had become a part of her life. Unconsciously, the balance of her emotions began to shift, and her feelings for her son changed.
One day, when the professor was eighteen, he returned home late from school. His mother was alone by his bedside, silently weeping. It was her forty-second birthday, but her father was far away in Tokyo,
indulging in pleasure . The professor embraced his mother, comforting her. The mother rested her head on her son's shoulder, feeling much better. They embraced for a few minutes.
The soft skin and unique scent of the woman beneath her thin clothing awakened his male instincts. The professor felt a surge of desire, his lower body swelling. He instinctively tightened his embrace. The mother seemed
to sense her son's change of heart and leaned back on the bed. The professor, who had initially dared not cross the line, was emboldened by his mother's suggestion. He recklessly
unbuttoned her clothes. That night, his mother taught him how to be a man. For the first time in eighteen years, the professor truly understood women;
for the first time felt pleasure. This adulterous relationship continued secretly for several years. Four years later, the professor's father suddenly died in a plane crash. After the funeral, the mother forbade her son
from approaching her. Both were contemplating their future. The mother, unwilling to hinder her son's destiny and future, strongly urged him to move out. The professor, unwilling to abandon his
suffering mother,... A month later, the professor vowed alone in his room to never marry and stay with his mother. He picked up his luggage and pajamas and bravely went into his mother's
room. From then on, the two openly shared a bed like husband and wife for many years. For the next few decades, they faced life's difficulties together and pursued their
marital bliss. The professor was still sexually active at forty, even though his mother may have no longer had that need, but she still tried various methods to
satisfy him. When the Japanese heard this extraordinary story, most thought how wonderful it would be if there were no blood relation; it was truly a poignant tragedy. Apparently,
someone even wrote a play about it. From a Chinese perspective, however, it would be either extremely immoral or a farce created by a mentally ill person, so such a
thing would never happen in China. This kind of extraordinary story is also extremely rare in Japan. It is said that because it was considered too offensive to public morals, the authorities wanted to confiscate the professor's will and suppress the news, but the professor was too clever;
before he died, he sent a copy of his will to a newspaper, which promptly published it.
I once asked a Japanese student who had also heard about this incident why the professor would expose his shameful affair, ultimately ruining his and his mother's reputation.
The student told me that the professor's suicide note mentioned he was an only child, and with his death, the family would cease to exist, and no one would be implicated. The professor himself
didn't see it as shameful, but rather as a shocking act of love. Moreover, the professor had been ridiculed for being impotent, which, for Japanese men, was
a greater disgrace than incest. I asked the student, "Do you believe the suicide note is authentic?" He replied seriously, "It's entirely
certain ; incest is relatively common in Japan. But whether the relationship between the mother and son was as beautiful as described in the suicide note is hard to say. Only
the professor in heaven can answer that. I myself would never feel the same way about my mother, so I'm skeptical." I largely agreed with his answer, but I would like to correct one point:
being single and abstaining from women doesn't necessarily mean incest. This single point reflects the fundamental difference between Chinese and Japanese views on sex. For a long time, I often ate at a Chinese restaurant run by a
Shanghainese man, and I became quite familiar with the owner. One evening, while I was having dinner there, I saw his daughter helping out after school. The Shanghainese owner repeatedly urged
his daughter to go home early, and even complained that her clothes were too flashy. I casually said, "It's still early, and it's safe around here with so many people around." The owner retorted
, "I've seen too many Japanese, they're all lecherous. It's too dangerous for women in Japan." After a while, he whispered to me mysteriously, "Japanese people are
incredibly lecherous, they'd even do that to my mother." The situation was this: a handsome young Japanese man in a high-necked short jacket had eaten at the restaurant several times, accompanied by
a group of cool guys and beautiful girls. It was said that he had several mistresses, and every time he ate there, his table was always filled with vulgar language. That day, this handsome young man got drunk and,
disregarding the many women in the dining room, boasted about his sexual prowess and bedroom skills. What was most intolerable was that he actually said that his sexual abilities were
taught to him by his mother, and that he had slept with her when he was 16. These words terrified some of the Chinese people present, while the handsome young man's tablemates, cool men and beautiful women
, applauded and cheered. I said to the boss, "Maybe he's just drunk and bragging, it can't be true." "Bragging about his own mother like that? Many Japanese people
like to say that. If one or two are lying, are they all lying?" I didn't know what to say. Regardless of whether it's true or not, the Japanese certainly dare to put
things that other countries consider shameful on the table.
III. Middle-aged and Elderly Prostitutes in Japan
Japan's sex industry is very developed, and there are many brothels. Everyone who has been to Japan can feel this, because brothel owners will advertise and solicit business in various
ways . Of course, the government also has a set of management methods for this industry, with strict restrictions on hygiene, location of business premises, age of practitioners and clients, AIDS prevention, and types of advertising. Especially in recent years, the monitoring
of underage girls prostitution and underage boys entering "red-light districts" has been strengthened .
From the perspective of pornographic advertisements, the biggest difference between the Japanese sex industry and that of other countries and regions is that, in addition to ordinary one-night stands, it offers
a wide variety of extremely perverse sexual services, with diverse and bizarre options to fully satisfy the service demands of various groups. For example, there is a
"breastfeeding" service that does not require intercourse, where a woman with large breasts takes lactation-inducing drugs, sits naked on a recliner, and a customer straddles her lap,
suckling milk from her breasts like a baby.
Other extremely disgusting services include group sex, sexual prowess contests, live sex performances, and sadomasochism. In the Japanese sex industry,
it's if you can't do it, you can't imagine it." Those who come here are not only casual patrons; many Japanese office workers and students seek relief from work and study pressure,
unhappy marriages, disharmonious marital lives, and poor mental health
. Many Japanese also frequent these places to satisfy their perverse psychological needs. It can be said that the Japanese sex industry fully
reflects the distorted characteristics of Japanese society and the twisted and perverse souls of many Japanese people.
In ancient China, prostitutes seemed to have to leave the profession in their early twenties. In modern Western countries, prostitutes are generally forced
to end their services and seek other employment around their thirties due to declining looks and fewer clients. In Japan, it's strange; prostitutes of all ages, from their teens to their sixties, are present and are quite popular. (This information comes from some books and publications.)
