What is sexual happiness?

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Sexual happiness, a term derived from happiness, is quite interesting. It means "a very satisfying sex life," concise yet profound. The emergence of this word, which cannot be found in dictionaries, clearly reflects the Chinese people's focus on the quality of sex. Compared to the vast majority of our ancestors for thousands of years, who could only blow out oil lamps (or couldn't afford to light them at all), and engaged in sexual activity under the covers, biting their lips, on a rough, hard earthen bed, this is already a huge improvement! Undoubtedly, since the post-70s generation, our people have gained greater sexual space and freedom. Who they have sex with, where they have sex, and when they have sex are no longer fixed. So, what exactly constitutes sexual happiness? Personally, I believe it should include the following aspects: 1. Sexual intercourse must be possible. Except for those with sexual dysfunction due to various reasons, this should not be a problem for men at all. Men can achieve pleasure and orgasm simply by penetrating and ejaculating; this process can last for one or two hours, or it might only take a minute or two. The problem lies with women. Twenty or thirty years ago, Chinese women would only discuss men's performance in bed during private gatherings, and very few dared to talk about their own experiences. It's only in the last two or three decades that women have achieved sexual liberation. Besides satisfying men's physiological needs for penetration and ejaculation, women also need to have vaginas. A woman without vaginas is unacceptable. Therefore, the responsibility weighing on Chinese men is heavier than ever before. It's important to remember that, due to inherent differences, Chinese men cannot be as naturally gifted as African or even European and American men. Their physical strength and sexual prowess are generally inferior to those of foreigners. As a result, some female warriors who have experienced the baptism of foreign guns and cannons have written articles saying they disdain having sex with Chinese men. These remarks have deeply stung the nerves of Chinese men, who have been bombarded with accusations of their despicable nature. In fact, this is unnecessary. Apart from some factors of artificial hype, perhaps this is indeed the truth. If those female warriors do exist, they are undoubtedly the best example of the leap in sexual awareness among Chinese women. Looking back at the "sexual health product" advertisements that have flooded television and mailboxes in recent years, as well as the significantly increased proportion of divorces due to sexual unhappiness circulating online, it can be seen that the women we deeply love have been neglected for far too long. However, one point needs clarification: a significant portion of sexual dysfunction, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, is caused by psychological factors, not by congenital or acquired deficiencies. In other words, a considerable portion of what ruins a woman's sex life is a man's "psychological problem." Besides physical fitness, a man's healthy sexual awareness also determines whether the woman beside him is sexually happy. 2. One sexual partner is not enough. I just saw a survey (source unknown) stating that the proportion of Chinese people with multiple sexual partners has exceeded XX%. This number may be inflated, but I believe that there are certainly quite a few Chinese people who have had multiple sexual partners. This behavior, which was or still is considered "promiscuous" or "loose" in the eyes of the Chinese, has actually quietly permeated the lives of Chinese people and is also quietly eroding the once unbreakable sexual prejudices of the Chinese. Multiple sexual partners essentially involve two situations: premarital sex and extramarital sex. The former is deeply ingrained in society and no longer considered shameful in China, while the latter, due to its impact on moral values, is unlikely to have a chance of redemption. However, clandestine or occasional extramarital sex remains prevalent. Whatever the cause of this situation, the openness of people's sexual awareness is a significant factor. Personally, I believe that while the number of sexual partners a person has in their lifetime is not an indicator of sexual happiness, experiencing more certainly has its benefits. This is not intended to sensationalize or advocate promiscuity. From a biological perspective, the male's instinct is to possess more females, and the female seeks the strongest male among many—this is a natural law. No matter how noble humans are, they cannot escape their animalistic nature. How many mammals in nature truly remain monogamous? I don't know. Each individual's, and humanity as a whole, matures through continuous accumulation of sexual experience. One should perhaps not sacrifice other things for sex, but more normal sexual interactions in one's social life are certainly beneficial to the stability of future marriages. In other words, sex is not necessarily the end goal of marriage! I hope everyone will not focus on the few who enjoy promiscuity to refute me. 3. Diverse sexual behaviors. Beyond traditional intercourse, Chinese people have adopted a more open attitude towards other forms of sexual activity, such as intercourse, sex, and the use of sex toys. The venues for sexual activity have also shifted from the traditional "bed in the bedroom" to any place that can accommodate two people: living room sofas, private balconies, bathrooms, offices after get off work, and even private cars on highways. Some public places where people might come in at any time may also be used for sex. Forms that enhance sexual pleasure, such as car sex and outdoor sex, are becoming increasingly popular, and a small number of people are even becoming enthusiastic about SM and boldly trying same-sex sexual behavior. Similarly, the sexual positions used in China have become more diverse, no longer limited to the iconic "Chinese party." Although the ancient "Su Nu Jing" described numerous sexual positions, the widespread adoption of diverse sexual positions is a recent phenomenon. Of course, if we look at the sexual research conducted abroad over the past century, we can conclude that our lag is not that long; it is simply that differences in attitudes have limited the Chinese people's indulgence in pleasure. Other extreme sexual behaviors, such as partner swapping, ** (likely referring to specific sexual acts), and group sex, occasionally appear online or in newspapers, indicating that sex in the eyes of the Chinese people is no longer "doing fixed things with fixed people at fixed times"! It has become more spontaneous and casual. This is an important external manifestation of improved sex quality. 4. Smooth Sexual Communication. Sexual communication includes not only between sexual partners, but also between friends, strangers, and the popularization of national sex education. First, sexual communication between spouses or sexual partners is the most basic. If even this is not smooth, then the overall sexual satisfaction of the nation will certainly not be high. I believe this problem has been largely solved. Secondly, there is the issue of the popularity of sex education. In this respect, we are still at a level of hesitation and reluctance, with many things being concealed and vague, which has the opposite effect. Sexual communication between strangers mainly relies on the internet or some more traditional media, such as various late-night talk shows and newspapers. Among these, the internet is the richest, fastest, and most vivid source of information for sex education, and it can be said to have played a role in answering questions and resolving doubts. I personally believe that SIS has made some beneficial contributions in this regard! However, many websites have been blocked due to their involvement in pornography. It's worth noting that there are countless websites in China dealing with pornography, varying greatly in quality. Many are designed to deceive the public and defraud them of money. Even worse, the harmful consequences of their misleading information are significant! Blocking them is essential to appease public anger. A free flow of sexual information can greatly improve the quality of sexual experiences for Chinese people, reducing sexual misconceptions caused by poor communication and impacting the sexual satisfaction of present and future generations.

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