How to enhance marital sex life

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Part Three of the "Couple's Sexual Exchange" Series:
"Sexual Investment" Requires Initiative.
Sexual activity between spouses is objectively an exchange, therefore, one party always needs to initiate this exchange, be willing to give, invest, and not expect anything in return.
Generally, people believe that this initial and proactive investment should naturally be made by the man. On the wedding night, this is undoubtedly correct; however, after a period of marriage, it may not be so. This is because most husbands, after becoming accustomed to sexual activity, will unconsciously, explicitly or implicitly, expect to appreciate and experience their wives' passion, preferably active and spontaneous passion. Many husbands begin to expect their wives to initiate sexual activity and fully embody feminine beauty, liveliness, and gentle grace. Husbands often subconsciously believe that this need is as natural as expecting a harvest, and does not indicate any selfishness.
Many wives are unaware of this subtle psychological change in their husbands. This cannot be entirely blamed on the wife's selfishness, as women's sexual physiology differs from men's. On their bodies, the areas of passive sensation are often more numerous than the areas of active sexual stimulation. However, wives shouldn't overemphasize this physiological difference, because in sexual intercourse, the power of human emotions and behavioral patterns are infinitely rich and can completely transcend this actually not-so-significant physiological difference. If a wife is unwilling or unable to respond and reciprocate accordingly, over time, even the best prince charming might give up. At that point, trying to salvage the relationship might not only be much more difficult but could also result in a situation where "the waves remain, but the nights of yesteryear are gone."
Both husband and wife, when first discovering disharmony in their sex life, are often willing to take the initiative and make sacrifices. However, if the problem isn't resolved quickly, both partners may become impatient, blame each other, easily lose confidence, suspect other possibilities, or dredge up old grievances.
To avoid this, both partners should truly consider and address the problem according to the principle of "exchange." There's an old Chinese saying: "Even if a deal falls through, goodwill remains." It means that in an exchange, the common goal of both parties is to complete the exchange, not to argue or hurt each other emotionally. Therefore, in an exchange, there is only a balance between giving and receiving; there is no need for arguments, and there is absolutely no need to drag other issues or emotions into it. Of course, marital sex life involves extremely strong emotions and cannot be completely compared to a business transaction. However, for couples who are already experiencing disharmony in their sex life, they must try their best to avoid emotional entanglements and objectively discuss their differences, truly like a business transaction, to properly discuss how to solve the problem. In this objective discussion, regardless of who it is, one party must take the initiative to give or invest. When conflicts are sharp, one party must make concessions first. Otherwise, it will be a case of "no business, no friendship."
Generally speaking, the party who feels they have already given a lot is more likely to refuse to give any more. If both parties are like this, and there is no appropriate external help or an opportunity to "save face," then it is best for the two parties to separate to avoid dragging things out and becoming a living death.

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