It has been observed that a peculiar "age-gap" phenomenon often occurs in the Japanese sex industry: middle-aged and older male clients often seek out young prostitutes with a youthful vibe,
while some young men sometimes target older, middle-aged or older prostitutes. The former is understandable, but the latter is quite perplexing. One reason is
that young men are not solely seeking physical satisfaction, but also a spiritual yearning for emotional connection. Older women are more understanding and considerate, more
willing to listen to their feelings, and young people struggling in the competitive society find greater warmth and security in the presence of older women. Another reason is that a significant number of
modern Japanese youth exhibit Oedipus complexes and incestuous desires, yet they are also very rational and unlikely to
harm their families or relatives. Therefore, they resolve these issues through this method. In Japanese sex establishments, there are specialized single-room apartments with names like "Mature Woman's House," "Evening Moon," and
"Akiba," where the services are provided by middle-aged and older prostitutes over 40 years old. Most of the visitors here are young people,
and are even minors who aren't afraid to break the rules. The houses called "Autumn Leaves" are relatively refined, with no sexual undertones. Not just anyone can come;
the owner has the right to refuse entry. The female owner may be plain-looking, but she is well-educated, often experienced, articulate, understanding,
and somewhat skilled in music, chess, calligraphy, and painting. The focus here is on communication and exchange regarding culture, thought, emotions, life, art, and flowers—in other words, what's being sold is primarily spiritual
wealth. The female owner is generally around 50 years old and talks to the visiting young people like a teacher or parent. The young people here generally don't make sexual demands. If a
young person does request intercourse, it's mostly refused, but occasionally accepted. Although there's no direct sexual service, the fees are high,
suggesting that spiritual wealth is sometimes more important than material wealth. A 21-year-old university student named Song Shou once studied Chinese with me and sometimes stayed at my house. He
frankly admitted that he had a rather severe Oedipus complex and enjoyed interacting and talking with middle-aged women. Before meeting me, he had visited
places . He was always greeted by a 54-year-old woman named Ryoko Iwata. Ryoko wore glasses and was a refined, intellectual woman. They got along very well;
she loved reading and knew Chinese calligraphy. Matsuhisa enjoyed visiting her, learning a great deal about the customs and cultures of different countries from her.
He . As they grew closer, Ryoko Iwata mentioned that Matsuhisa was a poor student and even waived some of his fees. When Matsuju asked her why she chose this profession,
she looked sorrowful and said that she was born during World War II and became an orphan shortly after Japan's defeat. She was forced into prostitution at 16 and left at 24
, having even studied history and geography at a women's university. At 29, she married a construction contractor, but at 39, her husband abandoned her, taking their son with him. Because of
her shameful past, she couldn't find any respectable work, but unwilling to continue soliciting, she did manual labor typical of rural men.
At she reluctantly became a "high-class" prostitute, but she never slept with men, only "selling her art" like a geisha, not her body.
Therefore, those who visited her were all civilized people, including some young men. She had saved enough money for retirement and planned to retire in a year. That was her story.
Iwata Ryoko liked Matsuju very much, finding solace in him for the pain of losing her son. Matsuju also considered Iwata Ryoko a close friend despite their age difference. Everything
was fine until their last meeting. Matsuju, having drunk a little sake, inexplicably suggested they sleep together. Iwata Ryoko was stunned, her face flushed with anger.
Seeing this, Matsuju quickly apologized. Neither of them spoke. Just as Matsuju was about to leave, Iwata Ryoko, after a long silence, lay down on the tatami mat and unbuttoned her outer garment. Matsuju,
unable to control himself, pounced on her. Afterwards, Iwata Ryoko appeared very disappointed and sad, refusing to see Matsuju again. Iwata knew he had hurt her
feelings and broken the rules that held her pride. He felt deeply remorseful and uneasy, but too embarrassed to visit again, so he bought many of her favorite books and sent them to her. After hearing Matsuju
's story, my negative view of "Akiba" changed somewhat. I felt that Iwata Ryoko was a woman who refused to fall into depravity and strived for self-improvement, trying her best to maintain her dignity even in the face of adversity and helplessness
. I scrutinized Songshou, this honest and frail student, from head to toe. Aside from his Oedipus complex, he seemed perfectly
normal. Psychology says that an Oedipus complex is a psychological phenomenon that can be managed; many boys have this tendency to some extent, but eventually they can
control and eliminate it without causing abnormal behavior. But if he wasn't abnormal, why would Songshou have such desires for a 54-year-old woman? I angrily
said, "You shouldn't have damaged her self-esteem, especially since she's so old. Why didn't she go find a promiscuous woman to do that?" Songshou defended himself, saying
, "I never engage in promiscuous sex. My friendship with Ryoko is genuine. In middle school, I had a one-night stand with a close female classmate, but we
broke up. I haven't had any other girlfriends since. Except for going to Ryoko's place, I've never dealt with prostitutes. That time with Ryoko was the second time in my life. After she
entered my mental world, I tried hard to separate my mind from my body, but I couldn't. Actually, I'm not lustful. Ryoko has long since lost her beauty..." "She
was so thin, with a thick waist and wrinkles all over her face. I knew she was too old for vigorous sexual activity, and I didn't feel much pleasure myself that day, but my
spirit was already intertwined with hers, and our bodies should be one too." I couldn't understand his seemingly plausible reasoning, but one thing was certain: in
Japanese culture, spirit and sex are closely intertwined. Any woman existing in the mind's spiritual world, regardless of ethical constraints, age, status, beauty
, height, background, ideals, or emotions, can arouse sexual desire. This is
one reason why incest is so prevalent in Japan. There are many middle-aged and elderly women in Japan like Iwata Ryoko who enter brothels due to financial hardship, but many of them
have become numb and self-destructive with the passage of time, gradually forgetting the meaning of self-respect and shame. I've seen
a lot about "mature woman houses" in books and advertisements. A "mature woman house" is a brothel that combines spiritual and physical pleasure; the female owners are often between 40 and 60 years old, and visitors can choose according to their
preferences. The women's educational levels varied greatly; some were quite cultured but of average appearance, while others were almost illiterate but must have been
beauties . They also differed in height, weight, personality, and interests. Two-thirds of the customers simply drank tea, sang, danced, chatted, and joked without
requesting sexual contact, and the fees were low. The remaining third might request varying degrees of sexual contact, such as hugging, kissing, putting hands
inside clothing, putting hands inside clothing, viewing bikinis, viewing unclothed bodies, touching exposed body parts, providing
massages, assisting with masturbation, and sexual intercourse. A detailed price list was provided, allowing customers to choose one or more options based on their budget and needs.
Services. Among the young people who request sexual contact, many simply choose other services such as hugging and kissing; relatively
few actually request intercourse with middle-aged or elderly prostitutes. There are some seemingly ridiculous phenomena in the Japanese sex industry. For example, to specifically protect the safety and health of elderly prostitutes and reflect
Japanese when having intercourse with postmenopausal women, to protect their bones, soft tissues,
breasts, genitals, and other bodily organs from damage, there are clear
restrictions on the client's weight, position, duration of intercourse, intensity of movements, and hygiene. None of the Japanese people I know have ever been to a "mature woman's house." The following news items are from newspapers. A 29-year-old Japanese office worker goes
to a brothel every week to find 50...? A 55-year-old prostitute offered sex to an office worker suffering from erectile dysfunction who had never had successful sex with his wife. However, after coming to the brothel,
he found himself satisfied and able to have sex normally. The reason, he
explained, was that he had a nearly 15-year-old Oedipus complex and had a weak desire for younger women; his mother was 53 years old. A 38-year-old wealthy businessman didn't request sex, but instead requested that the prostitutes' breasts and abdomen be touched before bed. He explained that this was how he slept as a child, and it caused him
to suffer from neurasthenia and insomnia as an adult; only here could he sleep soundly. There were also Japanese students in their 20s who requested that
prostitutes over 40 years old caress their bodies and help them masturbate. One university student mentioned in an essay that he could experience
childhood . Sometimes, minors also enter these places, which is even more absurd. A newspaper once reported that a 15-year-old boy came to a
"mature woman's house" and asked to have sex with a 48-year-old woman. The woman felt he was too young and shouldn't be harmed, so she tried her best to dissuade
him. The boy then became violent and tried to rape her. Seeing that things were not going well, the woman hurriedly agreed, thinking that it was all the same as making money. After that, the boy came every day. Later, the boy's parents even took the owner
and the prostitute to court. To help people with incestuous desires, a unique agency has emerged in Japan. If you are a customer, you only need to
send your mother and yourself detailed information, including photos, to the company. They will find you a
prostitute who is almost identical to your mother in age, appearance, behavior, thoughts, and attitude towards you. She will live with you at your designated location for one to three days. During this time, she must completely imitate your mother's
life , such as living, cooking, washing clothes, and talking to you. In addition, she must have sex with you with affection. Beyond the sex industry in Japan, there are other situations that, while seemingly unrelated to
incest , are still enough to shock the Chinese. For example, in some Japanese bathhouses, the women who scrub backs, pour water, and hand towels and clothes to customers are often
women in their fifties or sixties. In some Japanese hot spring teahouses, besides beautiful young women, there are also some elderly women serving tea, but their clients are mostly young men.
The Japanese sex industry also has a significant function: using written and audio-visual media to disseminate a vast amount of pornographic and obscene information to society. The scope and
content are astonishing. Not only do Japanese adults enjoy reading or viewing pornographic materials, but Japanese teenagers have also generally been exposed to them during their formative years
. Pornographic books and magazines are readily available in Japan; most are beautifully printed, illustrated, and highly tempting to young people. While they may introduce some scientific and
necessary sex education, much of the content is obscene and offensive.
In 1997, while traveling in Hong Kong, I occasionally flipped through a few Chinese adult magazines published in Hong Kong. These magazines were quite famous both inside and outside Hong Kong. They mainly contained
nude pictures, celebrity photos, and illustrated descriptions of male-female sexual acts, without any perverted or incestuous content. Adults reading them wouldn't have too much of a negative impact. In Japan
, the situation is different. Pornographic publications are rife with explicit depictions of incest, with father-daughter, mother-son, and brother-sister incest seemingly being
perennial themes. Pornographic videotapes and DVDs also feature disturbing images of incest, with particularly repulsive titles such as "
Incestuous Love Between Blood Relatives" and "Mother-Son Adultery," likely featuring middle-aged prostitutes. Frequent exposure to such material during adolescence undoubtedly has a significant negative impact on the ethical development of
teenagers . Japanese society seems indifferent to this situation, with many considering pornography an indispensable
form of intellectual nourishment. They believe that exposure to pornography by teenagers is normal and will not have any harmful consequences, given Japan's relatively low sex crime rate.
Some insightful Japanese scholars are deeply concerned about this and have written articles criticizing and condemning it. Imagine an adolescent who, after reaching sexual maturity, is unable to
express his sexual desires. Seeing images or reading materials depicting incest could easily break down his already fragile psychological defenses, leading him to
identify and view his mother or sisters merely as objects of sexual gratification, ignoring their ethical roles.
The proliferation of adult pornography in Japan, primarily promoting perverse incest, not only negatively impacts the development of ethical and moral values among young people but also demonstrates
the highly detrimental to social order and national development. I have seen in Japanese library newspapers and magazines over the years that these negative consequences
began to emerge in the 1970s, with numerous such examples (Author's note: I have tried my best to translate according to the characteristics of Chinese text). In the late 1970s
, a Japanese family of five lived in a remote village. The husband went to Africa for a year to build a road, leaving his wife and three sons at home. The eldest son was 19, the second 16, and
the youngest 13. Their mother, who had raised them with great difficulty for many years, was over 40. While their mother was away, the three sons, out of curiosity, frequently watched pornographic videotapes, which were
newly . These videos
depicted incestuous relationships between mothers and sons, stories they had heard of but never seen before. Their minds were severely corrupted; they took the fabricated scenarios in the videos as truth, believing that all mothers were willing to have sex with their sons. Sure enough, the three sons made sexual advances towards their mother
. She angrily refused, but due to complacency, she neither reprimanded nor took any preventative measures. The three sons mistakenly believed their mother was
only refusing out of embarrassment. After conspiring, they decided to force the issue. One night, following the scenarios depicted in the videotapes, they gang-raped their mother while she slept
. After being raped by her own son, the mother was at a loss and did not try any effective methods to deal with the situation. She simply cried and yelled until it was over. She was
subsequently gang-raped multiple times by her three sons. A year later
, the father returned home and learned of the incident. This once-strong-willed middle-aged man, overwhelmed by shame and anger, suffered a mental breakdown and committed suicide by jumping off a building. A similar case occurred in Chiba, Japan in 1982. A 47-year-old divorced single mother lived with her two sons, aged 18 and
16. Their maternal grandfather doted on his grandsons and bought them an expensive VCR. The two boys frequently watched pornographic videos containing incestuous content in their room
. During puberty, when sexual development is rapid, watching such programs easily leads to sexual fantasies about their mother. Furthermore, the mother,
due to her unhappy marriage, was extremely doting on her children and often engaged in intimate physical contact with them, which contributed to the boys' actions of harming their mother.
One day, the maternal grandfather planned to take the whole family on a road trip. The mother, a home economics and cooking instructor, couldn't go because she had to personally instruct a student at their home
. So, the grandfather, his wife, and grandson went instead. The eldest grandson, not used to soaking in the mountain hot springs, returned home early in someone else's car. Upon arriving home , he saw his mother
bathing and was overcome with lust. After she came out of the bathroom, he rushed over, ripped off her short towel, and raped her despite her screams and kicks. The mother, fearing
the scandal harm the family if it became public, and also believing her son had acted impulsively after watching pornography and accidentally seeing her naked,
forgave him after confiscating the pornographic videotape and punishing him with a week of chores. A month later, the eldest son, still lusting after his mother, sneaked into
her
bedroom after midnight to rape her again. The mother, fearing her parents in the next room would hear, dared not struggle or scream, making it easier for her son to act. Emboldened, the eldest son frequently visited his mother's bedroom at night. Soon, the younger son discovered his actions and threatened to report him to their grandfather.
The older brother then encouraged his younger brother to try it too. That night, the two men sneaked onto their mother's bed and gang-raped her. Even with her immense patience, the mother could not tolerate being violated by her
two . Her desperate resistance created a great commotion, but she was no match for them and suffered even greater humiliation.
The two elderly people next door heard the commotion but did not suspect anything. The next day, the observant grandmother noticed her daughter's haggard appearance and
a pained expression on her face when she urinated in the bathroom. Late that night, the same noises came from their daughter's room again. The two elderly people, who had been paying close attention, assumed their daughter had been
assaulted by a rapist who had broken into their home. They quietly grabbed their hunting rifle and knife, suddenly opened their daughter's door, and turned on the light. What they found was completely unexpected. Their middle-aged daughter was lying sprawled on her makeshift bed
on , struggling, her hair disheveled and completely naked, looking utterly wretched. Her two grandsons, naked from the waist
down, were straddling her, one in front of the other. The elder grandson was touching her genitals. The two elderly people, unable to bear it any longer, ignored their grandsons' and daughter's pleas and called the police. At this point, the mother was truly heartbroken. She
decided to sever ties with her eldest son, but stubbornly believed that her younger son was still immature and had been seduced and instigated by her eldest son to behave disrespectfully towards her. She also didn't want the shameful affair to be known by
outsiders . A few days later, the humiliated mother, unable to face her elderly parents after being violated by her two sons
, attempted suicide by cutting her wrists. Fortunately, the elderly couple rushed her to the hospital, saving her life. A doctor told the couple that their daughter's health was
very poor; the 47-year-old woman had suffered over ten rapes and gang rapes by her own sons in three months, causing severe physical and psychological damage. Mentally, she had
lost her will to live; physically, her endocrine system was severely disrupted. Especially during the first gang rape, she
continued to struggle and twist her body even after penetration, causing a tear in her vulva. A year later, the mother's mental state remained volatile. To further recuperate and forget
the past, she and her parents, along with her reformed second son, moved to a secluded rural area. Chinese newspapers report that
rape , but it's unheard of for a criminal to rape their own mother. Instead, they report cases of sexual assault. However
, these cases often involve other crimes committed by men who rape their own mothers. The news reports also mention seemingly "gentle" non-violent adultery within families. One such case involved a 44-year-old single mother with her 18-year-old
son and 11-year-old daughter. The woman worked at a 24-hour supermarket and was often away at night. She left her daughter with her older son,
while the siblings waited at home watching television. The brother, imitating content from a pornographic television program, seduced his sister. The daughter later
told her mother about her brother's actions, and the woman severely whipped her son. A month later, the son relapsed, repeatedly seducing and
raping his sister. Upon learning this, the woman ordered her son to remove his pants and nearly beat his buttocks raw with a whip. The boy lay in bed for a month
before his injuries healed, but he didn't change his bad habits and started harassing his sister again. When the woman discovered this, she tied her son up. Under her interrogation, he confessed that after watching
those kinds of programs, his physical reactions became uncontrollable, so he preferred to be beaten rather than commit rape. The woman was torn; she couldn't hand her son over to the police, and
she worried about her daughter continuing to be abused, yet she couldn't always be home to supervise her. Finally, the woman came up with a foolish idea:
she would periodically call her son into her bedroom and have sex with him, allowing him to achieve sexual satisfaction and stop thinking about his sister. This
continued , until her son got a girlfriend. The woman's son inadvertently revealed the family secret to his girlfriend, who couldn't tolerate his incestuous behavior and left him.
He went to her dormitory with a knife, and finding her not there, he set fire to the entire two-story wooden building. (Author's note: Only a Japanese mother could come up with such
an astonishing idea.) Another news item in the newspaper tells of a 33-year-old Japanese man, Jiro Kobayashi, who
worked as a test driver for a famous Japanese motorcycle manufacturer in the 1980s. Due to economic downturns and layoffs, he lost his job, and his wife left him for someone else. Kobayashi lived on welfare and savings with his five-year-old son until he returned to
work . During those two years, something happened that could have ruined his life. After losing his job, he had nothing to do and became depressed,
passing the time by watching pornographic videos and reading erotic novels. He had a mother complex from his childhood, but these childish sexual fantasies disappeared after marriage. His unfulfilled sexual
desires after his wife's departure, coupled with the incestuous descriptions in pornography, caused him to frequently have sexual dreams about his mother. He then took a train to Kobe and
brought live with him. After much hesitation, Kobayashi, blushing, finally mustered the courage to ask his mother for sexual intercourse. This elderly woman had lived a
lavish . After her husband's death, her pension was far from enough to cope with Japan's soaring prices, and she relied on her son for support. Thinking of her son's many virtues
and the vigorous sexual desires of a 30-year-old Japanese man, she foolishly agreed to the arrangement, disregarding her advanced age. Thus, mother and son slept together like husband and wife, with Kobayashi
experiencing pleasure with his mother that he should have found with his wife. However, they ignored the presence of their 5-year-old son. The boy had repeatedly glimpsed his father on top of his grandmother and
occasionally heard her moans of pain. Too young to understand sexual matters, he assumed his father was abusing his grandmother and told the neighbor's little girl. The
nosy neighbor, having learned the false rumor from the daughter that Kobayashi had beaten his mother, causing her to scream, notified the senior citizens' association. A female staff member from the association came
to investigate when Kobayashi was away. Under the staff member's coaxing questioning, the elderly woman confessed the truth. The female staff member
sent the elderly woman to a nursing home under the pretext that she was being abused by her son. Xiaolin was only allowed to visit his mother, but not to take her away. Later, Xiaolin went back to work, but somehow the news
got out of the nursing home. Unable to bear the ridicule from his boss and the gossip from his colleagues, Xiaolin sent his son to his ex-wife's place and then disappeared, his whereabouts unknown.
Japan's official print and audiovisual media, such as books, newspapers, radio, film, and television, are relatively clean due to the constraints of Japan's News Censorship Law
. The Ministry of Education also has regulations to prevent pornography in publications aimed at primary and secondary school students. However, compared to Chinese media, they are still quite "shocking,"
significantly influencing readers' and viewers' sexual attitudes and beliefs. Even depictions of sex in some legal works can have a negative
influence on those with weak willpower. Japanese novels contain numerous detailed descriptions of sex, and films and television shows feature many scenes of lovemaking and nudity . Furthermore,
incest is frequently depicted in many works. Because incest has become an unavoidable phenomenon in Japanese society, and because Japanese culture has a tradition of
daring challenge taboos, writers and directors pay close attention to incestuous themes such as mother-son, brother-sister, and father-daughter relationships. However, they cannot violate regulations
and harm society, so writers and directors have to play a game of "playing it close to the line," like ping-pong players. For example, they
might gloss over or subtly hint at incest in their subject matter, focusing more on the psychological descriptions and background information of the incestuous relationship, avoiding specific
depictions of organs and actions in incestuous scenes, and designing the subject matter as a tragedy to show the creator's attitude. Although some works involve ethical taboos and are unacceptable to many,
they are still quite high-quality from an artistic point of view. In the 1980s, a Japanese television series called "Blood Ties" was very popular in China.
It actually reflected the story of a brother-sister relationship that was on the verge of incest. A young man and woman dated for dozens of episodes before the young man finally realized that he had fallen in love with his sister.
However, fearing that it would worsen his sister's illness, he could only continue the relationship with mixed feelings until his sister passed away. This drama
is also popular in Japan, but it's not considered a top-tier work in its genre. However, its plot structure perfectly embodies the cinematic techniques commonly used by Japanese screenwriters and directors, a style
seen in many Japanese films and television series, such as the movie *Professor Togo and Her Assistant* and the drama *Two Generations of Love and Hate*. *
Professor Togo and Her Assistant* tells the story of Togo, a proud, beautiful, strict, and
single female surgical professor in her forties at a Japanese medical school, who needs a work assistant. Many young men are hesitant to apply due to their respect for her. A
young man in his early twenties, Ishikawa, who has just returned from America, applies without knowing the situation. The stern professor is very demanding of her assistant, often scolding
him and embarrassing him. But the young man is very generous. He changes the professor's perception with Japanese diligence and American enthusiasm. He frequently
helps and even encourages her, who is clueless about entertainment, to sing karaoke, swim, and ski. Finally, a smile appears on the professor's face, and she experiences
the richness and joy of life. Gradually, the young man fell in love with the female professor and pursued her relentlessly, disregarding societal prejudices. The professor, who had been hurt in her youth, finally
opened her heart after many years of closure and also developed feelings for the young man. They became a couple who forgot their age difference, embracing and kissing, and finally, at the young man's persistent
pleas, they made love. However, the situation reversed. After their pleasure, the professor discovered several birthmarks on the young man's stomach. Upon verification, she discovered that the young man
was her illegitimate child. Both were stunned in bed, feeling extremely humiliated and embarrassed, and then broke down in tears. It turned out that the professor had gone to the United States to study at the age of 18, and
under the influence of her teacher—a Japanese-American scientist—she had a relationship with him, resulting in the birth of the young man, Ishikawa. However, the teacher was unwilling to marry her and broke up with her. She struggled to complete her studies
with her child, and in order to establish herself at a prestigious medical school in Japan, she painfully gave her child away before returning to Japan. The young man couldn't accept the reality that his lover had suddenly become his mother,
and that he had even slept with her. Although he came to Japan with the intention of finding his mother, he couldn't acknowledge her. Torn by inner conflict
and grief, he attempted suicide several times before finally returning to the United States. The female professor wanted to acknowledge her son, but the thought of their past relationship made her ashamed to speak. Tears welled in her eyes as she
secretly watched him board the plane, then collapsed from the shock. She paid a heavy price for the mistakes she made in her youth. A Japanese friend recommended
this film to me. It's a very artistic film with a particularly moving plot. The sex scenes are few but beautifully filmed, making it a masterpiece on a global scale
. However, due to significant differences in values between Chinese and Japanese audiences, some viewers may feel uneasy after watching it. There are also other films in Japan that address adolescent psychological
issues and sex education, but I haven't personally watched them. Below, I'll introduce a
film called "Climbing Mount Fuji," selected from a Japanese film synopsis.
A 17-year-old Japanese student named Taro Kawata was thin, timid, and withdrawn. He was prone to crying like a girl and was often
bullied by other children. During a school baseball game, his mistakes dragged down the entire class, drawing criticism from everyone. During a camping trip,
he was terrified while hiking; even the girls made it to the top, but he slipped and fell, feeling ashamed. The girls even teased him about his
failure . The new homeroom teacher noticed this and wanted to help him change his personality, but several attempts failed. Later, the teacher
visited Taro Kawata's home several times, but his mother refused to say anything. One afternoon, the teacher returned just as the house caught fire. He bravely rescued the mother
and son and organized neighbors to extinguish the fire. After the fire was put out, the teacher was struck on the head by a falling beam and lost consciousness. The mother and son took the teacher to the hospital.
The next day, the mother visited the teacher in the hospital. This incident broke down the barriers, and the mother confided her secret to the teacher. It turned out that Kawata's father
died in an accident. Kawata's mother regarded him as part of her life and spoiled him even more than a girl. She never let him participate in
any , nor did she let him play in the river with his friends. Gradually, he became timid and withdrawn. When he was 10 years old, a small snake crawled into
the room where he and his mother slept. He was so frightened that he crawled into his mother's bed. His mother threw the snake away. From then on, his mother became his protector. Whenever he was bullied by his classmates
or encountered difficulties, he would get angry and cry. Only when he crawled into his mother's bed at night and stroked his mother's breasts could he calm down and forget everything. When he was 16 years old, a hooligan
intercepted him on a rainy night and robbed him of his money and clothes. He ran home naked and humiliated, hugged his mother and cried incessantly. His mother lovingly pulled him into her
bed and warmed him with her warm body. But this time, he had an abnormal reaction to contact with a woman's body. The following night, Kawada crawled into
his mother 's bed and began touching her entire body. His mother was somewhat surprised but didn't object. He then boldly pressed his body against hers, intending to have sex with her.
His mother slapped him several times and kicked him out of bed. This was the first time his mother had hit him. His mother's harsh attitude saddened and disappointed Kawada; he
thought the only person in the world who was good to him had changed her mind. Kawada stopped eating, drinking, and going to school. After two days, he became even thinner and then fell ill. His mother braved the rain...
A doctor was brought in to care for him daily, and his illness was largely cured, but he remained unwilling to leave the house and remained silent. That night, Kawada lay on his makeshift bed on the floor. His mother
entered and, in front of him, undressed piece by piece until she was completely naked. Then she entered Kawada's bed and tightly embraced him. Kawada couldn't resist and rolled
over , pinning his mother beneath him. His mother responded passionately, and they became intimate. Mother and son were reconciled, and this relationship lasted for a year. After hearing
this, the teacher didn't laugh at Kawada's mother but instead used reason to guide and admonish her, urging her to immediately improve this unhealthy mother-son relationship and raise Kawada into a man. Kawada's
mother, not highly educated, was enlightened by the teacher's guidance and felt both grateful and admiring towards him. Following the teacher's advice, Kawada's mother stopped having sexual relations with her son and
began to treat him with a completely new attitude. She moved his bedding to another room, stopped hugging and cuddling him, and tried to treat
him like an adult. The teacher personally taught Kawata how to play baseball, and on Sundays, he took Kawata hiking to train his courage. During the holidays, to help Kawata
build organized the whole class to repair Kawata's family's house. Furthermore, the teacher criticized the girls for mocking Kawata. Under the teacher's guidance, the girls
cheered loudly for Kawata as he participated in the baseball game. For the first time, Kawata found these girls adorable, and he began to pay attention to them. One rainy night, Kawata arrived home just as the same thug was about
to rape his mother. His mother's clothes were torn off, and the scoundrel was kneeling on her naked body on the ground. The thug, seeing
Kawata enter, didn't care, lewdly unbuckling his belt to continue the assault. Kawata's mother, feeling her son was weak and having lost hope in him, worried that he would be
harmed by the thug and told Kawata to quickly seek help from the neighbors. Kawata, filled with righteous indignation, picked up a baseball bat and struck the thug. In the fight, the thug was beaten bloody and
fled in . His mother watched, amazed by her son's transformation. During a pre-graduation camping and mountain climbing activity, encouraged by his teachers and classmates, Kawada was the first to reach the summit, marking
his transformation into a well-rounded young man. His teacher, through interactions with the mother and son, developed a bond with Kawada's mother, and he would soon become Kawada
's new father.
This film, reflecting the realities of Japanese youth, played a significant educational role for Japanese middle school students and parents in the 1980s.
The depiction of sexual taboos is a key characteristic of Japanese literary history. Even the seminal work of Japanese literature, *The Tale of Genji*, depicts adultery and incestuous relationships.
Many famous modern Japanese writers have touched upon incest to varying degrees in their works; the works of female writer Banana are representative, but I won't elaborate further here
. In Japan, comic books are popular reading material for both adults and children. It's worth noting that while there are many excellent Japanese comics, some contain
violence , nudity, sex, and incestuous content, even those aimed at elementary and middle school students. Not only are children negatively affected by such imagery,
but adults are also adversely influenced. In the late 1980s, a dispute arose in Japan stemming from a woman's alleged abuse of a comic book. That particular comic
book had a wide influence among Japanese children. I saw it in a bookstore near a subway station and flipped through it. The content seemed to depict a
Japanese myth, similar to Journey to the West. (To be fair, Journey to the West also contains sexually suggestive content, but domestic Chinese
comic book versions have removed these elements.) The story is about a goddess and her son, a young war god, who, to protect humanity's home, don armor and wield swords to fight a group of demons
harming humans. The goddess is tall and majestic, while the young war god is short and agile. During their battle, the goddess's son is unfortunately struck by an arrow.
Unable to defeat the demons alone, the goddess retreats with her son in a chariot, intending to fight again once he recovers. The majestic goddess stands tall and proud on the chariot,
whipping the horse to gallop, while the demons relentlessly pursue them. Her wounded son lies dying at his mother's feet. The goddess, chariot in hand, wept as she looked down at her son.
He was dying; without his divine power, they could not defeat the demon. What to do? She had to find a successor for him. The goddess
grabbed her unconscious son with her large hand
and tucked him into her battle robe. The situation was dire; the demon was closing in. Undeterred, the goddess remained on the chariot, whip in her left hand urging the horse forward, sword in her right, fighting the enemy, calling out her son's name, urging him to wake up. The little war god, inside his mother's robe, clung to her waist, using
his strength to complete their union, before passing away. Soon, the goddess gave birth to a younger son, whose martial arts and supernatural powers surpassed
even his deceased brother (who could also be called his father). Mother and son together vanquished the evil demon, and peace returned to the world. Gods can do anything, even incest; humans should not emulate them. A
37-year-old divorced Japanese woman lived with her 16-year-old son. Unfortunately, her son suffered from congenital heart disease, and doctors said the risk was high and
he could die at any moment, advising the woman to prepare herself mentally. The son was seriously ill and had been out of school for several years. His life consisted mainly of doctor's visits, medication, and reading comic books at home.
The woman, bored, also became engrossed in her son's comics. After reading a comic about a goddess, she suddenly had an idea. Her son, her only family, might
die someday, and she would be left without anyone to care for her when she grew old and sick. Since this son might not survive, why not create another one just like him? That night,
she lay down beside her son, intending to have sex with him. The boy was weak and underdeveloped, showing no interest in sex. In desperation, the woman willingly inserted her penis
into herself. After several encounters, she became pregnant. The 16-year-old boy might not have died initially, but the nightly intercourse with his mother exhausted him, causing his old illness to relapse, and he soon
passed away .
Tragically, what was born was not a healthy and brave little warrior, but an infant suffering from a rare hereditary blood disease who could not survive. The woman could not
bear these two cruel blows and finally sued the comic book author, demanding compensation for the lives of both her sons. The author, of course, refused to accept the verdict. Immediately,
opinions were divided, and newspapers large and small sensationalized the story. When I saw that news, I couldn't help but marvel: the Japanese can not only create economic miracles, but also bizarre
social miracles. However, this incident also illustrates that the Japanese publishing industry does indeed have many problems influencing people's thoughts and actions.
Four: Japanese Teenagers with Oedipus Complex
The psychological problems of Japanese teenagers are particularly serious, with a very high youth suicide rate. Since the 1960s, sexual psychological disorders primarily involving Oedipus complex have become
a common and frequently occurring psychological illness. The causes are closely related to the deficiencies of Japanese culture, the ills of its social structure, and the environment in which teenagers grow up.
Oedipus complex is especially likely to occur in situations such as single-parent families, parental disharmony in emotional or sexual life, father's infidelity, mother's competence and son's introverted and timidity
, mother's past emotional or sexual trauma, mother's lack of education and income, mother's strong dependence on son,
son's disability affecting marriage, mother or son's mental abnormality, mother or son's promiscuous behavior, inappropriate sex education by the mother for the son, and only child status. Many Japanese psychological clinics...
All have treated a large number of cases of incestuous behavior caused by adolescent Oedipus complex. A case report from the New East Psychological Clinic listed
some cases treated by the clinic from 1981 to 1991. (1) A 44-year-old woman had a strong sex drive. Her husband had a neurogenic sexual dysfunction due to excessive work pressure
. The couple rarely had sex and often quarreled, which led to their separation. The woman often watched pornographic films at home to relieve her sexual desire. Her 21-year-old son
saw his mother watching a pornographic scene repeatedly after work. He was moved and leaned on his mother. The woman could not control her emotions and used
her son as a venting object. Under his mother's temptation, the young man had sex with his mother. He was unable to extricate himself and regretted it very much. He went to the clinic for treatment. (2) A 20-
year-old young man was an illegitimate child. His mother gave birth to him when she was 18 years old. In order to protect her reputation, she wanted to abandon the child. The young man's maternal grandmother could not bear it and adopted the child. The young man
did not know his origin and thought that his maternal grandmother was his adoptive mother. The young man's maternal grandmother lived a lonely life and felt great pity for him, thus showering him with affection.
The two were inseparable, living together in the same room. When the young man was 17, he developed sexual urges towards his nearly 60-year-old grandmother and demanded sexual relations with her.
Unable agreed, and the two began a three-year-long sexual relationship. Later, fearing it would affect the young man's marriage, the grandmother claimed her age made it inappropriate to continue
the relationship and requested an end. The young man's mental state had become pathological; he could no longer live without this abnormal relationship. The grandmother, left with no other option, had to reveal her true
identity. Unable to accept this fact, the young man nearly suffered a mental breakdown and subsequently sought medical help. (3) A 52-year-old woman in Nara had a husband who had a
mistress. Despite her repeated admonitions, he did not repent. In order to punish her husband and make him change his ways, she seduced her 24-year-old son and asked him to make
love to her. The son could not resist his mother's seduction and went into her bed at night. They had sex multiple times. The woman deliberately revealed this to her husband.
This time, the husband was afraid and said he would repent. The woman achieved her goal and asked her son to stay away from her. However, the son had become psychologically distorted and had become obsessed with his mother. He refused to end
the relationship. The couple felt ashamed that their mistakes had harmed their son. They took their son to her clinic for treatment. (4) A 48-year-old woman from Tokyo
was gang-raped by criminals on her way home at the age of 30. For a period of time, she was particularly afraid of sex, which led to the breakdown of her marriage. Later, she did not trust any men except her son.
Her excessive trust and dependence on her son caused him to develop a mother fixation disorder. When her son was 20 years old, he made a sexual request to his mother and was allowed to have sex. Three years later, her son failed in
several relationships. The mother realized the problem and asked her son to come to her for treatment.
(5) A 62-year-old woman had a 35-year-old son who had been unable to marry because of severe leg disability due to rheumatism. He had
lived . The mother was particularly fond of her son because of his disability, and their relationship was overly close. When her son was 28, the mother discovered that her son was unable to release his sexual desire and often
masturbated. She felt sorry for him and considered that her husband had passed away and she did not need to preserve her chastity. Moreover, she was over 50 and had no shame about sex. The woman offered
to help her son solve his sexual problem. The two of them had sex regularly for seven years. The woman's daughter already knew about this secret, but she sympathized with
her brother and did not stop him. When her mother was 62, the daughter felt that the sexual relationship between mother and son should be stopped. She wanted to find a long-term prostitute to replace her brother. However, the woman's
son could not transfer his abnormal desire for his mother because of the long time. The woman's daughter sent her brother to a psychological clinic for treatment. (6) A 50-year-old woman had two sons, one 26
and the other 19. This woman had been divorced twice and suffered severe emotional trauma, occasionally exhibiting biased behavior. She had lost
interest and hope in life and her surroundings, devoting all her love and care to her two sons, unable to separate herself from them emotionally. When her eldest son was 20, fearing he would leave, she used
both soft and hard tactics to force him to sleep with her. Out of love and fear for his mother, the eldest son dared not refuse, and their sexual relationship lasted for two years. Later, the woman
discovered 15-year-old son's close relationship with a girl and, fearing he would fall in love, marry, and leave her, she again induced him to have sex with her. Afterward, the woman frequently
slept in the same bed with both sons, taking turns having sexual intercourse with them. Years later, the woman developed severe mental abnormalities, becoming unable to care for herself and requiring long-term hospitalization. The eldest son,
unable to bear the shock, attempted suicide by taking sleeping pills but was rescued. The second son also developed symptoms of depression. Both brothers were sent to a mental health clinic for treatment. (7) A 24-year-old
youth, introverted and with poor life and study abilities. His mother, 46 years old, divorced for many years, cheerful, intelligent and capable, helped her son
too much , making him overly dependent. The youth admired and respected his mother greatly during their long-term life together, and developed a mother complex under her pampering.
When the youth was 18, he made a sexual request to his mother. After being rejected, he threatened suicide. His mother was very worried and agreed. The two had a sexual relationship.
The youth's mother also taught him some sexual knowledge and skills. Four years later, the youth got married, but developed psychogenic impotence and was unable to have sex. This
continued for two years after the marriage. He was extremely distressed and came to the clinic for treatment. Dr. Mito of the New East Capital Psychological Clinic
published the clinic's case report in newspapers such as the "East Capital News Weekly" after concealing the names, identities, addresses and specific characteristics of the patients to raise social awareness of adolescent psychological problems. V.
Comparison of the growth environment of teenagers in China and Japan
Why are incest cases rarely heard of in China, while such unethical phenomena occur frequently in Japan? Besides the reasons related to Japanese cultural traditions and social ills
, I think this is largely related to the upbringing of Japanese teenagers. Sex education for Chinese teenagers is practically nonexistent. Speaking for myself,
back then China was very closed off; when I was in high school, I didn't even know what a woman's body was like, and my understanding of sexual behavior was very vague. My sex education was something I learned
spontaneously after marriage. The next generation is probably a bit better off now. After arriving in Japan, I quickly discovered that sex education for Japanese teenagers is very widespread.
Schools talk about it, parents talk about it, and the media talks about it; all sorts of sexual information floods into the minds of teenagers. Even a Japanese elementary school student understands
the concept that "a woman's egg and her father's sperm combine in her womb to form her," not to mention middle and high school students. At the time, I thought that Japanese teenagers
were much more knowledgeable than we were when we were young. However, a few years later, I realized the shortcomings of Japanese sex education. Japanese sex education focuses too much on knowledge of organs and sexual acts themselves, while neglecting the cultivation of sexual
ethics and morality. Furthermore, it excessively explains sexual knowledge that teenagers cannot understand at that age. For example, a Japanese
middle school sex education textbook even includes illustrations of male and female bodies intercourse with clearly depicted sexual organs. I believe that when
teenagers are physically mature but their ethical and moral awareness is very weak, receiving a large amount of specific sexual information does more harm than good. In simpler terms, being "informed" is
more dangerous than being "confused." Therefore, Japanese sex education has not changed the frequent occurrence of premarital sex, harassment of female teachers, and rape in Japanese schools at all levels.
The current situation regarding incidents such as female classmates, teenage prostitution, and incest. In traditional Chinese culture, sex is considered secretive, an appendage of human social life, and a highly restrictive activity
for procreation, not for play. Therefore, Chinese people typically avoid discussing sex, are ashamed to talk about it,
and even consider it unclean and vulgar; lust is considered one of the worst qualities of Chinese people throughout history. In Japan, sex worship is a major characteristic of its culture. The Japanese believe sex is
sacred, pleasurable, and a transcendent human instinct for survival. Japanese people of all ages and genders discuss sex without shame; sex is ubiquitous in Japanese life, even
the patterns on women's kimonos have sexual connotations. Therefore, Japanese teenagers are influenced by this cultural ideology from a young age. They learn about sex early,
but have little understanding of the modern constraints on sex, and may even harbor resistance. When teenagers believe sex is supreme and transcends everything, they may commit acts
that violate ethics and morality. This is a root cause of the relatively high rate of incest among Japanese teenagers, and some teenagers
do not feel ashamed after committing incest. In China, due to the influence of traditional Chinese culture, sex is often kept secret within the family, and children are unaware of its presence.
Chinese parents not only refrain from discussing sex with their children, but also rely primarily on tacit understanding for sexual activity, avoiding direct discussion. Parents
do not , such as kissing, hugging, or flirting, and certainly do not allow children to witness or hear about marital sexual activity. Chinese parents
are extremely restrained in their own sex lives, with low frequency of intercourse and relatively early cessation of sexual activity. Surveys indicate that many couples cease
sexual activity in their forties. Chinese mothers are careful to maintain their status as elders in front of their children, avoiding nudity and close physical contact with boys;
in the children's eyes, their mothers are approachable, respectable, and devoid of sexual characteristics. While the conservative and negative attitudes towards sex among Chinese parents and their families certainly have a negative aspect, they serve a necessary "insurance" function in shaping
children 's understanding of sexual ethics. In contrast, sex is an open topic and activity in Japanese families. Japanese parents not only frequently
discuss their sexual experiences with each other, but also engage in discussions with their children to varying degrees. It's
common for . Japanese fathers may hug and kiss mothers in front of their children, even touching their breasts and buttocks, without the children being surprised. Japanese
couples have a high frequency of sexual activity; they don't stop just because there are children at home. Not only do Japanese people have a relatively long lifespan, but their marital sex life also
continues for long time. Many Japanese couples are still sexually active after the age of 60. Japanese teenagers generally know what their parents do at night and understand
their behavior, unlike Chinese children who might perceive their parents as engaging in "improper" activities. In Japan, nudity is considered natural and not seen as having a
negative impact. This is reflected in Japanese education; kindergarten children, weather permitting, often play outside naked. Japanese mothers
dress formally in front of guests out of etiquette, but are comfortable exposing themselves to family and children. Japanese mothers are allowed to bathe and
sleep and exposing their bodies, even their genitals, in front of underage children is considered acceptable. In short, Japanese mothers
are very sexually prominent in the eyes of their children. The strong sexual undertones in Japanese families inevitably influence children growing up in this environment. The positive influence is that children grow up to be more open
about sexual issues in marriage and have higher quality sex lives. The negative influence is that, lacking self-control, their heightened awareness of sex can
lead to foolish actions. Especially since Japanese teenagers are so close to and familiar with their mothers' bodies in daily life, they may unconsciously fantasize about their mothers when sexual urges arise. This can
lead to a milder form of Oedipus complex, or even incestuous behavior between mother and son.
In Chinese families, a mother's feminine hygiene products and sex toys are hidden from her children's sight and touch, such as condoms, birth control pills, menstrual pads, and bras.
I didn't see a condom until I got married. When I was a child, I occasionally saw my mother secretly hanging up washed menstrual pads in secluded places, but I didn't
know what they were for. In Japan, these things are openly discussed with children. When mothers are too busy, they might even ask their sons to buy sanitary napkins for them.
Sometimes you can even see boys in Japanese stores advising their mothers on the quality and style of women's underwear. Japanese couples have a tradition of
recording their wedding night as a memento, initially using selfie cameras, but now using video cameras.
Parents , giving children a glimpse of their parents' "true faces." I find it hard to
imagine what a child would think watching their father and mother making love naked. Some insightful people in Japan have pointed out that while sex lacks mystery for Japanese children, it's treated too casually. Mothers
have become the embodiment of sex in their children's minds; one child even referred to his mother as a "sex goddess" in a middle school essay, which is detrimental to the healthy development of the mother-son relationship. In his article, Mr. Mito
profoundly reveals the drawbacks of the Japanese family environment: "Many homes use wooden partitions to separate rooms, which are not soundproof and sometimes even let in light. Teenagers
might use eavesdropping on their parents' sexual activity as a bedtime game, and this can escalate to the point where they develop inappropriate thoughts about their mothers." He continues, "The idea that the whole family, young and old,
bathes together in the bathtub and helps each other is considered a sign of family harmony, but I believe it's actually a bad habit. There was a boy who bathed with his mother from a young age, helping her wipe her body
except for her genitals; eventually, the mother and son had sexual intercourse in the bathroom." He also writes, "A teenage patient at my clinic also bathed
with . The mother and son often liked to playfully touch each other's genitals. Initially, the boy's actions had no sexual meaning, but when he was 16, his mind changed,
eventually leading to incestuous behavior." In contrast, most Chinese parents don't personally teach their children about sex. Mothers might talk to teenage girls about women's
hygiene, but they won't talk to boys about the problems they encounter during physical development. Chinese mothers generally don't know that boys experience nocturnal emissions, and my mother
was no exception. Chinese parents' practices do not meet the requirements of puberty education and need improvement, but Japanese parents have taken the opposite extreme. Japanese boys in
puberty like Chinese boys, often talk about women, have sexual fantasies, and masturbate, but they don't need to hide it from their parents. Japanese mothers, deeply
influenced by Japanese culture, have similar understandings of sex as Japanese men and openly discuss their sons' sexuality. Japanese fathers,
burdened by the heavy workload of supporting their families, rarely manage household affairs after work, leaving the responsibility of educating children primarily on mothers, including sex
education . Japanese mothers readily explain various aspects of sex to their sons, including female anatomy, menstruation, nocturnal emissions,
sexual behavior and morality, and contraception methods. I believe that one-on-one sex education is indeed necessary, but it should be undertaken by an older person of the same sex, such as a father to his son.
A mother's perspective on her daughter. In his article, Mr. Mito states that mothers explaining sex to their sons often triggers unwanted associations, sometimes affecting the pure mother-son
bond. He writes, "It seems inappropriate for some mothers to explain the process of male-female sexual intercourse in detail to growing teenagers…
A woman who visited the clinic encountered this problem; she excessively introduced female sensations during sex to her 14-year-old son. When he asked
about female reproductive organs, she took off her clothes and allowed him to observe and touch them. Afterward, the boy sought opportunities to harass
his mother, sometimes rubbing his genitals against her buttocks while she was bending over vacuuming. A year later, the boy demanded sexual intercourse with his mother. The woman, bewildered by
her son's inappropriate thoughts, assumed he was influenced by bad people and took him to the clinic for consultation." In China, masturbation is considered
a sign of adolescent depravity and extremely harmful to the body. Chinese boys would never dare let their mothers know about masturbation, otherwise they would be severely reprimanded. In Japan, masturbation
is considered a "second type of sex life," used to satisfy sexual desire when one is without a sexual partner or is not married. Masturbation is not only common among
adolescent boys, but Japanese girls may also engage in this behavior. Japanese mothers generally understand their sons' masturbation behavior and sometimes even
encourage their children's moderate masturbation; some mothers will even help their children masturbate. Mr. Mito's article mentions this situation:
" It's scientifically acceptable for mothers to approve of their sons' masturbation. However, directly helping them masturbate can be seen as crossing the line... From the boy's perspective,
he has already engaged in indirect sexual activity with his mother... A mother with two sons, aged 17 and 15, treated helping them masturbate as a
task prevent them from harassing female classmates. One or two nights a week, she would go to her sons' rooms before they went to bed,
first sitting in front of the older son's bunk and kneading his penis until he ejaculated, then doing the same thing in front of the younger son's bunk. Neither son
harassed any female classmates, but they developed serious psychological problems. If left untreated, they might harass their mother." From these
phenomena , it's clear that sex education in Japanese families is unscientific, and the overly open environment of Japanese families has a significant negative impact on the development of teenagers.
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